Nearly In The Mile High Club - Wrap Up #52

00:00 Welcome. It's that time of the week, it's Monday night. It's The Wrap Up! Myself Jonnie Jensen creator of the Team Superdad community and the Hero Academy program joined as always waiting behind-the-scenes Glen aka Dating Dad This is The Wrap Up we are so excited to have you here with us either on a video or on this podcast Roll Theme Welcome to Team Superdad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time more money more fun you are not alone your on team super dad Mr. Glen how are you welcome to the team super dad wrap up

00:48 Thank you very much. I'm very, very happy to be here. You caught me glancing at the screen and reading an old post. Did you ever read something that you wrote a little while ago? And you've forgotten it so much that when you're reading it, you're amused by it and just half in recognition and half in... That's really quite funny! Well as I rapidly approach my 100th episode of the Team Superdad podcast Yes, I do listen to old episodes for Team Superdad podcasts I have a little... And I play that sound effect as I do. Well, no, just, I think if you're a content creator then you're going to check in on stuff. You're gonna like should it be updated? Have I got anything to say about that we've just been through the running order for tonight that's prompted us

01:39 Mention a subject which you've written about, so you've gone back there and then you had a little buzz where you gone actually I'm quite good at that. Well, I used to love... still I love writing, I love being creative. I stopped writing my dating dad blog for a year now last post was on my 40th And yeah, it was causing too many problems with romantic life. So I've kind of put it on the back burner for the time being because a dating blog that makes it harder to date isn't very useful or the irony that's like that's like crossing the streams is proper dark

02:16 Yeah, it's very frustrating. But you know the whole point of this is to find love so let's try and optimize my chances Okay good we'll see if we can give that a little tickle If you're joining us for the first time welcome where have you been for the last 53 episodes of The Wrap Up and near 100 episodes of The Team Superdad Podcast? We do this every week! We have a bit of a giggle or piss take We come up with a really sensible running order of things that have been going on in the world and then pretty much end up not talking about any of it because more often than not something stupid has happened in my life or something interesting has happened in Glen's life. Or Glen's got a very, very well thought out view on something that I've given very little thought to but have an opinion on so that's basically how The Wrap Up works

03:15 We used to do it on a Thursday. It seemed more appropriate to have booze on a Thursday, is it? I don't think we ever did it on a Thursday. It was always Friday Jonnie. Oh, it's Friday! Do you need to go back and re-listen to these things again? Have I...I know you can't joke about Alzheimer's and dementia and stuff but do you ever wonder like if I got it because the program doesn't work?! I thought I worked out whether I'd had it or not but forgot Oh, Jimmy Greaves RIP. Yes indeed! Do you want to tell our Americanesses about the legend that is Greavesy? Yeah so Jimmy Greaves a soccer legend, a football player, a striker centre forward the guy that gets the goals and boy did Jimmy Greaves get the goals he was a

04:08 A lad brought up literally in the east end of London, as I understand from the documentary I saw not too long ago. Picked up by Chelsea actually when he was Just just a teenager. I heard him talking about it and they said that the Chelsea youth coach was so determined to get him, that he sweetened the deal with 50 Irish pounds to Jimmy Greaves' dad basically. God bless them! That kind of unofficial transfer thing got him into the Chelsea Youth Academy made his debut for Chelsea when he was 17, I believe

04:50 By the time he was 19, he reached 50 top class goals like the fastest ever person to reach that number at that time. And I guess like 19 so people that played with him consistently across all Competitors, teammates opposition whatever say he's one of the most naturally gifted strikers not just of his generation but of all time. Went to AC Milan for six absolutely awful months and on the documentary he is loading up an old like transit like a flatbed truck and putting in fridge on there and oven

05:33 Even though it was still razor sharp over there, just didn't work out. They got a new manager who apparently just treated him like dog shit. Like you English scum kind of thing. In the grand scheme of things he's only like 25 years after the war sort of thing Came back, Tottenham bought him for £999,999 because they didn't want to put the pressure on. £99,999? It wasn't quite a million that was until Trevor Francis many years later! Oh sorry true sorry. Didn't want to put the pressure of being in the first hundred thousand pound player and then he went on to score over 300 goals for Tottenham still the club's leading scorer of all time

06:18 The biggest tribute that anyone can say about him though is he was such a top bloke. Well he's such a top bloke. I mean firstly for those American listeners, if you imagine if Tom Brady and Michael Jordan somehow had some sort of hybrid kid in terms of the levels of talent... All you've heard about football is Messi and Ronaldo He would have been in that bracket If he'd been born and raised and playing today. He was THAT! The best English goal scorer of all time Maybe not the top scorer but when you've got nearly a goal every single game And it's the mark of a man that he played for Spurs, Chelsea and West Ham. Three clubs who absolutely hate each other and every single one of them loves him! You know? It's not like oh yeah you used to play for The Scum... No everybody loves him and if it wasn't for alcohol he would have scored even more so then when there was a fantastic broadcaster half of the legendary St Ingravesy

