Do Dangerous Things - The Wrap Up #35

00:00 Welcome, it's the weekend. You're with Team Super Dad and that can only mean one thing. Yes, it's time for the wrap-up. Role theme. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Yo, good morning. Good morning. It's Saturday. Wide awake. I used to know that theme tune on it. It's Saturday. It's good to know you're ready and you're well awake. So come up and get to go. It's Saturday. There's no school today. So what you're going to do?

00:45 In bed, we're waiting here for you. So what? Wake up. Did I tell you? I met Timmy Mannett. Yeah, you mentioned it a couple of weeks ago. You said he was as mad as you take it. He is. But still, so far, scandal-free. Yeah, thankfully. Of all the Jimmy Savile stuff, the most disappointed was Rolf Harris. You know, I mean, when you look back on it, you're like, okay, yeah, it probably was. But, you know, you're kind of like, oh, you can't even mention me right. Do you know what it is? Yeah. Like, Rolf was, it seemed okay with Rolf, but now you can't mention it.

01:23 When you said that, I thought you were talking about the most disappointed in it. And I was thinking, what, is that because Rolf had carved out a niche for himself and he'd come up with a brand and he thought Jimmy was stepping on his toes. I'll tell you what, I didn't expect us to start off with this sort of discussion. Oh, a paedophile chat. No, exactly. Saturday morning. Rolf Harris went down and I took them and took them all down. It's like the Titanic. They all went down. So welcome to the Team Super Dad wrap-up. You're here with myself, Johnny Jensen, creator of the Team Super Dad community, founder of the Hero Academy.

02:01 We are dads, modern dads, creating our best lives ever. And joining us, joining us every week on the wrap-up is someone who I was so excited, delighted even to meet and then became excited to know. Glenn, a dating dad of Twitter fame and generally pops up on TV. Anyone will have him. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've actually had someone who joined the company, a company I worked for recently. She was responsible for doing some bio work for me and doing some writing for me. And so when she was doing a research, she started stumbling across my other life. And when she said, you're very active on Twitter, I've got two Twitter accounts. I've got a work one and a me a fun one.

02:43 And yeah, I was very worried that those two streams had crossed because you know what they say when you cross streams, you know, it could be basic end of the world stuff. Yeah. Cats and dogs living together. That's hysteria. But it worked out all right. It worked out all right. Well, in the realms of hysteria, I'm wearing, for those people not watching the live stream, I'm wearing my Tottenham shirt today, which is probably a clanger. You know, you're going to get yourself in a lot of trouble, upset any Arsenal or Chelsea fans who might be watching or listening. But Spurs are coming to you. In my house, we don't use the A-word because they are Woolwich.

03:21 They are the Woolwich Arsenal. That is their official name. They're a South London franchise. And so we only refer to them as Woolwich and always will. Okay, good. Well, we'll adopt that here on the all fans are welcome. All fans are welcome. So yeah, so you know, can dads wear their football kit? I'll tell you actually why I did get changed quickly because I've just been out on my on my bike and I was going to get in the shower and then I was like, no, actually, no, I haven't got time for that. So I just went in the drawer and I was like, I know, I'm going to put my Tottenham shirt on just for kicks. Because if that subject does come up, can dads wear a replica kit?

04:04 Oh, I do. And because if I don't, then we lose. You must have superstitions like that where you have to wear a certain kit to certain types of match. Well, we have no red on match day. No, 100%. No red is allowed. Not even, it can't be in your pants. It can't be like red socks. It's like no red on match day. And my kids know it. I know. My ex-wife used to flip in, like, seriously, you're going to change him? And like, it's so sad. You put red trousers on him. So she just look at me going, what the hell? It's bizarre. I'm a rational human being and I'm sure you are as well. I know, intellectually speaking, this does nothing.

04:47 It's not going to change the course of the world or in any way, shape or form. Yet, I also know that if we don't do it, it's on me. Yes, if I wear red and Spurs lose, it is without doubt something to do with me. I'm not 100% confirmation bias, but I'm not risking it. That's brilliant. That's pretty. Well, some fans had to go the whole hog. They were not like, I don't, I don't wear red, don't wear red, you know, ever. I think I look quite good in red. Oh, here's a funny one. My brother, his wife, is a Man United fan. So he took her to Spurs Man United at Whiteheart Lane, right?

05:28 Now, her coat is red. So it wasn't like she wore a red coat on purpose, but it just so happened that her winter, nice, warm coat was red. So when we get there, I'm like, are you serious? It wasn't like a ski coat with a bit of red around the collar. It was. It was like one of those Chelsea pensioner red coats. Oh my gosh. And a cool cent, whoever, whatever. I can't remember, whatever, but it was a dicey hour and a half of. Yeah.

06:12 You were on your bike then? Yeah. So before we get into that, by the way, dads, I can see loads of us listening actually. This is great. We've got a couple of comments coming in. Andy Arter says, great shirt, Andy. Good to have Andy on. Andy, actually, he lives, he's always been from up around Tottenham area. Good man, as a former Wolfram Stoke boy, I fully approve of where he lives. Yeah, he does the whole thing where he helps out with the youth and has like kids live there and stuff. He's a great, great, great guy, really top, top, like, awesome, awesome. Andy, good morning to you. And then we have another one here, Mr.

06:52 Facebook user. I wear ice hockey shirts all the time. Well, I'm guessing that is someone from America who's up in the middle of the night or has some kind of American connection. Oh, it could be Jimmy. Jimmy's from Jimmy's Swedish, so they play a lot of ice hockey. I'm guessing that's Jimmy. Good morning. Tell you what, I love ice hockey. I used to go as a kid. I couldn't have a play. I only used to do when I visited my dad. We used to support, and this is their real name, the Basingstoke Beavers. And so I'd go and see them play every few weeks. And I'm going to start taking my kids to go. And when it opens up, there's a team, I think it's Gillingham. There's a team up there. I'm going to start actually going and taking them to see. And I just, the kids are going to absolutely love it.

