The Role Model Your Children Want Is You

00:00 Men, the role model your children need is you. It's about how you show up it's about the example you set and it's about the kind of man and dad YOU are! Roll theme... Welcome to the Jonnie Jensen Show, where modern dads discover how to create the true riches relationships and results they deserve. Get your High Value Man blueprint and join our community at highvaluemanproject.com Let's go! Men welcome to this special little episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show you may have seen online this week or in the last couple weeks a lot of chit-chat floating around flying around even about

00:45 Role models around the Netflix show Adolescence and of course as always people jumping on the bandwagon with these things and pointing all in the direction to Mr Tate which probably just promotes him even more. There are plenty of influencers out there who do have some good things to say, who I do think set a good example for our kids but you can't get away from the fact that the best role model there is for our children The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen Show, Let me before I prattle on and basically repeat everything that's in this 10 minute video that i made earlier on this week. Let me just flip over and share it with you what am gonna ask though is if you get any value out of this, if it resonates at all with you then please be sure to share this please be sure whether its on my LinkedIn the YouTube TikTok Facebook you know come

02:02 Over For the cretins that are out there and not looking to step up, who are not willing to set the right example. It is for us we can't just sit back and feel like we haven't got the time or energy or effort it takes to make a difference. It is about all of us coming together and being in the stand that the world needs us to be I hope you enjoy this like I said get it shared! See on next episode

02:44 The role model that our boys need is you and me, and every other man in the world. Every other dad in the world. Conversations are flying around about who role models are what's wrong with boys today? The TV program Adolescence Mr. Tate and all the flipping noise that goes on around that... The thing that every man needs to realize is that our kids are looking to us for direction The biggest problem right now is not online influencers and what kids are looking at on their phone. No doubt those devices and some of the less than awesome people that are out there, are having an impact but the biggest impact is men not showing up in their kids lives. The role model that they need is the person who created them

03:35 The idea that sports players or TV stars should be role models, that's not necessarily what they signed up for. A lot of high-performing sports people didn't come from great backgrounds themselves If they want to do that when they get older then fair dues but why are we trying to hold them to account at that level when we're not stepping up? Back in the day it would have been churches or tribe leaders, Papa Smurf whoever The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen Show,

04:11 Through men within the tribe, the community, the village, the congregation. The responsibilities, the values, the personality traits... The level of integrity what was expected? What was allowed? What wasn't? All these things have disappeared! It's bizarre that in a world of woke bullshit it's less and less willing The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen

04:53 What's happening that we're not being that? Ask yourself, what is your blueprint for life. What's the example you're setting them How are you doing physically emotionally mentally? What are your habits and routines Are you fit or strong do you make quality time for them? Are you managing your money? Are you sharing the load at home? Are you active and engaged in your relationship Do you exude love? Do you offer quality time Are you clear with your boundaries? Do you let people down all the time, like what is the example you're setting. Why aren't more men showing up in the world like this? How are our kids? I mean social media and mobile phones aside but why aren't we being the blueprint now that the magical thing is... The good thing is that there

05:45 Strong groups of men working hard to be the better version of themselves. Programs and communities, coaches like myself, like The High Value Man Project that exist but it's a tiny number I often think to myself about how many people are there? How many men are out there? Where are they or what are they up too? There are a shit load of people! So this message is getting out to everybody It's a challenge and yet in the void between men being held to account, men being given a blueprint to step up our kids are going and looking elsewhere for it. Funny story I actually recorded this video was...I couldn't save it on the place where I recorded it so I'm doing this all again that's commitment! Any father knows

06:38 The ways that a young kid, if the father is present. If I think about my children... Think about my boy in this scenario. You accidentally say shit when your kids just learning to talk and the first thing they come out of their mouth is the word shit! You need to realize that's how simple it is. Present in your kid's life because of other forces. If you've been divorced and you're being, you know... You can't see them as much as you want don't crumble and fall to pieces about it get strong write a diary record an ongoing video put it all in a box because when that kid decides that they want to come and see you insist you were where were you what were you doing say I was here? I was here building myself up building my life up! I tried

07:29 Here's what I've been making you for the last four or five years. I knew you would come one day and i'm ready for you." And that as an example, for men who have been through divorces, men who haven't been through divorce like are you ready? Are you ready to be the man that your kid needs when my mum died? I was nine years old clearly I would love my mum to be around even today but the women who stepped up Who became role models in my life? Some of them ever present, some of them present in fleeting moments or chunks of time in my past. But the closest role models to us are the most important The people we shape and mould our character from are the people that are in our lives every day It doesn't need to be a sports star, pop star, WWE star I tried to think as I was running this through my mind this week about the role models in my life

08:21 I couldn't really think of any that came from that world. Like if anything, being a kid of the 80s and 90s it was probably Michael Knight and...I don't know which member of the A-Team? The people in my life who are my role models are the people in my life My dad for all his maverick ways and shortcomings is an incredible man My Uncle Rob, my American dad figure. Incredible man! The other men in my family in Chicago... My uncle Richard These are strong men, confident men skilled and decent in their own different ways but how they operate in their family for themselves In their circle of friends, in the way they build businesses or develop their careers

09:12 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen Show, If you don't provide it, they're going to go and look elsewhere. They're gonna go online not because they want it but because they are not getting it from somewhere and its available elsewhere These people post videos on a consistent basis so that show up They set an example that our kids want to follow So they do You dont need to compete with them If what you're showing your kid is good and honest and consistent and true, And you're working on yourself so that you are constantly evolving. You are evaluating what you doing and how you showing up Speaking to them in a way they feel considered and heard Having boundaries but being flexible enough to give them grace to grow Learn from themselves How do you manage your relationships? It isn't difficult

10:12 If you, whether you meant to have a kid or you accidentally have a kid. You had a kid! There is no other task there than to be present and available for them And by the way To put other men in your life that they can be mentored and looked to as role models Doesn't fall solely on your shoulders but the people you put around you does fall on your shoulders The influences in your kids' lives? You do have a steer on, you do have a saying And that is what is required in this world. That's what is missing. Men, strong confident present healthy mentally physically emotionally available with a clear mission in life vulnerable willing to share their emotions willing to sit and chat to be real

11:02 And anything else that I've missed, right? This to me in my program and my work is the high value man way. It's having clarity about who you are and what you want. Having the courage just show up as your true self and not walk around with toxic emotions of jealousy, of blame, of thought, of resentment... Having the freedom and courage to speak and create To be the man you wanna be! And having the bollocks to show up consistently The commitment To be organized and diligent, to build. Looking at the long term realizing that you don't do sit-ups for a couple of days and get a six pack You don't build a business by jumping on the phone a couple times a week hoping it's going to go okay! You don't manage or master your relationship by dropping a Valentine's card And a half decent Christmas present twice a year That's not how it works If your life is shit then thats on you Do something about it Thats what our kids need

11:59 That is the role models that our world needs, let alone our family needs. I could talk about this for flipping ages and i'm not sure you're going to listen much longer! I will make a podcast about this, I will push this subject further and wider but the role models that our children's need start with YOU. Let's go Thanks for tuning in to The Jonnie Jensen Show. Be sure to subscribe, leave a review and share it with fellow dads! Creating the life you deserve starts with YOU. Get your High Value Man blueprint and join our community of motivated modern dads at highvaluemanproject.com Let's go