07:16 And yeah, 81. That's not bad innings. Not a bad innings at all! He said there was like a montage of clips that he did and he goes, Yeah me and Bestie George Best right? Me and another very talented famous footballer sadly alcoholic of his time Play for Man United. So Greavesy said, yeah me and George Best were going to do a documentary on what it was like to be an alcoholic and play football in the 70s if anybody knew us at that time please come forward because we can't remember any of it! I think with all our nights out like that they had years like that so yeah...I got goosebumps when then they were doing all the tributes on Sky Sports on Saturday I was getting goose bumps

08:06 I think because he could have Tottenham but then the whole TV thing and someone gets reaches that sort of legendary status you can't, and generally you have some weird like didn't know the person love for him. And it's weird that one of his most famous moments was something he didn't do and that was start in the World Cup final He was England's best goal scorer best striker by a distance in 1966 got injured In whatever the round, one quarter. Last game was as the group stages apparently? Yeah and then Hurst came in to replace him and scored against Argentina, scored again And then Griesing never won his place back which is kind of lucky because Hurst he did alright in that final but

08:50 It's always one of those weird things that the thing that made him a legend was also what he didn't take part in. But he was part of that World Cup winning squad, so yeah we salute you! We certainly do. We were talking about celebrations weren't we? And how things evolve and change but before we get into that just briefly if you are a dad or man who wants to create a life Basically amp the game up really in your health. So, if you're looking for a podcast that's got all the things you need to know about

09:50 a lot of inquiries, a lot of new single dad clients coming through which is possibly a reflection on lockdown and covid People being sick of each other. I don't know, yeah there's huge surges in numbers and relationships breaking down but that's not because they've broken down now it was because they've been breaking down over the last two years and then people have kind of stored up all those problems and now they're thinking you know what? Fresh start let's wipe the slate clean this let's move forward in freedom and happiness where everyone can be happier That is such an important thing and I guess it's like a reboot isn't it, the big reset. People resigning from jobs because they don't want to spend two hours commuting there and two hours commuting back in their home was like demanding this reset, like a different pace of life or a different set of priorities and being in a relationship that doesn't work

10:51 Is insane, you know? Like get together. Talk about what you want set some goals have a vision for the future talk about your values like are you like You seem to be pretty negative all the time well no I'm not this is basically a window in on my marriage right um i got called your bullshit positive attitude In one particular argument okay now The thing is if you're a bit of a negative person I would do your head in Yeah, yeah. It has to be a blend of... It just occurred to me as positive so if you find yourself in a relationship like that or you know you could have changed You could grow not just grow apart but you can grow into a different person Yeah! You can either grow together like two trees are together you can grow into some sort of helixical orbit where your both different but your both circling around the same gravity Or we grow apart

11:50 You know, as or one of you what often happens is one person does grow and the other one doesn't. And they want to stay the same and so you still get this branching off. Yeah! So you just gotta make sure that for the first two magnificent but soon as you're not going around the same like viewpoint and you want the same sort of things then it's...you have yeah and you have to be attacking in a different way and seeing if one of you can change Sandra Dee style and if not then yeah both own your future journeys The thing I feared most before breaking up was what's going to happen after we break up. And the day after he broke up, it was like, do you remember 1999 going into 2000? Y2K. It's coming! All the computers are gonna break every like oh yeah i'm a y2k consultant yeah i'm 1000 pounds a day and they're basically they're going in looking really important with a briefcase and then just sitting down opening the computer...

12:52 What are you doing? Oh, I'm mixing up the screen. So we're back! We're back yeah so yeah why... Google just screwed me for taking trying to do the big reveal on Y2K it wasn't actually really... This is the thing about journeys isn't it's like imagine you're sailing on a journey and everyone's always scared about what's over the horizon You're not going to be able to see what's over the horizon all you've got to do is sail towards it and things will come into view

13:29 And that's this whole journey about things. You don't know what's over the horizon, you can't see past it all you got to do is keep moving forward. Yeah so like I said got a lot of single dads coming and doing the kickstart program with me in the coaching on that So if that's you... The biggest my message right now is Don't spend six months, a year two years arguing and stressing and destroying each other when actually the breakup could be really healthy thing. So on that point Glen it's been like six years since you broke up my ex and I are getting on. Oh nice! That is a big step

14:14 If people have been listening, we did take the piss a while back because it transpired that she was listening to our podcast but wouldn't actually talk to me. Which which we did find quite hilarious and I'm careful and sort of generous in these sessions not to run her or our marriage down But what i can say at this moment time is that it's a darn sight easier getting along and chatting naturally than Nonsense version of that. I was trying to think what our segue was from that? How did we work out that the segue into that or from that, was planes trains and automobiles

14:56 That wasn't the Planes, Trains and Automobiles segue but I can quite easily do a separate segue. One of the things about owning your journey and owning your life is you actually start getting to think through what do i want out of life? What do I want to achieve? What do I want to do? And what a lot of people do is write themselves a bucket list. Have you got a bucket list, Jonnie? Thank you Glenn! Thank you for saving the show there I do have a bucket list most importantly because this conversation we had I need to update my bucket list because i've realized it's actually bloody old You were in a flipping