07:33 It's one of the best sports on the planet. So if you haven't been, make sure you go. And it's pretty cheap as well. Dude, I'm coming with. We're coming. The team Jensen are coming with Team Osco to the Gillingham, the Gillingham Fannies. Yeah, I'm sure that's the unofficial name. They've all got euphemisms for vaginas, and no one realized it was just a big, a big wind-up between the ice hockey team owners of the UK decided their name is actually the Invicta Dynamos. Oh, the Invicta Dynamos. That's a posh name that is, which is very unbecoming of the regions of Kent.

08:20 Yeah, yeah. Jimmy, who is one of the Team Super Dag community members, quite often see him commenting. He said he's coming. So Jimmy's from Sweden. And he says, when we go, oh, look, here we go. So if you are watching, listening, you can't, to be honest, if you're listening, you can't do this. But if you're watching, you can join in the comments just by commenting. We are live on Facebook, LinkedIn. We're definitely crossing the streams as far as this onto LinkedIn guys. But it's the weekend. Besides, we're Anton Deck today, Glenn. You do realize they always stand in that order, Ant and Deck. So on screen at the moment, I'm on the left of my screen. So that makes me ant and that makes you deck. Yeah.

09:05 I think, apart from my hairline, I would say you do have a bigger forehead, which yeah, I'd agree with that. And more of a drinking problem. I could go there on that subject. He left. So him and his wife, they had a shocking breakup. Did they? They were fully acrimonious for quite a while. But she was a bit of a pie, to be honest. I didn't. And he says, my aunt follows the Sunderland Snatch.

09:47 Actually, their real name. It's confirmed. The Sunderland ice hockey team are called the Sunderland Snatch. So, this isn't very PC or whatever. Do you remember at Tottenham? The Spurs fans used to say, seeing about Ian Wright, who's got a big fat wife, who's got a big fat wife, Ian Wright, Ian Wright, he's got a big fat wife. Do you remember that song? I don't know. I actually only started going with a season ticket from about 2007 onwards. Oh, okay. So, I'd go to the I'd go to some games. Mostly, I'd go to the away games. My first Spurs game was actually away at Main Road when we were in the FA Cup and we beat them. But there was a pitch invasion and a bit of a riot. We were sitting in the away end in the family stand.

10:33 And we're only kids at the time. And my little brother, we scored. Well, they scored, then we scored and we scored again. And then we were winning. You could see these bunch of no-neck sort of muscle faces sitting in front of us, getting more and more angry at their team. One of them went off to the toilet, came back, we scored, came back again. My little idiot brother totally innocently tapped him on the shoulder and was like, Excuse me, just wanted to, you know, were you in the toilet? We scored another goal, so now we're winning by more. And this guy turned around and started giving us a volley of abuse to the point where we had to leave just as the riots were starting. I'm pretty sure my little brother started that pitch invasion.

11:14 So it wasn't me. Wouldn't be the first time he's caused trouble. No, well, did I ever tell you the story about when I derailed a train at a family barbecue summer like summer garden party? You derailed a train. Yeah, we're not talking like a train or conversation or something. No, no, like this is this is a uh so I'll tell you the whole story, right? So my dad's friend was like a train enthusiast, yeah. And uh, so in his garden, massive garden, like a couple of acres kind of thing, he had a replica train on tracks with a pretty sure it was electric and not steam, but the thing looked like a steam engine and then it had carriages behind it.

11:58 Two of them were kind of closed in with doors, and one of them at the third one was open, just like an open thing with benches in. And so it's a barbecue, so there's like probably 50, 60 families there, kids, everything you couldn't get adults in this thing, it wasn't wasn't wasn't big enough. So the thing's got like 20 or 30 kids in it, so it's going round and round. Now I'm on it, right? And it's kind of fun, but after a while, just going round and round on the train, right? So I've noticed we keep going past this lever, yeah. So as we go past, I just lean over and flick the lever without a thought as to what the lever does.

12:39 Of course, yeah, because there's always random levers by railways that do nothing, isn't there? It was the points. It was the main points, right? So the so the train and the first carriage that I'm on has gone over the points. I flick the lever, which now sends the changes the track back into the side, and the back two carriages completely derail, right? Instant pandemonia because all the parents are over kind of by the barbecue and the buffet. It's not Buckingham Palace, but it is kind of a summer party, like the annual, you know, Bob Jones summer party, whatever.

13:20 And now there are parents running like kids screaming, cry. Like in your mind, it looks like a flipping Clapham Common train disaster and uh Clapham Junction train disaster. So I thinking I've got away with this, and I thought that no one knew that I'd done it for like 20, no, more like 30 years. About five years ago, we was with my dad and he goes, he goes, I know you did that, you little fucker. How do you know I did that? What are you talking about? He said, him and his best mate, Dickie, were standing there with their beers, watched the whole thing happen.

14:05 And as every single other person ran towards the thing, there was one person walking casually away from the incident, which was me. And as he tells it, like him and Dickie decide, he goes, well, I know who bloody did that. Oh, mate. It sounds like the most British version of a Tom Cruise moment where he's walking away with an explosion and he's in the background putting his sunglasses on. Yeah, exactly. So you mentioned Buckingham Palace in there. Of course, Buckingham Paris has had a bit of bad news this week, haven't they? I know. Prince Philip, Philip.

