How To Trust Your Gut Instinct And Keep Moving Forward

00:02 Morning dads. Welcome to the Team Super Dad podcast. Today, are or how do you trust your gut instinct and move forward? Roll them. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Welcome dads to the Team Super Dad podcast. It is good to have you here. I'm outside. I've no idea how this is going. I have done a mic test and everything. I've got a house full of kids, sleepovers and

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02:12 Ah, the wind has dropped. About 15 minutes ago, it was like sheet rain, pissing with rain. So today's theme, your gut instinct. How do you trust your gut instinct to move forward? Gut instinct, I did a reel about this the other week and it went pretty well. Gut instinct's a real thing. There is actually some science behind it and I'm going to try and debunk or discuss or just bring to your attention some of that as we go through today. As usual, Team Super Dad podcast in these formats about 20-25 minutes long. So I hope you can stay tuned. If you're watching on the replay, give us a hashtag replay. Good morning, Rob.

02:52 Good to see you here. And morning, chap. I'm going to guess that's Chris Errington there as well. So good to have you here. We had the first, first, not first ever, but the first is new guys, the F5 accountability call yesterday. And so that's where all the people, all the guys involved with Team Super Dad and the Hero Academy, they come together on a Friday. We go through the F5 tracker and it sets an accountability for the week ahead. But it also looks at the week we've just had, acknowledges our wins, our challenges and what we're grateful for. So really focus in the mind. And our gut instinct is also part of that.

03:33 Interestingly, there is some science behind it, which I can tell you. I knew it was about the rational and the emotional mind. Turns out, gut instinct are largely driven by the brain's limbic system, which is responsible for our emotional life and a significant role in forming memories. It's the magic, right? The magic, if you're going to go with the science part of it, is that our gut instinct is the part where our brain realizes something, our limbic system realizes something, moments before our rational brain, like our conscious brain realizes it.

04:12 So we see something or we notice something, we sense something about an experience that we relate to something that we've experienced before or we've seen before or it's, you know, it's part of our memory. And so our body goes, or our brain goes, I know that. I've seen that before. It went well. Or I know that I've seen that before. It didn't go well. So then our body goes, or then our rational part of our body kicks in and goes, oh, that was interesting. I just felt something. It's like having a slightly slower brother or a best mate, you know, who kind of only just tweaks or, you know, they're like, oh, that's what we're talking about.

04:54 They realize just a moment later, right? So when faced with a decision, this is the science. faced with a decision your brain quickly compares the current situation with past experiences and it and if it finds a match it will trigger an emotional response which we often perceive as a gut feeling genius right so now we know it's a real thing we can actually trust it better there is a practice to it though of course right if you don't use this if you don't Go with your hunches if you don't tune into the idea that this could be a positive thing I've experienced it before how aligned is this with my values what do I think of this person or this situation where do we go from here if you're not tuned into it

05:37 then it becomes like a reckless thing it becomes like a whoa do we go for it do we not go for it some of the the benefits a reason to trust your gut instinct faster decision making that is a an absolute for certain you know race car drivers fighter pilots people are doing things at high speed they're going to be relying on their gut instinct a great deal right better reading people and situations this is really important especially when you're you're meeting people you go into a room you go into a networking event or you meet someone for the first time in terms of business I get this all the time when I'm speaking to a prospective member of the team superdad

06:14 community or someone I'm going to work with I pretty much know straight away like this is a good guy this is a pain in the ass right and that's not without that's not with judgment or or any slight but you know you kind of you know how much time you've got in a week you know the likelihood of a deal coming together problem solving problem solving your creative juices right when you can lean into your gut instinct and allow your brain really right allow it if it's a if it's an emotional response if you allow it to expand then it's going to have a greater sphere of reference if you close it down and be like I'm not trusting that

06:54 I'm not doing that well then guess what it's kind of quite tight and bound up in a strange way you might not realize this is linked but micro dosing not something I'm a huge expert on or necessarily advocating but you know if you've taken drugs in your time you'll know that the brain the mind expands and the things that you consider and perceive and relate to like oh that we could do so this whole process is trusting your gut when you have faith in it then it gives you a better confidence and trust in the process it allows you to feel more connected with yourself if I'm honest right and

07:38 a couple of final ones here on this list here that I've made right health and well-being like stress and tension when everything when every decision relies on your rational brain everything becomes very black and white in fact it actually becomes quite closed down I'm not doing that because it's not safe boom everything else is off the table well sometimes things that aren't quite safe are the right thing to do and again if I use a driving experience you'll know sometimes where you had to nip through a gap well not nipping through the gap could have meant someone's going to smash up the back of you or who knows what whatever else but um so being able to go for it right is part of getting out of your comfort zone and if you've listened to any of the previous episodes if you're part of any of the work that

08:27 we've done that you'll know that getting out of your comfort zone is part of the R in the power code the reward the fun the going to extremes knowing yourself as a bigger better person than the person you were yesterday that is part of your well-being because when you shrink and contract constantly there's nowhere for you to go nowhere for you to grow right if you're not taking risks if you're not being bold if you're not out there doing stuff in the world then you're shrinking quite literally you are shrinking so your gut instinct is you know we wouldn't have been given it it wouldn't be part of of the machine that we are as humans if it wasn't

09:11 in the comments in the comments why does your neighbor have to do the weeding during your life well funnily enough i did not schedule this with um with my neighbors it's actually quite nice to be outside having a coffee in the fresh air kicking off the adaptogens by being outside and if i'm lucky the kids are doing some kind of tidy up that's indoors i'm actually sitting on a carrier bag because this bench is so wet because it's been raining so hard hello to all our viewers in the south of europe where instead of getting pissed on in the rain uh they're actually dying in 45 degree heat so where was i yeah gut instincts so So

09:57 how can you, how can you How can you practice this? How can you evolve? How can you grow your gut instincts, right? Well, it's there is a balance to it, okay? But you've got to swing out a little bit, right? Curiously, sports, sport helps trust your gut instinct because the decisions that you're having to make when you're playing sport, if a ball is coming at you at great speed, there's a part of your brain where you might have experienced this if you've gone and caught a ball, like someone throws you something and you catch it kind of over here, someone throws you some keys. Generally that happens, doesn't it? It's like, you're going to catch them over there. That is part of your gut instinct kicking in.

