Nearly In The Mile High Club - Wrap Up #52

00:00 Welcome. It's that time of the week. It's Monday night. It's the wrap-up. Myself, Johnny Jensen, creator of the Team Superdad community and the Hero Academy program, joined as always, waiting behind the scenes, Glenn, aka Dating Dad. This is the wrap-up. We are so excited to have you here with us, either on the video or on this podcast. Rolfie. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Mr.

00:43 Glenn, how are you? Welcome to the Team Super Dad wrap-up. Thank you very much. Very, very, very happy to be here. You caught me glancing at a screen and reading an old post. Did you ever read something you wrote a little while ago and you've forgotten it so much that when you're reading it, you're amused by it and just half in recognition and half in... That's really quite funny. Well, as I rapidly approach my 100th episode of the Team Super Dad podcast, yes, I do listen to old episodes for Team Super Dad podcast. I have a little... I play that sound effect as I do. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, no, I just, I think if you're a content creator, then you're going to check in on stuff.

01:32 You're going to like, should it be updated? Have I got anything to say about that? We've just been through the running order for tonight. That's prompted us to mention a subject which you've written about. So you've gone back there and then you've had a little buzz where you've gone, actually, I'm quite good at that. Well, I used to love, and I still, I love writing. I love being creative. I've stopped writing my dating dad blog for a year now. Last post was on my 40th. And yeah, it was causing too many problems with romantic life. So I've kind of put it on the back burner for the time being because a dating blog that makes it harder to date isn't very useful. Oh, the irony. That's like, that's like crossing the streams. That is proper dark.

02:17 Yeah, it was very continuous. It's very frustrating. But, you know, the whole point of this is to find love. So let's try and optimize my chances. Okay, good. We'll see if we can give that a little tickle. If you're joining us for the first time, welcome. Where have you been for the last 53 episodes of the wrap-up and near 100 episodes of the Team Super Dad podcast? We do this every week. We have a bit of a giggle, a piss take. We come up with a really sensible running order of things that have been going on in the world and then pretty much end up not talking about any of it because more often than not, something stupid has happened in my life or something interesting has happened in Glenn's life.

03:00 Or Glenn's got a very, very well-thought-out view on something that I've given very little thought to but have an opinion on. So that's basically how the wrap-up works. We used to do it on a Thursday. It seemed more appropriate to have booze on a Thursday. I don't think we ever did it on a Thursday. It was always a Friday, Johnny. It was a Friday. Do you need to go back and re-listen to these things again? I know you can't joke about Alzheimer's and dementia and stuff, but do you ever wonder have I got it? I thought I worked it out whether I'd had it or not, but I forgot. Oh, Jimmy Greaves, R.I.P.

03:46 Yes, indeed. Do you want to tell our American listeners about the legend that is Greavesy? Yeah. So Jimmy Greaves, a sucker, legend, a football player, a striker, centre-forward, the guy that gets the goals. And boy, did Jimmy Greaves get the goals. He was a lad bought up literally in the east end of London, as I understand from the documentary I saw not too long ago. Picked up by Chelsea, actually, when he was just a teenager. I heard him talking about it and they said that the Chelsea youth coach was so determined to get him that they sweetened the deal with 50 Irish pounds to Jimmy Greaves' dad basically.

04:41 God bless them. Unofficial transfer thing got him into the Chelsea Youth Academy. Made his debut for Chelsea when he was 17, I believe. By the time he was 19, he'd reached 50 top class goals, like the fastest ever person to reach that number at that time. And like he's like 19. So, people that played with him consistently across all competitors, teammates, opposition, whatever, say he's one of the most naturally gifted strikers, not just of his generation, but of all time. Went to AC Milan for six absolutely awful months.

05:22 And on the documentary, he's loading up an old like transit, like a flatbed truck. And he's putting a fridge on there and an oven. And it's just even though. He scored 11 and 14, though. He was still razor sharp over there. Just didn't work out. They got a new manager who apparently just treated him like dog shit. You English scum kind of. In the grand scheme of things, it's only like 25 years after the war sort of thing. Came back, Tottenham bought him for 999,999p because he didn't want to join the film. 99,999. It wasn't quite a million. That wasn't till Trevor Francis, many, many years later.

06:03 Oh, sorry, sorry, true. Sorry. Didn't want to put the pressure of being the first £100,000 player. And then he went on to score over 300 goals for Tottenham. Still the club's leading scorer of all time. The biggest tribute that anyone can say about him, though, is he was such a top bloke. Well, he's such a top bloke. I mean, firstly, for those American listeners, if you imagine if Tom Brady and Michael Jordan somehow had some sort of hybrid kid in terms of the levels of talent, he is, if you've all you've heard about football is Messi and Ronaldo, he would have been in that bracket if he'd been born and raised and playing today.

06:43 He was that the best English goal scorer of all time. Maybe not the top scorer, but when you've got a goal, nearly a goal every single game, it's ridiculous. And it's a mark of a man that he played for Spurs, Chelsea, and West Ham, three clubs who absolutely hate each other. And every single one of them loves him. It's not like, oh, yeah, you used to play for the scum. No, everybody loves him. And if it wasn't for alcohol, he would have scored even more. So it was a fantastic broadcaster, half of the legendary Saint and Greevesy. And yeah, yeah, 81. It's not a bad innings. Not a bad innings at all. He said there was a montage of clips that he did. And he goes, yeah,

07:26 me and me and Bestie, George Best, right? Another very talented, famous footballer, sadly, an alcoholic of his time, played for Man United. So Greavesy said, yeah, me and George Best were going to do a documentary on what it was like to be an alcoholic and play football in the 70s. If anybody knew us at that time, please come forward because we can't remember any of it. I think we've all had nights out like that. They had years like that. So yeah, I got goosebumps when they were doing all the tributes on Sky Sports on Saturday.