14:50 R.I.P. Oh, gutted, to be two months away from your 100th birthday. Yeah, 99, finishing one shot of his century. He's got to be disappointed on the way back to the pavilion, hasn't he? I know. At my school, I went to a private school for a couple of years. When you got 100, you got a cricket bat. 15 got cricket ball for 50, a cricket bat at 100. He would, of course, as well as a birthday card from his wife, he would have got a letter from her as well, congratulating him on his well, yeah, but only if you apply for it. You know, you have to apply for those things, you don't just automatically get them. Ah, I thought that was, I thought they came with a trumpet and I do reckon he's the sort of person who would have applied and he would have asked it to happen.

15:34 Yeah, just for the Japes. Yeah, yeah, breakfast egg will open the letter. Just for our foreign non-UK listeners, in the UK, if you reach 100, when you reach 100, you can get a letter from the Queen from HRH Elizabeth, Windsor. Windsor, yeah, yeah. You have to say it properly, don't you? You have to Regina or something like that. If you write to the Queen, you have to. You can't just say, Dear Liz. You can say what you want, whether she replies or not. It's something else. If you want a proper reply, you have to address it properly. Yeah. So, 90. The royal family are pretty chill. So I've talked about garden parties and things like that.

16:18 I went to the charity I used to work for, it wasn't Philip, it was his daughter Anne. She was our patron. And so we were doing some sort of celebration of the age of the charity. And she said, oh, oh, oh, I know what we should do. Dinner at one of mummy's houses. She literally went in the office one day and she was chatting like that. And so, yeah, me and I don't know, 10, 15 of us ended up going for a nice dinner at Buckingham Palace. And you have drinks on the room, you know, the balcony where they do the waving and stuff. And that's where you have drinks and walk down the corridor. And then you have this amazing meal. And you've got for every one person, for every two people, there's a butler.

17:02 And so there's someone behind constantly just doing these things and pouring wines. And of course, after the course, it was, oh, it wasn't an 18, it was David Dimbleby. He was our president and he was retiring. So I was doing the after-dinner speech. It was pretty cool. So, yeah, because I met him loads through charity stuff. So, yeah, he was retiring. So they'd asked me to do the speeches for after that. So HRH and ones, HRH and David on one side, and then CEOs and whatever's on the other. But some of the people around the table were Americans. And of course, for me, it was planned and prepped and wine and everything like that. Yeah, I'm a good Pokemon boy.

17:45 Well done. Sorry, my son's here and put him big thumbs up. And he's, I don't know quite what he wants, but so yeah, so these Americans, they were saying, hey, hey, hey, buddy, hey, buddy, can I? And I could that, and my accent isn't as good as yours. They asked for a diet Coke. A diet Coke, sir. You do realize I just wanted to be sure because the meals have been intricately prepared and the wines match the courses. And he said, no, no, no, I want a Diet Coke. So no problem, sir. And this butler's kind of left. And then 10 minutes later, he's come back and poured this Diet Coke and goes, hey, yeah, I hope that wasn't any trouble for you. He says, no problem at all, sir. I merely had to leave my station, walk down the corridor, down the stairs, through the second corridor, down the third stairs, out through the courtyard, across the courtyard, into the outer west wing, down through the stairs, into the cellar, into the pantry.

18:35 Select your beverage and then return, sir. No problem at all, sir. You can see just straight over the American's head. Oh, yeah, good. In his mind, he's just in a diner. He's like, he just doesn't. You're in Buckingham Palace, man. This is royalty. But the royals are lovely. They're really, really nice. And as much as they are kind of not exactly in touch with the average Joe, they're not going to be coming down the Invicta Dynamos with us. They're just, they're nice people who do a lot of good stuff. Now, whether you're a royalist or not, you've got to appreciate a job doing. And that job comes at a horrible price of no life.

19:17 You know, they work six days a week doing five, six, seven functions a day. And so you're just going from place to place, place to place. How do you do? How do you do? How do you do? Constantly. Same conversation. Whether you agree with it. Yeah, whether you agree with the whole principle of it is irrelevant. These are human people who go and do this, not just for, you know, if they stop, before Harry, basically, there wasn't an out. You just had to do it, not just for a month. month or a year, but 50, 60, 70 odd years of doing the same thing every day. I've got all respect for Philip for what he managed to achieve for all those years. Yeah, yeah, and I had the radio on yesterday, and it's funny, isn't it?

20:01 You can imagine they had had like red pill, blue pill. Like, they've had for ages, they've had the what we're going to do on his birthday and what we're going to do if he dies, like flip in, grab the file, let's let's let's roll it out. That's yesterday, they were the right fire, eh? Yeah, imagine a mate of ours, a mate of ours. I diverge for a second. A mate of ours was in the navy, yeah, and they were in uh some big NATO sea exercise, like war, war. I'm going to mention his name, Steve. If you're listening, good, good, this is for you, Steve.

20:42 He was like, whatever, third chappy, second row down, radar, doodar guy, yeah, and 11 a.m., right, mission starts, yeah. And he presses the go button on his thing, but he presses the wrong one and reveals his like ship, right? Instantly, oh, mate, and they get knocked out of the game, so he would have been like me at the train crash, he would have been like, I'm just gonna go just a rowboat rowing slowly away, yeah. So, yeah, so that would have been happening all across media companies yesterday.

21:29 They'd have been like, right, get, yeah, get the right file, get the right file. But they said he uh interview with him when uh he said, uh, you know, I forget if it was someone who was talking about him or it was an interview that someone had done with him about how many people he talks to every day, how many words of encouragement, how many how like to be genuinely interested in something someone's saying, and then out of the thousand, you know, the 1,000th and one person, he, you know, he accidentally says slitty-eyed, something or other, and um, and gets caned across the newspapers. Not saying that's okay, but you know, it's it's it's always a shame how that like you all the good stuff just is accepted as standard.

