Paul Elliot #5 - fasting, pitching to win, coaching billionaires and a Dad

00:00 Welcome Team Super Dad, this interview with Paul Elliot is awesome. Paul is a speaker...a big event speaker he's a martial arts expert, he's a dad, he's a coach, he has worked with billionaires and as well as guys like me soon to be millionaires! This is a corker welcome the team superdad roll theme Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever! More time, more money, more fun You are not alone you're on team super dad

00:42 Yes, good afternoon. Good evening morning wherever you are what time of day is I don't know but welcome to the Team Super Dad podcast it's great to have you here my name is Jonnie Jensen and we are team super dad helping dads create their best lives ever especially dads who are coming out of divorce separation or loss This is an interview episode with Paul Elliot. I first met Paul, he was speaking at a like one of those big events i'm talking like thousands of people and he was talking about it's about 10 years ago now um about making money online like an internet business And then he ended up on stage at the end and he was doing these empowerment activities, board breaking with hundreds of people. It was really an eye opener to me one of the first times I'd been a big event like that it was part of my personal development journey and in many ways part of what leads me to being here the founder and creator of The Team Super Dad Program & Community and The Rebuild Program

01:41 And really helping dads, like I said create their best lives ever. We've all been through some crap to be quite honest but that is life and it's when we realise that those experiences aren't necessarily failures that we have to carry around with us they're just lessons that we've learnt and the more we can learn from those lessons and move on then the greater the life we can have and that really is about creating a best life ever! Paul is an awesome example of The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott

02:29 His story of how he's actually coached himself and his development there with him working with coaches for his own, his martial arts, his food, his alcohol which he doesn't take a lot on board. Which is an interesting knowledge for us all to look at and think about ourselves. Fasting... just a really great interviewer! And so many examples in this interview of the habits of successful people And like I said in the interview, in the intro Paul's worked with some serious big hitters. Some very successful multi-multi millionaire people and I think that's important not because oh that's cool but I think it's important because it gives us some insight into you know these people no matter how successful they are they have similar challenges and thoughts to all of us but its the way they react those and push past them

03:24 If you're looking for ways to react and push past your problems, then I encourage... well i don't mean problems. You know, I'm thinking about those things are in the past right? It's all about the today is what are we doing to create that best life ever and to rebuild to have a future that we really living into that were excited by The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad,

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05:46 Good morning, good afternoon. This is Jonnie. Welcome to the Team Super Dad podcast. It's fabulous to have you here today with us on either this video or listening to the podcast wherever you might be. Today we have with us a gentleman called Paul Elliott. I first met actually...I first saw him on stage at an event which will get to talk about in a minute and then I attended one of his courses And our paths have crossed a few times over the years, probably more as Paul has offered me one of his latest courses or events. But more than anything that has enabled me to

06:23 I'm going to, I guess observe a lot of what Paul's done and the success he has been able to generate. And also, I am very aware of his family, of his health, a lot of what has inspired him in his career so it is great to have you on today Paul. Hello welcome! Thanks very much mate. It is pleased to be here and obviously hopefully we will get into something that people find useful or at least worth listening too. Yes well thats... That's always the goal! Let's hope we achieve that at least. Oh, blimey. Should we say 90% of the time? Yeah! You know and as always I say to all my guests you know we're here to enjoy ourselves you know and if you're listening in for the first time this is these are conversations um... We do hope to have some fun and entertain and then if we find it getting too boring Paul then feel free to either ask me a random question or I might do the same but not spot your nodding off that I'm not doing a very good job myself

07:21 So, Paul why don't you introduce yourself a little bit about just suddenly. Just kind of sum up what you're up to now and introduce us so let's know what life stage are at and your situations with your family? Just give us a quick intro to yourself here. Yeah! I guess i would describe myself in business wise as a coach and mentor in certain ways. A mentor in the sense of sharing knowledge and my experiences An actual strategy tactics and so on. And a coach in the sense of, I guess helping people get beyond their own mindset to actually implement what I share with them because obviously you can give people information but information alone doesn't necessarily lead to somebody having six-pack abs or a couple million in the bank, you know? So they still gotta get on and do it. So I guess I help on both sides Outside of that then I have a strong interest in my own health.

08:14 I have a desire to be in better shape at 80 than I was at 20. And we can talk about how that, how it came to that and why and who influenced it inspired me? But that's kind of been with me for a long time. That certainly shaped a lot of what I do in terms of why I train, how often I train, when I eat all that kinda stuff. My interest is just understanding the human body and what makes it tick Family Relationships This September, September the 11th as it happens which I know is obviously a day for other reasons but i did get married on September the 11th and so we're coming up to 20 years this year. So we've been together for 20 years myself and Annemarie my wife And so over that time its been at times great, at times horrible. There's been a couple of times where we kind of both questioned if we even want to be in relationship

09:07 And, you know what's kind of come out of that. So hopefully if there is anything in value in there maybe we can talk about that as well? Of course! What has come out of that any kids? Oh yeah three kids without a doubt. Yeah I forgot my kids woohoo! Yeah no three kids and eldest is 16 my daughter first child and then two boys 12 and 10 so yeah very different one was like me mini-me and the other one is completely different Both in terms of physically, he's built like a rugby player and in terms of personality is much more chat-chat-chat. More like his mum really never stops talking you know so just could go on forever yeah! So it's interesting seeing how three children in the same environment can have three very different personalities. Yeah totally when I was a stepdad...I mean still am a step dad

09:58 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott You kind of sense, oh they're not like me. Does that matter? Or how do we approach it or how do we do things that he wants to do that might not necessarily be what I would be inclined to be interested in let alone when it's one of your own blood and you're thinking, How is this person...how did I make this person! See actually I was raised by a stepdad so I never knew my real dad So, if you're a pilot at the point of view never met him. Oh wow! We'll definitely dig into that. That's the dynamic that I know a lot of dads would be interested in. My mum died when i was kid and I had a step-parent. Step parent then moved out. I've been a step parent... It is one of those subjects from experience they just never get spoken about

10:52 Yeah, I know. And it's really challenging but it's never spoken about. From what I know about my real dad obviously that came from my mum she just told me so from what I understand from her side of things he was just you know violent alcoholic that's why she left right because she was concerned for my safety more than their own like she put up with it but when I came along she was like okay I can't put up with anymore and she left So I never met him. He then actually passed, he died because of his alcoholism by this I think before I was seven so in my early years anyway so I never actually met him

