Who Stole Summer? - The Wrap Up #43

00:00 Woo! We're live. It's the Wrap Up, it is the start of a week which is the end of another week which is utterly confusing me because I've had to change our little intro but to be sure you are here with Jonnie and Glen The Wrap-Up from Team Superdad. Roll theme Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever! More time, more money, more fun You are not alone you're on team super dad! Hello Glen! Oi oi how the devil are you?

00:39 I'm very well, I'm very well. Here on a Monday night still confusing me i haven't quite worked out how I introduce the pod now because we're talking about the end of the week we're wrapping up the week but it's actually the start of the week so... But it is a reflection on the last week and the fun that we've just had over the weekend So uh I'm gonna move you across because that's confusing Or is this like Ant & Dec, you can only work mentally if one of us is on the right side? Oh yeah but it's where my camera is and then I've got the light here and there. It sort of yes a bit like what pocket do you put your wallet in or when you go out the front door... That's true! You have to go into the same pocket. It doesn't mentally work any other way shape or form for me its wallet and keys that's

01:23 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up Yeah, I don't mean like a gaza tapping routine. Apparently he used to be a nightmare, Paul Gascoigne footballer one of the legends of British or English football world football even yeah nightmare used to dip in 10 times on the doors you know 50 light on light off light on light off... Yeah no and i still haven't got a fishing rod and i'm not going to go anywhere with some fried chicken in a bucket

02:03 If you want to know what that reference was, you'll have to send a K&A stamped dress envelope. What did they call that? Where do you send in the stamped dress envelopes so we can get something sent back to you? What was that flipping old idea? I don't know if it had a thing but it was anything! If you wanted like competition entry or photos or whatever... Send a signed stamped dress envelope to blah-blah-blah and they would fill it with whatever it was and then send it back to ya! Yeah magic!! Oh yeah, that was bloody genius when you were a kid. Kids today don't know they've lived! They don't know we've lived... Dad can I have a stamp? Dad can have an envelope? Yeah in it goes two weeks later Bosch come back some toot. Ah yeah the mobile phones has done us. Where would be like the Romans what have mobile phones done for us?

02:51 Team Super Dad is an awesome community of men, of dads creating their best lives ever. We work in the areas of focus fitness finance family and fun to help you literally create a life you want rather than life if you're stuck in. And I've been working on some stuff, I keep finding notes that have been writing myself over the last year it's brilliant Be awake when you write them, you don't just wake up and find yourself. You've written a few new notes Tyler Durden style. I wish i had yeah or done some landing pages or writing to me writing some emails. Being super dad is about being your best creating a life where you show up as yourself for your family and the person you know you can be excited energized healthy your superpowers are already in you

03:35 So yeah, this is good stuff Glen. This is good stuff. If you want some of that then come on over to the Team Superdad community teamsuperdad.com forward slash group and you'll be welcomed in dads just like you dad's creating stuff they want You know it's not about successful or unsuccessful this is about accountability momentum upping your skills and areas where perhaps you don't have A great grasp on things, planning. I've had to tell one of myself this week Glen about my planning. In what way? Well i'm like a flipping rookie! I've got stabilizers... My diary's got stabilizers that's how poor my planning skills are!

04:21 Doesn't that just mean you're spontaneous and you just go with the flow like some sort of weird 21st century hippie? Yeah I know but if you look at, if you speak to like super successful people. People that are on their game they've got it out there, they've got their time managed out, they delegate effectively though when they say they're gonna take an hour they take an hour! Let me type that out again. But are they happy? Yes, of course they're happy! They're very successful people but... They're very good delegators as well. That is something I've learnt as well to be a good delegator So if people are wondering what the hell is our show title about today Glen Summer has officially been stolen it would seem or the two days of sun we had last month actually were our summer

05:12 Because those of you, well apart from people who are in Canada obviously who are literally being sizzled. I've seen videos as one guy's been cooking food steaks and stuff just in a frying pan on the sidewalk Literally, Tracy Poizner the lady who runs Essential Mums and Undeleteable Dads. She did a Team Superdad training session with me she's in Canada so it can go out tomorrow Tuesday at 12 30 always is on Tuesday 1230 and we're talking about helping teenagers or talking to teenagers after divorce

05:49 And not their divorce, your divorce. Which kind of became a conversation about talking to your teenagers and yeah so she's just like... They've had like 49 degree literally people have been dying of the heat literally. Yeah because that's Celsius none of this weird fucking weird Fahrenheit bullshit is Celsius proper temperature It's 120 degrees man It sounds a bit more impressive doesn't it? If you're going to go on holiday and you just like, it's 100 degrees! But it doesn't because that's like saying oh it's 12 Smarties or 1000 Beetlejuices. It makes no sense I mean you can have whatever number you want before it Fahrenheit makes no sense there is NO way in which Fahrenheit isn't acceptable let alone a better scale than either Celsius hell I'll even accept fucking Kelvin but thats not Fahrenheit its bullshit See I don't have enough of

06:41 I did single combined science where we learned how to wire a plug and things like that. Which, I did really well in single combine G's, single combined science GCSE but what is it? What is this like beta max versus VHS? Is this just the French bloke verses an American guy or what happened with Celsius and Fahrenheit do we know? No I don't actually! I'm going to google it because one of those things where I kind of read it and then it was in the back my head I

07:26 Daniel Gabriel Fahrenheit, a German scientist born in Poland in 1686. The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up Why? Please, someone, some American or someone who uses this. Why is that acceptable?