22:13 Yeah, thanks for thanks for that, and then you one clanger and it's tough because that's the public facing side of things. But it's worth us remembering, um, and it's appropriate for us to do. He was a dad, and he was a dad who was navigating this firstly in a world where, as the dad, and at the time he became a dad, he wasn't the patriarch of the family because your wife's the queen, she's in charge of everything. And so, to live in a society where the men were supposed to be leaders, yet you're always one walking two steps behind, must have been so emasculating for him. Um, and I know he had loads of problems when he wanted to give the kids his name and they couldn't do it and wouldn't do it.

22:55 And so, having living in that world and those issues and navigating that issue is a trouble, but yeah, they've gone from this proper God save the king, king and country sort of mindset through to what we live in today, which is people openly just not giving a damn about that sort of stuff. And he's overseen that every bit as much as the queen has and had to be there for his kids in a time when you know he's not had the easiest job with his kids, they've caused him a lot of problems. So, just as a dad, you've got to respect what he's managed to achieve, yeah, totally. Well, and a granddad and a great-granddad, and it's it is everyday stuff, like take them out of the royal kind of spotlight, and

23:40 it's just everyday stuff. I mean, forget the getting chased through a tunnel and dying, and you know, that sort of side of it, but it's just someone gets married, they have a stinker, you know, they shouldn't have got married, they've had two kids, then they're breaking up, and it's like, what, what do you do then? Like, okay, well, I'll try and help you out, help you help my son and his wife patch things up or help them navigate a breakup and kind of the upset that comes that comes with that. They had something on one of the TV slots last night where they were showing, I guess they're allowed to after a certain amount of time, showing letters that Diana had written to him and where he'd like you know, help like saying, Oh, it's it's it's a it's a bummer, like your typical kind of dad,

24:29 step stepdad, father-in-law type stuff where you're saying, I don't know what to say, I wish I could do something here, but I don't know how to help this situation now. So, um, yeah, and 73. years, 73 years married. I mean, that's insane. Oh, yeah, I'm never going to be able to achieve that. So, he's beat me. I know. Well, I think they're going to get some kind of life-in-hand, life, life cryogenics, kind of extending life type stuff. By the time we're 70, you could be in robot arms and we'll have mobile phone chips in our brains. I would absolutely do that tomorrow. If it was safe, I would replace so many parts of me. It'd be so cool.

25:12 I'm really looking forward to getting jabbed so that I can start my fudgy journey. Have you listened to the Elon Musk Joe Rodan podcast? The first one, when he smoked a joint and it, you've got to listen to that. It is a great podcast episode. Lots of Joe Rogan episodes of Flipping Greaters is why he's been paid. How much have you been paid? Flipping $50 million or something by Spotify. Some insane amount of money. No, I did lots. Yeah, Joe. So Elon Musk is on the show, yeah. And Joe Rogan, he regularly smokes a joint depending on the guest, right? So they're chatting away.

25:52 And Elon Musk is a dude, right? I'm sure he's going to end up taking over the world and turn out to be like a superman manga, like he's Lex Luthor, basically. But they're talking about biohacking and kind of putting the internet in our brain. So when you have a thought, rather than you won't, you won't know whether you're going off to Wikipedia to pull the thought or whether you're going into your own memory banks. You'll just be like, oh, tell me a joke. You'll be like, okay, easy. I've got loads here. Do you want one about, you know, not one or a or a my doctor says, you know, um, so then, so then Elon Musk says, well, who's to say that that isn't evolution?

26:35 Like, we're messing with human evolution. And so he says, who's to say that we didn't, that someone, this scientist, wasn't given that stuff as part of the evolution of man, that he was supposed to be here now to put it in. And that's how the internet and people connect up. So then Joe Rogan smokes this sparks up a joint, yeah, and offers it to Elon Musk. So Elon Musk has a couple of tokes. Then they have a conversation about smoking joints and stuff. And then Elon Musk's, then in the background, you can hear this beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep. So Elon Musk in his kind of funny voice, he's like, oh.

27:19 And Joe Rogan says, what's up? And he goes, I'm kind of guessing I shouldn't have done that because he, because the Tesla share price like dropped like flipping whatever. $100 million. Everything just went down, downtown. Because there is the CEO of these global companies smoking a BITA on live on a podcast. Yeah, he got in big trouble for that. Elon Musk is a very good idea. Well, that is that is one of the dangers of being in that sort of position and doing dangerous sort of things.

28:01 That's something else you wanted to talk about today. Oh, yeah, totally. So I was working with a dad this week, right? On one of the dad, one of the elements of the Hero Academy and Team Super Dad is about adventure and about doing dangerous things. And there is a difference between dangerous and stupid. As I had to shout at my boy this week, my boy, in my bedroom, I've got this, it's actually from the car. It's like a condensation kind of brick. Yeah, so you just put it there and instead of on the windows, it goes into this brick thing and then you dry it in the area. Yeah, when I used to have a convertible, that, yeah, I had a convert, one of the convertible wire to have that so that you didn't get moisture on the roof, which would rot the roof out.

28:43 That's exactly it, right? So when I got my new car, I bought this thing indoors and I randomly just bunged it on the windowsill and then it's and the window stopped flipping condenser. I was like, oh, that's great. So I left it there. So last, last, last week, there's two stories in one here, basically. So last week, I can hear my daughter crying and my son going, it wasn't me, it wasn't me, right? Classic kids. That's it, kind of, oh my gosh, what's going on, right? So I come up to, I come upstairs, and he's, for some reason, been using it as like a pillow, like a pillow fight, right? Of course, it's split. And inside it is this red, clayy, muddy, sand sort of thing, right?