11:32 The only vague recollection I've ever seen him was apparently, I remember as a toddler being on the bus in Manchester with my mum and she started talking to this guy who sat as it happens a couple of seats in front. And she's told me since that was my dad. In my memory I can't see his face but I remember being on that bus if that makes sense so yeah yeah that's kind of the only recollection of it. Do you ever have a sense of wondering Am I like him or would i be different if I'd met him? Or did you feel that there's a piece missing from you at all. Because of all the personal development, I kind of went through having got into that sort of industry and then obviously working on me and using that as a way to deal with the challenges I was coming up with...I did get some place where I had this sort of well why did he leave like I got the vibe like if he was drunk and violent why did he feel the need to be drunk

12:22 Why was he not stepping up as a dad? And then I went through the whole thing of why didn't you want me. You know, why did I have to get a new dad sort of thing that was... That was... I played that and it went round my head quite a bit for a little while and had to deal with that. As a kid or teenager or adult? As an adult that was yeah so it's kind of a guess I My Nana on that side. Again, they're vague memories and she would have passed away by now. So what's your relationship like with this with your stepdad? When did he come into your life and how... He came into my life when I was still a toddler so my mum started dating him like my mom-my early recollections are living with my grandparents so my mum had obviously left my dad and gone back to live with her parents, my grandparents

13:31 So my earliest recollection is living with my Nana and Grandad, and my Mum. Yeah! Though then she started dating my stepdad at some point... And we used to go out on a Saturdays. He used to come round and the three of us would go out so do a day trip somewhere? Yeah! We'd go out then. So yeah that's probably from about 3 years of age that he came into my life you know And then they... Did you call him Dad? Yeah, yeah. Well actually it was interestingly they married I remember the wedding day. They married when I was five and literally from that day onwards I called them dad Your choice! Yeah my choice. A lot of dads a lot step-dad's I mean it is difficult if the biological dad is still present but we interviewed oh my gosh

14:20 Alex, Alex Smale and he's... it was fabulous talking to him about him and his if you listen to one of the old podcasts You'll hear the interview. He was talking about his relationship with his ex-wife who since married And he's now got a long term relationship They're due to get married and he's actually quite comfortable with his kids calling The other dad as well. He's called Daddy Mark, and I think it's daddy mark and daddy and then daddy mark yeah, and Alex in a very The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad,

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15:52 Yeah, yeah. The children's want you they'll like you say that just potentially or hopefully accept whoever that parent is step-parent and take it on themselves if they're happy and comfortable to call them Daddy Mark wherever he might be? Well one of the things I've realized from my mum dying was there are some female figures in my life family but their kind of extended family who through my mom dying have now The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad,

16:30 From my aunt, from my American mum like my Aunt Mary. You know like my Aunty Barbara in America... The role that they took on as a result of my mum dying I'm not sure if it was there when i was kid but looking at it sort of late teens and twenties and wow these women stepped up! They've been a massive contribution to me And perhaps wouldn't have had that if my mom had been around No no for sure yeah because you probably wouldn't potentially felt the need to step up But its great that they did So, well that's awesome and kudos on him. Have you got any brothers or sisters? I've got a sister yes so she's like a half-sister but I never thought of it as being a sister. Yeah so yeah but one sister they've actually in the last couple years moved to where I am in the country so they're literally five minutes away now Oh great! Yes I see her bit more than I used too and obviously when we were kids there was quite a...there was like six seven year age gap between us. Yeah. So as kids obviously there were times where

17:28 Let's go back to how I first met you. You were on stage It was like a millionaire maker or something in between Covent Garden and Holborn, that sort of area. And at the end of the event you were doing the board break with Andy Harrington on stage and the course that I ran to the back of the room for was your... it wasn't like sell stuff online? Oh okay, like getting into their marketing time.

18:10 Tell us about that journey for you. I mean, obviously part of Team Super Dad is looking at guys rebuilding and the financial side of this making money being successful enjoying their work You know it's definitely a time for many men where they They're like at ground zero and they need to make some decisions. They perhaps realize they're not making enough money, so there's a lot of panic that goes on of am I making enough money? Can I stay in this job or before we even get into it do you want to be something bigger brighter bolder? That was about 2007, how old were you then?

18:50 My original starting point was I came out of university with a degree which I didn't want. I had no interest in being a chemical engineer. I mean, I'd done the degree because I've been good at maths at school so that was it! But I didn't want to do maths as a degree. So I'll do something that's got some applications or I'll do an engineering degree. So I ended up doing chemical engineering but when i came out of that, I thought that's not what I want to do. By that point...I'm 53 now and we're going back awhile. At that point computers were certainly well established within business

19:38 Computer programming was a big thing. So I thought, well, I'll become a computer programmer! So I got a job in London and they trained me to program whatever computers they had at the time and that kind of started a career there. And the thing for me was in a job Like when you're a student, of course you know you get out of bed when you feel like it. Yeah Going into corporate and suddenly being like you've got to be at this desk at nine o'clock You cannot leave until at least five o'clock if not later found that a real struggle didn't lie that's all Because my other side is martial arts I wanted to leave but five o'clock to go train in yeah? Yep So I struggled with that and got basically had three jobs in quick succession, got fired three times and just went traveling around the world. And then I was in Australia... I booked to do one of these paddy diving courses so it was out on the coral reef but you literally go out on a boat for about three days sat down which is fantastic if you get chance to do absolutely fantastic

20:33 So, I got a certificate. But while I was there, I met a guy who's still going – a guy called Ed Straker and he told me all about NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming. So, I was fascinated by that because like you know, as I said before, I could see a direct correlation between the mind and results in karate so well if this will help with this... That's what my initial interest is! Yeah. If this will help with my karate then fantastic! So, he recommended I read Tony Robbins' book Unlimited Power. So when I got back to shore, went to a bookstore bought it read it loved it and thought actually this is a lot more interesting than anything that I've ever done. I want to do this! And that was your first introduction to any kind of personal development? Totally yeah totally so I mean I read it thinking I want to read this to be better... To be a better fighter in competition