15:36 tiny plane on Saturday and Linde hopping, which I don't even know really what it is on Sunday. This is this bizarre really and the pilot you're with as well as being a very accomplished pilot was also very attractive. She is indeed yeah she's a commercial airline pilot so she flies on planes out shows big 737s and stuff all the time. I think she's up in Europe or away to or from Greece at the moment And yeah, so as Jonnie said it wasn't a bucket list. I was challenged by a friend he said most people can't think of 50 things they want to do They say they want to do things and they can't really think of anything So mate it's going to be hard to narrow it down and so I've got this list of 50 things and I'm just working my way through them Some of them are big like Go To Everest

16:23 Or Learn How to Sail. Some of them are medium, like Go To An Opera And some of them are really small Like I want to complete a Rubik's Cube and I want to learn how to pick a lock So there is skill based ones There is travel based ones There is experience based one I wanted to see Spurs play in a final at Wembley No! I said Play Not Win I'm not an idiot And so what I do is, I talk about these with friends people I meet because you never know what's going to happen. So the opera that one I spoke about just chatting to a friend and he heard about my list um and he said ah you want to go opera? What

17:02 I'm a member of Glyndebourne. Oh lovely, if you're gonna go, go to the top Bob! For those who don't know about Opera it's... If Wembley Americana for football was in a thing if you're going to see something you go there. If you're going to see Shakespeare you want to go to The Globe and if you're going to play with a vicar go to the Vatican Exactly that and Glyndbourne is kind of a membership organisation When I say there are, there's a waiting list for about seven years or something stupid like that to get on the list to be a member. And yeah, I remember Glyndebourne, I saw you at tickets and we did this full day because it's not just the opera! You sit with a picnic that you bring... We had um seven hours of dining Can i just say? Just so that we make everyone aware of how cool we both are. I've actually been to Glyndbourne and done

17:55 Thank you, my dad's been many times but it's two cultures. This is the quality of people you're hanging out with on the night. You've got two people both being to Glyndebourne. Beautiful! Yeah, yeah sitting there in your black tie and eating through and drinking your promenade up and down the water And then you go see first half of the opera It happened to be an operatic interpretation Of my favourite Shakespeare play Much Ado About Nothing so that was even better Have more drink, more food and then more opera and then more drink and more food. It's just lovely! So that was it... Someone else mentioned I said I wanted to learn how to waltz so I happened to know someone who is a world champion at the Gay Games and he said i'll teach you how to waltz And so I was chatting away to this friend she said um oh yeah look I have to go up to do my AS certification Do you want to just come on the plane?

18:49 Okay, and I thought genuinely. I just thought i'd go up and look around the tiny little plane in that in of itself is cool but as we're on the runway said right um so we're gonna take off in a minute So to steer on the ground you use the rudder pedals like that so just stick your feet on you do this Just steer and you want to get us in the middle of this Right shove that forward then pull back I was like, well yeah you're going to do take off. So fine okay straight up and then just flying around and she's like you can't really break it! Is it literally that easy? Well let's be honest there's loads of stuff that she'd done beforehand checklists and bits and all the bits... She had so much to drive the car Very much so but the actual steering and moving bit

19:41 It's exactly, if you've played any computer game. If you played X-Wing You've got an idea of how to move it so that... And yeah there are subtle variations like this really bumpy and moving about constantly. And there is lots of just variations that you're doing. When your bank to turn And as you do that, if you don't correct it, you just keep going over until you've got to kind of be correcting. And also go like that, you're going forward so you have to be pulling back carefully at the same time and keeping the right pictures in front and your monitoring your height but it was just... It was so, so good. I was just so blown away by it great fun! I definitely recommend it again but flying a plane was on my list and then the next day I had another friend who said do you want to go learn how to Linde Hop? Now imagine like a jive crossed with a Charleston

20:42 And it's that sort of move and so we spent a few hours on Sunday in Liverpool Street learning how to Linde Hop. She was quite nervous about it, so beforehand we had a couple of drinks Why was she nervous? Because she hasn't done stuff like that before Sometimes some people don't like other people watching them while they're learning Oh okay right... She invited you to take part Yeah, yeah. So she wanted to do it but needed a bit of Dutch courage and so every time... so we'd basically learn for 45 minutes then a 15 minute break. So in every 15 minutes there was a pub next door so we popped out had another couple of drinks went back in carried on worked out and another cup of drinks and so on through the course of day. I got a lot more relaxed by the end of it. How many beverages had you had by the last session? Probably about

21:46 Seven or eight? Pints! No, Jack Daniels. That doesn't make a huge difference just not so bloated you'd still be pissed out my brain Then went for another couple afterwards and then went up to the Duck & Waffle have you ever been there? Try saying that after seven Jack Daniels So, we had another couple then. Up to the Duck and Waffle which is on whatever the 50th floor of some building on Bishopsgate and you're overlooking London and we got there at whatever it was six o'clock? And so this was just as the sun was going starting to set over the west of the city and just sitting there watching I mean even if we'd not eaten a damn thing and just drink cocktails which we did

22:35 It would have been stunning but then you have this top, top drawer food and we just had loads of like small plates like tapas-y type stuff. But basically instead of getting a couple of mates we just got all the starters and just sat and worked our way through to start I was watching the sun go down over London and the shade go down and the lights come up and then that you've got The Night Life in London in front bloody glorious so that was a really really good weekend Bringing it back to though, you made a list. Yep! You talked about it? Yep And this is and I know you don't really believe in all this sort of stuff but this is the law of attraction Glen This is when you create what you think about most of the time Oh that I believe in That way absolutely I'm standing with a higher force

