The Wrap Up #20 - Anarchy Over Proffesionalism

00:00 Welcome to Team Super Dad. It's that time, you know it's the wrap up roll theme! Welcome to Team Super Dad Real dads creating their best lives ever More time more money more fun You are not alone your on team super dad Hey, it's Friday. It's the wrap up Jonnie here from Team Super Dad creator founder of the team super dad community and program Hero Academy program. It's Friday 4th December should you timestamp your podcasts? I don't know some say you should some say shouldn't let's get that number right we are on the wrap-up 20

00:48 20. How can that possibly be? I know how it could possibly be because it is December, December the 4th Literally the end of the year. If you've not joined us on the wrap up before, then welcome! This is literally the end of the week, the highs and lows of our week. It's good to celebrate all that's going good and don't worry about things that are going bad I've had a number of conversations this week about not sweating the small stuff And we will come onto that in the running order of the Team Super Dad Wrap Up Where are we? Where are we Christmas is literally three weeks away. If you're on the power list, that's the Team Super Dad email list then you've got your email this Monday which had tips on it thoughts and tips about getting set for Christmas some dads don't

01:37 I'm Which is just not a thing anymore because if you've ever been shopping late at Christmas, you'll know there's literally nothing left particularly this year. So get a list get it all online don't leave it all to the misses If you still got a misses and if you haven't then even more of a reason Pulling and cajoling ideas and thoughts from your kids. Going back a few years, I actually started writing lists way before...I take my make little notes on my phone kind of going back as far as probably the summer even

02:24 Especially with a daughter, you want to just find out the little things that she says because she'll tell me so many things. And then by the time Christmas comes around I remember them all and it looks like i'm just flipping awesome! And probably a good thing to do with your partner as well be the person...be that one that guy who is paying attention and listening to the things they want. So there's some tips on how to be happy at Christmas I've also got a Christmas shopping list, like a Christmas Day food and shopping list which I started keeping a couple of years ago. My aunt you know and i'm sure lots of other people have got one of these it's like the book that's got all the things in that they bought the year before and you will definitely save yourself a lot of stress if each year you come able to come back to all the things that you remember to buy from the previous year so

03:19 Be the man that can. Look like you've got it all under control! As for other stuff, if you're listening in are you subscribed to the Team Super Dad podcast? Are you subscribed to the YouTube channel or to the notifications on Facebook? Basically wherever you're listening or watching this right now make sure you have clicked the bell asked for notifications or subscribed Because that way, not only will you be the first to get all the latest content and episodes but you'll really helping me as well because more people subscribed. Hang on... I'm dying! The more people we've got on board at the better right? So as you know I can't make it a running order for these things. Jon Belushi do you know of Jon Belushi? Right i am bit of fan boy

04:12 70s and 80s comedy, comedian stand up. I do like modern comedians right? I can't say I know too many of them you know Peter Kaye Chris Rock Why does my memory always do this the guy with the fluffy hair your I've shared his style it's all gone it's all gone but basically yeah I do like modern modern comedians but going back as far as a 70s and 80s John Belushi Bob, Richard Pryor. Bob Newhart Derek and Clyde you know Derek and Clyde if you listen to Monty Python right if you listened to some of those old records they're all on YouTube now I remember being at college everyone's like trying to get the recordings that have a tape let alone the original vinyl of Derek and Clyde

05:05 Which is Dudley Moore and just hilariously funny, well close to the bone. And if you watch like Eddie Murphy Raw some of these old comedians there's this stuff just hasn't stood the PC political correctness stand they haven't stood the test of time basically but if you can see or hear through that and just appreciate it for the comedic value I don't know... You can go and find properly racist comedians, right? And that isn't actually that funny. But if you're talking about Eddie Murphy and how they refer to gay people and Richard Pryor and how he talks about black people it is as much of commentary on the time and a reference to how far we've come as is also bloody funny

06:00 Yes, it is also bloody funny right? Funny's funny you know and people do get offended right but I think there's a context to comedy that if you can see it for either the moment in time that it was or just appreciate it for the comedy value rather than be offended too much then then it's funny. So Jon Belushi He was in the Blues Brothers, you know the shorter fatter one in the Blues Brothers. He was also there in Animal House which is a flipping cult film of its time and Jon Belushi died pretty much of a drugs overdose but just was destroying his body but if you watch the documentary it's on

