Winners Win - Creating A Winning Mindset

00:04 Welcome, good morning. In this week's episode of the Team Superdad podcast winners win! It is a mindset it is a matter of mastering and celebrating it. Let us roll. Welcome to Team Superdad Real Dads creating their best lives ever More time more money more fun You are not alone you're on team super dad Good morning, welcome. Well it might not be the morning with you but it is here if you're on the live then yes hello in the UK If you're on the replay or listening to the podcast then great to have you onboard I caught myself a little bit unaware It just started well didn't just start but uh if you got the invite you would see that um I scheduled this to make as many people as aware of this morning's live

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01:49 Winners win. This episode is focused on the subject of winning, the mentality of winning, the attitude of winning I'm going to help you see that you perhaps don't have the healthiest outlook on what winning means Some people are even quite against the whole concept of winning You've got this nonsense thing at too many schools where everybody has to have a go and everybody can't possibly have the experience of losing. And I don't think, I don't mean by that it's not okay to be inclusive or not to create events where they're perhaps more team events or you have a team score and of course that is absolutely essential but to the detriment of other events like you can't have a running race where one person wins

02:42 Quite literally, that's how a large percentage of kids think. You want to have who is the fastest in the school? In America they do this really well because there is a broad mix or certainly this my interpretation and experience from the times I've been with my family over the last 40 years and you have The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen Our strengths and the idea that winning is a bad concept, is exactly what this whole episode is about. If you're following the whole series you'll know we're going right through The Power Code, The Team Superdad Power Code This is my process and methodology for lifting dads up so that they feel confident They have clarity, they are focused, they are healthy

03:39 They are focused on themselves to create the life they desire, not a life they feel stuck in. And that's not about being selfish. That's not about being self-centered. It's about being the best version of you so that you can be the best dad to your family, so you can lead your business, so you can be there for life and soul or whatever event that you happen to want to be at. You can't pour from an empty cup! And that is literally what Team Superdad is about it's about filling your cup So winning falls into ownership. Okay, so we have purpose which is everything about where you're headed and why you're doing it and what your why is then we move into ownership And there's two sides to ownership One is the negative like the negative self-talk The regret, the blame, the frustration, the resentments This whole negative toxic energy around how you're thinking about the relationships in your life

04:35 It's not that I'm highlighting it so that we can focus on it. It's highlighting, so you're aware what would be like to live without that? To not have that negativity dragging you back The opposite of that the ying to the yang is winning a winners mindset and in regards to the point about the school You don't have to finish first to be the winner, okay? The fat kid that comes last just beat every other kid that didn't run the race.

05:12 And that's the same for you. When we're competing, when we're working out, when we're performing, when we're learning something... The only person we really need to beat is ourselves! Like what was the best version of ourselves yesterday? What would it look like to beat that today? What would it be like to operate at 1% more each day I talked about compound leverage in one of the Purpose episodes. It's the compound effect of improving something, here we're talking about ourselves but the compound effects of improving something small piece by piece by piece sooner or later the compound effect that is huge Darren Hardy's book The Compound Effect it bloody brilliant so winning

06:04 The winning mindset is what has you get up and do something you don't want to do. It's what has you get up and run in the rain today? My fitness has fallen off a cliff in the last six months and it's been a challenge mentally more than physically. The physical side of it is the pain, living you know I say this with some respect to people who have a neuralgia or a pain condition because that is truly debilitating and life-altering but I have lived with shoulder pain and back pain neck pain most days

06:42 It's on my vision board, it's on my mind map. My vision mind map again part of the purpose process around the health and fitness is to be pain free. It's tricky you want to put those negative words in because you end up focusing on pain rather than free but to have a healthy vibrant energized body And so the mental challenge for me over this period has been how do I cope with not being as fit as I was a year ago? How do I cope with waking up with a stiff neck again, not being able to look when I'm turning left or right in the car. And how do I stay on top of my game... On top of my game that sounds a bit wanky doesn't it but you know how do i perform on a daily basis

