No Need For Perfection

00:02 Welcome everybody to the Weekender number one. I'm Jonnie Jensen, founder and dad coach at Team Super Dad this weekend end of the first week of 2023 and here we are kicking back into all the live streaming and the podcast really though making it scrappy no more perfectionism just making it happen week one let's see if we can do 52 weeks Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time more money more fun you are not alone! You're on Team Super Dad Yeah good to see ya welcome if you used to listen to the team super dad podcast I haven't done it for about a year and that's for a whole load of reasons but rather than focus on well now tell you what

01:01 You get kicked off track, knocked off track certain times and occasions in life. And I think it was a lot to do with just about focus and time and results but also about making it perfect so in that spirit you know perfectionism really is the slayer of momentum and as a Team Super Dad live series this the weekender if you're on The Team Super Dad Email list, you would have got a email yesterday. You're gonna get one every week if you don't want mine every week Tough shit! You can unsubscribe this really is about men about dads about families It's a journey sharing my own Experiences there will be some stuff from inside of the Hero Academy and the work with all the dads that I work with but aside from all that it really is a catch-up on a Sunday

01:57 52 weeks. Last year, last year I did... going back to 2021 into 2022, I did 396 days of consecutive exercise some form of exercise and that stopped last June it really was if you've ever seen Forrest Gump it was like when Forrest is running and he just stops everyone's like where are you going Forrest? He's like I'm going home To some degree it was a bit like that. I did actually start to have some problems, my shoulder was really hurting if you look at the pictures i was absolutely ripped uh not not like WWE type stuff or you know but as far as the physique that I want would like back you know that I think is healthy um I've never had pecs before or arm definition or ab definition

02:55 And so, yeah. But the point being is that it was 396 consecutive days. So why can't I do this every Sunday for the rest of 2023? We shall see we shall see but that is certainly the intention. So on today's agenda right got a few notes here back to school Joe, my amazing girlfriend and I watched the last episode of Schitt's Creek this week. Training for Hyrox, I'll tell you all about that and if you did get the email Team Super Dad email then you would have seen the reference and talk about planning for your year

03:33 So yeah, back to school. Kids gone back to school my guys are 13 and 11 now so one's at the last year of primary school in the UK and one is in their second year secondary school and it's that they're this crazy age where they just morphing constantly in front of my eyes The bit between them being kids and this really was hard for me I kind of mourned it basically but now I'm very much into this new chapter And I am loving it. My daughter is just being incredible, she's so confident and vivacious and genuine She's pretty bossy and stomps her feet quite a lot makes an incredible mess when she bakes

04:24 But she's non-stop and as she builds up to the end of primary school, thankfully. She's got a good set of friends The knobhead teacher that she had to suffer last year is behind her And she's just growing literally growing obviously growing up growing in different parts of their body And still our relationship is kind of flourishing. She loves to spend time together, we go shopping, coffees, chit chat... My ex actually met my girlfriend for the first time last week and it would seem that Rose had a fair amount to do with that so just a wonderful young lady she had her audition for a dance performance art scholarship last week and just helping her getting ready

05:13 You may remember I was part of a singing choir after my divorce. Very healthy thing, I went and picked up some new hobbies and interests and joining that choir...I actually learned how to sing quite a bit so I was actually quite a lot help for Rose last week at least i think i was she may tell you different And then Jago, you know secondary school. He's just a teenage boy literally doesn't know whether he's coming or going half the time. He grew a centimetre in November and that was on top of however many centimetres he grew across the year but we said have you keep growing? It's like oh no

05:54 And then we got the measurement stick with all the different years of height on them at my aunt or grandma and grand and Gaga's house. And yeah, he grew a whole centimeter in November! So going back to school and encouraging our kids when they go back to school and having them recognize their best attributes, their full potential where perhaps they make clangers you know makes mistakes drop clangers consistently Just talking, speaking into my kids there and having them as they approach school you know waking up and saying I hate school. It's just like bringing that negative attitude and outlook on it having them realise that that's a choice and their day isn't going to go any better by having that perspective so encouraging them to see if there is

06:45 And Like respect is earned, it's hard to earn and it's easy to lose. But the difference when you have the respect of people around you... And by the way all this goes for us adults as well! When you have that respect when you earn the respect of people good stuff happens

07:24 And it doesn't happen quickly. That's the real kicker in life is that we do things and we want results, We do things and expect something to change instantly. It really doesn't work that way. It's about those small consistent steps or the respect that's earned over time. Jago got a text message from his football... He was like an assistant coach, an older guy, Dickie. Honestly he's a blessing He started working with my boys football team a couple of seasons ago and like I said he's an older guy, don't mean to be any disrespect there. He just you know one of those wise men in your life the guy that has got 20 years more experience than us probably not 20 years but if i'm 40 or 60, if im 48 it might be a bit old now but I dont know But its irrelevant really because