06:44 I watched it on my Virgin subscription, which i think was on Sky. That's where I saw it was on Sky so if you watch on catch up in the UK right now you can watch it on catch-up on Sky or Virgin and its just an amazing documentary about the guy about how he came from who is clearly a genius but like all geniuses they're generally flawed It's just such a fascinating portrayal of his life and where his comedy stemmed from. And then I watched, because i watch a lot of Seinfeld and comedians in cars getting coffee which is a completely bang up to date modern comedy and the contrast couldn't be more different between two people at the top of their game Jon Belushi and Jerry Seinfeld and just the difference how they manage their life for now like

07:32 I don't know. Is Jerry Seinfeld real? I think he's pretty real, but could be as a real or as anarchistic as John Belushi probably not in our time and John Belushi kind of famous quote is, I'd rather be an anarchist than a professional And i dont know if there's any space in the modern world for that. I just don't know can you can you be Can you be an anarchist and reach the top at the same time? I'm not sure you can Johnny Rotten There You Go Sex Pistols and all that jazz But that's just my reflection on some of the things I've watched this week. We commented on December, but i can't believe it is actually December! On my running notes if you read the intro we're looking at following through and I don't mean shitting yourself...

08:21 Following through on things that you're working on. The Hero Academy and the Dad Call, and everything to do with Team Super Dad I've been...I've made some videos in a coach approach document this week to send to coaches to bring them into the Hero Academy to support in the F5 which is Focus Fitness Finance Family & Fun so they are there, the five areas of Team Super Dad and Hero Academy course and some of those I want to bring other experts in to add more value, right? Areas where i'm just not that much of an expert. You know, I'm not a share trader or property investor. I'd like to make more money in those areas or know how to do it so it could be a choice but I've got to send stuff out to those coaches and get them on board. Nutritionists...I've got a guy called Pete who's lined up as the fitness coach and stuff So it's about bringing those people on board.

09:14 Email to someone, to a wealth dude back in July and it's now December. So it is you know kind of falls into little bit about imposter syndrome which is am I good enough? Oh God will do this will not do this Which you can if you search around impostor syndrome, we've got a comment coming here. Look at this. Who's this? Adam Hello, Adam. Good to have you on. See if you are like Adam, you can comment not only can you get your lovely face up on the live stream right now but what you could add to my life by By making me feel loved, right? I can see all the other people watching but only Adam has commented. So if you are watching then come in and say hello let me know where you're at and what you what you're up to! Let me know how your week's been The wrap-up is highs and lows review of your week as well so we're about to hit 10 minutes so if you're watching on LinkedIn goodbye coming over to Facebook join the group YouTube Periscope on Twitter wherever you like but thanks for watching us on Linkedin. So yeah Imposter Syndrome

10:18 Some people say that imposter syndrome is a load of bollocks. If you're in it though and you're struggling to start something because you worry about whether your any good at it, then you are living imposter syndrome but its not really a thing like you can't go out and get or catch impostor syndrome anymore than you can flipping buy from someone or learn from someone It's just a fear of doing something that you want to do. And it's a fear of not being good enough, like you're going to get judged or it's going to fall flat on its face so that ultimately just comes down to confidence. Confidence? Where'd you find confidence? You find confidence from getting organised. Um, it's very difficult to be confident about doing something if you haven't planned out by just freestyling uh, free styling this wouldn't necessarily work. My boy launched his podcast last week Boys Live

11:09 And, and I kept telling him make some show notes. Make some show notes! He's so like me he was like okay okay did you do it? No we didn't and then he did his whole episode and i said well did you talk about this and did you talk about your football and did you talk about playing for Palace or did you Going to Disneyland for the first time, he's like oh no I forgot about that. I said should have been in your show notes! So if you're up to something if you've got plans for 2021 If there is something that you want to get started but you are struggling with your own confidence or with a thought of Is it going to work? Or where do I start? The answer is make a start as we said last week You don't have to be great to start but you do have to start to end up great

11:55 Udemy, if you've not heard of Udemy. Udemy is a training portal like our website or not like a website it's a website but if you go on to Udemy there are training courses in basically anything and everything and some of them are pretty basic like if you've Let's say you wanted to be a nutritionist, right? You didn't know anything about nutrition. There are the real basics of nutrition but there are also courses on there right through to like full qualification and getting accredited so this isn't an ad for Udemy some of my links blog posts on things that you might get in an email. They do have affiliate links in behind them, but there are always two services that I use and I do use Udemy. Adam what have been saying? Let's have a look at this. Adam says I've been flying by the seats of his pants this week need to plan more well You don't need to plan Don't get caught up in planning like procrastination 100%