23:28 No, I'm not. Yeah, I'm not down with me just believing it and so it happens. No! Me believing it and thinking about like you say means that I do something about it. I talk about it. I think about it. I make it happen. I speak to a friend who happens to be a sailor who then can also say oh yeah I'll take you on a sailing race and took me around on my like the first time ever set on a fucking sailing boat was when he took me to compete in a sailing race uh you make you talk about things and things So if, for example on my list and I would add it to my list if I was going to add anything. I want it to firewalk I now know you are talking about potentially going and sorting out some firewalking. Yes, we are it's in the pipeline the Team Superdad. The only thing that is not quite sure is whether we're gonna do it just as like a one evening event or we're gonna do it as like a retreat, like a three-day thing with fire walking and empowerment and barbecues But that's the sort of thing! That's something that would be on my mind if I wanted to do this

24:26 One I haven't worked out how i'm going to do yet and so if any of our listeners are involved in this world, this is going to be probably the hardest one for me to do. I want to get my name included on the credits of a film that's released in a cinema So it can't just be something like local or TV or something... Oh! I know people that can do that for you not like I could not like I'll get your finger like I'll get your toe um yeah I'm not talking about obviously, I'm not going to be a star. I'm not gonna act or anything like that but well...I can but iIm not going to because I'm not you know fucking cinema film! Back up fluffer

25:06 Yeah, yeah. Assistant T stirrers mate I don't care it's just got to be on a proper movie released in a proper cinema i want my name somewhere in the credits and with some of these credits that take like nine minutes long there must be a role for me somewhere that i can squeeze my name onto so that's one of the trickier ones on my list well do you know what people who know about this stuff might say no not really all you've gotta do is edit a couple of flipping bits CGI. Exactly! Some place in Soho that does CGI for cartoons and there you go. And everything is easy when you know how to do it, and I don't know how to do that one just like iIdon'tknowhowtodoabackflip and that's on my list

25:58 And all these little things, I just don't know how to ride a motorbike. I want to learn how to ride a motorbike. I've never ridden a motorbike in my life! No, I mean iIve gone back and forward outside one of my house... My old house or my brother's one once What do you wanna do? You wanna go scrambling around some woods Or you want to ride around town? I'd like to actually get an ass up head down bike To be able to use it for commuting and shit Oh, they're two different things. So first of all have you ridden a motorbike for fun? No no never I mean i've hired a moped in India for a week and that's the closest I've got. Well see that could qualify as a motorbike but what are you saying it didn't go fast enough not quite enough. Also yeah it is just kind of a throttle one there's no... oh you want to do the gears and all that sort of jazz yeah? I wanna know how to do it so in A Zombie Apocalypse

26:56 Okay, I had a motorbike when i was a kid. It's like a trial bike so you'd like all the clutch down toe up curious fact friend of mine for university Dan Watson um he won or came second not quite as exciting but he won or came second remember that tv program kickstart with the trail bikes yeah yeah big up to dan watson uh runner-up or even winner of kickstart 1987 whatever So you want to, so we go, but I think it's because they're kind of qualify. I think is going to be a motorbike that you're gonna change gears and you want to like rag race around on it? I want to do my CBT or whatever it is the one where you pass it and you can ride a motorbike on the streets Yeah! I went and did this is a weird memory...I went to some place in like North London did a days motorbike riding to get like a provide to get provisional so I could get a moped but then didn't even get a moped

27:56 Yeah, you do that. That's an easy one! It is all of these are doable In some way, shape or form. You just got to think about what do I want to do? What would be fun and interesting to doing that it might be a bungee jump It might be learning a language. It might be learning a guitar or Doing something. Oh Paul So you want to learn the guitar as well? Yes of course I do! So Paul team super dad OCR colleague and best friend uh to the stars including yourself And i he's a guitar teacher Amazing. See, if this sort of conversation... And do you know what else is bloody annoying? He can also do the Rubik's Cube! Perfect Paul I'm gonna buy some more beers for ya and make you some more ribs So we could have a challenge to do the Rubik's Cube by Christmas maybe. It's not actually that hard it's just yeah i think it's one of those things when you learn a technique then you can do it there's two ways one

28:57 It's like the Kasparov official kind of, you know pure way. And then the other way is a bit of a cheat where it's these three moves and you just have to keep repeating them and then things done. But if something stupid but it works in ain't stupid? Yeah These are all things that could help you like so you're going to put the blog to sleep but you're gonna crank up they're like super dude Super boyfriend skill set. So like, so when you're going to a prospective date and she says oh what I really like is creative people and you say Oh yeah i can paint with my toes... You've seen me do painting? Yeah! I've done that. You know I can cook, I can repair clothes, I can mix cocktails um so it's all the skill-based stuff and so on Thursday with some people at work again I was chatting about things at work