08:10 There is no logic to it. He literally turned up at some science show, took out a small box stood on it and said this is what I think... Yeah! It makes... I named after myself it's called the Fahrenheit Rule. Yeah I think I might start saying yeah actual boiling point is 7319 ochcors I mean that makes as much logical sense as Farrow and White, and it's just these goddamn Americans. Yes yes you had your colonial treason day yesterday whatever until you go over to Celsius then... You don't even class as a former colony to me! You're dead to me!

08:53 Independence Day, yeah massive hello to my American family and friends on Independence Day. I've copped some serious grief in America on Independence Day like you don't have to be black to get racist abuse in America right there. Is it xenophobic if its nationality wise? Oh yeah okay xenophobia okay Okay, well look at me I'm learning stuff constantly. No tell you what it is...I think i'm forgetting stuff constantly that's what it is Oh so like every day's an adventure where you just wake up and you learn, you learn every morning. What is this? Is this coffee?! I'm literally learning stuff by getting stuff that happened to be told it! So yeah in America they'd be like Yeah we beat you man, We put the tea back in the river, we showed you

09:53 It's just, it makes no sense to me. It's like you're celebrating something that... No one in your relatives living Like memories, there is no... I can understand Twitter. I don't agree with all of the fetishisation of World War II. I hate it! But our grandparents or our grandparents' parents and grandparents so it's kind of one degree a separation from the people who were there how many people do you think would have been alive during the war of independence? Rock all! So just go over it move on people Well no it's not all Americans clearly, it's probably people leaning to the right a little I'd imagine yes some of Mr Trumps friends. Although that being said when we're talking about kind of histories did you know that the 17th president of the US is what

10:52 Trump was 45 and I think Biden's 46th president is. The 17th president has got two living grandchildren Wow, what because he was really young or something and they are really old now. I mean he was a little bit young when we did it but but he was really really old when he had children and then his children were really really old as well there one of them is 89 at the moment and his granddad was born in 1790 What? Bloody amazing isn't it! I mean I just love how history works like that Oh yeah wow

11:38 And then we've got Chavs over here, who have popped one out at the moment they can conceive. My first I was 23 with my first and i was the oldest first generational parent in sort of living memory all of them are...my mum had me when she was 20, my nan had my dad when she was 19 and god knows how young they were before that yeah so that's what happens when you're poor your poor people you have kids young so you have plenty of them keep warm keep busy Have fun. And he started talking about, I'm not a Catholic. Okay mate that's alright! Then we got into it into a Monty Python kind of banter and i said no no neither is my wife... What's the meaning of life?

12:47 Every sperm is sacred. And then she drops one out as she's washing up. Pick that up for us, dear! See now that is a multi-perv... multitasking woman A woman who can handle doing two different things Who can do all the jobs and then do every job in the house and then some That's skills It is, but I did see a picture today on YouTube. A guy shared it and it wasn't even like ladbible, it was just a guy shared a picture of his wife mowing the lawn!

13:24 And this isn't a sexism thing, okay? This is just skills. You know there's things that we're good at and things that we're not good at but it did kind of fall into some gender... gender what's that word? Not gender bias. Gender norms! Gender norms, gender cliches and so he's laughing as she's trying to work like surely If you've ever walked on a lawn or seen the lawn, you kind of imagine that to mow stripes. You go up and down. I mean yeah that's fairly obvious. You just back and forward back and forward keep one wheel over so it stays nice and straight She was hoovering the lawn basically! Well you can get hover mowers

14:04 Yeah, but no if you want stripes I saw a glorious. I mean this is proper dad porn this is. I saw this glorious one where a guy had his lawn and I don't know it was changing the height of the mower as he's going but he went back and forward that way made the stripes that way then did stripes diagonals diamond The He puts all his focus and time into it. Yeah, I'm just going to be out there, keep roaming in random directions whenever i mow my lawn the only thing I get is fucking fox shit flowing everywhere! I haven't even got a pet and my garden is full of fox shit Nice nice...and then when you go out loads of dogs run after you