08:03 I was getting goosebumps fight. I think obviously because of Tottenham, but then the whole TV thing and someone reaches that sort of legendary status, you can't. And I generally have some weird, like, didn't know the person love for him. And it's weird that one of his most famous moments was something he didn't do. And that was start in the World Cup final. He was England's best goal scorer, best striker by a distance in 1966, got injured in whatever the round one for the quarterback. The last game was the group stages, apparently. Yeah, and then Hearst came in to replace him and scored against Argentina, scored again.

08:43 And then Greasy never won his place back. And so, which is kind of lucky because Hearst, he did all right in that final. But it's always one of those weird things that the thing that made him a legend was also what he didn't take part in. But he was part of that World Cup winning squad. So yeah, we salute you. We certainly do. We were talking about celebrations, weren't we? And how things evolve and change. But before we get into that, just briefly, if you are a dad, a man who wants to create a life, basically amp the game up really in your health, in your fitness, in your focus, in your finances, and ultimately so you can have more fun with your family and friends, then come on over to the Team Superdad

09:30 group, which is pretty much your gateway into everything we do at Team Superdad and the Hero Academy program. So teamsuperdad.com forward slash group. And that will, like I said, get you in through the front door. And we'll be absolutely delighted to have you there, whether in the group, whether in the academy or whether with the one-on-one coaching with myself. Got a lot of inquiries, a lot of new single dad clubs. clients coming through, which is possibly a reflection on lockdown and COVID and people being sick of each other. Yeah, yeah, there's huge surges in numbers, relationships breaking down, but that's not because they've been broken down now, it's because they've been breaking down over the last two years.

10:15 And then people have kind of stored up all those problems and now they're thinking, you know what? Fresh start. Let's wipe the slate link. Let's move forward in freedom and happiness where everyone can be happier. And that is such an important thing. And I guess it's like the reboot, isn't it? The big reset. People resigning from jobs because they don't want to spend two hours commuting there and two hours commuting back. And they're almost like demanding this reset, like a different pace of life or a different set of priorities. And being in a relationship that doesn't work is insane. You know, like get together, talk about what you want, set some goals, have a vision for the future. Talk about your values. Like,

11:01 are you like, you seem to be pretty negative all the time? Well, no, I'm not. I just know I think. Well, this is basically a window in on my marriage, right? I got called your bullshit positive attitude in one particular argument. Okay. Now, the thing is, if you're a bit of a negative person, I would do your head in. Yeah. Yeah. It has to be a blend, doesn't it? It's occurred to me as positive. So if you find yourself in a relationship like that, or you know, you could have changed. You could, if you could grow, not just grow apart, but you could grow into a different person.

11:37 Yeah, you can either grow together like two trees that are together, you can grow in some sort of helixical orbit where you're both different, but you're both circling around the same gravity, or you grow apart. Or one, you know, what often happens is one person does grow and the other one doesn't, and they want to stay the same. And so you still get this branching off. And so you just got to make sure the first two, magnificent. But as soon as you're not going around the same viewpoint and you want the same sort of things, and it's you have and you have to be attacking it in a different way and seeing if one of you can change Sandra D style. And if not, then yeah, both own your future journeys.

12:22 The thing I feared most before breaking up was what's going to happen after we break up. And then the day after we broke up, it was like, it was like, it's like, do you remember 1999 going into 2000? Y2K. Do you remember like it's coming? All the computers are going to break. Every like, oh, yeah, I'm a Y2K consultant. You have a thousand pounds a day. Oh, I can fix you. And they're basically going in, like, looking really important in a briefcase. And then it's like sitting down, opening the computer. I'm very busy. What are you doing? So we're back. We're back. Yeah. So yeah, Google just screwed me for trying to do the big reveal on Y2K.

13:15 It wasn't actually bringing you. This is the thing about journeys, isn't it? It's like imagine you're sailing on a journey and everyone's always scared about what's over the horizon. You're not going to be able to see what's over the horizon. All you've got to do is sail towards it and things will come into view. And that's this whole journey about things. You don't know what's over the horizon. You can't see past it. All you've got to do is keep moving forward. Yeah. So, like I said, got a lot of single dads coming and doing the kickstart program with me and the coaching and that. So if that's you, don't the biggest my message right now is don't spend six months, a year, two years arguing and stressing and destroying each other when actually the breakup could be a really healthy thing.

14:01 So do you know on that point, Flynn? It's been it's been like six years since we broke up. My ex and I are getting on. Oh, nice. That's a that's a big step. If people have been listening, we did take the piss a while back because it transpired that she was listening to our podcast but wouldn't actually talk to me, which which we did find quite hilarious. And I've I'm careful and sort of generous in these sessions not to not to run her or our marriage down. But what I can say at this moment in time is that it is a darn sight easier getting along and chatting naturally than it than it is than

14:42 nonsense version of that. I was trying to think what our segue was from that. How did we work out that the segue into that or from that was planes, trains, and automobiles? That wasn't the planes, trains, and automobiles segue. But I can quite easily do a separate segue. One of the things about owning your journey and owning your life is you actually start getting to think through actually what do I want out of life? What do I want to achieve? What do I want to do? And what a lot of people do is write themselves a bucket list. Have you got a bucket list, Johnny? Thank you, Glenn. Thank you for saving the show there.

15:24 I do have a bucket list. Most importantly, because of this conversation we had, I need to update my bucket list because I've realized it's actually bloody, bloody old. You were in a flipping tiny plane on Saturday and Lindy hopping, which I don't even know really what it is on Sunday. This is this is bizarre, really. And the pilot you're with, as well as being a very accomplished pilot, was also very attractive. She is indeed. Yeah, she's a commercial airline pilot. So she flies on the planes out, big 737s and stuff all the time. I think she's up in Europe on her way to or from Greece at the moment. And yeah, so as Johnny said,

16:06 it wasn't a bucket list. I was challenged by a friend. He said, most people can't think of 50 things they want to do. They say they want to do things and they can't really think of anything. I said, mate, it's going to be hard to narrow it down. And so I've got this list of 50 things and I'm just working my way through them. And some of them are big, like go to Everest or learn how to sail. Some of them are medium, like go to an opera. And some of them are really small. Like, I want to, I want to complete a Rubik's Cube. And I want to learn how to pick a lot. So there's skill-based ones, there's travel-based ones. There's experience-based one. I wanted to see Spurs play in a final at Wembley. No, I said play, not when.

