The Wrap Up #21.1 - Argh balls!

00:00 Welcome to Team Super Dad. It's the wrap-up. It's the second time today. And this is what we do when good things go really bad. Roll theme. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Welcome to the wrap-up. It's Friday. Team Super Dad, Johnny here, founder, creator of the Team Super Dad community. We are friends, family and members all around the world. Dad's creating their best life ever.

00:41 The wrap-up. It's our weekly celebration of all things good and bad. Now, some of you, don't worry, you're not having a deja vu. Some of you will have tried to have watched the wrap-up earlier when Glenn, aka the dating dad, joined us. He is the first member, the first member to come on live onto the wrap-up, the wrap-up crew, Team Superdad gang. And he had this, he had an echo in his headphones, which I couldn't hear. So I didn't think it was happening. And turned out it was. And there were people that watched. I could see them watching. No one said anything. What is that about?

01:24 If you're watching ever, you're listening. It's too late. If you're listening, it's too late. But if you're watching ever and the sound is wrong, please tell us because then we've got a chance to do something about it. If you are watching, thank you live. It's good to have all you live people. Say hello in the comments. Ask me a question. Let me know what's going on where you are. This is the wrap-up. It's our weekly celebration of all good and bad from our week gone by. And like I just said, we don't know what's going to happen, do we? We don't know what's going to happen. Where's my notes? I wrote notes. They're gone as well. Second time today. What's that say?

02:08 Blimey. I'd written them all down. We'll be okay. We'll freestyle it. We will freestyle it. The week that has just gone, focus. Focus comes up so much on the Team Super Dad everywhere. When I have people join, they answer some questions, right, in the Facebook community, which is which of the F5 is your biggest challenge right now or most important to you? Fitness, finance, focus, family or fun. And focus wins all the time. People pick focus more than fitness. Fitness comes second, right? So focus. I've been working on, I mean, I've actually got books downstairs on focus.

02:46 There's different elements of it. You know, it's either about getting on with stuff, like your procrastination or your effectiveness, your productivity during the day, or it's just about, I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know where I'm going. Do I want a new career? Do I want to live somewhere else? Do I want to have more children, not have more children, leave her, stay with her, fix it, get it? Who knows where you're at with the word focus? But this week, I had an amazing guy on the podcast go and listen to it, a guy called Glenn Lundy. He is pretty much one of the US's most successful car dealership owners of all time.

03:23 He now coaches and mentors other car dealership businesses and generally people in the automotive trade, the art old trade, but a really cool guy. And he also now has the Facebook live show, Rise and Grind. And you can go and listen to all of that. But in terms of focus, this guy's a machine. He really struggled at one point in his life, homeless, tries to take his life, woke up on San Diego Beach and decided that enough was enough. And people have got to hit that rock bottom. Where the rock bottom is or how deep that is is actually up to you. I can see from my own experiences that we're not always aware that we're on that slide.

04:06 And I've been helping a guy this week who got introduced to me. And sadly, he's having some trouble with alcohol. And he's in a home at the moment, like a shelter. And it is desperate just talking with him and seeing his struggle. And thankfully, reaching out to my community, I've been able to connect him up with a pastor, a guy who runs a recovery ministry. Now, I don't know what's going to happen here, right? I'm not anything more than a friend to him, really, right? Right at this point. And his unwillingness to be helped is not anything anybody can do anything about.

04:50 And we've all got to realize this, is that sometimes we just need to shut up and listen to our friends or to our family. And that advice or that encouragement might not seem like what it might not be what we want to hear. It might not seem possible. Like, how on earth am I going to actually achieve that? But it's only by taking tiny steps. And this is what I'm saying to this guy: you don't need to fix the whole problem. You've just got to make tiny steps on the way to the solution that you're looking for. Because he's terrified. He's like, I can't do it. I don't know. I've tried before. I can't do it. And I'm saying, well, let's just look at what you can do today.

05:29 Let's look at what you could do today. Who could you call today? Or what agency or support service could you help today, ask for help from today? And we're the same. If we've got a goal we want in life, it's ridiculous to look at the end game, the final objective. Like, I want to be the president. You can't, or the prime minister, whatever country you're in, right? You can't become one of those until you've run for some or even helped out, helped someone else run for election somewhere. And then maybe it'll be your turn next to run for that small local election before you can start to work your way up the ladder and have a chance to succeed. Fitness, music, all the analogies are everywhere, right? But looking at the end game is going to freak you out.