29:26 And all over the bedroom. It's horrific. So I'm shouting at him saying, listen, I don't mind sneaky stuff. stuff. I don't mind dangerous stuff. I don't mind silly stuff. Just stupid stuff is that stupid stuff is when you get hurt. Like stupid stuff is when what is the two things that could happen? Because there really is no variation on this. Is one, you're going to throw that thing and nothing's going to happen. Slim chance. The other is going to split and whatever's in there is going to go everywhere. So why you're saying it's not my fault? I have no idea. But around, we should do dangerous stuff.

30:06 One of the things I'm working with dads is I've got this wheel of life. You point score. It's around the Team Super Dad F5, focus, fitness, finance, family, and fun. And a couple of them break down. So like the finance breaks down into managing your money and making more money. The fun bit breaks down into home and relaxation and friends and adventure. So I'm chatting with one of the dad clients this week, dad coaching clients. And I was like, well, how's the adventure stuff going? He's like, oh, I don't know. I don't know what to, I don't know. What's an adventure? What's the last? When was the last time you did something dangerous? When did you really feel like adrenaline? That is a good question, actually.

30:48 Really good question because you kind of forget. You know that you've done dangerous stuff, but that's all in the past. And it just, it just, there's an exhilaration to it. And adrenaline is quite a healthy drug to pump into your body. And what normally happens nowadays is that we experience adrenaline for the wrong reasons. So if we're, it's like it's a fight or flight mechanism. So if we're feeling confronted or fear or there's some kind of anxious thing, but they're they're bullshit things now. It's like having a deadline at work, which is very different to facing down a saber-toothed tiger when you're a caveman. And so we get these adrenaline surges for the wrong reasons. But when you go and do something dangerous, like today riding, I've got this duathlon coming up in two weekends' time.

31:34 So I had to get out on the road bike. I'm clipped into this thing. And it's not comfortable. As well as the seat being up my ass, it's like I'm on edge. And I don't think of myself as a nervy person. I'm clipped into this thing. There's cars coming past. I'm trying to work out. You flip out. Yeah, clipped in. Your feet when you click in and you've got to twist it, haven't you, and push it up and so on. And sometimes I have seen people who haven't been able to get there from time. They just, and when they start, they just kind of topple sideways like some sort of tree in the forest. Twice last week. It's a highly moment.

32:17 It's definitely 250 quid from you being framed. It is so, so thankfully, I haven't done it at speed, right? But I got on the thing. This is the first time I've ridden it. So I got on last week and I didn't do a system check. So the handlebars were unbeknown to me. The handlebars were loose. So I'm looking down. I clip one foot in, look down and get the other foot in and push off, expecting the bike just to be ready to go. But the crossbar and the front wheel were totally crossed. So now I can't do anything. I can't get out. And literally, I just like a red and stimpy. I just crash. But today I did

32:59 14k on it and my legs were burning. But yeah, it's just, it's, it's ski. I found it a bit scary. But that is, that is good. I'd like to. Did you look at cars or what? Oh, is it because cars going past you? Yeah, well, I've ridden my bike. The first triatten I did was in 2003. And ever since then, I've ridden my bike. And it was a revelation when I lived in London because all of a sudden I had to ride to kind of work out. And I started seeing parts of London I didn't know. I wasn't having to get on the tube. I loved it. And ever since then, I've been a cyclist, really. Not a hardcore road cyclist, but I've just cycled. If the option was ride into town or when I lived in Brighton, ride across to Brighton to go to a pub.

33:41 I just ride the bike. And so, yeah, this road bike. But I don't, it's not, it's, it's, it's like nervy. I think, I think I will get more comfortable. I don't know. But, but even dangerous things are only dangerous when you don't know what's going to happen. And then do it, the more you know what's going to happen and it becomes less and less, less and less win. Yeah. Well, dad's, anyone listening, you've got to get out there and do some dangerous things. And it doesn't even have to be that complicated. If you listen to the wrap-up regular, you'll know that a few weeks ago we did something on playgrounds and how playgrounds these days are a bit shit because they've taken all the dangerous stuff away.

34:24 What fun is that? Come on. But last week we pulled up at my girlfriend's house. I do officially have a girlfriend girlfriend now. now. Um, and we're not going to mention her name because that wouldn't be the right thing to do, but she is awesome. So, thank you, universe, for putting her in front of me. Uh, so we're at her house, the kids are there. Oh, I'll tell you, but the kids met her for the first time, and there's this in the background up the road from her, it's a giant rope-based A-frame climbing thing. So, my kids in a second are up the top of this thing. I mean, it's higher than a house, it's easily like sitting on the roof of a that's pretty high. That is, yeah, that is pretty high, yeah.

35:08 There's definitely danger of in there, totally. So, they're going, Daddy, Daddy, come up. So, I was like, Yeah, of course, I will, no worries. So, I'm climbing up this thing, and it's windy. I get to the top, I was like, Bloody hell, I was, I was, I was consciously gripping, like seriously, gripping onto this thing, but just aware of my mortality and thinking, but also instantly going, Oh, wow, I'm actually a bit scared up here. This is this is a and and and you and so my encouragement around those kind of times is do it, and but rather than run from the feeling, is just sort of pause for a second and be like, Oh, okay,

35:53 this is this is enjoy those, you get those drugs coming through your body very often, so it is about like all the fear, but do it anyway, yeah, totally, and it is all around us. You know, you can't just flipping drive like a nutter these days, but yeah, riding that bike fast, climbing that that climbing frame fast. Um, when we can go and do things, have you ever heard of that? Um, in Wales, up in Snowdonia, it's it's an aerial runway, but you you kind of you'd like to ball, you're like strapped into it like Superman, it's the longest rope death slide like a zipwire thing, yeah.

