How To Get Through Tough Times

00:01 Hard times create strong men. In this episode of Team Superdad, there's a reality check and getting through tough times is really the only option. There's going to be highs, there's gonna be lows. Let's roll with the show! Welcome to Team Superdad Real dads creating their best lives ever More time More money More fun You are not alone you're on team super dad Hey dads, welcome to the weekly live or the podcast depending on how you're tuning in. My name is Jonnie Jensen founder of the Team Superdad community and The Hero Academy program and host of Team Superdad podcast it's great to have you here we're on season four you can go back and listen to all the other varied shows over the last couple years

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01:36 Too many men are just feeling lost, out of control. They're working hard but things aren't working out like life is running through their fingers it's a modern day syndrome we don't have enough fun the relationships that are most important to us start to creak and this ultimately whether it's a relationship breakdown or business breakdown Some level of emotional cracks, health cracks or ultimately the shocking rate of male suicide. This isn't how it should be and we as men, as friends of each other's, as brothers fathers sons it's our responsibility to take control and create not just a life for ourselves but the life for people around us For our children of course our families but as legacy to the communities and generations to come

02:29 This episode, where have I been? Where have I been? It's been a tough year. That's one of the hardest things to come to terms with this week was accepting that the challenges of 2023 are hard to admit as a coach and leader in a community of men One of the hardest things is be real about the challenges going on And the irony is it's exactly what I should be doing Keep it real. To, you know to the idea to pretend that nothing bad is happening no there are no challenges is ridiculous because we're all going through them whether you're the president of or a prime minister of a country where they either CEO of a massive organization and multinational like the challenges might be bigger you know they might be

03:21 A forest fire that puts smoke across two entire countries. A drought, a flood it could be you know Richard Branson I saw a few months ago his galactic space thing blew up And this month it successfully launched, you know. So there in itself are the highs and lows and for us to realise no matter what scale or position we're on that scale we are all men We are all leading our family leading our business trying to maintain our health and mental well-being and financial well being maintain our friendships It's the same shit

04:02 Different flavor maybe but it is the same shit and in my job, in my role there's always you know whether you're making reels posting content doing a live. There's always the idea that it's got to be high energy and full of positivity everything's about success success but that's not reality that's not true You know, I've got an ex-wife. I've got two children. I've got a business. I've got a girlfriend. I've got an elderly parent and elderly relatives. I've got friends who are going through challenges. I've got friends that die in questionable circumstances... ...and the impact of that on a community, on a circle of friends

04:55 You know, loss in itself is a challenging thing to master. My own fitness you know feeling motivated if you've been on this journey with me seeing where I was at two years ago in terms of my physical strength was incredible but then for the body to just break and have to not just put myself back together but then find the motivation to get fit again it's been incredibly tough and it's difficult To admit that, but then what I realized this week as I was reflecting and thinking about you know we if you go to teamsuperdad.com forward slash hero there's a new landing page for the Hero Academy and it's about tightening up that message to attract the right kind of men into it and It's no different than any business

05:49 It's no different than anyone, whether you're running the business or employed in the business. We've got to get customers we've got to look after those customers. We gotta deliver a great service. We need to do it all again. The highs and lows and that is the message of todays live is that the highs and lows are inevitable. The current climate economically, you know, but you get all these people I don't know just Calling in, you know the crisis. The credit crunch is not so much the credit crunch but it's the cost of living crisis this time. Credit crunches last time but there you go that's the whole point eight years ago ten years ago was the credit crunch and now we're in a cost-of-living crisis what's the cause of it? Who's responsible which politicians should be vote for well is it the war or is it the global warming like do you know what it is It's just inevitable You have a good time then you have a tough time

06:45 And the ability to weather the tough time with the confidence and clarity that after a tough time comes good times, will get you through the tough times. You know of course you can make adjustments Rocky Balboa I think it's if you go in chronological order we're talking about Rocky 6 The Balboa Movie one of the greatest movie quotes i think of all time Where can I bring, can i share that in? I think stop cam present. Share screen here we go let's try this That one will take bloody hours! Let me tell you something you already know the world ain't all sunshine and rainbows it's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it

07:52 You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you're hit It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward How much you can take and keep moving forward That's how winning is done! Now if you know what your worth then go out and get what your worth but ya gotta be willing to take the hits And not pointing fingers saying that you aint where you wanna because of him Or her or anybody Cowards do that and that ain't you Your better than that Let me tell you something you already know. Brilliant, oh come on! The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. There we go that movie quote might be Jago my boy he learned it for a school recital you know everyone had to learn so they can go in and do a recital You know to paraphrase some of that life ain't all sunshine and rainbows That we know right

08:48 It's a mean and nasty place. That is also the reality, there is shit around every corner but just like day follows night just like yin and yang if there's shit around every corner there are miracles and magic around every corner and we can't be deluded enough to think that bad times aren't going to happen but you can't Sullen and negative to the point where you don't expect good stuff to happen. You know, it's not about how hard you can hit it's about how many hits you can take and keep going And that is also really important because you could be the best at anything! You could be the strongest of anything but if you can't take one set back

