Topic: Muscle Memory

Choosing a "way of being" is compared to training a muscle or maintaining physical posture. By practicing different emotional states—such as being proud or energized—men can learn to catch negative reactions in the moment and pivot toward more productive outcomes. This skill is particularly useful during high-tension situations like parents' evenings or difficult conversations with ex-partners.

Joe suggests that women can practice verbal responses to harassment to break the "freeze" instinct that often occurs during a threat. Glenn emphasizes the importance of logging all incidents with the police, even non-criminal ones, so that resources can be allocated to problematic areas. They argue that the burden of change should be on society to become safer, rather than on women to restrict their lives.