36:35 Zipwire, that's it. It's in my head. Yeah, I'd love to do that. I haven't done zip wires for ages, and uh, yeah, they're always that jumping off. I've got a few things on my list in terms of uh you know, bungee jumping, jumping out of planes, all that sort of stuff. Not that I've got a thing about hikes, but bungee jumping, would you does it count off of a crane, or are you going to wait until you do it off a bridge? I'm not an either or person, I'm an and man. Yeah, of course it counts. You jump top of zombie with a rubber band on your legs, okay. What was it? Noel Edmonds killed that bloke, didn't he? In a car park,

37:15 pushed him out. It was a Noel Edmonds, you know, they had to do the challenge. Bungee jumped him off a crane. I didn't know he killed someone. He did. I'm gonna, I'm gonna Google it. Um, okay, so when was the last time you did St. Dangerous, Glenn? Uh, I uh, I mean, it's this thing, these definitions are dangerous, innit? I told someone that I thought they looked fat in their clothes, and that's pretty dangerous, but it's all remote, so the danger's lessened. There's danger of I stood up to a friend, um, I didn't like how they were acting. That's danger, but it's not dangerous to life, that's danger to relationship. In terms of danger to life, it's been quite some time, you know, haven't really been getting out much over the past year, so it would have been at least the year before that, probably more, yeah, even maybe even before that as well.

38:04 Oh, yeah, I guess that's it, isn't it? Get it to some degree, getting out your comfort zone is or staying in your comfort zone is dangerous because your experience of life just closes in, it just gets smaller and smaller. You don't know yourself as bold, wild, dangerous. Um, but I mean, that being said, I've like I was saying about being the past, when I look back, you know, I've done it not finished, but yeah, I've been through the Himalayas to Everest, I've uh canoed um along rivers and along the Thames, I've uh done I've done climbing, like a proper free rock climbing.

38:41 I've uh hiked in the wild, I've been to volcanoes, I've done danger, I've scuba the sharks, I've done dangerous stuff, but it's not so I don't know, it's just not something that I've done for a little while, I don't think. Yeah, well, and that's and that's the thing to notice. Is if I mean, that's I'm I love that, I love to hear all those things you've done. Um, if to me, I do this again with the coaching clients, I'm like, define Glenn, like who is Glenn? And I get people to write down all those, like I am brave, I'm adventurous, I do crazy things. Like, okay, great, because then you can say, Well, are you still doing those things? Because when people say, Oh, well, my life's a bit shit, I want to have more fun, I want my wife.

39:25 This wasn't what I planned. I thought it was going to be more fun than this. It's okay, well, how many, how much of what you used to love doing are you doing? Okay, so we can learn that some stupid. Well, I can't wait till we can all do face-to-face. I've teamed up with these people in Wales. I'll mention them because they're doing some cool stuff. It's not official yet, but we just started talking. They're called Bearded Man Adventures. And they're in Wales. They're just a necks flipping squaddies who are hooling around in Wales. Kind of a lot of stag dudes and stuff, but also corporate weekends away. They've got a video on this. How I came across them. They've got a video on Instagram. And they've got a guy.

40:06 He's tied up. He's got the hood, like the bag over his head. And they're telling him he's about to do a bungee jump. Yeah. But he's actually just standing on the riverbank. And don't mean like a raging river. I mean, it's just a stream. So they're like, three, two. Are you ready? Yes, I'm ready. Yes, I'm ready. Three, two. And they pushed him in the stream. So he's expected to. He pulled that under his feet and he just splashed in a pond, basically. Oh, I love that. I love that. Yeah. But they do. I'm also going to be doing some stuff. Yeah, because my brother runs kind of an adventure outreach company as well.

40:47 My sister does in Australia, but I can't really pop over there. But yeah, so we went up to Scotland and hiked through to Benevis last year. But we're going to do more of that sort of thing. But not on the outdoor expeditionary side, because that sounds absolutely amazing. I'm also going to go. If you, I mean, this is more for single people, but anyone could take part. Go to hellosolo.com. It's kind of an events thing for people and they bring together lots of different companies doing lots of single events. And one of them is with my friend Charlie. I do know Charlie. She is a friend, but the company is called My Friend Charlie. And they do them axe throwing as a kind of a bonding and a meeting thing.

41:26 So they just get people to throw axes at targets. And it's pretty, that sort of thing, even though it's in a controlled environment, still a bit dangerous. You know, this stuff can ricochet all over the place. Totally. Well, go when again, we can go and do stuff. Go and go to a shooting club and shoot clay pigeons. I don't mean like the stagdos, which has got a late. Actually, go and feel a shotgun. No, they're not shotguns, are they? But they're and you're firing them at the clays. And that's bloody good too, I think. By the way, just to clarify that point, the Noel Edmunds Late Late Breakfast Show was cancelled by the BBC on the 15th of November 1986 following the death of Michael Lush, who, whilst practicing for a stunt for the show, plunged 120 feet to his death when the bungee rope

42:17 came loose. Oh, yeah, that's not good, Noel. That is why I know Mr. Blobby is going to make up for it. Mr. Blobby, Mr. Blobby's there, like, was that a joke? No, that's real. His face mashed into the concrete. Dead, yes. So, uh, yeah. Yeah, I'm definitely planning to do more things this year. And kind of, obviously, everybody is, but I already decided this a while ago. And I'm going to start going more events. And on my list of things that I want to go, I've never, ever, ever been to, and not because I particularly like it, but sorry, it's noise in the background.

42:56 I've got some toy going off. But one of the things that I want to go to, not because I'm really interested in it, but just to say nothing, is horse racing. And it's kind of relevant at the moment because the Grand National's coming up. And I don't care about horse racing at all, but I quite like the idea of having a bet on the GG. Well, it's a piss-up, basically. I've been to the races a couple of times, and it's just, it's, I guess, people who are fans and go regularly, they do go to see their favourite trainer or the favourite jockey or stuff. But my general impression of horse racing is just a jolly, just an outright jolly. I was in, I can live with that. Like I say, I keep going back to Wolframstoke, but I used to go Wolframstoke dogs all the time.