21:17 By the time I finished it, it was like this will make me a better fighter and wouldn't be great to do this for a living because you get to help people rather than sitting in front of the computer listening to somebody. Because I've been programming stuff that was all banking systems. Yeah! Well, you can imagine how dull that was as a topic So, you know and then a computer on top of it. It wasn't exactly the most exciting career so I was like this is gonna be really good! This is going to be lot fun! You know? So then obviously I went down the whole Tony Robbins route listened for all these tapes thinking this is fantastic! This guy rocks up at an event gets on stage shares all his ideas with people changes lives goes home what a fantastic way to live your life but I've got to do some of that...so that kind of started there

21:55 Interestingly, the reality of that was then well if I'm going to share ideas on stage. I need to know how to speak on stage and you know how to get things across yeah so that pushed me down learning the skills of doing that and then it was like okay well now I need to turn this into a business So did yourself teach yourself? Did you go on a course for talking speaking course? Well because of the NLP I read a lot of books on it, but within the NLP one of the core concepts is this idea of modeling. It's like find someone who is brilliant at something and just model what they do. And so I did... I don't know if you know how an NLP structure works? You do a practitioner certification, you do a master practice certification then if you wish to become a trainer

22:36 So I did the whole lot. So, I became a certified trainer in the trainers training... And how are you paying for this? Sorry? How are you paying for this? Credit cards! Okay good. Yeah yeah that's really interesting someone who is tuning in and listening to this thinking oh yeah I want to do all that but how am I going afford to change my life? It was like... Strapping it up on credit cards Credit cards can fund it because I didn't have any money. So yeah, I mean, I literally remember one day ringing the credit card company of one of the cards I had and saying, I've got this amazing opportunity to do traders training like I was going to some major opportunities go to the States to learn this stuff's gonna make a massive difference to my life but I'm at my limit can I have some more money? And she said no you can only ever raise every six months you know so it was like oh and that was the end of the conversation.

23:27 I bet she's not the only person in that call center. I'm ringing back." So, I rang back and spoke to somebody else and told her the same thing. I said look, I really need your help but you are the one person that is between me and me achieving my career goals and living a great life and wanting to do this like... You're the person who can help me! And she just said hold on a minute And she went off, you know like when you're on the phone a second can feel like ages but she was gone for I don't know maybe 30 seconds? But it felt like an hour. You know and then she came back said right I've spoken to my manager you can have the money so I needed about another three grand and she got it done. Yeah do not say to my kids I say don't moan make it happen Don't make it happen and there's a prime example of making it happen It was just like I've gotta go So within that trainers training they taught you a lot about presentation skills as well

24:13 I then joined Toastmasters so that every week, I had at least one minute in front of an audience. I don't go to Toastmasters but they do these table topics where you get one minute and they just throw a topic out here any topic but I went just to practice what I'd learned in Trainers Training Yeah, I think they're still around Toastmasters definitely. Yeah so it's like I pick one thing and then I practice that in my one minute so what I said that came out of mouth...I don't know but I was focused on practicing one thing So did that and then started running my own NLP seminars because that seemed the obvious thing having done a trainers training in NLP as well I should run some of these Just through because on the back of the Tony Robbins events, the Yes Group which I know yes good car personnel. Yeah

24:58 Do you know what I think is really important at this point, right? Because there's a lot of coaches around. You've spoken at big events, you've spoken in front of a lot of people...I just want to put that out there for anyone who's listening like we're not talking about you talking to a room of 50 people here, yeah you've spoken thousands. Oh yeah no I've done lots and thousands! Yeah yeah yeah I've done the big events Paul is the man here guys. At that time that wasn't even my head, I wasn't thinking oh I'm gonna be doing these multi thousand people event so like I just wanna get out in front of people So I think through The Yes Group I kind of managed to, that was my little marketing pool so i managed to collect a lot of prospects clients to come on the first NLP events I ran. So that was my first year in there

25:36 And then at the end of that, I kind of began to realize actually you know marketing and selling is what it's really all about. This was before the internet and before Facebook and advertising. Before all of that stuff so it was kind of like how do we make this work quickly? Well people didn't know what NLP was unless they'd been for Tony Robbins event they didn't know what NLP was yeah So it wasn't like you could just run adverts saying learn NLP because people go well What the hell's that? They would never respond to it So that's when I started thinking, okay you've got to apply this to something. Does that make sense? It's like we could apply mindset... Like even today! I mean I'd say people are way more aware the mindset is a thing and has an impact on the results you get now how happy you are and everything like that 20 years ago no didn't enter it like if you stop somebody in the street so you've got limiting beliefs

26:26 You know, if you stop somebody in London and say they probably punch you in the face. So what the hell are you talking about? Whereas today I think there's more awareness of it but at that time there wasn't so how do you make this tangible for people at that time? We started running events on well actually can you make more money and you begin to realize very quickly there's a couple things that are evergreen one is money people always want more They always want to lose weight, but that's a massive market that just continues to grow. And relationships is another big one and that has grown even more so over the last 10 years So I think if you kind of can target what you do or fit what you do to help in one of those areas then you've got the foundation for business and that's really what we started doing. Perfect! Team Super Dad is going to help people with their health wealth and relationships That's fabulous. Amazing

27:23 Through that speaking and through your success, you then get asked to start speaking at these bigger events. And then you're putting together courses of a variety of topics such as the internet marketing idea? Yeah! So I mean there was... As it started to grow first of all had people who came through my events and I got invited to do like corporate stuff so did a couple of corporate keynotes and things which is fine it was fun they just pay you a fee But then of course the whole internet world started to grow, so then you start seeing people putting on bigger events and wanting I guess the rise or the beginning of multi-speaker events in the UK. They've probably been going on in the States for a lot longer but certainly at the beginnings up in the UK So yeah, so I started speaking at those sort of events

28:04 On two primary topics, the topics I knew which were property was a big one because it's like when you start making money so where do you put it? Of course. That was property and then obviously as I was paying attention to what people were wanting and I'd seen Simon Coulson or other people talking about the internet, I would started doing things with the internet had some success with it started realize that potential of it and then Darren Winter said hello The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad,