15:14 Just before we go on, I missed this actually. Ghosthand246 thanks for messaging That means he's on Twitch We've got our first twitch comment tonight Glen This is epic ground breaking Oh hoi hoi ghost hand Because of conformity with the imperial system people got used to Fahrenheit But it doesn't make it right though does it? I know but i've still got pictures of Fuhr, is it Fuhr? Mein Fuhr? What's Mein... Meinfahrenheit. Yeah Dr Fahrenheit. Mein Herr. Mein Herr Fahrenheit! They will accept you, I'm gonna go there, I'm gonna take on the world. So this woman mowing the lawn and he's laughing

16:03 We often comment about men, you know. Men if you're not ironing your shirt then get out there and iron your shirt. It's summertime isn't it? So there was a good sharing of gender bias... breaking down agenda biases in these summer months so other than getting really wet The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Glen, Wrap Up Oh salad, yeah. No one can knock up a salad like a woman no one can cook me sausage like a bloke it's true isn't it? It is like if you see a woman by the barbecue holding the tongs it's quite disconcerting my aunt is generally the one doing the barbecuing to be fair she doesn't... And I bet she doesn't fucking burn it! Uh no she doesn't burn anything ever Make the fucking burgers like hockey pucks or some bullshit like that

17:16 Well, yes of course. Anyone is prone to a bit of barbecue burnage I'm quite proud of my barbecue skills as well actually Pancakes! I have honed my skills at pancakes now I thought you were going to say that's what he did on BBQ so i was thinking how the fuck are you doing a barbecue with a pan just it just looks like fruit through the grill wouldn't it? No if you've got a skillet If you've got a flat plate hot plate You can do mega...you can actually do a whole breakfast on a barbecue Mm-hmm You heard it here first I'll tell you something that, that I'm sure women can do but i haven't seen it certainly not on Facebook. Did you see the baseball clip on... again this is a bit of like a we're like Gogglebox aren't we Glen? But did you see it? It's worth mentioning if you have haven't seen it search Facebook for man

18:03 Catches ball, throws baby. Although baseball catch ball throw baby right so he's standing there did you see it Glen? I've seen the clip is absolutely glorious talk me through it So it's quite short because this is just a clip from the live footage. So there was a foul ball, which in baseball means that the pitchers thrown it and the guys swung it and instead of flying out forwards its kind of ricocheted off backwards so it has gone out as a play, it has gone out as a foul ball but the crowd can still catch it right? You can have the opportunity to catch a ball flying towards your head at 100 miles an hour, which as someone who never really understood cricket is quite terrifying. But they've got their gloves on and stuff so you've got people there ready to catch the ball with a baseball mitt it's all... So there was a guy standing there he's holding a beer in one hand and his daughter in the other hand

19:02 Truly, truly amazing. He throws... As the ball comes towards him he does this kind of upward motion which propels his daughter into the air His arm continues upwards He catches the ball and then brings his arm back down around in front of him Catches his daughter. He's now holding the ball and his daughter And doesn't really drop any of his beer I mean that's the most important thing. Yes, yes it is great he didn't drop his daughter as well but to not drop a beer? Yeah yeah oh mad skills! That is proper dad skills priority

19:40 If you are a baseball fan and you do want to see if you could do that, first of all take your kid and grab a beer. But have a look on Ideal Seat it's an app you can download for most major baseball stadiums and it tells you which seats statistically are most likely to have a foul ball hit into them so you can book yourself to sit in those seats I love baseball.

20:24 Of course, I've been spending a lot of time in America. I can enjoy being there the spectacle that is mainly about drinking and eating to be honest. That's the thing i think i'd go for the drinking and just say i've done it but it's not cricket is it? Cricket is the superior sport of the two well... Well, I don't know enough about either to be honest! I've been to very few cricket games I got introduced to cricket, but by the way i went to a private school for a couple of years so prior to that was at Little Village School. So when we rocked up at the private school they had a couple of problems I had one was they've been speaking French for years and I have not

21:04 And the other was they'd been playing cricket for years and I had not. So all that sort of get used to the hard ball flying towards your head or someone throwing, you know... All that had passed me by so now i'm just well prepared standing there waiting for a ball either to be thrown at me to hit Or standing there, bored out my brain for ages on the off chance that the ball was going to come thundering towards me and I'd have to catch it. The whole thing seemed weird and painful and boring to me. Yeah, that was a reason I was wicked keen... The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Glen, Wrap Up

21:52 Cricket balls are really hard and they really hurt, and the wicket keeper is the only one who can wear gloves. So it was a lot easier to be the wicket keeper take the glory of the catches in the stompings and stuff but yeah I got pads and i've got gloves so if the ball hit me it wasn't gonna hurt so much! Good skills there but there is only one wicked keeper so if the position has already been taken then you're kind of stumped. Any sledging because you can do that's like The John Candy kind of position in Brewster's Millions. You can stand there and, what do they call it? Sledging... Yes sledging! It is sledging yeah I was too young for all that you know it was a very much a gentleman's game at that age group and I was never serious enough or let's be honest good enough to step up to the big leagues as you get older the bowling gets faster and I went to Nets once and they had a bowling machine