12:59 Live is live 99% perfect or any percent perfect but not live is not live right so they talk about ready aim fire being the complete wrong thing to do you wanna fire. See how far you've missed by and then aim and then fire again. So don't wait to be ready necessarily so stick the pants up Adam, good work but planning as well I know with my content and my work around Team Super Dad in Hero Academy if i don't plan who are those coaches that I'm going to call what am I gonna send them? What am I gonna say when I'm on the phone to them? Then it's not gonna go well! So there is some degree of planning definitely makes sense

13:38 Dad call we talked about that following through July to December I was talking about falling through so i emailed this the first coach in july. And, and he wanted lots of money and it didn't really pan out the way I'd hoped for it to be planned out. But rather than go and speak to any of the other hundred wealth coaches, a hundred thousand flipping however many wealth coaches there are on LinkedIn or elsewhere rather than going speaking to them, I allowed myself to get stopped by the no And that is just absolutely ridiculous. If you've got a plan, if you're working on something and you can't be stopped by the first note that you get I've heard it said before about toddlers learning to walk. You know what or even more funny is potty training your kid right? At what point would you say to your kid oh sod it don't worry about walking and oh don't worry about using the toilet just keep on

14:36 crapping in your pants right like there is no point which we tell our kid don't keep going don't you know, you're gonna learn to walk or the kids pretty much teach themselves to walk anyway potty training maybe a bit different especially for the boys. But you know there's never a point as a parent where we tell our kid just don't worry about it just don't worry about it Particularly when they're a baby. So then why as an adult do we get stopped by something so easily when we get our first no? Or, when we gets hung up on is it going to work out you know there's there's a mindset that we can try to reach back into our past and bring into the present of just being a kid but being that determined toddler who is gonna learn to walk who is gonna learn to run

15:21 Ride a bike, learn to write draw picture like we need to be more baby right in those in those kind of respects as we want to achieve and succeed with our businesses without plans without family with dating wherever it is that were at just keep going don't be stopped by what you think's gonna happen or what do you think's gonna go wrong. We don't know do we? We literally don't know. It's just as likely that it's going to work out, as it is not going to work out before we start. And if it's something you're really committed to, something that you're determined to make happen. I've said it before on the podcast and not on the wrap up... If I'd done The Nutrition & Fitness Course in 2007 then I would have 13 years experience of being that coach who knows where it could have taken me? Look at Joe Wicks and all the stuff he has created around that. I saw his cookbook in Tesco's the other day looking at it thinking there is

16:20 There's no way on earth that this guy has come up with this many recipes. It was like 200 things to cook in there, you know? He just has a team that does that for him now and his face goes on the front and I'm sure from an integrity point of view he is involved a lot but that's what happens when you start something. You really can push through and have it become what you want it to be so I guess that's my message for this wrap-up. There's been a lot about Following through a lot about imposter syndrome and making sure that it happens using Udemy to go an get some training. And of course, get yourself into the community use a mastermind put yourself around other people who are

17:01 Committed to creating similar goals in their life. Be around other people, other dads, other men who are perhaps have the skills that you're looking to create for yourself. What's his name? Sorry too many M's today. Napoleon Hill talked a lot about masterminds and he also talked about the Learning from people who've got skills that you don't have yet. Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich is an absolutely amazing book he wrote it about 100 years ago right so if you think all this personal development nonsense is new then it really isn't and its certainly not nonsense either So definitely go check that book out Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich. That's the kind of serious stuff! The dating... well

17:51 I'm not talking about specifics, but it's interesting to...I got matched on one of the apps which i've reinstalled back on the phone. I take them off and put them on again and then take them off again. It does do my head in! It is not a very positive experience using the dating app so..i don't know? I'd love to hear from other people what their experiences are. I know that you can be on them and get a lot of action, right? Some dating, we're going to get a dating expert on and have some chat about that. ESA has just posted, Freetown has just posted if you think you can or you think you can't your right apparently Henry Ford said that? Henry Ford first said that

18:48 And I love that saying. It's so important as a kid, you know if you think you can't walk well you're never going to get off your backside and try it! So you'll be right and if you think you can you're just gonna keep going for it and end up being that kid just like the rest of them that can walk. One other people I've been on a few dates with...I have no idea what's going on? It feels like we are zooming into The Friend Zone and so we got to have to have that conversation. If I keep putting Whatever emojis at the end of our messages. The fact that you're not, does that mean we're not? Or the fact I call and they don't get an answer but then they do call! And then they...and then they do seem excited to speak to you so..I've no idea this whole dating thing what i can say is I'm still taking on not being a stupid 15 year old right being straight, being bold, being direct showing myself to be uh kind of