28:43 Not to put you on the spot here, but if someone's going to those events like that kind of panic that's on their mind there. Especially if we're looking at dads and they're thinking I've got a reinvent myself here only to make some more money or I've got to do basically this is this could be an essence of I want to discover my passion. I wanna spend more time all have more freedom with with my time but underneath all that is I really gotta make some money as they go to an event Someone talks about property, someone talks about investing. Someone talks about internet. As someone who's spoken at those events and had customers come through... Is there any kind of advice from the other side of the fence that you could give people or send to an audience about what they should choose? What I would say is as a common theme throughout all these things like

29:33 There's lots of things you can talk about within that seminar industry because obviously there are people who have got up and learned to sell, and what they're selling is crap. And they're just leading people down a garden path and they're ripping people off. But if you take the good courses and the good material that's out there – let's just focus on that – what I would say looking from this side at the people who've come through courses over last 20 years is before you go into these things clarity and discipline are your friends So what I mean by that is be clear what you want in your life. Not what you want from coming to a multi-speaker event, but what you want in your life. Be very clear financially on what you want. It took me a long time to get there like I made money lost money made money lost money and with hindsight it was a lack of clarity of what I really truly wanted You know? I was driven in the beginning by I just wanna share ideas and help people. Well off we go! But I didn't have any real clarity around it

30:28 So I would suggest it's like get clear how much money do you want? Don't start throwing out numbers. You know, I want to be a multi-millionaire It's meaningless! One you don't need that much every year to have a phenomenal life so it's like literally decide what that figure is each month How much do you need and then if you say well I need 10 grand a month have a great life Great! So ten grand a month in your bank disposable So you need to probably triple that in terms of paying taxes and putting some money away in some sort of investment thing that's going to grow over time. Yes, exactly! Or you need 30 grand a month? Great, now I need 30 grand a month. Now you need a viable vehicle that can get you 30 grand a month. That narrows it down straightaway but then... You've got two options. You can either go, I'll build my own business entrepreneurial type thing

31:15 And I do not believe that's for everybody. I think 20, 15... even 10 years ago if you'd have said to me is that for everybody? Yeah! Everybody should do it and I don't believe anymore. One because you don't need too and two there's a lot of other stuff that comes with running your own business the you may not want to deal with but you'll have to deal with it and it can cause more mental challenges than pretty much anything else So, you decide how much you want and then you've got to recognize that you're going to have to be disciplined about it. I've noticed as I'm watching this – I don't know if everybody sees the video but in the back you've got Brendan Bouchard's book haven't ya? Yeah! And he talks about in there – highly recommend that book. But the discipline of recognizing like he wanted to be a best-selling author like a writer. The reality of being a best selling writer is you gotta write

32:04 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad, If you're going to run an online business in today's environment where you are leveraging social media, then you need either advertising. So you've got write the ads, you've got run the ads and pay close attention to the numbers so that you can see what determines a good test Like, something needs a thousand impressions before you make any decisions. Then have you got the clicks you want? Does like when they click what happens next does the whole system work if you're going to do it without ads then yes You can pretty much find any niche of people online these days through Facebook groups and so on What are you gonna post in there but you've gotta be disciplined say well I'm gonna post every day I wanna post at least once every day

32:56 And then you've got to be clear what the purpose of the post is, just to get attention. Then what's the next step for people? So there's discipline in all this. I mean, I've tried pretty much over the years just about every kind of time management system you can buy. I spent tens of thousands of dollars on these things but these days I just use a blank The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott,

33:39 Here's what I'm doing. Yeah, that's awesome! You're not the first person to say that but what I can say is it's a practice of successful people and when you ask let's say not successful people if they're doing that they generally saying no there They're not so I think this covers everything in the sense of health relationship money. Success is a process It's always a process with the process That means there has to be routines The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott

34:22 15 to half an hour before me, she just likes getting out of bed early. I like to lie and do my meditation in bed Then we get up We've realized that from a relationship point-of-view the first thing we have to do is connect So we got give each other big hug or big kiss remind each other why were together? Awesome That's a routine for the relationship And without that you can damn well know that if you don't do that for a couple of weeks There's gonna be a big argument at the end of it Oh so you're going to explode You're gonna feel like neglecting each other someone's gonna be unhappy And the same way with health, if I train four times a week. Not oh well train if I feel like it! I train four times a week. I map in my weekly calendar and know when I'm training. I don't go into the gym going what should I do today? I already know what I am doing before I get there. There has to be routines and money is the same you gotta have routines for money otherwise you won't have any or you'll lose it like I did couple of times ago so

35:12 That's it, it's a process. Everything is a process You don't go to the gym once and go that's it I'm done for the rest of my life Or go a couple times and say look I've got six pack abs I can stop now That doesn't work It's like every day Like every week There are routines, thats my point It is a process And listen I want to dig into that in a little bit more Particularly around health and relationship stuff But just back on the wealth and coming on courses People, speaking from experience go on the course and don't do the work. As someone who's led those courses and I think this is really good advice for people who probably at this time are looking at different ways they can make more money or make a transition in their life why do people come on courses and not do the work? And what could you say that would actually help people take the knowledge out of a course and put it into practice

36:08 I think they come on them because they have a strong desire to achieve something, even though they're not clear what that is. It's usually fuzzy but certainly the concept of more money or more money without having to work as hard for it is very attractive so they'll come on a course with that idea in mind and want to get to that place. What they don't necessarily Get in the beginning and I'm you know as things have progressed More and more like if I were like, I have webinars running at the moment. And in my webinars are very clear So I'll say if you're the kind of person who loves to run these things But doesn't want to do anything with it who doesn't want to put in the work He's not willing to work hard in a beginning Don't bother stop listening straight away but also tell you that people will listen to that in there in the presentation go absolutely is absolutely right I've got to do the work

36:57 And then sign up and then forget that. Yeah, that makes sense! And I think there's an element of you don't know what you don't know... Actually funny enough there was something on The Other Nine not directly related but it relates in a sense of it was all about women talking about their first child going through pregnancy for the first time Nobody tells you what childbirth is like But the other side of that is nobody can tell you what childbirth is like until we go through yourself And my wife has said this several times, you know. She was laughing at this documentary because it's exactly what she talked about 15 years ago after she had Maria and it's that same idea. It's like I can tell you how much hard work is involved in the beginning but until you do it, you have nothing to compare it too