29:51 And we've got an office down in Bristol. So I'm going to go down to Bristol, meet all the people in the office because it's and of course...and as I mentioned last time I ended up going out to a salsa club with a load of local government people. The leader of Seven Oaks Council and me were dancing the salsa until sort of 3am, and I'd love to learn it more because i want to learn how to do salsa again And one of my team just said you do realize that I'm like a salsa instructor in my spare time? So when we go out on Thursday... And then she went... She like holds her coat and she's stashed across the room, like a long cane polly. You know the famous movie? But she is absolutely a salsa instructor so we're going to go on salsa dancing on Thursday as a team um and yes I'm not gonna learn all of it on Thursday but i still remember some of the moves and so hopefully I'll be able to step up again just get a little bit better with the piano with the guitar and all that

30:48 I don't need, i'm never going to dedicate myself to being it like absolutely superb. I just want to be able to do it well enough so that I don't look stupid if I was to sit down at piano and have a couple of songs that I could play with some degree of competence same with guitar! I'd love to know it but I'm not gonna spend hours and hours every single night doing it. It's just three songs and a Christmas number. So you've actually got four but you need to have a Christmas number in there as well because No one wants to hear more than three songs. Even if you can play them, step away let someone else have a go and uh... And if it's Christmas of course you gotta throw in a little I'm dreaming of a white Christmas Are you gonna sing and play or are you just gonna...? Hey we'll start with one skill and then we'll build from there but yeah all these things Like the banjo and the drum and the ring-a-ding-dong? Or a man band!

31:42 So yeah, so I'm and don't get me wrong. I've got these 50 things and I'm working through them but if another opportunity comes up that actually sounds quite cool then i'm definitely going to do it okay this is the context basically because my bucket list is not quite as It's not as rounded as a story like that. And the bucket list is in module four of the, well module five actually, of The Hero Academy, the whole fun section like how do you have more fun in life? How'd you make life more exciting and something you look forward to on a day-to-day basis as well as a year-to-year basis and so

32:24 Rubik's Cube, let's do. Guitar, let's talk to Paul Firewalking it's happening and Let's do all these things if you're interested in fire walking or if interested any of these challenges we could join him We'll have a little Zoom guitar be like a kumbaya type 50 Team Superdad group members all doing We are sailing, that must be quite an easy one isn't it? A couple of chords. Ding ding ding ding! I don't know why but that's just reminded me Boise died as well this week. Boise from Only Fools And Horses if you're listening to this and don't know what only fools and horses is then just ask Google. Classic of UK comedy and he was one of the main stars

33:11 He must have, how old was he? He must be in his 80s probably as well. Yeah probably well that's the thing there's this whole generation of people who I would say even our parents grew up watching the David Jasons of this world um who are now kind of breakout TV stars when tv became much more popular on a regular basis yeah and they're all just old and passing away. It's like, um, like music stars there's a whole bracket of music stars the Elton John's and Stevie Wonder's in this world Tina Turner all these people who are they're you know era defining but they're getting on and so if we can see them if you can see them see him because it's not gonna last much longer I don't think I'm ever gonna get over not seeing Aretha Franklin We were in bed last night

34:03 No we weren't. I was, I want to refute this. Not yourself and I... The Good Lady And I Do you know what? I still find it funny to talk about I've Got A Girlfriend because I went six years without a girlfriend which my mates still laugh about but it was an appropriate amount of time to reset the clock. Mm-hmm. I don't think I'd recommend it but actually it's kind of healthy in a number ways probably conversation for another podcast Yeah, six years. So we were in bed last night a bit of a Aretha Franklin and the album I put on it's been an album that I've been listening to since I was like 15 And it just goes through me It's just like she does a version of Bridge Over Troubled Waters Beautiful But yeah dead now Brown Bread so not gonna see her

35:03 I kept looking for like festivals that she was going to turn up at but when she got old, she only ever played the Toronto Jazz Festival or something like that. Yeah, or sung Obama um...or something like that you know where you're not gonna get into that! Well i did run for president but i never made it through the flipping regionals so..so that went out the window as well Dear, dear Miss Franklin. I've recently been elected to the chair of the Old Bayed Stonians Grammar School former pupils. Don't ask don't get you know? Don't ask don't get! I have drilled that into my kids and now they're doing it. My boy said to me at weekend well don't ask don't get right and i was like damn right boy yeah but you still not having ice cream

35:56 No, I've made a monster out of my daughter because I've told her since they were kids make it happen. Don't moan make it happen don't give me your flipping blah blah blah tell me why you want to do it and tell why that's a good idea then I got almost zero wiggle room because you told me what you wanted to do and you told me why is a good idea so unless I got some barnstorming no I probably haven't Gotta be careful. Don't let those yeses too frequently, otherwise they'll get used to it! I know but that's...I like the idea you know? We've talked about this before but It's sunny today daddy can we go to the beach? I'm like fuck it yeah lets' go to the beach. That's a nice one yeah that's absolutely fine So what are you advising I watch out for on the Yes list

36:52 I would say it's half an hour before bedtime and they want to put a movie on, on a school night. No? Okay no i got that yeah i agree what about one more episode A 20, 25 minute episode and it's 15 minutes. If you can fit in on time maybe if they're being behaved well with 10 minutes 15 minutes either side that's fine but no bedtime is absolutely sacrosanct get that I get that drilled in so there are no arguments It's a No and then if I ever say yes then it's kind of an absolute bonus. Yeah when I was at your...