06:11 So don't do that. Don't do that. Glenn, amazing. He's done 762, it'll be four after today, 764 consecutive live streams on his Facebook Rise and Grind page. And it's amazing. If you go back and look at number one compared to where he's at today, and he said to me himself on the podcast, the first one I did it in a cupboard because it's better sound effects. I just hid the clothes and the mess away from the camera and I just did it. And now 763 episodes later, hasn't missed a day. He has had over 2 million listens.

06:50 The audience has demanded, in his words, a Facebook community, have demanded live events, like face-to-face events. He's called the show Rise and Grind. He's now got his own coffee brand. It's insane. And he didn't have a plan for that at the start, other than he knew he wanted to do something. He wanted to do something on a Facebook Live. He wanted to do something that was a different message to the one he felt was out there in the world. So he had a focus. He had a set of values that he wanted to bring to others. And look what's happened. That's what we can all do. That is what we can all do. Which

07:30 leads me on to a book I've read this week, listened to. As you know, I listen to a lot of books. Ikigai. It's a Japanese lifestyle, a book about Japanese lifestyle, a Japanese principle of living, which goes back over a thousand years. It's like part of Japanese history and culture. And Ikigai is brilliantly simple. And that's the thing about life and the simple things in life or achieving what we want in life is often happens by doing the simple things consistently. And Ikigai is about community. It's about mindfulness.

08:13 Now, I don't mean everyone's got to sit around and meditate, but it's finding times to be at peace with yourself, finding times to let your mind rest. Equally and conversely, being busy, being someone who continues to work. In Ikigai, it talks about small tasks, like being able to do something that knitting would be a small task. For some people, gardening or painting or playing a guitar, these are like small tasks that because they're distracting your day-to-day thoughts, because you're focused on something smaller and specific, then that is relaxing to the mind.

08:54 But in terms of keeping on working, like be a busy person, be someone who's active. And they talk about Japanese people who are over 100 years old. And many of them continued in some capacity to work or be of value to others well into their old age. Community is a big part of it. Speaking to your neighbors, smiling to others, having a positive spirit and passing that on to other people, eating a balanced and mixed diet, exercising on a regular basis, even if it's just small amounts of physical exertion. Like these are thousand-year-old principles. So when we read a blog or we go on a webinar or we like watch a talk or a video on YouTube and they're talking about these kind of things, it's not new, right?

09:40 I'm talking about it now. It's not new. And focus. People come into the Team Super Dad community and ask, where do they get focused? How do I get more focused? It is about adapting some of the principles across our whole life. because if you've got a stressed out mind and you're completely unhealthy and you're eating junk and drinking coffee and alcohol and I'm not saying you can't drink coffee or alcohol but if you're just taking on board a lot of it not sleeping well not having good relationships with your family your children your neighbors not bringing a positive spirit then guess what being focused is going to be bloody hard so then just finally on this point so how do I create it well you go back to basics and you start to take simple steps get focused on what you want to achieve break it down into smaller steps start to have a winning routine in each day as you go through your morning routine as you

10:34 go through work you can see how those principles of Iki guy can impact your what you do when you wake up what you do when you get to work how you eat your lunch what you have for lunch when you get home all of it right so take small steps and make it happen where are we on to next where are we on to next the the there's been another episode of the team super dad podcast won't go live this week but it's been recorded that was with a guy called gary kenny awesome guy dad obviously he uh he's just it was you'll see when you listen to it or you can go and watch the lives because they're they're up from when we recorded it he's just another everyday dad but he's got a drive and an ambition around his

11:17 coaching work he's going to go into coaching now but sharing his experiences of his divorce to help other dads very similar outlook and mindset to myself coming at it from a slightly different direction but just a really good really good guy and so if you're a dad wherever you're at whether you're listening to the glenn podcast whether you're watching the gary one from today it's it's about it is real dads creating their best life ever doing what it takes to make little adjustments in your lifestyle and your happiness and in your relationships to to really have the life that you want and so

11:55 the dad call it happened this monday the dad call is our community check-in our free men's group it's a video call it's private it's safe it happens every other monday night it happened this monday there was five of us on the call and it was it was one of the more fun ones okay like i've said before sometimes they're serious sometimes they're silly sometimes they're both in fact more often than not they're both but if you go to teamsuperdad.com dad call or teamsuperdad.com forward slash dad call you can um save your space there for the next dad call that's coming up it really is an opportunity for you to get focused have some fun