16:45 I'm not an idiot. And so what I do is I talk about these with friends, people I meet, because you never know what's going to happen. So the opera, that one, I spoke about just chatting to a friend and he heard about my list. And he said, ah, you want to go? Opera. Well, I'm a member of Glenbourne. Oh, lovely. If you're going to go for those who don't know about opera, it's if Wembley and Maricana for football was in a was it a thing. If you're going to see something, you go there. If you're going to go to see Shakespeare, you want to go to the globe. And if you want to see an option, go to the Vatican. Exactly. Exactly. And Glenbourne is kind of a membership organization.

17:27 And it's when I say there are, there's a waiting list for about seven years or something stupid like that to get on the list to be a member. And yeah, I remember Glenborn. I saw you had tickets. And we did this full day because it's not just the opera. You sit with a picnic that you bring. We had seven hours of dining. Can I just say so that we make everyone aware of how cool we both are? I've actually been to Glenbourne and done the dad's been many times, but it's who cultured. This is the quality of people you're hanging out with.

18:04 You've got two people who've both been to Glenborn. Beautiful. You're sitting there in your black tie and you're eating through and you're drinking, you promenade up and down the water. And then you go and see the first half of the opera. And it happened to be an operatic interpretation of my favorite Shakespeare plane, Much Ado About Nothing. So that was even better. Have more drink, more food, and then more opera and then more drink and more food. It's just lovely. So, and that was it. And someone else mentioned, I said I wanted to learn how to waltz. So I happened to know someone who's a world champion at the gay games. And he said, I'll teach you how to waltz. And so I was chatting away to this friend. And she said, oh, yeah, look, I have to go up to do my AS certification. Do you want to just come up on a plane?

18:50 Okay. And I thought, genuinely, I just thought I'd go up and look around and tiny little plane. And that in and of itself is cool. But as we're on the runway, she said, right, so we're going to take off in a minute. So to steer on the ground, you use the rudder pedals like that. So just to get your feet on, you do this, like just steer, and you want to get us in the middle of this. Right. Right, shove that forward and then pull back. I was like, well, yeah, yeah, you're going to do takeoff. So fuck. Okay. Straight up. And then just flying around. And she was like, you can't really break it. Is it like Mario Car? Is it literally that easy? Well, it's this, I mean, it's really old. I mean, let's be honest, there's loads of stuff that she'd done beforehand, checklists and t-bits and all the bits.

19:36 To drive the car, very much so. But the actual, the actual steering and moving bit is exactly if you've played any computer game, if you played X-Wing. X-Wing, you've got an idea of how to move it. So it does, and yeah, there's subtle variations, like this really, really bumpy. You're moving about constantly. And there's lots of just variations that you're doing. And when you bank to turn, as you do that, if you don't correct it, you just keep going over. And so you've got to kind of be correcting. And also, as you go like that, you're going forward. So you have to be pulling back carefully at the same time and keeping the right pictures in front of you. And you're monitoring your height. But it was just, it was so, so good.

20:19 I was just so blown away by it. Great, great fun. I definitely recommend it. But flying a plane was on my list. And so that was a cool thing. And then I had to do it. Then the next day, I had another friend who just said that, are you doing anything next Sunday? Do you want to go and learn how to Lindy Hop? Now, imagine like a jive crossed with a Charleston. And it's that sort of move. And so we spent a few hours on Sunday in Liverpool Street learning opposite Liverpool Street, learning how to Lindy Hop. And she was quite nervous about it. And so beforehand, we had a couple of drinks.

20:57 Why was she nervous? Because she hasn't done stuff like that before. And having people, sometimes some people don't like other people watching them while they're learning. Oh, okay, right. And it's that kind of thing. She invited you to take part. Yeah. Yeah. So she wanted to do it, but needed a bit of Dutch courage. And so every time, so we'd basically learn for 45 minutes and then a 15-minute break. So in every 15 minutes, there was a pub next door. So we popped out, had another couple of drinks, went back in, carried on, whipped out, and another couple of drinks, and so on through the course of the day. So yeah, I got a lot more relaxed by the end of it. So how many beverages had you had by the last session?

21:43 Probably about seven or eight. Pints? No, Jack Daniels. That doesn't make much difference. Just not so bloated. You still be pissed out. I would be pissed out my brain. Then went for another couple afterwards and then went up to the duck and waffle. Have you ever been there? Try saying that after seven, Jack Daniels. So no, we had another couple then. But yeah, up to the duck and waffle, which is on the whatever, the 50th floor of some building on Bishopsgate, and you're overlooking London.

22:20 And we got there, whatever it was, six o'clock. And so this was just as the sun was going, starting to set over the east, the west of the city, and just sitting there watching. I mean, even if we'd not eaten a damn thing and just drink cocktails, which we did, it would have been stunning. But then you have this top, top draw food. And we just had loads of like small plates, like tapassi type stuff. But loads of, we'd basically, instead of getting a couple of mates, we just got all the starters and just sat and worked our way through the starters, watching the sun go down over London and the shade go down and the lights come up. And then you've got the nightlife of London in front of you. Bloody glorious. So that was a really, really good weekend.