07:36 I smile when i'm with my kids or have fun when i'm with my girlfriend, like when this is going on and physically noticing my fitness going down. But it is about creating those small wins okay so gonna go through a bit of a process here with you today but before I do that right the noticing the small wins it's about rather than falling on your sword and being oh this is terrible what could you do The Jonnie Jensen Show,

08:31 So, number one we have a concept called the I am list. And I'm just pausing because whatever's going on upstairs, it's getting louder and louder. The junior Js are back this weekend the your I am list OK so in Mastering Ourself Talk your I am list it happens

09:21 Without us trying. We talk about ourselves like, I can't do this that's too hard... ...I want to do that but that's not going to happen. It's like all the concern and resignation is what will come up more often than not when we just let our mind run free But your I am list is a reprogramming exercise where you bring the positive aspects about who you are and where you're headed Going back to your vision board and your goals, is that you are working on this magnificent machine which is our brain and our subconscious mind. But it's also quite a dumb machine as well if the input you put in is what it will run with

10:05 Chat GPT is a very pertinent and powerful exciting example. Maybe a little bit scary if you haven't had to look at it yet, but it's all artificial intelligence but what you put in determines what it gives you back out so you ask good questions, you make good statements It'll bring you back quality information and help you move forward And your brains the same So your I am list...I am coach, I am daddy, I am runner, I am triathlete, I am homeowner I am son. I am lover, I am funny, I am inspired these...I am investor, I am traveler, I am retired, I'm a firewall constructor These are parts of my I Am list and when you can pull on them as instantly as that then you will be aware that your winning over the negative dialogue that's going on for yourself Okay so thats your I Am list

11:09 How you talk about yourself to yourself. Notice where the frustrations come up as you do this, You may well notice how often you make such statements about other people in your life but that's another conversation for engage definitely equally negative though so that's your I am list and you take your I am list in your journal or in the mirror you can work on that each day even when you're just flipping walking along you can be running through your I am list I am winner as we're talking about today. When you're running, when you exercise and it can become like a mantra like an affirmation that you are conditioning reprogramming the reticular activating system in your mind You are giving it rails to run on so that when situations come up The first thing that occurs to you in your mind is not oh how am I gonna do this? Or this is going to prove a problem or it didn't work last time what comes up is the new

12:07 Stronger position, the creative mindset. The solution mindset, the outlook and attitude that whatever happens it's going to turn out okay you've got this handled I remember at my brothers wedding i created for myself a way of being which again we'll talk about next week but we are creating myself a way of being or around me everything works That was my mantra for the week It is just a bit fun but you kind of attract into It's like when someone electric walks into a room and lights the place up. They are a winner, no matter what happens that day they decided when they woke up! Next thing to do is to notice almost as a reflection all the times you've won in your life this for some people is really really hard

12:56 Because they don't think about themselves as a winner. Or you could be a winner in business, but you could be struggling in your relationship or you could be a winner uh in business but your relationship with your family is um so your fitness is on the rocks! So how you speak about yourself how the dialogue runs it can't help but bleed into your performance at work Part of the reprogramming, part of the foundations of your winner's mindset is to go back through your life and look at all the places you've won. And by the way it's not about having a huge list but you gotta play with it! The times you've won are everything

13:44 That first girl you kissed, the time you entered the science fair. The time you went for a trial at a team even if you didn't get picked even if you didn't come first in that science fair which is going back to school You stepped out above all the other people that didn't do it! You stepped out of your comfort zone so be generous with yourself when you're creating this winners list okay? It's all the times you've won The relationships, the holidays you went on. The places you visited, the experiences you've had. The three pound match three numbers on the lottery. Getting married buying your first house learning to ski and cooking an awesome lasagna for your kids that they ate the whole lot and asked for more

14:41 It's at this level that I want you to know yourself as winner. So that when you then, you can look at this list, you can reflect it and see exactly how when and where you've won the idea that you're not a winner is bollocks so your I am listing in this like reflection on all your wins these are the foundation elements of a winners mindset now then my notes here...so the next part of this

