Topic: Disappointment

Lee Baucom describes the "disses" of relationship failure: disinterest, disregard, disrespect, disappointment, and finally, disdain. This progression, which Jonnie Jensen calls the "low value death spiral," leads to the total breakdown of the relationship. Once a partner reaches the stage of disdain, they are typically finished with the relationship entirely.

Drew suggests upgrading the mantra "something wonderful is about to happen" to "things are wonderful right now." She explains that even positive expectations can lead to disappointment and social pressure. By focusing on the inherent goodness of the present moment—such as the environment or the conversation at hand—individuals can project a calm, attractive energy that lacks desperation.