23:03 Bringing it back to, though, you made a list. Yep. You talked about it. Yep. And this is, and I know you don't really believe in all this sort of stuff, but this is the law of attraction, Glenn. This is when you create what you think about most of the time. So that I believe in. Absolutely. I'm down with a higher force. No, I'm not. Yeah, I'm not down with me just believing it. And so it happens. No, me believing it and thinking about it, like you say, means that I do something about it. I talk about it. I think about it. I make it happen. I speak to a friend who happens to be a sailor who then can also say, oh, yeah, I'll take you on a Salem race and took me around on my, like the first time I ever stepped on a fucking sailing boat was when he took me to compete in a sailing race.

23:50 You make, you talk about things and things happen. So if, for example, on my list, I would add it to my list if I was going to add anything. I wanted to firewalk. I now know you are talking about potentially going and sorting out some fire walking. Yes, we are. It's in the pipeline, the team super dad. The only thing that's not quite sure is whether we're going to do it just as like a one-evening event or we're going to do it as a like a retreat, like a three-day thing with firewalking and empowerment and barbecues. But that's the sort of thing. That's something that would be in the back of my mind. I want to do this.

24:28 One, I haven't worked out how I'm going to do yet. And so if any of our listeners are involved in this world, this is going to be probably the hardest one for me to do. I want to get my name included on the credits of a film that's released. released in a cinema. So it can't just be something like local or TV or something like that. I know people that can do that for you. Not like I could, not like I'll get you a finger, like I'll get you a toe. Yeah. I'm not talking about obviously I'm not going to be a star, I'm not going to act or anything like that. But I can, but I'm not going to because I'm not, you know, fucking cinema film. Back up.

25:06 Yeah, yeah. Assistant T-Stirrs, mate. I don't care. It's just got to be on a proper movie released in a proper cinema. I want my name somewhere in the credits. And with some of these credits that take like nine minutes long, there must be a role for me somewhere that I can squeeze my name onto. So that's that's one of the trickier ones on my list. Well, do you know what? People who know about this stuff might say no, not really. All you've got to do is edit a couple of flipping bits of CGI exactly. I don't place in Soho that does CGI for cartoons, and there you go.

25:49 And everything is easy when you know how to do it. And I don't know how to do that one. Just like I don't know how to do a backflip. And that's on my list. And all these little things that I just don't know. I don't know how to ride a motorbike. I want to learn how to ride. You don't know how to ride a motorbike. I've never ridden a motorbike in my life. No, I mean, I've gone back and forward outside one of my old house or my brother's one once. What do you want to do? You want to go scrambling around some woods or you want to ride around? I'd like to actually get an ass up head-down bike to be able to use it for commuting and shit. Oh, there are two different things. So, first of all, have you ridden a motorbike for fun?

26:32 No, no, no, never. I mean, I hired a moped in India for a week, and that's the closest I've got. I see, that could qualify as a motorbike, but you said, but it didn't go fast enough, not quite. No, also, also, yeah, it's just a kind of a throttle one. There's no. Oh, you want to do the gears and all that sort of jazz? Yeah, I want to know how to do it. So, in a zombie apocalypse, I've got that skill in my back pocket. Okay, I had a motorbike when I was a kid, like a trial bike. So, you like you pull the clutch down, toe up. Curious fact, friend of mine for university, Dan Watson, um, he won or came second, not quite as exciting, but he won or came second.

27:11 Do you remember that TV program, Kickstart, with the trial bike? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Big up to Dan Watson, uh, runner-up or even winner of uh Kickstart 1987, whatever. Uh, so, okay, so you want to, so we've got, but I think it's like there's a kind of qualifier thing, it's going to be a motorbike, you're going to change gears and you want to like rag race around on it. I want to do my CBT or whatever it is, the one where you pass it and you can ride a motorbike on the streets. Yeah, I went and did this. It's a weird memory. I went to some place in like North London and did a day's motorbike riding to get like a to get a provisional so I could get a moped, but then didn't even get a moped.

27:55 So, but um, yeah, you do that, it is all of these are doable in some way, shape, or form. You just got to think about what do I want to do? What would what would be fun and interesting to do? And that it might be a bungee jump, it might be learning a language, it might be learning a guitar or doing something Paul. Uh, so you want to learn the guitar as well? Yes, of course, I do. So, Paul, Team Super Dad, OCR colleague and best friend to the stars, including yourself and I, uh, he's a guitar teacher. Amazing. If this sort of conversation, and do you know what else is bloody annoying? He can also do the Rubik Cube.

28:34 See, perfect, Paul, I'm gonna give you buy some more beers for you, make you some more ribs. So, we could have a challenge to do the Rubik Cube by Christmas, maybe. Do you know it's not actually that hard? It's just yeah, I think it's one of those things when you learn a technique, then you can do it. There's two ways: one is like the Kasparov official kind of you know, pure way, and then the other way is a bit of a cheat where it's these three moves and you just have to keep repeating them, and then the thing's done. But if something's stupid, but it works, then it ain't stupid. These are all things that could help you.

29:16 Like, so you're going to put the blog to sleep, but you're going to crank up the like super dude, super boyfriend skill set. So, like, so when you're going to a prospective date and she says, Oh, what I really like is creative people, and you say, Oh, yeah, I can paint with my toes, I can do things. You've seen that I do painting, so I've done that. You know, I can cook, I can uh repair clothes, I can mix cocktails. Um, so it's all it's skill-based stuff. And so, um, on Thursday with some people at work, again, I was chatting about things at work, um, and we've got an office down in Bristol.

29:54 So, I'm gonna go down to Bristol, meet all the people in the office because it and because and I say, I mentioned, oh, last time I was in Bristol, I ended up going out to um, to a salsa club with a load of local government people. The leader of Seven Oaks Council and me were dancing the salsa until sort of 3 a.m. and I'd love to learn it more because I want to learn how to do salsa again. And one of my team just said, You do realize I'm like a salsa instructor in my spare time. So, when we go out on Thursday, and then she went hold and she flashed across the across the room, like along came Polly, you know, the famous people. But she is absolutely a salsa instructor, so we're going to go salsa dancing on Thursday as a team.