43:39 Dog racing. Love it. I've just a bunch of dogs whipping around in an oval. It's just so much short race. Cut the queen on for betting on a totes and then chicken in a basket and as much beer as you've wanted. And it was just great fun for a night out. As long as that, I'm not into the horse. I'm not going to go and follow a horse or follow a dog or something like that. But as long as that's a side bit of entertainment, yeah, I want to go horse racing. So it's the Grand National today. Are you going to be doing a Osco family sweepstake kind of thing this afternoon for the Grand National? No, on telly and all the stuff, there's probably less that I could care, but I don't know why.

44:19 what it is. Because it's just, I've got no interest in it as a sport, as a spectacle. It's the event type thing that I'm interested in. It's not like the 401, where I want to go to the event, but even remotely, there's so much to enjoy about it. And there's so much that you can add to it, and there's so many storylines and action and all this sort of stuff that if one brings that horse racing isn't because horse racing is just a bunch of horses line up and then just like and then someone on their backs like hits them a bit and said faster run a bit faster and that's it there's no skill story no skill have you not been on one of those things at the arcade where there's like six horses lined up and you have to the faster you

45:04 that's all it is yeah but it's it's exhausting do that just do that that's all they've got to do these little jockeys these little chaps these little chaps well there's a good chance that a woman might win the uh win the grand national today this this woman she ran she i don't even know her name but she that's not i'm not doing her good justice there she's flipping smashing it she's famous uh she's got a good ride in the grand national today there's a good chance she's going to win it uh women woman grand national what's her name a national rider i think her name up here

45:46 uh i think i know of uh there's someone is it frankie de tori uh there was a leicer pigger they're the only jockeys i've ever ever heard of i i i just i don't know it's it's not it's not a sport for me well i'll tell you a bit like going to the football like taking someone to the football who doesn't like football and you know as long as it's not a nil nil flipping ball fest you it's going to a concert going to a rock concert that i'm not really into heavy metal could i enjoy a heavy metal concert probably just the sheer noise the mosh the sweat that flipping you know just the i think you have

46:25 the adrenaline of it when you're track when your trackside and 15 horses thunder past you and the ground shaking and the noise and the i mean i i i'm pretty sure any horse racing fan would challenge you not to be not to be kind of captured by by it by yeah i think i i think i'll enjoy the event itself i'll probably never watch it on telly yeah okay so this lady right she's called rachel rachel black tree where oh no hang on oh brony oh this is i'm ballsing this up here we go

47:06 on the front page of google now on the article you can't bloody find the thing but on google it said oh i don't know there's a woman let me get this rachel's on a really good jockey winning loads of races and they've put her on a fast horse so she's probably gonna win i mean i can i can probably i don't even like it and i could probably write a thousand words on that couldn't i yeah but you that's like saying lewis hamilton wins because he's in the fastest car no no no no no no no no see no there's so much more to it than that yeah i'll go head to head head to head with a horse racing fan any day of the week in terms of what's more complicated what's more what's a better sport and yes formula line is a spool i would stay on that hill rachel blackmore it is rachel blackmore she's got a good chance of winning the grand national today so i think that'd be quite a laugh quite quite a good

47:59 well she actually joined what she's really cool and is she has been i saw her on on tv and she goes can you stop talking about me as the first woman this and the first woman that i'm a jockey forget all the other stuff she's yeah i absolutely love that yeah talk talking talking about really cool women um yeah haven't haven't you've made a bit of progress with the pretty cool woman in your life you want an update okay it was so good if you've been listening right till the end of the podcast you get to enjoy the update on my on my love life um and uh yeah we are definitely in officially in the g word now um which is cool this is cool uh i'm kind of i'm kind of

48:43 i'm i'm i'm kind of enjoying the feeling now rather than it being like an un like a weird kind of i don't know wearing a hat have you never wear a hat before like okay i'm actually looking forward to seeing her i'm texting her good night or i'm you know kind of stuff like that so she met the kids for the week for the first time last last week and i and i shared on the on last week's wrap-up or two weeks ago the story of when my dad randomly introduced us to one of uh uh to a random woman in the burger bar bar i was conscious for it not to be like that plus i've not had any kind of girlfriend for five and a half years that's the first time they've experienced me having a girlfriend let alone meet meeting her uh and it and it went really cool it was just natural we had dinner we played pictionary

49:34 um and there was some concern about should she stay should she not stay but i was like do you know what i'm not i'm not just got some bird around for a shag and the kids are going to meet her in the morning as she leaves like it's not it's not so so when when is it going to be or what do you do do you like like my dad's story oh we'll go to a burger bar and i'll introduce you and then she'll go and like or actually just make it normal we're having dinner we're playing a game on tv we're waking up we're having breakfast it's like it i just wanted it to be normal and uh and it really was normal and to be honest that's what i've done with my kids all the way through our separation

50:14 breakup being a being a dad do it doing stuff just as much as possible in fact there's a report one of the reports i used in my uh referenced in my in in the in the court hearing court case thing is you have to read these i love these reports like 19 pages and it says and in conclusion we found that the best possible thing for children in a separated family situation is that they can have as close to a normal experience as possible and uh and that's and that's what it was and uh and both of them said my little uh hilariously my little girl uh grilled joe uh oh

50:57 that's not her name obviously oh we're gonna have to bleep well in any case and let them get bleeped the podcast extra oh yeah yeah yeah so um uh look how i've gone red i never go red that's shocking um so so uh so when when they when they met rachel um yeah yeah uh my daughter said my daughter grilled her and asked a load of questions which is which is brilliant and my little boy said daddy it was awesome we had a lovely time and it was awesome seeing you happy so that was just brilliant yeah that's that's such a nice feeling that's um yeah i've told i think i've told you about the the list of requirements my

