The Team Super Dad Wrap Up #16

00:00 It's Friday. It's the wrap-up. You're with Team Super Dad and we've been letting our kids launch fireworks. Roll theme. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Hello, welcome, Team Super Dad, friends, family, members all around the world. It is Friday, the wrap-up. We are here every Friday, every Friday. Nearly every Friday. Life happens, right? So not every, not everyone, but most Fridays.

00:44 And I'm sorry for those ones that we're not on, but it's getting much, much more regular now. The wrap-up is the end of the week. It's where we celebrate what's gone on, all the good stuff, the challenges. Can we say lows? I guess it's okay. It's good to admit the lows, not dwell in the mode. Dwell in the modes, dwell in the lows. So yeah, it's just been fireworks night here in the UK. Fireworks night. Some people, rest of you, are not going to have a clue what that is, but in the UK, with where we spend a lot of money on fireworks, I will tell you all about it in a minute. If you're watching this for the first time, welcome. Give us a like, a share. In fact, tell me hello, right?

01:26 If you look in the description, if you're watching this live, you can click on facebook.com forward slash streamyard. And yeah, that's right. And you can say hello. So you can say hello in the comments. I'll bring you in in the comments. We'll ask a question. Let me know where you're at. Today's question really is, did you let your kids launch the fireworks? Did you let your kids launch the fireworks? I think it's an important subject. It's an important subject which we're going to dig into today in the wrap-up. We're coming into November. The Hero Academy is launching at the end of November. So basically the beginning of December. So the perfect way to end your year and lock in your 2021.

02:10 Loads happening with that, which I will share more of in a minute. And just generally what I've been up to. This week, if you have lived in a cave, you will not have realized that America is having an election or the UK has gone into lockdown. Lockdown two. I've been posting a little bit about both. It's been, you know what? Like I said during the first lockdown, not much different for me in terms of having the kids doing the shopping, working, working out. You know, it's a bit of, it's routine, really. It is routine. And you can't get away from that. I was working with one of the Team Super Dad guys this week and

02:54 he's recently separated. And one of the challenges that dads have, and dads in relationships have this as well, is that you don't know what to do. You don't know what to do with the kids. And I don't mean like you don't know how to take them out, but if play dates and friends coming over was always organized by the mum, then suddenly you're left wondering, who do I call? Who are their friends? How do you make this happen? And if you're talking to kids whose parents are still together, then it's the mum generally who manages the child's social diary. So you chat to the dad and you say, oh, brilliant. Do you want to come and do some fireworks? Or we're going to go out on a bike ride?

03:36 Do you want to come? And they say, yeah, sounds great. I better speak to their mum. And then it just grinds to a halt. Why? Why is that? Why is that? Or the weird thing is when you call in the mum and I think this is just how women communicate. I think I said this on the Wednesday's live. Yeah, you call the mum and you get put to voicemail and then you send them a text and they don't respond. And then about two hours later, you get, sorry, we're away. And that's it. It's like, all right. Do they hate me? Do they think I'm a weirdo? Or is that just how they communicate on text? I don't know.

04:18 I don't know. But it is a challenge for dads, whether you're still together and you're trying to coordinate a kid's play date or whether you're all separated. You're trying to work out how on earth you can have some fun with your kids. But my message to you is don't let it be about you. Have a look in the mirror, right? If you are scary as hell, sweating and maybe it is about you, right? But if you're just a normal everyday guy, then the likelihood is that you trying to arrange the play date and it not going very well is just normal. It's just normal. If you're coming on live now, I can see people turning up, then say hello, let me know who you are, where you are.

04:57 And I'll bring. bring you in. It's good to know, it's good to know, isn't it? So, yeah, that was the whole play date thing. And that happened around Halloween. Oh, yeah, Halloween last week that we did the wrap-up. So, and it could kind of happen a little bit again with Fireworks Night, but obviously, we're in lockdown in the UK now, so you couldn't really organize that too much. Fireworks Night, if you're not in from the UK, Bonfire Night, Guy Fawkes Night. About 300 years ago, I'm going to get that completely wrong. I haven't got time to look it up. A guy called Guy Fawkes tried to blow up the houses of Parliament, right? Kill all the politicians in the UK. The king found out, and

05:34 so they not only caught him, but they hung, drawed, and quartered him, which basically means you hang them and then you cut them up the middle so their guts fall out. And ever since then, in Britain, we have Guy Fawkes Night, where we just make bonfires and set off fireworks. So, last night, it was fireworks night. Rosie, my powerhouse of a daughter, was came out of school going, So, daddy, it's uh fireworks night. What are we doing? I was like, Oh, blind me, I thought it was lockdown. She said, Well, we could go to the shop, we could get some of this. So, of course, I'm like, Okay, we should do that, we should do that. So, three different supermarkets managed to find some find some fireworks, some rockets, some little fountain sprinkly things.