37:42 There's nothing there. It's like trying to describe an orange to somebody who has never seen fruit, until you get into it but you've got to recognize as much as possible going into it if you want to drink from your reservoir you gotta dig that reservoir first and that's hard work, that's discipline, that's routines, having a viable path. I mean for me I'm realizing now at 45 And now rebuilding after what was a challenging marriage and the mental health sort of stuff that went with that. But also going into that, taking my baggage experiences of things not quite working out jobs I didn't quite enjoy football teams I didn't get picked for you know going right back to childhood sure um Going on the course getting loads of great

38:29 Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super You know, it's not their place necessarily to be teaching that. They've got two days to give you the course and an extra day to work on your self-esteem but going into the course if your self esteem and confidence is not up... And how on earth are you going to put the course and the knowledge into practice on the other side? Yeah, that's where it becomes... I've realized more and more though. It's like you gotta get around people that are doing it or wanting to do it which is where masterminds mentoring and things like that become far more important because I've got friends who were billionaires and they still have doubts so don't ever think that they ever disappear but you'll still have doubts about certain things

39:24 So it's not so much, can you... I guess yes you want to be looking at developing your own confidence. I think that's part of it but recognizing that that's a process as well. It's never going to be complete but the same time if you get around people who are all focused on achieving something there is something great when you're in a group which you don't get when you're on your own and I've been on my own at times and it is isolating and have nothing to compare it with and you have no one to talk too And that's very bad for your confidence, or certainly was for me and my self-confidence. So if you're around people who are all focused on a similar goal and you've got someone who is facilitating it or guiding it then the very fact that you can talk to each other and encourage each other 1 plus 1 isn't 2 anymore! One plus one is whatever you want it to be. That I found has been one of the greatest benefits of making sure I hang out with the right people

40:15 And, you know at this point I'm more than happy to pay to hang out with the right people because I know the benefit for me not just financially but emotionally socially everything else is obviously well worth the investment. You know so get around people because you will always have doubts there is nobody on the planet that I've met so far and I've met everybody from People starting out as a say doing multi-multi millions and have been making millions for decades Doubts don't disappear I have one particular billionaire friend, he's like a brother to me. He rings for my advice and it's like what do you want my advice for? But he does! So it never goes where you always want other perspectives or their opinions or you've got little doubts little niggles yeah they get around people Yeah that's something I've become aware of

41:03 Working on breaking out of one level and into another level myself is, people listening can check in with themselves. There's a level which you've settled at? Yes. Both socially financially health wise and if you're not sure that have a look and see how long you've been successfully operating at that level. And he's like, oh okay I'm really good at being just above skin or i'm really good at being kind of happy! You know like but then so then then you get left with Oh yeah but it's all right for them but that's not me actually It's just a glass ceiling that we put on ourself by our habits the people we hang around with and the input that we're getting um...and I really heard what you just said there about

41:49 Because people might ask the question, yeah but how do I get around those people? And you've mentioned in this call and in this interview the Yes Group. That's a group of NLP speakers confident coached people who are up to stuff You've mentioned you actually took courses. You mention that just briefly just a moment ago you said and I'll happily actually pay for that right now so... ...I don't even need to ask you that question! That's what people need to do if they're wondering how to get around those people is go out and look for them Start your own. I mean, literally, I've met people more so in the States...I think there's maybe a slight difference in the culture of the states and I'm being general because it is such a big place with all sorts of cultures but if you haven't got something and that isn't there well start your own So if you haven't got a mastermind group like if you read Think & Grow Rich obviously one of the old books in terms of success and personal development And has been a cornerstone for many many people that I have met but one of the big chapters are about masterminds

42:47 Everybody at that time who was extraordinarily successful in business had a mastermind and various people on it. So if you don't have one, and you don't necessarily have the funds to invest in one then start one! Yeah, I just initially start by doing a meetup. I mean, I know there's meetups all over the place these days and it's like get some people together and agree to me up on a regular basis whether weekly monthly and hold each other accountable in some way support each other in some way be there to talk to each other when one he was having a damn day they can ring The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad,

43:35 I'm the fittest I've ever been at this moment and I do wonder if i could run this fast now what the hell could have done when I was 19. Health's always been important to you, your fitness has always been important to you? Yeah it has since I was uh 19 so when I was a university obviously university first time away from home you know so you go a little bit crazy But I remember in, yeah probably it was my second year at university so I'd done the first year and all the stupidity stuff. Was still doing some stupid stuff but I woke up one morning and my whole back had seized up So, like it took me like 15 minutes to get out of bed. Like I just couldn't bend you know so it's like trying to slide and get my feet on the floor and get myself to an upright position right yeah me so I was like I'm painting a picture here are you because he said you're on a computer science as a science engineering degree so what are you quite geeky engineering kind of

44:30 I'm You know, I woke up with my whole back seized up. I was in a lot of pain and this can't be right! I'm 19 for frig's sake you know it's like something has got to change and that started me down the path of okay health is important so i started reading books read lots of different things which had different opinions but more than anything if you read every book there is about what's possible on health you just get confused

45:18 So ultimately you just kind of go, well I'm gonna pick something and see what works for me. And that's what started it so it was like let's start doing some regular exercise Just being in the gym and lifting weights didn't particularly interest me but martial arts always had since David Carradine and Kung Fu when I was a kid Yeah yeah TV series religiously so that all do with martial arts so I joined the karate club in the university and enjoyed It so that started this sort of physical aspect of it and then on the other side Okay drink less stop eating chips stop eating kebabs Look for better quality food and that started that as well. So since then I have read, and even today's better of course because you've got podcasts so... I listened to, I think I mentioned before Peter Atiyah runs a great podcast And his whole focus is quality of life and length of life and he is the doctor. And what was the podcast called again? Do you remember? It's Peter Atiyah Drive. Okay cool. The actual podcast but it has some brilliant people on there