37:30 We were recording the wrap up face to face. We would have been tonight actually, perfect night tonight but I've had this is literally my fourth hour on this seat with these headphones and this microphone on um but yeah when i was at yours and you were like ding ding ding ding ding 9 15 and they all just went yes captain and gave you a kiss off to bed! I was like damn... Yeah there's just no argument They can say what they want, but they know they're not going to win. Well you have got four so that's kind of part I guess? Yeah it is part... and i'm not saying my way is right! I'm saying my way definitely works for me and that way if I do let them do anything else I'm the hero um but they know that it's quite simple, it's quite straightforward this is what's happening go do it and they've learned that it's just not worth the hassle

38:29 Yeah. What's her name? Supernanny, she would be applauding you right now. Well done. Princess Beatrice has had a baby. Yeah talking about kids! She's like 18th in line to the throne now obviously her father has slightly soiled the royal lineage down her side but she generally looks pretty happy young lady. Her father looks like a dude Well I guess she can be. She's got no cares in the world, you know? She hasn't got any responsibilities in terms of the throne. Um she seems like a very level-headed young lady Yeah! She hasn't gotta worry about money No so and just don't marry a plonker or a pedo and keep smiling Break that family tradition

39:25 The plonker side of things legally, that's what I was going for. Oh yeah good one. Alleged plonkers It looks like a cross between who is the British actor that does You're not there, are you? There aren't much interesting ones. No no the one that's like... Harry Enfield. No no. Danny Dyer The posh guy did the Greece thing with the island and the three dads and who was the one... Oh! Not Hugh Grant. Hugh Grant! Yeah yeah. He's like a cross between Princess Beatrice's husband is like a cross between Hugh Grant

40:08 And Piers Bronson. Latter day Hugh Grant is sexy as fuck, I've got to say! Yeah He's grown into his style...I think About a Boy was a turning point for him It's amazing how a hairstyle can totally fundamentally change somebody's look Oh i don't know he says isn't about a boy written by a gooner? Might have been, might have been. Yeah Nick Hornby. Oh yeah it would be but if you hold your nose through it's actually a superb film and one of my favourite movie soundtracks of all time written by Badly Drawn Boy

40:44 Good knowledge. He did all the music for the whole thing and the soundtrack for About A Boy is a complete album of music that if you just listen to it as an album, it's superb! And then obviously there's a background for a movie and it works brilliantly I really recommend it. There are couple of really good amazing tracks on here. There's one called Minor Incidents right towards the end of it and it's just him on a guitar Well worth doing. So last week I gave you some tips for new music, this is Music Tips from 2002. Didn't we have a conversation a couple of weeks ago about Top Movie Soundtracks? Didn't we have a conversation the other day? Yeah! Last week. About Top Movie Soundtracks. So if you are listening get over it, you can do it on my page, Glen's page, Team Superdad

41:36 We're going to build this list out. I got an awesome response to the top comedy post, we're gonna make a list of top comedies to watch but i'm pretty certain from all the feedback Blazing Saddles is...I think it's going in at number one basically blazing saddles. Yeah I mean it's classic um i'm not I still feel like Life of Brian can't be... Yeah, yeah. It's just it is perfect in every single way. It is true that is another that is right up there. I watched here comes the Plains Trains Nortonville Segway. I did watch Plains Trains Nortonville with the kids the other day like this is brilliant! It's hilarious you're gonna love it. It's got the guy in from Uncle Buck

42:30 It's a story, but it's also funny. And it was really nice movie still but I didn't... maybe obviously because I'd seen before or something, but maybe the kind of jokes didn't quite hit. But well maybe because I'm now similar age to what the characters are in the movie may be sort of under plot was a little bit more kind of touch to nerve. It's a bit more drama than comedy in some ways even though it's not a drama, it's more realistic and you've got... do you want talk me through for people who haven't seen the movie? Because normally I see that movie. Dale Griffith right I can't even remember the other guy's name he said Dale Griffith

43:22 Steve Martin, John Hughes is the director and they're in New York and they've got to get back to Chicago because it's Thanksgiving. And basically the Steve Martin character is sort of high flying exec Kind of a little bit highly strung. And then Dale Griffith is the down to earth, showering traveling salesman and so there's like chalk and cheese basically and they're thrown together in this ridiculous plot whereby every mode of transport that they get on To get home either breaks down gets cancelled or some other

44:01 Like disaster. And pretty much every time Steve Martin's character happens upon a new way to get home, it goes wrong and then Dale Griffith the John Candy character turns up and sort of saves the day So it's got that classic bit where they're in the same bed together and they're like, Where's your other hand? Between two pillows. They are not pillows! Maybe my kids were a little bit too young to understand this. It is an example of a thing called the hedonic treadmill So this is a principle basically which says once you've obtained happiness that becomes your new norm, your new baseline. And so the only way to kind of feel the same level of happiness is to step forward on the treadmill and get the next level and get the next up as you always

44:52 As soon as you start saying so it just gets less and less good. And it's with movies like that, that you've seen years ago and probably a few times now. It is comfortable but hasn't got the impact or shock because you know the jokes, what's coming up next. And as well crafted as it is, there's no life of Brian. Your baseline level for that is just lowered for a bit. Whereas your kids, they're stepping on the treadmill for the first time! They're gonna see it and enjoy it at the same level you enjoyed it the first time you watched it Yeah there was some curious psychological stuff going on here because American Pie still bloody funny