08:16 I had half an hour with him at the boys Christmas bowling match and in the pub. And he spoke about each and every boy, about what he saw of them and their potential when they're shortcomings but not shortcomings like always no good this is no good that but just... He spoke about how he has spoken to those lads and encouraged them in that area and help them see going back to potential help them see there for potential So he texted me today and said, you know he told me he gave Jago a score. A very positive score for his performance in the match today and just to be able to go back to him and say thank you like your blessing as a dad you can only hope that the gaps between what we can do and what our children will listen to are filled

09:07 By incredible people, by other people. Other men, other mentors... Those role models and mentors in our kids' life that someone steps in and fills the gaps between what we can do as a dad and what our kids need. And Dickie is one of those people so whenever an opportunity arises for you to be that person then step into it because there's a fulfillment that comes from there from doing stuff for other people It's also the end of the first week in terms of our business, in terms of your business. In terms of work it's like boom! One week gone 51 left to go I think that's why life speeds up when we're older right? It's about being organised, about having a plan and it's about having a clear vision of where we're heading. I mentioned fulfilment a minute ago and you know fulfilment... how do you reach fulfillment

10:09 It's knowing what you want to do and knowing that the work you're doing is taking you towards it. Okay, by the way if you want a comment, you can comment I can see from most destinations I can see comments coming in so give it a word if you wanna say anything nice or shit don't mind um yeah that fulfillment comes from knowing what you want Where you're headed, what you want from life. What do you wanna become? What do you wanna have? Knowing all of that and knowing that your actions are consistent with that ambition with that intention, that you're making steps towards it. It's when your energy is taking you away from that goal and that vision that it really starts to weigh heavy on you. It's when your efforts to reach that destination aren't working then you're feeling further and further away particularly in relationship or business

11:04 Like, this wasn't what I planned. You know you it will eat away at you there's a new guide i've made called the three reasons business owning dads are burnt out and how to fix it and if you comment burn out or download um i'll make sure you get a copy of that But it's about, you know... You can work harder but guess what? If you're working harder in the wrong direction you're quickly going to feel worse and worse and worse about yourself. Taking time out, making a plan of what you want to create this year. Looking at what it's going to take looking at your why is for that and why is not just like I want more money your why is oh I want more money to do what? To buy bigger house okay great! Why'd you wanna buy big house because I wanna have quality time with our family and bring friends around

11:59 And The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Schitts Creek, Hyrox,

12:44 If you're in a relationship, sit with that person and do it and plan your year out. It's amazing how much more you achieve at the end of the year there is that expression about we underestimate what we can do in uh...in a year and overestimate what we can do in a week! That's why we're constantly like frantically working hard so get clear on what you can create this year and then make a week by week plan towards achieving it So, change of direction. Schitts Creek... Oh my gosh! TV I do love TV and I don't like shit tv you know soap operas. Soap operas are the worst okay? The news

13:31 I encourage all my dad coach clients and members of the Hero Academy to minimize their news and media intake. It will screw with your mind, first of all particularly in this world that we live in now it's all negative and its predetermined by what you've looked at the day before You know it's not like the old days where you would have to choose BBC One or ITV to get your flavour of news. Now if you've clicked on three things that are more left than right, you're going to get more left media perspective than you're going to get right politically orientated media so be very conscious of what what you're watching I don't really do soap operas shite! I don't really do things that... and i have a very ingrained

14:19 It is kind of a fear. I guess it's some level of insecurity, but it's about...I'm two wrong rolls to the dice away from being the EastEnders Christmas special. There is that real fear! But who also? Why would you commit X number of hours a week to watching other people's misery?! That just blows my mind if I'm going to sit down and watch some TV. I want to be entertained. Left with a tear in my eye if it was something positively emotional, like a happy thought. But more than that I want to laugh, I want to feel a bit sentimental, I want to celebrate the goodness of life and what I've watched Schitt's Creek! If you haven't watched Schitt's Creek Joe and I sat last night and watched the last episode we celebrated the last episode with a gin & tonic

15:15 It is quality TV. The characters in it are so beautifully played, they're so consistent and at times so utterly cringe not cringe like extreme but in the awkwardness they create or Mayhem they create in social situations through what they say or how they're behaving. If you haven't seen it, it's a mega rich family that loses it all and the only home they've got to go to is some back end of nowhere town that they randomly were left owning after everything else had been taken away from them and the journey that they go on as they rebuild their lives,

16:03 Their individual personalities and character, and also how they come together. It's not all mushy lovey-dovey high five stuff but just over the six series the family become closer and closer as they evolve, they become more successful, they start to piece their life back together it really is a journey! And uh... The reason I'm sharing it because A.) I want you to go out watching it because it's so good B.) As you're watching Well I think when you're watching any TV, take stuff from it. Like how could i be more like that or how could i be less like that? Noticing things that we do where we let ourselves down or where we haven't listened to our children in Schitt's Creek the