30:39 Um, and yes, I'm not going to learn all of it on Thursday, but I still remember some of the moves, and so hopefully, I'll be able to step up again and just get a little bit better with the piano and the guitar and all that. I don't need, I don't, I'm never going to dedicate myself to being it like absolutely superb. I just want to be able to do it well enough so I don't look stupid. If I was to sit down at piano and I'd have a couple of songs that I could play with some degree of competence, same with guitar, I'd love to know it, but I'm not going to be dedicated, I'm not going to be spending hours and hours and hours every single night doing it. It's just three songs and a four-it's three songs and a Christmas number, so you've actually got four, but you need to have a Christmas number in there as well. No one wants to hear more than three songs, even if you can play them. Step away, let someone else have a go.

31:21 And uh, and if it's Christmas, of course, you gotta you've got to throw in a little, I'm dreaming of a white Christmas. Are you gonna sing and play, or are you just gonna uh we'll start with one skill and then we'll build from there? But yeah, all these things like the banjo and the drum and the one-man band, yeah. So, I'm uh, and don't get me wrong, I've got these 50 things and I'm working through them. But if another opportunity comes up that actually sounds quite cool, then I'm definitely going to do it. Okay, so this is the context basically, because my bucket list is not quite as

32:00 doesn't as rounded as a story like that. And uh, the bucket list is in module four of the well, module five actually of the Hero Academy, the whole fun section. Like, how do you have more fun in life? How do you make life more exciting? And so, you look forward to on a day-to-day basis as well as a year-to-year basis. And so, so Rubik's Cube, let's do guitar. Let's talk to Paul. Firewalking, it's happening. Um, and uh, let's let's do all these things. If you're interested in firewalking or if you're interested in any of these challenges, we could join in. We'd have a little uh Zoom guitar, be like a kumbaya type type

32:43 50 team super led group members all doing uh um we are sailing that must be quite an easy one, isn't it? A couple of chords, ding, ding, ding, ding. Uh, I don't know why, but that's just reminding me. Uh, Boise died as well this week. Boise from Only Fools And Horses. If you're listening to this and don't know what Only Fools And Horses is, then just ask Google. Classic of UK comedy, and he's one of the main main stars. He must, how was how old was he? He must have been in his 80s, probably, as well. Yeah, probably. Well, that's the thing. There's this whole generation of people who, um, I would say even our parents grew up watching the David Jasons of this world, um, who are now the kind of breakout TV stars when TV became much more popular on a regular basis.

33:33 Yeah, and they're all just old and passing away. It's like, um, like music stars. There's a whole bracket of music stars, the Hilton Johns and Stevie Wonders of this world, Tina Turns, all these people who are era-defining, but they're getting on. And so, if you can see them, if you can see them, see them because they're not going to last much longer. I don't think I'm ever going to get over not seeing Aretha Franklin. We were in bed last night. No, we weren't. I was, I want to refute this. Yourself and I, the good lady and I. Do you know, I still find it funny to talk about I've got a girlfriend because

34:14 I went six years without a girlfriend, which my mates still laugh about, but it was an appropriate amount of time to reset the clock. I don't want to see that. I don't think I'd recommend it, but it was. actually kind of healthy in a number of ways, which is probably conversation for another podcast. But yeah, six years. So we were in bed last night. Bit of a read of Franklin. And the album that I put on, it's been an album I've been listening to since I was like 15. And it just goes through me. It's just like she does a version of Bridge Over Troubled Waters.

34:57 Beautiful. Beautiful. But yeah, dead now, brown bread. So not going to see her. Gussed about that. I kept looking for like festivals that she was going to turn up at. But when she got old, she only ever played the Toronto Jazz Festival or something like that. Yeah. Sounds like Obama or something like that. You know, where you're not going to get into that. I did run for president, but I never made it through the regional. So that went out the window as well. Dear, dear, dear Ms. Franklin, I've recently been elected to the chair of the Old Maidstonians Grammar School former pupils. I wondered if you'd like to see

35:40 that. Don't ask, don't get, you know. Don't ask, don't get. I have drilled that into my kids. And now, now they're doing it. My boy said to me the weekend, well, don't ask, don't get right. I was like, damn right, boy. Yeah, but you're still not having ice cream. No. Oh, well, no, I've made a monster out of my daughter because I've told her, because it's over kids, make it happen. Don't moan, make it happen. Don't give me your flipping blah, blah, blah. Tell me why you want to do it and tell me why it's a good idea. Then I've got a little, I've got almost zero wiggle room because you've told me why you want to do it and you told me why it's a good idea. So there's almost unless I've got some barn-storming no,

36:21 I probably haven't. So it just ends up being yes. Got to be careful. You got to don't donate those yeses too frequently. Otherwise, they'll get used to it. Oh, I know, but that's. Oh, I like, I like the eye, you know, like we talked about this before, but it's sunny today, Daddy. Can we go to the beach? I'm like, fuck it. Yeah, let's go to the beach. That's a nice one. Yeah, you know, that's absolutely fine. So, what's what are you? What are you advising I watch out for on the yes list? Uh, I would say uh, it's half an hour before bedtime, and they want to put a movie on on a school night.

37:00 No, okay, no, I got that. Yeah, I agree. What about one more episode? A 20-minute episode, and it's 15 minutes. If it's if you can fit it in on time, maybe if they're being behaved well with 10 minutes, 15 minutes either side, that's fine. Um, but no, bedtime is bedtime is absolutely sacrificing. Get that, I get that drilled in so that um, there's no arguments, it's it's it's no, and then if I ever say yes, then it's kind of an absolute bonus. Well, when I was at school expectation, we were recording the wrap-up face-to-face. We would have been tonight, actually, perfect night tonight, but uh, I've had this is literally my fourth hour on this seat with these headphones and this microphone.