22:49 And my God, a cricket ball coming at you at 95 miles an hour. You don't see it! It's 0.24 of a second. How can your brain... I don't understand how batsmen can see the ball or release the ball, see where the balls going decide where to hit it move quick enough to hit into that? How do they do it in point two of a second?! It blows my mind which is why this podcast is just so incredible Well I do enjoy the 2020, so again for our non-cricket fan listeners the 2020 is a short version of the game played at much faster pace because they're going to catch it in a few hours. So people really just... bit like baseball really they're just swinging hard to hit it as far as they can and often as they can and some of those trick shots are...I mean you're talking about how can they see the ball that quick to just hit it but then

23:46 See It's absolutely incredible. Like you said, 2020 is the perfect gateway. Yes test match is the pinnacle of five days of cricket but when you're grinding it out sort of one and a half runs and over it can get... besides the drinking in the stands which is wonderful! It can get a bit dull for the uninitiated so 2020 there are literally fireballs that come out of the stands Cheerleaders and music and booze and singing, and it's over in... I don't know about what. I'm

24:52 But I will be going out to some sporting events because as much, you know what my son plays football so i go and watch him every other week. And I love it but it's not quite Premier League quality. It is kids football and it's wonderful but it's a little bit lower level. Is this 7 or 13? This one's 14 year old. Okay so under 40s under 15s oh they're 11 aside now! Yeah they are The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up

25:42 Not at the moment, no. They've played against teams with girls in and I remember one girl she was obviously girls developed physically a lot quicker than boys and when i say she was heads and shoulders above the boy's in skill she was also literally heads and shoulders above them in terms of height uh... because they used to play in quarters first quarter she was a forward she must have scored a hat-trick just danced around our players so from second um... game second half onwards The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up

26:22 Ignore the ball, just be wherever she is. Whenever the ball comes near her try and tackle her. Wherever she is just try and tackle it because she was so good! And it was brilliant to see that fact that it didn't matter about... None of them said oh she's just a girl It was just she's a footballer and so she's really good and so let's try and get her Well there's a girl when my boy played in a tournament on Saturday So he's under 11 and there was Lee Groups, you know table whatever. You know the knockout competition six or seven teams and there was two teams in our section who had a girl on each team and both of them were exceptional I mean it's never been a better time to be a good female footballer

27:09 Because still not all girls are playing it. Oh no, it's not! Apparently one of the girls because we've been playing against her since she was six or seven so same thing now she's the captain and midfielder Yeah, she gives as good as she gets and then dips toes around and does killer passes. Amazing. The FA have now said a few years ago that they've extended mixed football. The ability to do mixed football is up to 18 under-18s, which I think is amazing and as far as I'm concerned there should be no split. If you want different leagues and so on that's fine but

28:00 If a woman is good enough to play against the men and compete equally, she's good enough. There are no two ways about it! Why are we trying to separate them out when actually yes you can have different leagues if you want to focus on that but fuck it...if women are good enough let them play? Yeah I wonder when that first match will be the first The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Glen, Wrap Up

28:43 Oh I hope so, I really hope so. Because yeah there's...I don't follow it as much as the men's game because the media coverage isn't there but i've been to see England women play, I've not yet been see Spurs women play and I really wanted because we... I really wanted to see Alex Morgan last when we had her for a year or so she was one of like that the messy or not messy but you know one of the stars! Yeah American captain World Cup winner David Beckham is one of the best players in the world, and she was a Spurs player for and

29:42 But it's got a long way to go and I'm hoping, like you say that there is going to be some of these young female players who are coming through the ranks that should be fighting for places in the higher leagues. If we get past this proper football man mentality of oh well girls alright but they're only girls so they should play in the girls league... fuck off! Yeah well it won't go that way though will it? You wont have like good but fat blokes playing in the Women's Premier League. I could have been good enough if I'd not had so much, no! How will you do that reverse kind of gender thing? I don't know... Yeah it's a tough old thing but luckily it's for people above my pay grade. Yeah me too yeah we're talking about like mind-bending things where we just don't know what's going to happen in the future We don't know what's gonna happen in the future

30:36 We do know what's happening at Spurs though. Spurs have signed a new manager, not everyone is a football fan on this but he's got called Nuno Santos. Ispirito? Nuno Espirito Santos NES. We signed him after he quit Wolves and football was a big part of my life you know when you're just a bit underwhelmed by someone Oh well yeah, look this isn't a Spurs podcast right but people who listen regularly will know that both coincidentally Glen and I both are Spurs fans. But no to be honest he has Premier League experience and i quite liked how Wolves played the first two seasons they come up so that's a positive and also