16:49 The family, there's a boy and girl and obviously the mum and dad. Just noticing okay wow where I've let my kids down in the past and where i'm stepping up now in ways that I hadn't done before like that's like you know this was one of the consistent threads through the program but yeah just beautifully played beautifully acted such wonderful little I So,

18:10 Fitness, Team Super Dad crew you will know that fitness health and fitness. It's one of the F5 focus fitness finance family and fun having balance across all those areas of your life absolutely vital core to your happiness to your success to your fulfillment I mentioned about the 396 days of working out. We're back on the trail with Joe and I have entered Hyrox, it's a global phenomenon that has come out of nowhere because you know...I don't even know existed a couple years ago maybe it did but it's global now You can enter as events in NEC in Birmingham there's the event at The XL in London

18:56 If you're super duper, you might finish in the top 20 and get invited to the European Championships and to the International Championships. But Joe and I have entered in the mixed doubles so today was the first day we've done bits of the trainings but today was when I pieced it all together So its eight events like a circuit training I list them all, you know a running or rowing the ski urge where you like pull the ropes down. A farmer's carry which is walking around with weights burpees sled push sled pull and throwing it's like a squat with a throw in a slam ball up above your head and in between each event you have to run a kilometer so

19:47 Joe, my not only an awesome girlfriend but an awesome PT for women and menopause coach. If you're going to be in a relationship being one that the other person makes your life better that surely is the recipe for happiness A relationship should be a bonus to your life it shouldn't be your whole life none of us need a relationship what we need is A good person alongside us, a number one fan. Someone that challenges us lifts us up someone that helps you be your best and Joe is that! And so in Hyrox we're doing it together our goal is to get it under 90 minutes It's in the Excel, its in April So if you follow me on Instagram you'll see the pictures most days and we do have on Strava a Team Super Dad club so search that out

20:43 And yeah, I was absolutely blowing. Sweating... Of course you're sweating buckets! You know if you don't go to the gym and sweat buckets then you're not working hard enough but to piece it all together was probably the first day I've pieced it all together and it was good very good. I've got to get my 5k time once again back down to around 20 minutes. I'm yet to beat 20 minutes on my park run still my best time He's like 21, just under 21 seconds on the part run. Made some part run there's two of them inside of the Team Super Dad work I encourage you in fact i do pretty much make it a...

21:27 What do they call it? A prerequisite, a hard line. Redline you got to do your exercise each week and part of that includes the 5k walk run jog if your knees have shot then maybe you can go on your bike or swim but fundamentally it's the five k walk run or jog and getting yourself under 30 minutes is really essential for whatever your age and a sensible level of health and fitness Being under 30 minutes is a must. Getting it under 25 minutes or around 25 minutes means that you are actually at a proficient level of health. The caveat to that is, something is better than nothing. You know parkrun if you've ever done parkrun there's the

22:15 Oldies, the people with little kids. The people with the old dogs like they're at the back and then there's some mad 16 year old in front who is going to finish it in like 16 minutes but in between and right up the back there are all ages all abilities Colours, persuasions, gender like ages. Everyone's there so get out and do the park run on a Saturday morning you don't have to go every week either it's free it's awesome It's a great way to manage your health and fitness And also perhaps the social side of it as well Hyrox if you want to get involved with the April ones sold out or fully booked full up but you can start follow Joe & I and get involved in future ones

22:56 And on the fitness subject, The Dirty Rotten Scramble is again this June. 5k 10K and 30 K. Look out for the notifications about Team Super Dad squad whatever distance you want to do that's absolutely fine But we're going to be gearing up to that day, having a lot of fun. Sam the organiser is a dude and the whole event is like a cross-country trail run you're in water, you're out of water, uphills downhills in creeks it's yeah...it's a lot of fun! And I've entered The 30k last year and made it two laps around so I've got to somehow work at how

23:41 Get the 30k complete and we'll use that as a, will be a real celebration this year. Also we've got firewalking events coming up there'll be the Summer Barbecue and The Christmas Wrap-Up in December with the Men of the Year Awards as well So there we go! That's The Weekender number one done whether you're watching this on YouTube Facebook LinkedIn or whether you listen to the podcast make sure you subscribe Click the bell for the follow, whatever it takes to make sure that you get The Weekender on a weekly basis. Will I let you down? We can all do something commit to something! I've given up coffee again and i've given up deep caffeine so i'm off caffeine at the moment um look at what you could give out look at what you could commit yourself to and consider what that would do for you this year in 2023

24:34 My name's Jonnie Jensen. This has been the Team Super Dad Weekender of 2023 number one, I'll see you next week and yeah don't forget to subscribe and follow. Brand video we're out! This has been Team Super Dad. Find us at teamsuperdad.com Join the program and create the best life ever for you and your children! You are not alone, you're on Team Super Dad