09:31 If you can't take a bad quarter at work or your relationship's struggling, if you can't take an injury that trashes your whole two years of fitness. If you can't deal with your kid having a bad time at school kind of confident that it's going to get better down the line like those are the kinds of challenges we all face no matter how big and important we are or how everyday guy that we are It's...it's Hard you can get hit and keep going. And then the third part of it is not pointing fingers and blaming others Ultimately, whatever we're going through what we can be responsible with the most important thing where where we can be responsible is the most important thing What we can be responsible for having some patience having some focus having clarity Involving the right people You know these are the elements of The Power Code in its in actually in action

10:32 And when you have that, right? You have that clear sense of purpose and when you're taking responsibility and not blaming others. When you're being organized and planning your work. When you're doing what needs to be done on a day-to-day basis keeping that routine in place good habits the consistency that builds results trusting in the journey being organized putting the right people around you going out and finding mentors Advocates, supporters, peers being close to your family and friends. That is the foundation the substance of how you keep your head above water and even thrive And then the fun part of it The reward is that knowing whatever's going on good times and bad times that they will pass

11:23 The highs will follow the lows, the lows will probably follow the highs. Hard times create good men, good men create good times, and good times create weak men. Okay? Weak men create hard time! It's a cycle everything is a cycle and the more you can tune into that, the more power you have over it, the more you can be clear and confident self-assured resilient then you know that you will weather this storm and move on to the other side And likely, with the lessons you've taken from that become even better person and an even stronger man. Someone who's even clearer about what they're doing on this rock flying through this universe and that's what the people around us need to see You know? That rocky thing ends with... ...and that's what cowards do! And YOU'RE NOT THAT!! And that goes for YOU when you look at yourself in the mirror and you see yourself struggling during a tough time you gotta LOOK AT

12:25 Who are you being? What am I doing in this situation to make this better because when you fall on your sword and blame others, and woe is me! And it can't be fixed. That's cowardly. There's a lot of flack around for the expression manning up but a modern man manning up yes man up take it on do what is needed to get the result that you desire to move through the tough time into the good time Because you can be sure for every person having a tough time, there's someone else having a good time. And the roles will be reversed at some point. Take power and strength in that this reality check for me of accepting what a difficult time 2023 has been and realizing where things are slightly off, where the consistency is out, where I'm not going to bed at the right time, where I'm not drinking enough water, where the workouts aren't happening on a regular basis, where I'm not talking to my friends enough

13:28 Like the answer, the reasons ultimately end up being obvious. That's what you've got to be prepared to do as well and when you're working with a group of people when you have your coach and accountability around you when you're getting new input to crank up your knowledge to sharpen the sword that's the drive and um that's the engine that you can put into your situation so you have to take responsibility getting through a tough time is on you But not on your own. Just like this video today, just like this live today is an acceptance of I can't do it on my own! I can't pretend that it's all okay because the more you try and do it on your own and pretend that it's okay the lonelier it gets...the darker it gets! Isolation is not a good place solutions are harder to come by on your own

14:21 When you put all this, when you lay all this out on the table and realize it. You'll start to see where you're doing it wrong and doing on your own and doing without clarity and doing without power And you start to consider what would look like if I put that in place? The vision, the routine, the people taking ownership of my responsibility and mindset having fun whilst we are doing it What difference would that make And that is what it's all about and that's what it's about for me in sharing this today. It's accepting that the leader of a community, someone who's laying down the gauntlet and challenging people to rise up there has to be truth in that as well so you can believe it There has to be an understanding we're all in this together When you can be that for yourself You can be it for your partner You can be it for your children You can be it for your business colleagues For the people that work for you

15:24 It is a responsibility that you have to step into and if you don't, well that's okay. You'll get what you get and you probably get along. You'll live as long as you do and then it will be game over! But that's the whole mission. It's a certain amount of time to get a certain amount of stuff done and have as much fun as possible whilst we're doing it, that's the journey around this rock and if you want to leave a legacy great! If you want to change the world great but it's the same solution so I hope as I'm honest and truthful and real with you today and you see this you get to be honest and truthful and real with yourself The answer is out there

16:15 It's not in here, right? Get out there and make it happen. It's exciting! Don't do it on your own get yourself over to the Team Superdad group that's at teamsuperdad.com forward slash group You can, when you put your details in there you'll get a welcome message and I'll send you an invitation to book a Super Dad Discovery Call with me. And part of that i will invite you to come be part of the next Hero Academy intake if you want to see more details on that go to teamsuperdad.com forward slash hero Leave your comments below. Let me know how this has resonated with you, what have you taken from this? What are the lows you've had this year and what are the highs you're looking forward to and do you know what in amongst those lows... What are the highs you've had my week in France with Jo, My daughter getting her scholarship at secondary school, my dad's 80th last week

17:13 Finishing eighth overall, fourth in my age group on the Dirty and Rotten Scramble. Joe and I doing High Rocks in under 90 minutes there's a lot of sitting and watching Ted Lasso with my two kids and laughing together like even in the lows and the challenges there are many many highs so notice them take stock and confidence from them and keep moving forward because that is how winning is done I look forward to seeing you on the next one. Subscribe, share like do the business to spread the word and come and get yourself involved over at Team Superdad. Team Superdad out! This has been Team Superdad find us at teamsuperdad.com Join the program and create the best life ever for you and your children You are not alone. You're on team super dad