46:13 But some of his early stuff is very much purely about, I guess very technical as well. Very technical because he's obviously still treating patients and he's a big advocate... not an advocate but he certainly is a big fan of ketogenics, ketogenic dieting. Yeah! Because he puts a lot of these patients on those things so he's there for measuring everything. He himself wears a continuous glucose monitor So anything that eats you can see the impact on his glucose straight away and it tracks him Rhonda Patrick, also very deep into the research. So people like that I listen to regularly And books, I just read so many books and just tried things out for me. So it started out with well how much food do you eat? What are you eating? So I started eliminating...I mean I didn't get rid of alcohol until my mid-twenties. You know, so I came through university even though I think it would have been impossible to give up all drink at university! I probably wouldn't have had a social life but then as I got out and was working in London, I got to the point where I just got sick of being drunk

47:14 You know, in the sense that we'd go out on a weekend and the whole point was to go out and get drunk. So I got to a point where I was sick of that... And so you haven't drunk since your mid-twenties? Um, I didn't drink for about 15 years! I never dropped for about 15 years. Now I will have the...I'll pour myself a glass of red wine and I'll drink about half a glass before i'm bored but I'll enjoy that half, you know like I'll enjoy that half a glass and I'll probably do that every couple of weeks now So I'm not as militant about it. But then food wise, I do regular fasting and pretty much an intermittent faster these days full stop. Yeah well um Tolly Buchan the fire walking... Oh yeah I know him! He advocates fasting and i've heard him speak about it and you don't even need to get into the science of it kind of sounds quite sensible. You're starving your body of food

48:12 So it goes into its own resources and starts eating away at things. And guess where it goes? It goes and takes the unhealthy stuff that needs least to draw energy from, so could be cancer could be whatever you know or tumors or diseases that are in your body. The intermittent fasting actually The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott, Team Super Dad, Five years ago, they understood it existed and they were like oh my god this thing causes any cancers to grow more aggressively. It must be bad! But then you kind of go what's it in your body for? And then actually now they've realized that when you fast your organ shrink and you actually rebuild cells... sorry you regenerate the cells

49:03 The I like Tim Ferriss, there's someone else i listen to as well and he talks about what the minimum dosage of something that gives you the benefit. That is his big thing. Minimum viable dosage, I think he calls it. So if the science at the moment from what I understand is a bare minimum 16 hours not eating in 24 hour window

49:39 So, if you only eat within an 8-hour window you'll get 80% of the benefit of fasting without having to do a multi day fast. And that obviously includes sleep as well! I started there and then you learn things about your body because you'll feel hungry But then of course, if you don't eat the hunger disappears that feeling disappears. So you begin to realize you can manage that much more easily I know from when I gave up caffeine for quite a while and I gave up sugar, it wasn't my ex-wife that was ill. I gave up those things for awhile because she had to and going through those first few days like you know I need coffee! As someone who's curious about the way myself or the way of my brain working and talking to me...I'm like what? Who says that?! And then after a couple days yeah you find yourself

50:41 I'm not actually thinking about it. But most people react to the thought and go and satisfy the thought without actually thinking about whether they can live past it? Well, in terms of evolution our ancestors wouldn't have had food or access to food on a daily basis so therefore their body is designed to go through periods of no eating and then obviously then periods of eating. So you kind of make sense in that respect. I find myself much clearer mentally when no sugar A little bit of caffeine, I don't worry too much about caffeine these days but no sugar certainly and then fasting you get very clear mentally so you become more productive. I found that so it's had benefits. Yeah I like it! So thats kind of like go to bed, dont eat till tea time thats a kind of... yeah yeah I mean I've done that as well. I did long time where I did one meal a day so you know its basically doing a 23 hour fast every day and your eating within hours window And then do you scoff?

51:32 I'm And in relation to your family, this health focus, this fitness focus has that rubbed off on your kids? Is it a family-wide thing? Yeah. My children... we haven't... I mean we've obviously set certain boundaries as they've grown up right from the beginning but some things we weren't too concerned about like you know got one of my boys in particular's been much more interested eating crisps and sweets and things

52:16 But we haven't been like, oh no you've got to eat your veggies. You can't leave the table until you're eating your greens on it We have never done any of that sort of thing. We've just kind of led by example I guess Yeah So he's now changed whereas as he has gotten a little older He's changed so he doesn't want those things not because we are telling him he shouldn't have them but he just doesn't want them And then my oldest son wants...he has ambitions to be a professional football player So he is very focused on what he eats and what he doesn't eat It just rubs off because they are in that environment Yeah and i think thats important They were massive on their kids about not eating sweets, and not eating ice cream. And then they would go to a party... Of course! ...and just gorge on these things and you know I'm not giving too much away here but one of the children has developed some eating issues okay um and i think that's

53:07 It's like for me about computer games at schools and stuff. I pay attention to what the games are actually about before i decide whether I'm going to ban them or not, and then there's two ends of the extreme when they're totally not allowed to do something most other kids are What's the impact of them being excluded from all those conversations? I don't mean playing world of, you know like flipping 18 games when they're nine. But it's like you say at some degree it becomes appropriate to actually bend a little And yeah, some of these games they're playing with their friends as a team. So you kind of go well they're learning to work as a team. Of course Paul! Well and when we were kids I mean your parents because you had one phone in the house on one line that was how we would speak to our friends is lock the house home for an hour yeah locking up everybody else so

54:02 I mean this has been a... Can i just add though, the final thing with the health aspect. Oh please yeah! One of the things that you will notice and I've seen in research and you'll see it just from common sense one of the biggest issues with people in later life is lack of muscle mass That's what causes an issue like if you fell over today and banged your arm It's not such an issue If your 17 and haven't exercised for 30 years then fall over crack a hip thats an issue Yeah Part of the reason for that is lack of muscle mass To protect the joints. Yeah, and obviously to give you mobility flexibility agility So it's like you should be doing something today to keep your muscles strong Which generally means some form of resistance training whether that's weights I use weights in the garage and I use Resistance bands because i'm doing kicks and things okay those very good for all over mobility But you want to keep that going And so when I was 22 I got invited to Japan to train over there

54:55 So I went over there initially for a couple of weeks and you know, we were...I was watching people in their 70s and 80s who'd been training in karate since they were like 16. And then when I was 22, black belt in karate fit strong and fast as far as I was concerned. These guys left me in the dust! And that was part of it's like, I want to be like that when I'm 18. Yeah wow! It's like that's the benefit of doing something continuously The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott You know, whatever I do wherever I go this is part of who I am. It helps me be a better man about husband and dad and I want to be around enjoying it in another 40 years time. Yeah exactly exactly 40 50 60 70 years whatever it may be. Exactly so one thing that's occurred to me were you someone who'd never really been fit? And then you had to get your first time at uni thing because this is a problem for some people where they've never really done exercise and now they're looking at how the hell am I gonna get fit