51:40 kids have got for someone i'm ending up going to meet but but the last the last one of that was um someone to make daddy happy so if if they're seeing you happy with her that shines through that's not something you can fake and that's going to make them feel happy and secure as well and and and start them seeing her as a positive rather than a threat yeah and that applies to people in still in a relationship you know it's it's when a relationship's going wrong you just got to boil it back down to basics like are we happy are we having fun are the kids are we are the kids experiencing us being happy and if and if not let's let's let's fix that let's or let's break up like let's not

52:25 be broken and miserable and angry and frustrated and resentful in a relationship and our kids live like that let's let's let's fix it because we're two human beings that we can or let's break up and keep it positive um there was a woman in in one of the single dad groups i'm actually moving out of a lot of the single dad groups uh at the moment um not because i don't care about it anymore but my facebook is it's all i see on facebook and uh and it was curious because i just in in in um doing some work around the hero academy and the and the april intake and the may the may launch um

53:08 i've just been going into some different types of dad groups and fitness groups and connecting with different types of men and inviting them into to join the hero academy um all of a sudden my facebook page has changed and there's way more happy positive stuff so you know we all have to be conscious of that is yeah you're totally right yeah i obviously being a single dad and a man who's um looking looking for love at some stage um i i did join a lot of single dad groups and i had to leave almost all of them because they weren't single dads who were sharing the positives about being a single dad advice support guidance friendship they

53:53 were groups of angry men who were blaming women for everything um and it became really really tiring and exhausting to be part of these groups where there was no positivity it was always negativity often around women but usually about life in general general. And it just wasn't bringing any good to my life at all. So parents in groups are great, but single dads groups that I've been part of in the past have invariably ended up just being places to rant and be quite angry about the situation and not wanting to do something to improve it.

54:30 And that's really sad. Yeah, yeah. Well, and on a positive note, in a lot of these groups, there's like a changing kind of tone. And people of a mindset like you and I have to have to do our part to change that tone or to change the narrative and have people see a slightly better way of being decent to our exes and building a better future for ourselves. But the, yeah, my Facebook stream has changed almost, and it's not almost overnight, but within a week, the content is a lot more, I guess, just positive, interesting stuff.

55:16 Have you watched The Social Dilemma? On Netflix? No, I haven't. Oh, dude, watch it. In fact, obviously, not just Glenn, everyone watch it. Social Dilemma, it talks about how the algorithms work and how we're getting this warped perception of the world presented to us because we're only, we're living in a vacuum, basically, and it's all controlled by AI. But it's an interesting, especially for parents, it's interesting to know this. So when you're talking to your kids about social media, you can have a really informed perspective. And if you're age-appropriate, try and watch it with your kids.

55:56 I tell you, TikTok has really helped me to cement that mindset of algorithms and control my kids because they can see the difference in my TikTok feed with someone else's TikTok feed. Or how if one of my daughters just spent a day or two just on the iPad, which has got my account, using it and tapping on things she liked. And then I was able to show her how that had changed the videos that were coming through and how all it does is reinforce it. It adds TikTok's actually probably the best AI, the best algorithm out there at the moment because it does add new things and test those boundaries regularly.

56:34 But so many of them are just self-reinforcing and funneling into a certain way, whatever that end point is being. So using that to demonstrate that was really, really interesting. But yeah, it's a challenge now, and it's going to increasely become a challenge as the kids get older. So yeah. I mean, see, that's all about that. Just to type it. Yeah, go on. I was just going to say, without that, just to tie it back, because I know we're coming up to the end of our hour. It all sounds like you and Sarah have got a real thing going on. Yeah. We had a conversation or we're having a conversation just about what we do want and values

57:18 as well, because there's no point discovering that, as I've previously experienced, discovering you have different values after you're married. Yeah, she's... And Natalie and you both feel like you're on the same page there. Yeah. Me and Catherine are absolutely rocking it. And just happy, just like enjoying it. She's like, this is this is, it feels, it feels like lucky. It feels like, how the hell did this happen? Kind of, how did we, which I guess it's when you've had a less than positive marriage or if someone's in a long-term relationship, it's easy to presume that, oh, they're all, it's always going to be like that.

58:02 Oh, it's never going to, never going to work out. But I think you're right. It is luck, but luck is simply preparation meeting opportunity. And you've spent five years preparing yourself to be in a position to respond to this opportunity when it's arisen. And you've taken that chance. So yeah, luck is with you. Yeah, yeah, totally. What a beautiful way to end today's wrap-up there, Glenn. Luck is with you. You create your luck. Everybody needs to realize it's tapping into the law of attraction and all that sort of thing. But let alone that, just how our brain works. We notice the things you think about, you notice more of. So yeah,

58:47 don't be fixated on what you see on Facebook. And don't go around saying there's no decent women out there because of course there are decent women out there. Yeah, they say the same about men and we exist. So therefore, we know that that's a fallacy. If you've been watching, thank you. If you've been listening, listening thank you please like share subscribe the podcast uh always keen to push the numbers up glenn and i do actually just quite enjoy doing this but uh at some point we're going to say something so scandalous or ridiculous that we will end up being the next uh viral smash for 10 minutes somewhere on the internet and uh and then then i'll just hear this this

59:28 noise background where i know that i've done something wrong and the share price of my company is diving and you see the you see the woman from from from the the your company that was checking out both your profiles you just get an email come and see uh tina please shit yeah i'm gonna go and uh spend the spend a week off now with my kids uh and try and do a few bits and pieces and i was doing some time in the garden but it's a bit grotty and and rubbish out there now so uh yeah i might put that off until we've got a day of sunshine yeah yeah good good to see you glenn uh team superdad friends family members all around the world we'll see you next week on the wrap-up bye

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