06:16 And now we're in the garden. And my boy Jaygo, 11 years old now, just like I was when I was 11. If you, if you leave a lighter around, he will set fire to things, right? It's just what boys do. So, my attitude towards this is you've got to do dangerous things with your kids or let and let them do dangerous things because if you don't, they're going to do it behind your back anyway. So, much better to do it with them in a safe fashion and where you get the opportunity to tell them how bloody stupid and dangerous this is. Um, otherwise, they're going to just go and do it anyway. So, he was like, I was like, Woohoo, I'm going to make fireworks.

06:56 And, and yeah, so constantly leaning over the firework as he's lighting it. I'm like, my boy, don't do that. Then, then as it as he thought it was starting to light, jumping away from it too quickly, so it so you weren't really sure whether it had lit or not, which is obviously not a good idea when you're playing with fireworks. And just generally, the adrenaline as you launch two, three, five, six, you know, and these weren't, these weren't big fireworks, these were family garden fireworks, but still the rockets they're going up, they're going up above the house. You know, you wouldn't want to get one of those in the face, that's for sure.

07:38 So, so it was just brilliant. Um, and my message there is do dangerous things with your kids, it's it's it's a rite of passage, and uh, and you just got to do it, otherwise, they're going to do it without you. And better that you equip your kids like this than leave them at their own whim and will, basically. So, if no, no sooner have you spoken about Halloween, which is now here. Thank you, America, for that, uh, and Guy Fawkes Night, but you're into Christmas. And I just had this conversation with someone. We've done no idea what Christmas is going to hold for us. Some people are talking about a digital Christmas, some people talking about how lonely and bleak it's going to be.

08:20 I don't think it's going to be that bad. I think, in the grand scheme of things, hopefully, they'll let us just get together at some degree over like four days, five days, which probably means it's going to be a wild party. Um, but either way, right, only we've got six weeks. And a message to men is get organized, get organized now, take the stress off yourself. So, clearly, everything's going to be bought online mainly. So, if you wait to the last minute, there's going to be nothing left. That's definitely going to be the case. And speak to people. Like, this is a classic one that I always do. I call people the week before I want to do something. And no surprise, they've booked it up months ago. They were like, I could see you at Easter if you want.

09:05 So, whatever you're thinking and planning, whatever you hope you might like to do with yourself, with your kids, get it in now, organize it now. And, you know, you could call that focus, right? That's about being focused. If you're interested in making a breakthrough in your focus, then in the Team Super Dad group on Facebook, that's facebook.com forward slash and groups forward slash Team Super Dad, starting on the 14th of November, is a one-week, seven-day focus challenge. So, it's a create focus challenge. So, without focus, we have nothing. So, we can all do with understanding how we get focus, how we keep it, why we need it, and just focus around money, focus around finances, focus around family and fun.

09:51 That's what we'll be covering and having a load of fun doing it. It's going to be a great way to get connected during lockdown and not feel completely isolated. So come on over to teamsuperdad.com forward slash create focus and get involved with the challenge on the 14th. On that subject, basically, creating focus and running the challenge, I've been beavering away on the basically making money, like the course creation. So putting programs together for Team Super Dad, things of value, teaming up with some finance people for the finance section, then bringing content in. I've just reached out to a guy on LinkedIn who is the laughter.

10:38 I once did this thing, right? It was the weirdest thing ever, but I'm actually going to try and do it inside Team Super Dad. It is the weirdest thing. He's a laughter facilitator, right? And I once did this. So it was like a call-in. You know, remember the days of phone, like group chats on phone calls. So the group chat on a phone call was called laughter yoga, right? Laughter yoga. It's a real thing, real thing. And basically, you spent, I can't remember whether it was five minutes or 10 minutes, but it certainly felt like 10 minutes laughing, just generating laughter. Like it might sound the weirdest thing to do, but just a group of people don't even know each other.

11:19 They can't even see each other because it's all old school on the phone. And you're just laughing, laughing. And strangely empowering, relaxing, and not strange, but the end of it, you can't help but have a smile on your face. So they're some of the things that putting together these people that are coming in and creating modules, pieces of the Hero Academy that once you've signed up to, you get all of that inside the Hero Academy. So whatever it is that you're focused on as a dad, whether it's your fitness or your finances, your family, your fun, all the different elements of that are inside of Team Super Dad and the Hero Academy with training, but then also the live stuff.

12:02 And then when we get together, when the events, we can get together and do face-to-face. I'm still hanging out to do the Valentine's Day firewalk. We'll see if we're allowed to do that. But that's the plan there. And if you're part of the Hero Academy, you'll get an invite as part of that. And if you're part of Team Super Dad and the free community, then of course you will be invited. So come on over and get involved. Where's my list gone? And fitness. I've got two more things to talk about. Fitness and dating, right? Fitness, fitness. It's bloody annoying that the gym's shut again. I'm not sure I'm ready to get back into the home workout. It was kind of novel, novelty the first time around. And that's just a conversation, right?