19:46 I guess kind of confident and strong man that i think most women are attracted to or certainly the kind of woman that i want to be with. In my goals in my journal, I've not got my journal here but I'd wave it in front of the camera if I did...I've just hit in my journal day 40 something? Day forty-something and I started in July so it's pretty good now been cranking back up again If you don't journal, then get on the case. I did an episode of the podcast all about journaling so if you go back and look in the episodes you'll see it...I think it's about episode 25 something like that we had a bunch of experts on about journaling It is such a powerful way to focus in what you want in life To get some of the yuck out of what going on out onto paper Personally writing I think its better because your getting your flow

20:42 But if you don't journal, then what are you doing as a way of focusing on your goals? Clearing out some of the clutter in your mind. Meditation goes hand-in-hand with that I like to meditate and then write my journal Dr Jodas Benzer Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself is an amazing book for all this so definitely go check it out if I was you And as for dating and the friend zone, well it's come up as a conversation in the dad call before. The Dad Call is the Team Super Dad men's group. It happens every other Monday. It's free drop-in

21:22 Meet up on zoom is totally private it's not streamed it's not recorded some weeks a lot of fun and very silly other weeks its quite serious and that's okay thats exactly what it supposed to be, it's a men group. It's somewhere where if people have got something they want to ask then they know that they're going to be heard, that they know that there probably gonna get some good advice back or a variety of advice as well. It's not me coaching everybody on their it's sometimes we have to steer the conversation little bit and just manage it but generally speaking someone brings their stuff and then everybody else comments in adds value to it and it really is amazing and something really powerful happened last week one of the dads was talking about stuff he was

22:12 wrestling really with kind of what the subject was and we went through it and three or four of us commented, and then his girls came along and were looking to say goodnight. And one of the dads said you know what? You should go on and focus on your girls and put them to bed. It was just a perfect thing at the perfect time And it was so powerful. It didn't come from me, it came from one of the other men and that's the power of The Dad Call is that everybody's there for everybody. So that's free as part what we do at Team Superdad if you go to teamsuperdad.com dadcall then you'll see you can put your name down and um... We can't have it as a too big thing but there are plenty spaces there so make sure you go over grab one of those spaces get on board and get involved like I said its completely free

23:03 And you're welcome. What's David Jonathan saying? The dating, so Jonathan just commented the dating world is a minefield and it's great to hear that you're being about open about it too. I am being open about it! Do you know what? I've read stuff, I've taken advice of, I've adjusted my different profile in different apps I don't think ultimately that it is in my future, it's in my destiny so to speak. To meet someone on a dating app... It's just not like me and the woman who I matched with last week and we've been chatting and stuff but it's just so broken and staccato and ummm....I think that when I get introduced to someone

23:49 And it just clicks, that feels so right. And so the answer there is to get out more and I'm really going to take on asking friends to introduce me because i don't necessarily mean like blind dates but but I guess perhaps it's far more likely than a female friend of mine is gonna introduce me to a friend of theirs and because we're in that sphere of influence and like-mindedness then were gonna get on well Jonathan, I will carry on being open about my dating. It's like the finance stuff Team Super Dad is a journey for all of us. Uh, I am proficient in some of those areas. I've experienced a lot of things that have me be of value and service whether it's been negotiating my divorce managing trying to keep them around online having a step kid having my own children having an experience in suicide in our family

24:46 Getting out of debt, managing to do that without going bankrupt. These are all parts of my journey getting fit staying fit learning about nutrition these are all parts of my journey but in terms of the F5 focus fitness finance family and fun there's areas where I'm just not...I'm not there yet i'm on that journey and so my vision for Team Super Dad was what if all the people I'd known in my life what if all the coaches experts friends associates what if they've all been given to me to contribute and to help me become the best person, the best version of myself I could possibly be. Well that is life right? So we put them all together inside a Team Super Dad. We bring other men in to create a community. We put some training modules and people at the front of the room or leading the Zoom call... And there we have it! There we have a platform for us all to thrive in life and be the best version of ourselves possible. Real dads creating our best lives ever

25:45 That seems like a perfect way to end today. If you've enjoyed it, leave a review comment if you're watching on the replay give us a hashtag replay let us know where you're at and what you want and I'll see you on the next wrap up Team Super Dad out bye! This has been Team Super Dad find us at teamsuperdad.com