45:36 Cringe, slapstick, bit rude. I've deliberately not seen it for years and years and years because i want to re-watch it again um and have that same shock so i've gotta forget loads of it And of course we've spoken about the fact that we're now older than Stifler's mum So that's gonna change it! I'm going to be identifying more with Eugene Levy's character How old is number two? The boy? How olds who sorry?! So, I've got 17 now. 17-14 going on 15 next month. That's the boy isn't he? So so um... He's kind of ready! He's like almost American Pie basically Yeah yeah i think it is a is it a 15 or an 18? No, 15

46:19 I don't know, i haven't seen it for years and years. You're talking Porky's? Do you remember when you were a kid and watched Porky's? Yeah that is a different level of... It had a mole on it! It had a mole on it! God that's bringing back memories but yeah he's brilliant what is it American Pie released in 1999. So it's 18 going on 19 so I was very much in the sweet spot of who who is being aimed at and obviously, it's a comedy but what are the ratings? Where is IMDB saying 15? It's a 15! Yeah oh yeah not an 18 though

47:11 But yeah, it's a genius bit and it is amazing. It is deliciously funny and I will definitely not be watching in the company of my children for their benefit, not mine! If you saved it for this long now go another year and they'll be 15 perfect. Yeah but for their benefit. 15? You've got to be trying to get in when you're 14. Do remember when we were kids back in the day and you like queue up How old are you? I'm 15. No, you're not! What year were you born? 1958 I forget what the first 15 are. Whatever the first 15 I saw was, I'd previously been turned away from other fifteens and you have to do The Walk of Shame back down. That's never nice but i was quite a young looking lad as well so um...I was always in a bit trouble until I got my first bit of ID that kind of looked right

48:11 Did it say? Didn't have an age on it. My boy, last week he went to secondary school for the first time so the day before he went you had to test out his cash card and here he did the walk of shame basically put the cash card in didn't work And then panicked and he was buying the item that he chose to buy for his first ever item paid for with a debit card like chip and pin whatever, was a carton of pineapple slices. So as

48:51 Forevermore, Pineapple is now tainted with that experience of complete shame. And clearly it wasn't complete shame but when you're 12 and you imagine yourself at that till for the first time unaccompanied putting in the card thinking is it going to work? Am I going to do it this is happening like a shag basically but he didn't stick Turns out he didn't stick it in hard enough. Yeah, and then basically panicked grabbed the card and left so then he went back later... Oh this has got a lot of sexual metaphors in it! Blimey well I was at.. This is.. I'm gonna pick my words carefully here right but So i was having sex the other night Rub it in whatever

49:48 It occurred to me whilst we're having sex that like I'm thinking about how's it going, right? And then so then you know like you get the little voice in your head and you know it was like a movie basically. So unlike how am I doing well didn't even say how am I doing because is that a question you asked yourself? Here's the thing...it's one of those things where if I'm in a room and I notice a clock ticking. I could have been in that room for an hour and i wouldn't have noticed but as soon as i've noticed it, i can't not notice the ticking! And i think it's the same when you're having sex until you think that moment of self-awareness

50:31 You're just in a flow and you're in a flow state, and everything's working and it's all good. But as soon as you think it that's it! Yeah? You can't stop thinking... you can't un-think it because then I want to un-think this thought And he goes well you can't un-think the thought yeah I can no In fact there is another voice box that says would you two shut up because I'm busy here like we are having some fun It's like have you seen that kids movie Inside Out Yes. Where you've got all the little voices in, all the little emotions and things That's exactly what is going on And sometimes yeah some of them are asleep and then they'll wake up and that's it once they're awake They're gonna be talking or they can we doing their thing? You just want to put back so just put him away get him doing something else and just get back into that flow state So in the boardy version of Inside Out right there are extra characters Yeah okay so in the extra character

51:26 So you've got anger, you've got fear and now we're adding horny. Yeah so he's going to be like the ponytail guy from the 80s porn Ron... Woodsman! No not Ron Swanson, you're talking about oh the fat old guy who is now getting done for rape What? Yeah, oh god what's his name you've annoyed me now I can't remember his name. But the guy i'm thinking of is The Woodsman the guy who got... You're thinking about Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec No who's the porn star that could have like legend had it he could keep a hard-on for like eight hours or something

52:07 There are people listening to this screaming at their headphones going he's called Ron Jeremy. So in our bawdy version of Inside Out there is an additional character and he looks a bit sleazy, anyway that same person is going like How do you like, are you a good shagger? You're not a good shagger. Like obviously you get to the end of it and think OK well that was bloody lovely and she seems happy and everything's going good with still together six months is everything's good but it is

52:47 And the reason I'm bringing this up is like what kind of communication should go on between people? Like you cook dinner don't you say, nice dinner thanks very much. Do you like gravy on your chicken? That's the worst euphemism in the world! There should be lots and lots of communication it really should be open because at the end of day no one should be lying or hiding anything The other person isn't going to stumble across this shit by accident. You have to talk about what you like and what you don't like, and it's something I would recommend the only way...the only possible way of doing this is to spend some time without them around just with a mirror um and just or not even just just to yourself talk about what you like