37:43 Um, but yeah, when I was at yours, and you were like, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, 9:15, and they all just went, Yes, Captain, and gave you a kiss off to bed. I was like, damn. There's just no arguments, you know. They can say what they want, but they know they're not going to win. Well, you have got four, so that's kind of part, I guess. It's part. I'm not saying my way is right. I'm saying my way definitely works for me. And that way, if I do let them do anything else, I'm the hero. But they know that it's quite simple. It's quite straightforward. This is what's happening.

38:25 Go do it. And they've learned that it's just not worth the hassle. Yeah. What's her name? Supernanny. She would be applauding you right now. Well done. Well done. Well done. Well done. Princess Beatrice has had a baby. Yeah, talking about kids. She's like 18th in line to the throne now. Obviously, her father has slightly soiled the royal lineage down her side. But she generally looks a pretty happy young lady. Her fellow looks like a dude. He looks like. I guess she can be. She's got no cares in the world, you know. She hasn't got any responsibilities in terms of the throne.

39:07 She seems like a very level-headed young lady. Yeah. She hasn't got to worry about money. No. So, and just don't marry a plonka or a pedo and keep smile. Break that family tradition. The plonker side of things legally. That's what I was going for. Oh, yeah. Good one. Alleged plonkers. It looks like a cross between who's the British actor that does it. No, no, that's like Harry M. Fields. No, no, no,

39:49 the flot, the posh guy. The posh guy, they did the Grease thing with the island and the three dads. And who was the one? Not Hugh Grant. Hugh Grant. Yeah, yeah. It's like a cross. The Princess Beatrice's husband, it's like a cross between Hugh Grant and Piers Bronson. Latter day, Hugh Grant is sexy as fuck, I've got to say. Yeah. He's grown into his style. I think About a Boy was a turning point for him. It's amazing how a hairstyle can totally fundamentally change somebody's look. Oh, I don't know. He says, Isn't About a Boy written by a Guna? Might have been, might have been. Yeah, Nick Cornby. Oh, yeah, it would be.

40:33 But if you, you know, if you hold your nose through it, it's actually a superb film and one of my favourite movie soundtracks of all time, written by Badly Drawn Boy. Good, nice. He did all the good music for the whole thing. And the soundtrack for About a Boy is a complete album of music that if you just listen to it as an album, it's superb. And then obviously it's the background for a music of a movie and it works brilliantly. I really recommend it. There's a couple of really good, like amazing tracks on it. There's one called Minor Incidents, I think it's called right towards the end of it. And it's just this him and a guitar, well worth doing. So last week I gave you some tips for new music. This is music tips from 2002.

41:17 Didn't we have a conversation a couple of weeks ago about top movie soundtracks? Didn't we have a conversation about last week? That's last week. Top movie soundtracks. So if you are listening, we get over it. You can do it on my page, Glenn's page, teamsuperdad.com forward slash group. We're going to build this list out. I got an awesome response to the top comedy post. We're going to make a list of top comedies to watch. I'm pretty certain from all the feedback, Blazing Saddles is, I think it's going in at number one, basically. Blazing Saddles. I mean, it is a classic. I'm not.

42:01 I still feel like Life of Brian can't. I knew you were going to say that. Yeah. It's just, it's perfect in every single way. It is true. That is another, that is right up there. I watched here comes the Planes Trains and Automobile segue. I did watch Planes, Trains, and Autobiles with the kids the other day. Like, this is brilliant. It's hilarious. You're going to love it. It's got the guy in from Uncle Buck. It's like it's a story, but it's also funny. And it was really nice movie still, but I didn't, I didn't, maybe obviously because I'd seen it before or something, but maybe the kind of jokes didn't quite hit.

42:45 But, or maybe because I'm now a similar age to what the characters are in the movie, maybe the sort of the underplot was a little bit more kind of touched. It's a bit more drama than comedy in some ways. Even though it's not a drama, it's more realistic and it's more because you've got. Do you want to talk about it for people who haven't seen the movie? Because Del Griffith, right? I can't even remember the other guy's name. He's Del Griffith and Steve Martin? Steve Martin. John Candy and Steve Martin are the two characters. John Hughes is the director.

43:29 And they're in New York and they've got to get back to Chicago because it's Thanksgiving. And basically, the Steve Martin character is sort of high-flying exec, kind of a little bit highly strung. And then Del Griffith is the down-to-earth showering traveling salesman. And so they're like chalk and cheese, basically, and they're thrown together in this ridiculous plot whereby every mode of transport that they get on to get home either breaks down, gets cancelled, or some other like disaster. And pretty much every time Steve Martin's character happens upon a new way to get home, it goes wrong.

44:10 And then Dale Griffith, the John Candy character, turns up and sort of saves the day. So it's got that classic bit where they're in the same bed together and they're like, where's your other hand? Between two pillows. Bernard Pillows. Maybe my kids are a little bit too young to. It's an example of a thing called the hedonic treadmill. And so this is a principle basically which says once you've obtained happiness, that becomes your new norm, your new baseline. And so the only way to kind of feel the same level of happiness is to step forward on the treadmill and get the next level and get the next level. So you're always, as soon as you start saying still, it just gets less and less good.

44:55 And it's with movies like that that you've seen. You've seen it years ago, and you've probably seen it a few times. And it's comfortable, but it hasn't got that impact, that shock, that amusement, because you know the jokes, you know what's coming up next. And as well crafted as it is, it's no life of Brian. And so you kind of your baseline level for that is just lowered for a bit. Whereas your kids, they're stepping on a treadmill for the first time. They're going to see it and enjoy it at the same level you enjoyed it the first time you watched it. Yeah, there is some curious psychological stuff going on here because American Pie still bloody funny. Creatively

45:39 I've deliberately not seen it for years and years and years because I want to re-watch it again and have that same shock. So I've got to forget loads of it. And of course, we've spoken about the fact that we're now older than Stiffler's mum. So that's going to change it. I'm going to be identifying more with Eugene Levy's. How old's number two is the boy? How old's who, sorry? Karis is. Oh, so I've got a 17 now, 17, 14, going on 15 next week. That's the boy, isn't he? So, so he's kind of ready. He's like, he's ready for American Pie, basically. Yeah, I think it is a, is it a 15 or an 18? No, 15. It's got to be 15. I don't know. I haven't seen it for years and years.