12:47 It's just a, what am I trying to say? We can decide to do something just as easily as we can decide not to do it, right? And particularly as something as easy as do 20 press-ups or put the TV on and do a hit workout. The story that goes on of I'm tired, I can't be bothered. I don't want to put the mats out. I get all sweaty. I'd rather go outside. Why is the gym closed? Oh, I'll just wait. All of that is just blah, blah, blah. But the clearest message in spite of all those thoughts is I'm just going to do it anyway. So, so I'm just going to do it anyway. The what's it called?

13:28 T25, which I was doing all through lockdown one. I've still got that. And I'm probably going to download or buy something new as well. I've been looking. Beach body do a thing called 10 rounds, which is a boxing one. And, oh, and then of course you've got Sean T's old famous one of insanity or P90. So I could stretch it up a little bit and do one of those. I want to keep working on the muscles. So that's a challenge when you work at home is where you can get big enough weights to do that. But whatever your fitness challenge and goals are, don't let it slide just because we've gone into lockdown. You know, don't suddenly start drinking more than you necessarily need to.

14:12 Don't just start eating garbage because you're at home and you can open the fridge door. If you find yourself opening the fridge door, then do something about it. Like put a picture on the front of the fridge of someone fat. You know, I don't mean that against fat people, but if that's something you don't want to be, then put it up there. If you are overweight, then put a picture on there of someone slim, like make it a target, make it inspirational. If drinking too much is a problem, then take the beer out of the house and put it in the garage. Like these are practical things. Or what I do, I've mentioned this hundreds of times before.

14:50 I drink an insane amount of sparkling water because I think just simply the bubbles distract me from wanting to open a beer. Not to mention the fact that too many beers just give me a headache anyway. But same with red wine. You know, I'm pretty good at resisting having it, but some people aren't. So put it out of reach if that's your problem. But just stay focused on... on the goal or the intention that you that you want to have and and don't get stuck in oh well we're it's i can't do anything about it it's just going to happen no we've got six weeks till christmas set that as a goal we've got

15:28 about 15 16 weeks till valentine's day make that a goal whatever the time period go for three months and make it 90 days um in the in the f5 which is the team super dad monthly accountability group it's all about the the four weeks it's all about the four weeks and so just see what the set that time scale in place say right i'm going to do this over the next seven days i'm going to do this over the next four weeks just do something to hold yourself to account and clearly getting inside a men's group like team super dad is an even better way of holding yourself to account there motivating and inspiring you to get something done

16:07 and that's it the wrap up the wrap up is complete oh dating yeah dating what a saga lockdown is so who knows what this means for for the johnny jensen team super dad dating story um the the i won't say much more about specific people but it's it was lovely to go on some dates i don't know what stage that uh particular um particular person is is at um but but that's the nature i think of being 46 year old and and dating you you it's very difficult to dive into something and suddenly over commit um unless that's exactly what the other person wants which

16:55 may or may not be the right idea i don't know um the one thing i do know is that it should be enjoyable and as long as you're being upfront and straight with people about where you're at and what your intentions are then i don't think anyone can uh have a go at you for that or you can end up being hurt by that so if you're on the same page then then just enjoy it as for enjoying it i can't even go and see anyone now so oh man i think uh i think maybe maybe we're maybe there is going to be a vaccine maybe we're going to squash covid and 2021 is going to be the the third summer of love how about that that'll be epic the third summer of love 1990 91 was the first no not the first

17:42 second there was a first summer of love with like all hippies and stuff like that right i need to hang out with some more historians so if you know the exact date of the first summer of love if you know the exact date of um guy fawkes trying to blow up the houses of parliament then get in touch you can help me with my historical facts the wrap-up the crew the wrap-up crew is coming together uh i just need to get more organized and start bringing this all in so that we can have a group of dads a group of men on the wrap-up together if you want to be one of those dads then message me reach out to me on anywhere basically on on my socials at johnny

18:21 jensen or at any of the team super dad socials facebook instagram twitter um or just flip in ring me how about that my phone number's on my profile just ring me i hope you have a great weekend i hope you get to have fun make sure dedicate time to your kids for sure absolutely say yes more than you say no find reasons to spend time with them put your phone down and spend time with your kids and your partner ask her what she wants what can i do for you today what would make what would fill you up where whereabouts in our relationship um could i do something for you and you might be surprised to find what the

19:01 answer is um don't expect anything back just maybe use this weekend to give more than you get and that's it that's my message enjoy yourself let me know how you're getting on and we'll see you next week monday 12 noon on the team superdad live stream i'll see you then team super dad out bye this has been team super dad find us at teamsuperdad.com