31:26 I hope a lot of other football fans can relate to this, and i'm sure people who support lower league teams can relate to this. Amazing players that everyone just... Mercurial talents, they were called. Mercurial, sort of David Ginola's Yeah yeah and then someone that was really rubbish but tried hard like the Ginger Pele Oh Gary Doherty! He's a great defender but if we're losing stick him up front and lump the ball up at him

32:04 I mean that's just a brilliant tactic. Can you imagine them in the working away late at night, Gerry Francis and Chris Hewitt? We need something different we need something special Our big scarey, he can hit one can't he? Oh yeah I got it. If we're losing and we've got five minutes to go take him out of defence and put him up front! It's hardly Pep Guardiola is it or Jürgen Klopp's Gürgen Press just lump it up to the big man. Talking about baseball earlier I wonder if there are other tactics in movies like when

32:43 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Well yeah, because in football it's the sending the goalie up in the 90th minute to see what's going on and just try and score a goal. That has happened a few times at Euros recently... I know this isn't a football podcast but is it coming home Jonnie? It's coming home definitely! Well I don't know definitely... No no we've got that clip now so we're gonna cut that and there will be a little soundbite. Yeah...

33:27 It's so typical, it will be so typical of England to foobar against a very good Danish team. It would also be quite atypical for Spurs fans to see something like that happen but I mean oh blimey did some of them play against the Ukraines? If that had been any other... if that had been a Brazil team they'd have been like Oh yeah! Playing Coco Cabana as a soundtrack to the background of it, just little passes. Absolutely brilliant! As an aside I have played football on the Copacabana against a bunch of Brazilians. Hey that's the stuff dreams are made of That's a tick list for life things but yeah we've got Denmark It's Monday night as we're recording and we've got Denmark on Wednesday night Where you watching the game Jonnie?

34:17 I'll be at home basically. The junior J's are here so Jaygo and i will be watching the match together, quite father-son football watching the match together has been actually a thing that's got us through some tricky times like over the divorce and separation you know he was five when we separated He'd started watching football about a year before that, so since he was about four. I've got a video of him when we beat Chelsea, I think it was 4-1 or 5... no, we beat them 4-1 and iIve got a video of him dancing in the lounge going We want five! We want five! And the first games I took both him to then I took a few months later on start the next season I took Rosie to her first match

35:14 It indoctrinated my kids into not just Spurs, but just the match day experience as well. And then over the divorce and some quite tricky times, the Spurs were good and we had the whole Pochettino days well. Simply being able to sit there and enjoy him playing football at the weekend and then enjoy watching football together it's become something that him and I love doing My daughter, she's less interested as she got older. She'll say who is playing and then she will be like hmmm... And then pretend to be me and stuff but yeah the England thing I spoke to my dad and said Dad so we might get to the final it's next Sunday at 8 o'clock

36:02 I hear you and i would love to watch it with you but there's no way i'll be awake at eight o'clock. Oh god bless him! Because, because he will be surprised how much tv i watch uh four o'clock in the morning Oh right, okay. So he can have it on catch-up? He goes to sleep when he's tired and gets up when he's awake and he just... To hell with the whole what time it is for the rest of us! He just goes with the flow. He's decided he's at that level so no we won't... That's not a nice life Well thats kind of what I think as well yeah but um... So I'll be watching it with definitely this Wednesday will be watching just sort of probably casual

36:46 My girlfriend I think is going to come watch it with us. But Sunday we're making, we are starting to make some plans for the... We might make it like it's coming home, we might make it... It's that balancing act isn't it between not wanting to jinx it but you've got to have something in place just in case! But then also, I'm not superstitious at all. I don't believe in all that sort of shit But absolutely I've got the right shirt to wear and the right socks and the right pants in the right order for doing everything because it's worked so far. The one time i didn't do it was against Scotland, and what happened there we nearly fucked up! So um...I'm not saying it's down all down to me but all let the facts speak for themselves yeah

37:29 There's a big star over west of Maidstone this weekend. The other thing is the amount of people that have kind of crawled out the woodwork to be messaging me about me looking like Gareth Southgate F***ing incredible! I've had old friends, I've had family. I've had women who have been interested in me at various stages getting back in touch it's bizarre and I know there is a passing resemblance and so on but f**king hell my nephew still believes we're the same person. I am bringing up for those people watching this podcast, not going to work on the podcast but for those watching the live stream give us a share say hello give us a hashtag live

38:17 I'm gonna bring this up because this picture in particular, there are some perfect...I mean Glen you should be making money from... You should literally be making money for lookalikes. I'm definitely going to be wearing my waistcoat on Wednesday that's what i'm saying But there are people making money as lucky like he is. Yeah and he is a middle-aged woman's sex dream You need to trim your beard a little bit shorter Oh yeah okay, I can do that. I need my nose to be a little bit wonkier and a bit more of the lips He was essential defender you need to have your nose broken two or three times That's what it is Here he comes here he comes come on Gareth There's enough there really is