46:22 You're talking porkies. Porkies. Do you remember when you're a kid and you watch Porkies? Yeah, that is a different level of. It had a mole on it. It had a mole on it. God, that's bringing back memories. But yeah, it's brilliant. What is it? American Pie release 99. So it's 18 going on 19. So I was very much in the sweet spot of who it was being aimed at. And it is a obviously it's a comedy, but what's the ratings? Where is IMDB saying?

47:05 15. It's a 15. Yeah. Oh, yeah, not an 18 though. But yeah, it's a genius bit. And it is amazing. It is deliciously funny. And I will definitely not be watching it in the company of my children. For their benefit. Not for mine. But if you saved it for this long, no, no, go another year and it'll be 15. Perfect. Yeah, but for their benefit. 15, you've got to be trying to get in when you're 14. Do you remember when we were kids and back in the day? And you're like, Queue up. How old are you? 15. No, you're not.

47:44 1958. I forget what the first 15 are. I know whatever the first 15 I was, whatever the first 15 I saw was, I'd previously been turned away from other 15s and you have to do the walk of shame back down. That's never nice. But I was quite a young-looking lad as well. So I was always in a bit of trouble until I got my first bit of ID that kind of looked right. Did it say it didn't have an age on it? My boy, last week, he went to secondary school for the first time. So the day before he went, he had to test out his cash card.

48:28 And he did the walk of shame basically, put the cash card in, didn't work, and then panicked. And he was buying the item that he chose to buy for his first ever item paid for with the debit card, like infant chip and pin, whatever, was a carton of pineapple slices. So forevermore, pineapple is now tainted with that experience of complete shame. And clearly, it wasn't complete shame. But when you're 12 and you're imagining yourself at that till for the first time, unaccompanied, putting the card in, thinking, is it going to work?

49:07 Am I going to do it? This is happening like a shag, basically. But he didn't stick it in. Turns out hard enough. Right buttons. Yeah. And then and then basically panicked, grabbed the card and left. So then he went back later. Oh, this is like this got a lot of sexual metaphors. Blind me. Well, I was. This is, I'm going to pick my words carefully here, right? But so I was having sex the other night. And rub it in, whatever. It occurred to me whilst we're having sex that like I'm thinking about how's it going?

49:54 Right. And then, so then you know, you get the little voice in your head. And you're like, it's like a movie, basically. So I'm like, how am I doing? Well, I didn't even say, how am I doing? Because is that a question you ask? Here's the thing. It's one of those things where if I'm in a room and I notice a clock ticking, I could have been in that room for an hour and I wouldn't have noticed. But as soon as I've noticed it, I can't not notice the ticking. And I think it's the same when you're having sex. Until you think that moment of self-awareness, you're just in a flow and you're in a flow state and everything's working and it's all good.

50:36 But as soon as you think it, that's it. You can't stop thinking. You can't unthink it. Because then you're thinking, I want to unthink this thought. And he goes, well, you can't unthink a thought. Yeah, I can. No, in fact, and then another voice goes, would you two shut up? Because I'm busy here. Like, we're having some fun. It's like, have you seen that kid's movie Inside Out? Yes. Where you've got all the little voices in all the little emotions going on. And sometimes, yeah, some of them are asleep and then they'll wake up and that's it. Once they're awake, they're going to be talking. They're going to be doing their thing. And you just want to put them back to say, just put them away, get them doing something else, and just get back into that flow state.

51:16 So in the bawdy version of Inside Out, right, there are extra characters. Yeah. Okay. So in the extra character, so, so. So you've got anger, you've got fear, and now we're adding Horny. Yeah, and he's going to be like, who's going to be like the ponytail guy from the 80s porn, Ron Woodsman? No, not Ron Swanson. You're talking about, oh, the fat old guy who's now getting done for rape. What? Yeah. Oh, God, what's his name? You've annoyed me now. I can't remember his name. But the guy I'm thinking of is the Woodsman, the guy who goes. You're thinking about Ron Swanson from Farks and Wreck.

52:00 No, who's the porn star that could have, like, legend had it, you could keep a hard on for like eight hours. There are people listening to this screaming at their headphones, going, He's cool. Ron Jeremy. Ron Jeremy. There you go. Right. So, so in our bawdy version of Inside Out, there is an additional characters, right? And he's got, and he looks like, no, that doesn't really, he looks a bit sleek. Anyway, that same person's going, he's going, like, how do you like, are you, are you, are you a good shagger? Are you not a good shagger? Like, obviously, you get to the end of it, you think, okay, well, that was bloody lovely.

52:39 And she seems happy and like, and everything's going good. We're still together six months and everything's good. But it is, it is, and the reason I'm bringing this up is like, what, what kind of communication should go on between people? Like, you cook dinner, don't you? You say, nice dinner, thanks very much. Do you like, do you like, do you like gravy on your chicken? Like, like, the worst euphemism in the world. There should be lots and lots of communication. Um, it really should be open because at the end of the day, no one should be lying or hiding anything because the other person isn't going to stumble across this shit by accident. You have to talk about what you like and what you don't like. And it's something I would recommend.