12:35 take on some accountability chit chat if you've got a serious thing that you want some help with then you know the the mixed views experiences and opinion of the other people on the call is absolutely invaluable so get yourself over there and if you've been on before then please share it and on that subject if you're watching this let's share this video uh like and subscribe to the podcast for all the channels and spread the word of team superdad let's get it out there garrett what's his name glenn and i had spoken all about presence so you missed that it's gone in the bin it's gone in the junk folder because when glenn was on it was echoing i didn't realize till i went and watched the the recording so that went in the bin but we were talking about presence and what we're what we're getting our kids and obviously him being the dating dad we did touch a little bit

13:20 on on dating uh the the story of my dating we're on to the next page really the the awesome lady who i went on a couple of dates with we we are going to stay friends and hang out some more and i think that's probably about as far as as that's going to go you know flirting is fun and it's not like it has to get serious that's certainly not the case for me right now if i fall in love that would be amazing but i'm not out there to get really serious with someone or even like get really exclusive with someone i've not had a had a relationship in five years so it's not like i'm suddenly going to be playing the field but i don't know as a as a man in this situation i found or i'm taking on being as

14:07 straight as i possibly can be in these situations um but also flirting is fun flirting is fun going out on dates is fun but chasing like when it's one-sided i don't think that's a lot of fun i don't think at 46 that's necessarily what i plan on doing so i'd love to hear your experiences about that glenn the dating dad and the other team super dad uh wrap-up crew we're going to be talking about those and all sorts of other subjects but yeah that's that's kind of where where i'm at on my vision board on my goals around relationships she's going to be fit fun beautiful confident clever loving generous

14:50 It sounds like quite a long list, right? But I think they're more values than necessarily who someone is or who someone isn't. If you're going into a relationship with those kind of values, then certainly if that's what I would be looking to give in a relationship. But she's going to have to be fit anyway, because I am. Having been in relationships before with people who weren't interested in fitness, it is awkward. It's difficult to be one person who is and one person who isn't. So I think there's probably that and a couple of other things are our deal breakers. No drama, no drama. We're not having any drama. So this comes back to focus, actually.

15:33 If you're talking about your vision board and your goals, being really clear about what you want out of someone, what you want out of a situation, what you want out of a job, if you're thinking about starting a new business, how do you want it to work? What's it going to bring to yourself and to your family and to your lifestyle? If you're not clear about these things, how can you adjust the situation? How can you be straight with someone if you're not clear in your own mind about what you want? These are really important things. It's where focus comes from. So the dad calls being covered. The Hero Academy, you can start to pre-register for that as of next week. So if you're a dad who wants to literally have the best year of his life, and not just the best year of his life, but create the best life ever, because that is what Team Super Dad is all about.

16:16 And the F5, fitness, focus, family, finance and fun. Then inside of the Team Super Dad Hero Academy, there's the eight-week life accelerator, which in itself is a complete program, which some people just do that and kind of leave it at that, really. But your participation in the Hero Academy lasts for the whole year. The coaching, the accountability, the buddy calls, the face-to-face events when we can do those and the training library, the training library with modules on everything from inside the F5, from the different coaches and experts that I know, that are in my network. As you've heard my backstory, the vision for Team Superdad was all came from a walk, a climb,

17:00 a blizzard in the Austrian mountains. And all I could think about was how am I going to fix this? How am I going to fix this? And it wasn't about how am I going to get off this amounting alive. It was how am I going to fix this breakup that I'm in and this divorce. And it was at that point that I realized, what if all the people that I knew, all the coaches, experts, business associates, books, courses that I'd been on and met, what if they had all been given to me for a purpose? And that purpose is Team Super Dad. So inside of all this free content, that's great. But also inside of the Hero Academy and the training library, I am fulfilling that vision and

17:39 that goal, basically. Back to focus. It's all about focus. So I hope you've enjoyed the Team Super Dad wrap-up 21.1 because 21 is in the bin. It's in the garbage, man. I hope you've enjoyed this. It's the weekend. It's only two full weekends left. Is that right? Yeah, two full weekends left until Christmas. What the hell? I've still no idea what we're going to do. Paul and I are hanging out on Christmas Day. We may yet find a gaggle of women and who can team up with us and turn it into a big, a big, well, you can only mix three households. So how's that going to work? I don't know. Blooming Corona. We'll see the backside of that in 2021.

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