10:41 It's the limbic system reacting along with your peripheral view. But it's like an instinctive thing where actually I know that and I know where it's coming. I'm going to catch that. Quite often you might experience it when, or certainly I'm relating this to these two things. Someone with a more scientific background might tell you I'm wrong, but I can't help but think, you know, that time when you're a bit pissed and you go to play pool or you play darts and like the first couple of shots are brilliant. That's because the conscious you is not involved. Okay. That's because the mechanical brain is taking charge there and just getting it done.

11:24 Being clear for yourself about your boundaries and red flags, like knowing who you are and what you stand for, being clear on your goals and where you're headed. All of these things are part of the power code, right? When you have all that lined up, when you have let go of your fears and concerns, your blame and resentments, your resignation and hopelessness, when all those are let go, part of ownership, and you are clear about who you are, what you're capable of. I am dad, I am father, I am friend, I am coach, I am entrepreneur, I am business leader, I am firewalker, all this is part of the I am process.

12:08 When you're really clear on that, when a situation comes up, what your limbic system will go to and refer to is, I am strong, I am leader, I am coach. Okay, well, if that's the frame, that's the context, then do you make this choice? So your gut instinct becomes something you can tune into more confidently. It's when people live in a state of fear and anxiety, upset and resignation. And by the way, you don't have to be broken to be in that state, right? Anxiety comes to all people. A sense of failure and impending doom can come from challenges in our business. It can come from breakdowns in our relationship.

12:51 That's why we have to be true to ourselves. That's why we can't keep living in a situation that we know is wrong, that is not congruent with our values, our goals and our gut instinct. Relationships are a good one here, okay? But perhaps business deal is right as well. Or I know one. When you're hiring someone, you've gone through 100 CVs, you've had 10 interviews, you're down to the last two, and the person you've wanted says, oh, I've taken a different job. And you go with the second choice. And as you're doing it, you're thinking, I'm just not sure about this, but we're going to hire them anyway. Nine times out of 10, probably more so, that person will turn out to be, yeah, the one you shouldn't have hired.

13:35 And the same in relationships, to be honest, whether it's a business partnership or your love interest, when you know it's not working out, then you stick with it, you hope it can be fixed, you hope somewhere down the line, more often than not, you're like, do you know what? I knew this wasn't going to work out. I knew this wasn't going to be the outcome that I desired. And that is your gut instinct. So, you know, one of the risks of not trusting your gut is that it creates something called a double bind. Again, I looked up the science of this, but there's a great video on YouTube of Tony Robbins

14:13 where he pulls someone out of the crowd as he does with one of his interventions. And that was my impression of Tony Robbins. A double bind. So you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. And that is where you know you really should be doing one thing, but you're just not sure I can't do it. What if? Right? It's a paralysis. And that kind of paralysis, that double bind will impact on your mental health because you're stuck. Bit like an old record, if you remember back in those days, if there was a scratch on the record and it got stuck, it just went did it, did it.

14:51 okay indecision and overthinking if you don't trust your gut instincts we often will often overanalyze a situation become trapped in a cycle of indecisiveness and that's no good for you starting to rain hard again you know and the more you're indecisive that will crank up your stress and anxiety and guess what if your stress and anxiety is cranked up then you're not gonna be a very nice person to be around if you're not a very nice nice person to be around then that relationship gets drawn down into a spiral you will be able to relate to all these things that the the the secrets of success are not that secret as i always say but the that we find ourselves in all too often is of our own doing it's because we haven't made the decision we needed to make it's because we didn't trust our our gut or even the evidence on the table we were caught in a in a sense

15:41 of fear and what-ifs and second chances and then when that doesn't pan out we end up in a spiral of regret and self-doubt which all sounds a bit bleak and you know what too many of us are living in that too many men are living in that successful not successful happy broken like it's kind of all the same the number of men who are not living the life they desire and are pissed off about it is huge and that is what team super dad is about it's about putting an end to that getting yourself up off the canvas a rocky bow boa it's not how hard you hit it's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward and that's how winning is done if you watched

16:27 last week's live you'll know that's what we focused on so trusting your gut is a habit it's a practice and if you if you if you take on board everything we've spoken about today you'll realize how many situations you're stuck in you're stuck in that double bind you'll realize how many situations where you're not trusting your gut where you're not operating in alignment with your values and goals and then you can go into like oh my gosh actually i knew this so start to notice that gut instinct more it will generally happen around the gut guess what second brain down there in the gut um and when you understand the science of it it's your it's your it's it's the machine of your body going i know that i've

17:13 been here before this would be the right way to go practice it give it a blast um give it a go and see it and let me know how some of the results that you're achieving i am going to have to get going it's going to rain really hard so a quick click of brand and we get the outro up team superdad come on over to the team super dad group teamsuperdad.com forward slash group and you can get in on the free community and the next intake of the hero academy is happening so go over to teamsuperdad.com forward slash hero you can find out all about that and get yourself involved it's the second it's a new launch new version and you'll be mad to miss it i can't wait to see on the other side team super dad out

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