53:36 Everything to do with sex because if you can't say it aloud, with your own voice and your own words without them around. You're never going to be able to say it well. Yeah like a personal shame! Like yeah that's good tip I don't like when you do this or that I like doing this to you, that sort of thing. Even write it down as weird as this might sound like write it down because then when you come to say it to someone there's an uncomfortableness where your brain just shuts down and goes well I got nothing to say but if you've taken a chance to write it down beforehand then you can say something I know this sounds bit weird but I think would be good if we could have like an open thing about this

54:19 Because then you're not worrying about what to say, then you can work on how to say it. If once you know what you want to say then you can play around yourself with how am I going to bring this up or how could i say this if I could say it nicely like this? Or am I gonna say mid-act that's a different sort of thing but you have to know what you want and what you like and fucking be okay with that! You can't be ashamed of that. Yeah, I think you should bring it up outside of sex Yeah, definitely. Definitely! Then it's like we can talk about it and it'd be an easy conversation like oh not really yeah okay maybe we'll try... And then during then also It should then become something actually quite fun Like there shouldn't be some seriousness about it. It shouldn't be like Oh my god let's try that shall we? I liked it but didn't like it One thing you could do is have a sex jar

55:12 And on little slips of paper, one thing and some of them can be absolutely normal. Some of these slips of paper you can write on just normal sex that sort of thing or really basic stuff and then you can add a couple of ones which actually are quite different or you'd like to try it You dip into the sex jar, pick something out and it could just be something pretty standard and like at normal or it could be something a little bit different. And you can say right okay tonight we're going to do this all right let's talk about this now let's go away have a think and then tonight when we catch up let's give it a go. Yeah I... It is..you've got to imagine if you've been in a relationship for long time there are a lot of subjects like this where you haven't said what you wanted

56:03 For bloody years. I think it's... And you're pissed off, like she never listens to me! You go well you never talk to her or vice versa It is so much more challenging for those who have been in relationships for a long time to do this because you've got into your routines And it's like, okay what's prompted this? How are you unhappy? Why are you bringing us up now and all that sort of stuff. Which is why it's so important if you get the opportunity to do so with a new partner to do it from the start To have these conversations relatively early on and start down that journey together So your both on their journey rather than just being something one of you plonks in because that can be quite tricky You still should! Absolutely should Because you've only got 1 life let's be honest

56:47 And if your list has got loads of weird stuff on, run it past your mates first. I'd like to distance myself from this. You know what, there are some things that... Just for the humour factor! There's a reason why Jonnie's mates are called Simon Paul and Nipple Clamps Nicknamed Stick Okay for the record that was not officially Team Cupidad coaching

57:40 But jokes aside, if you've got some really out there stuff you might want to find someone. You know in going back to what the Long Cane Polly his mate goes oh yeah when when you're having sex slap her on the ass and say I'm your daddy So, because he hasn't had sex for ages so halfway through the act he slaps her on the ass and says I'm your daddy to which she just stops and goes did you just say I am your daddy? I'm your daddy. Blimey!

58:22 But you never know, you never know she might be really into that sort of shit. You don't know unless you have the conversation and unless you try it Yeah and the fact that like we're laughing about it now what could be better in your relationship new or long-standing to have a laugh with each other? And like it doesn't mean you're gonna have to do it but if you can say I know it's weird but I bought this adult nappy off of Amazon. Yeah that is fucking weird, well what you can do as well as there are loads and loads and loads of games out there there's like wool charts where you scratch off at the position of the week oh yeah games where you have dice so you can just say look i've heard about this thing um

59:12 And I've got this thing, do you want to... should we just give it a try? That gives you an excuse to start the conversation. To do some things which are a little bit kinky but not too bad and then you can have that conversation it breaks that ice as such. I have seen those board games on like what's he called Love Honey or whatever Actually, I'll tell you the truth. I bought one of those board games! And it was my wife at the time actually she did not think it was as much fun as I did so sadly never got played. Well again this is another reason why you're happier now

59:55 Yeah, but point being as we wrap up the Wrap Up is like this should be a subject but especially sex that if you don't talk about it find a way to talk about it and if you think it's really serious then start laughing about it because one way or another your... If your sex life isn't more fun slash funny slash we're enjoying it with getting to know each other again. We're falling back in love when there's passion All of a sudden other areas of your life start to look a little more jolly and happy. You'll be a better dad, you'll be more positive going into work like there's a feel-good factor that not even only about sex but flipping bits... the person you wake up with and go to bed with like if that's not working then it's very unlikely that any other area of your life is gonna be working very well

1:00:49 Yeah, just like the 50 things. The more you talk about it the more likely you are to get some of them done Same with sex! Shall I get a nappy out? Fuck the nappy alright?! I've told ya fifty times! I don't care if its your birthday! I'm not spanking your arse with that one! And on that note... Thanks for joining me Glen It's been alot of fun It has, it has indeed. And yeah looking forward to talking about salsa dancing next week! Yeah and listen we're going to get the bucket list on the go Rubik's Cube guitar and firewalking I reckon we can tick those off before Christmas Let's do it This has been The Team Superdad Wrap Up If you are not subscribed yet to this podcast

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