55:56 Yeah, no I wasn't fit because this goes back even further to childhood doesn't it? Because as a child i was a late developer. So I didn't really hit puberty until quite later in life compared to my friends so they all suddenly started putting on muscle and that and I'm still a little kid! Therefore I was never any good at sports because how can you be good at football when your you haven't hit puberty and everybody else has like just no comparison?! So I never thought I was good at anything The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott

56:40 Yeah, totally. It ultimately becomes a habit and thinking I'm not going to hit the snooze button! I said i'm gonna go for a walk let alone run. I said i'm gonna do that and that's what i'm gonna do. Yeah yeah...I think actually what you say there is something about that this is one of another value I find with writing everything down Is..you get to end of day and cross off things you've done it's like I realize like your keeping promise to yourself You said your'e gonna do it and you actually did That's good for your mental health. Or certainly I've noticed, like you feel good, like oh! I said it wasn't doing actually did it Whereas there have been times in the past where I've said, I'm going to do it and didn't do it. And when you've done that a couple of weeks on the trot and not done it, you start to really...I found out I would slide. That's what I needed people around me to kind of help me encourage me get back out of it but crossing things off saying, I'm gonna do this and you're doing fantastic telling someone else you're gonna do it when it involves them and helps them like your children and you'd do it even better. Yeah!

57:38 I'm not a psychologist and i don't like test things out on animals but you see things on Pavlov's dog. You set a task, you give reward. You keep doing it builds a mental message about if I do that I get this and all of the sudden you're no longer having to think oh my gosh we've got to go to the gym unit start to think I go to the gym because it makes me feel good I like feeling good and therefore either you forget the whole gym bit is just I like feeling good in these are five things I did to achieve that yeah yeah from my point of view it's very much I want to however long I have here on this earth when I get to the end of my life I won't be able look back at it

58:15 I loved it and you know, I set out to play Fallout and I played Fallout. And I dealt with all the challenges everything else that came along the way but... And I like the way I guess Brendan Bashard describes it, you know live love laugh or whatever is there's element of that It's like I want to live a wanna I wanna love You know when they damaged I'm not very good or haven't been in the past Like I'm not naturally a very demonstrative person Love-wise So I had to learn to do that. Does that make sense? Like, I had to learn to be more demonstrative to everybody! My wife and my children... Everybody you know it's like hug everybody kiss everybody tell everybody You know I used to get embarrassed by that sort of stuff so because i didn't grow up in that environment Of course! So I learned to do that as well

58:58 Well, for me it's one of my core tenets really is that the more I tell my kids I love them every day. They're old enough now where they start laughing about it like, yeah a lot daddy! But it took...I remember the first time I really remember my dad saying I love you. I was in my 20s and I made him. I was after the landmark forum, but I really realised where the barriers and the blocks were in my relationship with my dad. And I went about addressing them. How I was to him ultimately then ended up reflecting... he was able to reflect that back on me it was like a you know um i'm sure there's a technical sort of term for all this but fundamentally I had to push

59:49 Through and create that relationship and create that space for him in order that he could see the benefit of it, step into that space. And actually we now have a much closer and more open slash loving relationship at this age where he's 76 and I'm 45 than when we probably ever have had. Although, The Git has just been three days in Maidstone which is where I live! And I find out on the phone... Well, you haven't rung me! You haven't popped round. We haven't been out for a coffee." It just goes straight over his head because that's not who he is. He's like, oh well I spoke to you on the phone last week what are you talking about? But listen as we head towards this sort of time that whether people can put up with fun... You know, first

1:00:39 In regards to parenting, what do you do for fun with your kids? I've really taken from this how close you are with your kids. What are some of the things that you do with them and how do you foster that sense of relationship with them? And just love to hear that as it's always insightful for dads who are wondering how to create a strong relationship with their kids to hear it from other people I think, yeah. What has become a habit as i talk about it is the hugs and telling them that you love them So that started as a deliberate thing and now its just unconscious, so they always know each day they get them Then from A what do we do? We attempt to organize at least once every second week ideally every week something we all do together so we all go out with our family and we do something That could be simple like taking your dog to the beach

1:01:34 And then, running the dog up and down the beach. Remind us how old are your kids again right now? 16 12 and 10 Right got it So we'll all go down there You know the boys will want to take a football so we'll keep them all at the beach as we walk the dog you know obviously then get to talk with each other Conversations with my daughter because she's sixteen are different conversations that I have with the boys cause they're twelve and ten The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott They want to go off and see their friends. Of course, as teenagers and pre-teen. Teenagers do yeah! My daughter's just gone and spent... She went into London a couple of days ago to see her friend there stayed overnight came back again you know so she wants to go hang out with her friends when they're not all at school So she is making time for that And then when she is here it's like well we've got to find time for all of us To play together interact and remind each other that were family Otherwise obviously could get to that point

1:02:37 We Even before your kids have left home you're creating your relationship with their children. Yeah, yeah and what fun wise for yourself? What do you do to have fun and how'd you keep that side of your bucket full I like think about life as buckets and the more buckets we have that are full the more joy were going to get out our lives so what do you around having fun and catching up on friends

1:03:17 Yeah, I mean again that is something that has had to be a deliberate focus. Because it's very easy at times for me to get so focused on the work aspect that I can neglect it. Like single-minded, and whether that is a male trait or not sure but you can become...I can become very singly minded on my business and just everything else disappears. You know? So part of my planning for the quarter, month, week is like what we're doing this fun this week. What am I doing if I want do something on my own whatever that might be. The advantage I have I guess is training karate, that's fun to me Yes, well aspect is just fun anyway. But then outside of that what do we do? We say well you obviously got to make sure that me and Anne-Marie spend some time together each week... That's fun! So like what even do to make it fun?! You know are going to go watch a movie or have dinner? Whatever it might be but make it fun!!