39:07 And ten years ago I'd have felt insulted. Look, look, look whimsically towards the sky right now. Oh yeah, is that? He's pretty close you've got a slightly bigger spam than he has. Yeah definitely have he's got glorious hair People get paid for lucky likey gigs. I wonder what that is? A Gareth Southgate fetish. So that gets classified as fetish does it yeah okay, that's why people do the whole nappy thing like i want to dress me up as a baby and and...I don't know what they do! I've only ever seen it on sketch shows. There are things that can be done and clubs and certain websites that can be visited

40:18 You're going to be standing on the edge of the room, yeah. And then you're going to be shouting orders at her like do this get up front! Yeah no I want a little bit more in the back. A little bit more in the back? Not one over the top?! Right, then she'll be like tell me more! Tell me more. Well you know a dream come true I just want to thank the boys for giving me this opportunity and yeah we'll just go again give me 20 minutes and give me 20 minutes and what will we will? Half an orange perfect

41:07 I've not messaged women like that for too long, i'm telling you it's a lost art and one that i'm worried i'm forgetting how to do. What? Like flirting bands through all that sort of stuff because when i'm in relationships obviously cut all that contact with random women out but when i'm not in relationships there's no one to do it with so where do you go oh you need like a flirting buddy Like a friend with benefit. Yeah, yeah! A text friends...a friend with text benefits. Okay okay

41:47 And then I wonder what the etiquette is for that. There was a woman in one of the single parent groups, and interestingly i'm not a single parent really anymore or I am a co-parent with a girlfriend. The thing is you are a single parent because you'll always be like alone like a parent at your kids and you look after them but you have a partner so that's a lovely position to be in And that's where the whole single parent label falls down anyway. I'm a co-parent and I have a relationship, yes. So this woman, she was in one of the groups. She said I've been out with a guy, nice guy, been out a few times but have been doing it for a few months and I get the idea that they'd sealed a deal somewhere in what she was saying because then says he said he loves me then I caught him texting or messaging another woman

42:43 And then she was saying like, what's the deal? Why am I in like this. Yeah that's not cool! There are a couple of elements in this and because I'm in the kind of dating and romance world there is... This gets thrown at me all the time in terms of like what stage are you exclusive and how do you have that chat and what's cheating, what's not as far as I'm concerned Just because you started seeing someone doesn't make you exclusive. You can, each of you and you go into it knowing they're likely the other person is unless you have a conversation or you know you absolutely know realistically they could be and so as long as as long as you're okay with that that's fine even once you've sealed deal when I had sex with them then still

43:27 For a while it's still, for some people that's it. That's the moment as soon as you have sex that's it. You can't have everything with everyone else but other people very much until we've had that chat We could be like seeing each other for quite some time But the L word for me, if you haven't had that chat before now as soon as you say that. That is committing you to that and that is saying... The societal norms say as soon as you say you love you to someone I love you then that's it! That's a monogamous relationship for me that's a line in the sand no matter what else has gone on before or hasn't that's it for me You cut all of that other shit out

44:07 What do you reckon? Is that too late? No, well because I did say what I said. All these women were loading up on this guy who wasn't even there clearly he wasn't in part of the conversation they were just validating her Annoyance, frustration, dislike of men. Upset, you know betrayal all these kind of like that like she felt wronged and they were kind of loading in on him so I said yes but notice no other man have commented here could be a knobhead and is out of order or he could be a decent guy who's kinda freaking out and so i kinda listed some of the various things that he could be up to as in

44:53 Said he loves you and we didn't really know whether he did or not, but he said it because he thought you wanted to hear it. Or he said he did because he thought that would wake up you in bed if he did say that. He said after your were in bed because having sealed the deal, he felt like if he didn't say it, you're going to be upset so he said it to keep you happy! I put him in loads of different scenarios which I think were all valid including one of them which was he's a knobhead and ditching But you've got to have the conversation to know what I love you means to that person. Because, you could even be friends with benefits and feel love for that person but not actually be attracted enough to them to want to carry on. Yeah! You can love them in as a friend that you sleep with but not be in love with them

45:39 Yeah, that's the old I love you. I'm just not in love with you. Yeah. And it is so frustrating because men are generally speaking shit at communicating about this sort of thing now i'm not someone who goes down the gender norms of men from Mars women from Venus all that sort crap But generally speaking, men have not been trained to talk about their feelings and emotions and thoughts or feelings like that. So we don't! We might say something but not quite know what we're saying... And we certainly won't appreciate the impact of our words and actions when it comes to that sort of thing. And so yes like you say absolutely odds are he's a dickhead who was just saying what could get into bed