53:24 The only way, the only possible way of doing this is to spend some time without them around, just with a mirror. Um, and just not even just to yourself, talk about what you like. Everything to do with sex. Because if you can't tell, say it aloud with your own voice in your own words without them around, you're never going to be able to say it well. Yeah, like a personal shame. Like, you have, yeah, you have, yeah, that's good. That's a good tip. I like this. I don't like, I like it when you do this. I don't like it when you do that. I like doing this to you. That sort of thing. Even write it down. As weird as this might sound, like, write it down. Because then when you come to say it to someone, there's an uncomfortableness where your brain just shuts down and goes, well, I got a

54:07 and you go, I've got nothing to say. But if you. you've taken it chance to write it down beforehand, then you can say to someone, I know this sounds a bit weird, but I think it'd be good if we could have like an open thing about this. And because then you're not worrying about what to say, then you can work on how to say it. If once you know what you want to say, then you can play around yourself with how am I going to bring this up, or how could I say this? If I could say it nicely, like this, or am I going to say it mid-act? I want to do that. Um, that's a different sort of thing. But you have to know what you want, what you like, and fucking be okay with that. You can't bring it up outside of sex, yeah, definitely, definitely.

54:49 So, then it then it's like we can talk about it and it'd be an easy conversation, like, oh, not really, yeah, okay, maybe we'll try. And then, during, then also it shouldn't become something actually quite fun, like there shouldn't be like seriousness about it. It should be like, oh my God, that let's try it, then, shall we? And that was okay, that one didn't work, I liked it, I didn't like it. Yeah, one thing you could do is have a sex jar, um, and on little slips of paper, one thing, and some of them could be absolutely normal. That's a bit weird, but yeah, okay, some of these slips of paper you can write on just normal sex, um, that sort of thing, or really basic stuff, and then you can add a couple of ones which actually are quite different, or you'd like to try.

55:30 And then, once a week, you dip into the sex jar, pick something out, and it could just be something pretty standard and like normal, or it could be something a little bit different. And you can say, Right, okay, tonight we're going to do this. All right, let's talk about this now, let's go away, have a think, and then tonight when we catch up, we'll just give it a go. Yeah, I this is you got to imagine if you've been in a relationship a long time, there's a lot of subjects like this where you haven't said what you wanted for bloody years. I think it's well, you never talk to her, or vice versa.

56:12 So, so much more challenging for those who have been in relationships for a long time to do this because you've got into your routines and it's like, Oh, okay, what's prompted this? How are you unhappy? Why are you bringing us up now? And all this sort of stuff, which is why it's so important if you get the opportunity to do so with a new partner to do it from the start, to have these conversations relatively early on and start down that journey together. So, you're both on that journey, yeah, rather than it's just being something that one of you plonks in because that can be quite tricky. You still should, you absolutely should, because you've only got one life. Let's be honest, you could get hit in the dick by a truck tomorrow and never have sex again, and you're going to regret it if you haven't done all the things that you wanted to do.

56:55 So, start having those conversations, start doing the things because you're damn sure that you've got a list means she's got a list as well. And if your list has got loads of weird stuff on, run it past your mates first. Um, I'd like to distance myself from that because you know what, there are some things that just for the humour, okay, just there's a reason why Johnny's mates are called Simon, Paul, and nipple clamps. Um, nickname stick, okay, for the record, that was not officially uh,

57:37 dad uh, coaching, okay. But uh, no, no, jokes aside, like if you've got some out, if you've got some really out there stuff, you might want to find someone unknown, you know. In going back to what the Long Came Polly, uh, his mate goes, Oh, yeah, when you're having sex, slap her on the ass and tell her, to say, slap her on the ass and say, I'm your daddy, right? So, because he hasn't had sex for ages, so halfway through the act, he slaps her on the ass and says, I'm your daddy, to which she just stops and goes, Did you just say I'm your daddy?

58:19 I'm your daddy, limey, but you never know, you never know, she might be really into that sort of, and you don't know unless you have the conversation and unless you try it, yeah. And the fact that like we're laughing about it now, what could be better in your relationship, new or long-standing, to have a laugh with each other, and like it doesn't mean you're going to have to do it, but if you can say, I know it's weird, but I bought this adult nappy off of Amazon, yeah, that is fucking weird. Or what you can do as well, as there are loads and loads and loads of games out there, there's loads, there's like wall charts where you scratch off at the position of the week, oh, yeah.

59:04 games where you have dice where you do. So you can just say, look, I've heard about this thing and look, I've got this thing. Do you want to, should we, should we just give it a try? And that gives you an excuse to start the conversation, to do some things which are a little bit, a little bit kinky, but not too bad. And then you can have that conversation. It breaks that ice as such. I have seen those board games on like, what's it called? Love honey or what or whatever. Actually, I'll tell you the truth. I bought one of those board games. I bought one of those board games and it was my wife at the time, actually. She did not think it was as much fun as I did.

59:50 Sadly, never got played. Well, again, this is another reason why you're happier now. Yeah. But point being as we wrap up the wrap-up is like this should be a subject, but especially sex. That if you don't talk about it, find a way to talk about it. And if you think it's really serious, then start laughing about it. Because one way or another, if your sex life is more fun slash funny, slash, we're enjoying it, we're getting to know each other again, we're falling back in love and there's passion, all of a sudden other areas of your life start to look a little more jolly and happy.

1:00:26 You'd be a better dad. You'll be more positive going into work. Like there's a like a feel-good factor that not even only about sex, but flipping the person you wake up with and go to bed with, like if that's not working, then it's very unlikely that any other area of your life is going to be working very well. Yeah, just like the 50 things, the more you talk about it, the more likely you are to get some of them done. Same with sex. Shall I get the nappy out? Fuck the nappy, all right? I've told you 50 times.

1:01:09 I don't care if it's your birthday. I'm not sticking your ass with that one. Yeah. And on that note, thanks for joining me, Glenn. It's been a lot of fun. It has. It has indeed. And yeah, yeah, looking forward to talking about Self-Adancing next week. Yeah. And listen, we're going to get the bucket list on the go. Ruby's Cube, Guitar, and Firewalking. I reckon we can tick those off before Christmas. Let's do it. Yeah. This has been the Team Superdad wrap-up. If you are not subscribed yet to this podcast, well, get it sorted.

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