1:04:07 So, it is literally at each quarter I'll brainstorm a list of things that we can do that I want to do that I think are fun. That I want to do with the kids and I think is fun. That I wanna do with Anne-Marie and I think she's funny then obviously make sure everybody else thinks the same thing or settle pick something that everybody agrees gonna be fun so that could be going to the movies as a family. That could be going kicking the ball around with Harrison when nobody else is around like Harrison you wanna go The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott

1:04:48 So there's more of an indirect connection in that respect. Totally, I mean they say... what's that expression about? Time! What do kids want? There is this cliche line, but what kids want more than anything from their parents is time Yeah yeah totally and I remember um this goes back a couple years but a good friend of mine who lives in London he had had when his father passed away He realised they all these family movies But his dad was never in them because he was the one holding the camera. You know, and it's like you suddenly realize actually what your kids want is to see you in the movies! So if you're going to film things make sure that you are in them so make sure that you have experience with them. Awesome

1:05:34 Well Paul, this has been a fabulous chat. Thanks so much for sharing so much of your life and your family and being so open with us all You've alluded to some of the work you're up too Would you like to talk about that or let people know where they can find you? Yeah, well if they go to strategicrebel.com they can find out all about those things I'm up to Most of what I'm focused on in the sort of, I guess public world and seminar world is still very much around helping people with the financial aspect to their business but more More narrowed down to marketing and sales, especially because people have lots of issues with that. So yeah so we run events, we do mentoring, we do coaching... And you told me this is targeted at business coaches? Who's your target audience who'd you help? Yeah so it tends to be

1:06:26 Other speakers, coaches trainers people like that who need and want to influence more people at the same time. And obviously bring those people into their own programs and make a difference and make an impact that way so we help with all of that. Just for context here what's the coolest speaking gig you've ever done? Coolest?! Yeah like one you buzzed off the most! You know actually it wasn't the biggest one I did one in 2014 going back a few years now And it was, I'd never been to South Africa until 2014. I went three times in one year and all to speak! Yeah... And I remember the first event was in Johannesburg for someone who had ever spoken in South Africa 800 people in the room and they had a local person, local speaker who was doing the hosting and comparing if you like and then I came on and I did the first kind of teaching piece and selling piece and they were just so hungry to learn

1:07:24 It was an app. The energy in the room was just electric, absolutely electric because they wanted it! Whatever I had to offer they wanted it and they wanted to run with it And I found that from a teaching point of view there's nothing that gives you a bigger high than people who really want to learn it You know so back one of the best ones I've ever been at Well I guess that's everything you said about your work with people, is that that's the kind of people you want to work with and that's where they get the most value back out of you. Yeah yeah and then obviously you walk away on a high because you know you've made an impact, you know you've made a difference so that's what's cool. So that's strategicrebel.com

1:08:03 And people can find you there. Awesome, well thank you Paul obviously the health stuff... what did you say? You're 53? 53 yeah! Looking good buddy got more hair than me! I'm not sure what impact that has on me it's just some sort of genetic thing but yeah. But anyway thanks so much like i said i appreciate your time it's been great to I'll pass across a number of times over the years but the last few weeks, the opportunity to chat more. I really get a sense of who you are to your family and your children and the impact that you're making on the world is fabulous and I know that's from the heart it's not about money first and foremost its really about what you're doing for others and I just know that I feel that

1:08:50 Fantastic, thank you. I mean it's been really good. I love talking so... And it has been interesting because it is not necessarily things that are usually asked about. I usually get asked about purely business and speaking and influence this has been much more round in the sense of what do I do outside of that? Totally! Listen for me the Team Super Dad podcast, you know if I haven't turned off yet because people say its important to hear The Team Super Dad Podcast there are so many podcasts out there at And they're all, you know a lot of them you can listen to and it's kind of today we've got this expert on and they're going tell you how that you know to be them basically. It's all a bit too dry! Then you've got other ones where there are interviews but they just ramble on and for me what is it about being a dad? You know the sort of name tag of Super Dad

1:09:46 It's not about what we want to be for our kids, it is what we want our kids to think of us. And you've shared so many things today just about the organisation of your life and about some structure and how you focus your heart on people, commitment to health Not just get up in the morning and do a couple of healthy things, but you know you understand what's going on with my body and why am I doing these things. And that actually gets to the point where I feel pretty good each day mentally wise physically wise yeah and for me that's about being a super dad it's having the energy and the love your children at the time and the confidence around your work and around your relationship with your wife or significant other and that really creates space like oh my god

1:10:31 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad, Paul Elliott You've got to fill yourself up to be able to give it, haven't you? Yeah. Well if I get the end of these conversations and people say they really enjoyed it and that there's good things to talk about things they hadn't spoken about before then I'm definitely achieving what I want to achieve. No no fantastic! It was really good. Paul Elliot thank you so much again for being on the show. It was great to chat. Thanks alot. Well I hope you enjoyed that for the 20 or 30 presenters of the podcast crew if you're still here. Brilliant! Literally tweet me, text me let me know on the Facebook groups that you're listening to The N because it's so important to get that feedback

1:11:29 You know, and also it's like a special group of people as well you know. It's a special group of people who tune in and listen to the end I am the kind of person that listens to podcasts through to the end. I listened to a lot of audiobooks as well And The Magic is at the end! I hope so because as the conversations...you get to know more and more, you relax inside the conversation and then I truly believe some of The Magic comes out of the end or we get so tired that we start talking nonsense and that should hopefully be fun as well If you know anyone, if you've heard of anyone on any other podcasts. If you yourself think would be an awesome guest on the Team Super Dad podcast I'd love to have you onboard! If you've listened to any of the Hangouts yet, The Team Super Dad Hangout and you think you would be a good dad to have in that group... You know I want to have a group of dads who are regularly coming on together talking crap having a laugh taking the piss

1:12:22 But maybe covering some important topics as well. We've got people sending in questions, asking us to discuss what would we do if or how we solve this problem and so I really would love more dads! More fun guys! I want some maverick characters and people with some crazy stories. I would love to have you in the Team Super Dad Hangout crew And that's it. Pass this on, give us some likes grow the community of Team Super Dads around the world I can't wait to hear from you! I can't wait to get your feedback and i hope that you'll be listening to the next Team Super Dad podcast My name is Jonnie Jensen, Team Super Dad out

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