46:23 But that's not, it's not as cut and dried as that. There could be a scenario whereby like you say he just doesn't appreciate the saying I love you to someone means something more than oh yeah yeah i love you too Yeah, for him it's like yeah I know you. I like you. I appreciate you. I like having sex with you It doesn't have the same connotations and so men need to get much better at having those conversations up front with themselves let alone with their potential or prospective partners And women not that we have many women listeners but women need to realize that

47:00 Not wishing to do myself or the rest of the whole male population a disservice, but quite often we're just a bit thick really. Like a big dog just barking... What are you barking at? Roof! Roof! Roof! Just barking because there's the moon up there in the sky and like yeah okay so yeah ask men what's actually going on before you decide to load in on him Interestingly, I got lots of lovely compliments from women for sharing a wonderful perspective on what was actually going on. Hopefully they'll send lots of... That is nice! They'll send lots of that. I've been super dead. Could you go and hang out with Jonnie because I want you to be more like him? Well, make her more like me but at least a bit less of an obey We need to meet more these people in person we need to throw some sort team Superdad house pie

47:58 I'm up for that. I used to have this idea that we could like, have a house that could be hired out for house parties but that's just kind of like a nightclub basically Yeah, it is and I bet the neighbours would bloody love it. But I love house parties...I haven't been to a proper house party in years upon years upon years. Certainly, I think maybe even pre-kids and I used to love a house party going into a place you don't know everyone that there's loads of people in the kitchen and random fucking someone's bought limoncello um

48:35 It's not like the American parties where everyone is playing beer pong and I have been to American parties as you have, where beer pong is a real thing. Most of the time when I went to them it was just, y'know, a bunch people sitting on sofas some standing in the kitchen and a few people having a fag in the garden! I want to go to a proper house party with adults which is just...a lot more fun than that That's what I want so if we're not throwing one soon then I feel like we are missing this chance for hot guy summer Do you know what I love? We do actually need to milk the wrap up a little bit more, don't we. So if you're having a house party and you think like yes Jonnie and Glen would enjoy this and it's going to be wild then send us an invite! Well i was actually at a house party at the weekend. Joe had a house warming so we were there

49:29 We were there and we were kind of following the rules. The majority people were outside, I know the rules are changing but you can have 30 people here that's fine i think not in...I think that's outdoors is it outdoors? I don't know to be honest with you. I just tend to blur my eyes when everything's easy yeah yeah I'm just kind of covering my arse But there was beer and there was champagne, and then there's food. And then later on they were shots. So at like one o'clock it reached a point where I was not blazingly drunk because I don't actually enjoy being that drunk. Not like when I were kid

50:17 But yeah, a couple of the guys were just like they were blasting back shot after shot and they're going right another one. And I was thinking um... I'm probably going to bed in a minute! Do i need another shot? do I want another shot? Two different questions They are two different questions yeah The amount of times I've had another shot when I didn't want another shot And did I need, no definitely didn't need it. Need and want things you want and things you need. I want a million pounds i need to manage money better. You know like something... I want..I need to go to bed do I want another shot? It doesn't work quite right does it but there's this yeah well how'd you get out of someone offering you shots without looking at personally? You drink it

51:11 That's all there is to it. I never know what to take in terms of booze for a house party because generally speaking, often there's only one toilet sometimes there are two which is great but if you just take like a massive crate of beer And you can't drink your beer all night. I don't know about you, but i haven't got a five gallon bladder so i'll just be standing having a piss all night yet do i want to take an entire bottle of vodka knowing that i'm probably not going to drink an entire bottle of vodka in one night it's like where's that happy balance is it like a bottle or two of wine maybe and but then i don't really...i'm not some sort of wine snob but i don't want to be ending up with someone else who's fucking lamb brini

51:54 No, and if you do take a bottle of vodka you'll then find yourself in a situation where you want to kind of stash the vodka in between going and getting another top up so that some mugger from Essex doesn't turn up and drink all your vodka. Yeah! And they do too... You can't take something really really nice either because otherwise they're gonna spot it like oh what a bit grey goose I'll have a bit of that bosh bosh bosh before you know its gone. They don't do it subtly either I'm not one of these people who says, right? I bought this so i'm the only one that can drink. This is mine! This is my precious but equally

52:52 You've got to have some sort of balance with it and if you've brought some drink, you want to have enough of that drink. And as long as I bring more than i consume, I feel that's fair there's balance but there are definitely people who turn up to these things basically they'll bring a four pack of beer and then they'll be the ones who were there at three o'clock in the morning still knocking back with Jack Daniels yeah So there's a party etiquette. Do you take what you're drinking? For me, I think it's like a barbers. Now, you know that you're a bloke so unlike female hairdressers or any hairdresser, but hairdressers... You make your appointment, turn up when your appointment is and you're seen and it takes hours and costs £1000 but whatever! It's all appointments. Blokes don't book a barbers