15:22 And it really looks, aligns with your vision board and your goals and your mindset with the life that you want to create is that you can now start to marry the two up. This positive winner's mindset this attitude of success you can now start to apply and look at the goals that you've had and get honest with yourself and notice where actually you wanted it but you thought oh well I can't really do that because we want to banish The idea that you don't know how to do this or it's not going to work out, oh I've tried it before and it didn't work then so what's the point? That is like if we're talking about manifestation. We're talking about consciously creating our future It's looking to weed out the doubts

16:09 The Downs. Doing a podcast, you know going pretty much ad-libbing off of my own methods trainings experience it's nerve wracking right but still you got to step up and have faith in yourself if you read the Now the post that went with this live, you'll see in there I talk about an experience on a landmark course once where the person who was leading the program she said to say she said right who wants to share basically? Who's got something to say on that what's your experience of this subject and no one put their hand up. It's like 100 people there! No one put their hand up

16:54 So she stopped the whole thing. She's like, are you kidding me? Are you actually kidding me? You're here! You've brought yourself into this process to become a more powerful person, to become a better person there, to make a bigger impact in the world and part of that is your confidence, your focus, your drive to push yourself forward and when I ask who wants to share none of you can bring yourself to put your hand up You're worried about what you're going to say. You're worried about what everyone else is gonna think, you're worried about getting it wrong... What if that wasn't there at all? What if you had confidence that whatever was gonna come out of your mouth it was gonna work? Whatever anybody else thought of you they were gonna be like well at least he gave it a go or you strike a chord with one person in that room and that conversation leads on to something incredible that transforms maybe your world maybe the whole world

17:52 That is the level at which having a winner's mindset will make it difference in your world. And of course, your fitness, your morning routines, your bedtime routines, the time you dedicate for your children, the time you dedicate for your partner... Like if you want to win in each of these areas You've got to get honest about what that's going to take and then you've got to get honest about the result you're looking to perform Now when you step out to do it It's not a case Oh God, I can't do that. It's not worth it." It's a case of, I don't know how it's going to go but I'm bloody well gonna do it anyway. A winners mindset is as simple as that and it's a habit that when you apply consistently over time, it will evolve you. It will start to reshape who you are, how you show up and the results you get so just like doing the press ups will give you muscles having a winners mindset will give you strength in every situation and people will notice that

18:57 You will notice in your performance, in your approach to things. Your willingness to give things a go How people are drawn to you It's the complete opposite of I can't do it or people who think they always get ill I'll tell you what one thing I bloody hate and this is kind of around the same subject... How ya doing? Oh not bad thanks! Is that the best you can pull out when I'm engaging with you and i want to know how it's going? Like if, if you're really having a tough time tell me we'll talk about it like oh yeah good to see but actually having a bit of a tough time or otherwise. It's like do you know what yeah I'm doing good um I'm over the divorce I'm getting fit I'm smashing in at work I've got a girlfriend uh the kids are growing up brilliantly I've...I'm running the dad's group in town

19:51 Get real and a winner's mindset will give you so much power, so much clarity. So much focus in everything you do and most importantly it will rub off on the people around you And if we're talking about our children that is huge Instilling a winners mindset in your children Is probably the biggest gift Well not the biggest If I was going to talk about gifts for our kids A loving outlook, a trusting outlook, a winners mindset I'm a big fan of the word, empathy with people around them. But but a winner's mindset in our children is absolutely vital like the idea that whatever they're interested in whatever they want to go for that they've got just as much chance of smashing it or winning it making an impact on their lives whether they come first or come last and that's why I flipping hate the beanbag on the head relay races

20:53 It's essential that our children are given the idea that simply by competing they've already won. Simply by stepping out and giving their best, they've already won. When we can do that in the world will start to make a huge difference on the results that we see everywhere So! The results you see everywhere Come along and get involved with all I'm doing here at Team Superdad If you are ready to step up And create the success you want at home as well as work In your relationships, in your health and the time you spend with your children. To be that man that is absolutely winning in all areas then drop over to TeamSuperDad.com 15 call That's one five call And you can grab one of those sessions with me each week where we get introduced find out what the kind of goals that you want to have The challenges you're experiencing and how we can actually make it happen in the Power Code and Hero Academy

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