3 chapters across the catalog
The "Courage" element of the 3xC formula involves letting go of past relationship trauma and resentment. While cognitive behavioral therapy is noted as a helpful tool for reframing past experiences, men are urged not to get stuck in years of therapy. Rebranding past pain as necessary growth allows a man to show up ready for a healthy relationship without carrying a "stink" of bitterness.
Thought Strings Tool for Emotional Self-Assessment
Mari Williams introduces a therapeutic tool called "thought strings" to help men unpick the root causes of stress and anger. By tracing an emotion like anger back through its triggers—such as feeling unprofessional or fearing job loss—individuals can address the baseline fear of failure. This process allows the initial negative emotion to evaporate once the core security concern is resolved.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Managing Negative Thought Patterns
The conversation shifts to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and the concept of "thought coupling," where one worry triggers a chain reaction of panic. Collins advises listeners to treat thoughts like television channels, choosing whether to engage or "flick" past them. She introduces a three-part test for intrusive thoughts: asking if the thought is kind, true, or helpful before deciding to acknowledge or dismiss it.