53:46 Now this is one of those things that a lot of women don't really kind of, they never rethink about but you turn up at the barber's. You look around and know who's ahead of you? They go and get their thing no one says anything there's no ticketing system there's no queue there's no appointments! You just know you're ahead of me, you're ahead of me when you're done I don't have to worry about who's behind me i'm next No-one says oh it was next or I was... Oh f**k it no this is the barbers and I feel like Like that unwritten rule of things. It should be the same at a party, it should be that you turn up and you've got your sort of amount of booze you've bought whether you've bought a load of beer or this or that and you should know roughly what's appropriate after that then you should be feeling a bit guilty yeah but there'll always be that group of lads from Essex who will just take over after party

54:42 Be rude to you as they're drinking your beer or and then probably cup off a girlfriend's house. That was my personal experience! Any NLP people out there, if I look to my left down to my left... What type of party was this? No! Some horrible flashback to It didn't all go wrong but yeah, different parties different things I mashed them up into one miserable vision in my mind there yes. That's what happens when you dig into your memory banks crazy stuff comes up

55:23 Mm-hmm, yeah I try and avoid that as much as possible. I didn't mean it! It just happened...I just had three or four relatively associated thoughts and they car crashed into each other in one almighty flashback. Did i ever say on the show about a favourite house party that I ever threw when I was much much younger? That I'd tell that story? You had the bouncers from a local club being the bouncers at your house Yeah, we had proper lighting rigs and DJ sets and bouncy castles and fireworks and shit. Now that is a house party! As much as I'd love that house party now...I don't need that just get a house with neighbours who either are in attendance or don't mind or are deaf um and loads of people bit of food loads of booze maybe the odd attractive lady uh and i'm there i'm there just just i'll just turn up

56:17 Yeah, I think for it to be like that. I think you have to go full bore post it on the internet so that you get randoms coming up because if its friends then you'll have a mix of people some are going to get home with the babysitter others who don't use tablets whatever like yeah I've got to work in the morning like this before you know it The idea is that 20 or 30 people who come As when we were younger, they're all there to get blind drunk no matter what happens at home or who with. Everyone's now got a plan whereby you know it will be over by kind of midnight and so yes you've gotta post it online basically. We gotta go full out and expect loads of randoms to turn up and oh man this could get out of control but could be so much fun as well! Yeah all I'm hearing here is party round Jonnies

57:14 We could have it as a Team Superdad event, I think that's what we should do. But we'll kind of let people pre-vet people so that they're coming on the condition of this is a flashback house party and you're coming with the mindset of being 24 but not from Essex. And bring more booze than your drink ya cheap bastards! Oh man, that's good stuff. Good stuff! Well this is what we do on The Wrap Up I can't say that any of it is scripted We have a little chat beforehand about some stuff we've seen online or in our lives over the week and Glen and I are twisted both clever and dumb enough to be able to chit-chat for an hour

58:08 And that's what it was always intended to be. It was always intended to be, but one of my original intentions for the Wrap Up was born out of my early love of podcasts which was actually a bit of a dark time where I was either working late into the night wishing my marriage was going better or I was putting pieces back together after my separation and so podcast were like my buddies they kept me going through so much And it was, was and still is and will always be my intention that the wrap up is exactly that thing for dads and maybe some mums out there. Mums if you listen then be sure to message us leave us a comment send us a text message or Valentine's Day card whatever... To a dating dad I'm off the mark! But I hope we bring some light and love into other people's lives

59:04 It's a beautiful way to end it. Beautiful way to end it! Now if people do want to get in touch and send their Valentine's cards, how can they find you? Well teamsuperdad.com forward slash group will put you into the Team Super Dad community Like I said we have the training session open coaching session on Tuesday Last week was all about making money It was about making money. We've had sex coaches on, we've had parenting coaches, we've had fitness coaches... I'll tell you what last week's was it was Martin Sharp the guy who went from 24 stone down to 15 stones and tomorrow iIve got Tracy Poisoner as I mentioned and we're talking about teenagers how to communicate and keep your teenagers happy mainly after divorce but actually when we got the end of it we realized how so much of it was just about

1:00:04 How the hell do you deal with a teenager? How'd you communicate with the teenager. And, oh, do you know what I'm really excited about some events that we got planned up in Chatterton guys in Wales and as well as doing some kayaking and cliff jumping and that sort of stuff. We can do some fire walking and have some men time Literally, blazing saddles. Sit round the fire eat beans and fart! We should do a watch party... no we don't need to do a watch party what would you get is when was last time you watched Blazing Saddles?

1:00:42 No, yeah a long long time ago. It's so long that I haven't even rated it on IMDB yet! Okay what we should do is Yumi will have some beers and watch Blazing Saddles and we'll would do like a directors cut... We'll do a pod along as we watch Blazing Saddles. Until next week guys gals out there i'll see you next week Glen? Looking forward to it Thanks for being here everyone. Take care, Team Superdad out!