Massive Success is Better Than Revenge

00:02 Welcome to the Team Super Dad Weekender. Forget revenge, go for massive success! I posted this week about what was it? The best revenge is massive success. The problem with revenge though it's a bit of a toxic emotion so we're going to unpack why massive success is way better than focus on revenge Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time more money more fun you are not alone your on team super dad. Hello crew it's the weekend

00:52 My name's Jonnie Jensen. If you've not been part of this before, well this is Team Super Dad podcast where we're equipping men to be the best version of themselves, to be the dad they want to be, to create balance in their work and in their home life so that they can connect with their family and have a shitload of fun in their life. If that's where you want to be then make sure you're fully involved in all we do here at Team Super Dad You can go to the group Super Dad Club or you can come on over to TeamSuperDad.com and see everything that we have to offer. We'll talk more about that at the end, but yeah I posted this week about revenge. Revenge! Not the healthiest of intentions

01:43 A old mentor, I call him a friend as well. Fraser Cameron commented on one of the people that commented on LinkedIn said revenge is all about ego and that's why revenge is actually so toxic you know it's all about the other person I don't know how many people are really walking around with the intention of revenge but there is, you know a lot of the dads who i start working with they're pissed off at someone. They're pissed off that it's something someone's doing someone something's done how they've been let down How its not...you know..it's their fault not my fault

02:27 And it does fall inside of that area. In terms of the Team Super Dad and My Power Code methodology, this falls into ownership. It's about managing your emotions having control over them and letting go of all the toxic stuff and replacing it swapping it with Very heart-driven intentions where you have control over the matter. Blaming other people, trying to control things that are outside of your domain is absolutely pointless. Revenge? Really?! Unless we're watching a movie! It seems like quite an old antiquated concept revenge. I'm going to revenge my brother, revenge my...

03:16 But the problem is, you know and I guess what you do see in the world today is when someone sadly has been stabbed or murdered and the family find it within themselves to forgive that person. You know forgiveness actually is part and parcel of revenge. Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself When you allow forgiveness to enter a situation, then there's freedom. And when you're focused on revenge it's all about the other person everything you're driven towards doing is about getting them back well what happens when you've got them back? You know where does your drive and determination go then not to mention the fact that if your focus is on

04:02 Avenging something, getting someone back addressing a wrong. Then the energy around everything you do is pretty toxic which isn't that nice to be around let alone the health implications and everything else are better to first of all find it within yourself to create forgiveness because you don't have to forget what the other person's done. You know forgiveness like I said is a gift you give yourself. You literally free yourself from that memory from the experience From the dread of bumping into that person, from the anger that comes up when you think it's like it's crazy. You know when you haven't forgiven someone and of course there are different levels of forgiveness but and it doesn't take away what happened I could speak about personal experiences you know but anybody who has been through a marriage breakup It can be hard to find forgiveness right? But that just ends up being around blame

05:05 There's no break from the past where there is revenge or where there is a lack of forgiveness. So what's the opposite of that? Well, massive success! Massive success is fuelled by your own intentions, by your own vision of where you're headed when If you're driven towards a goal that you're inspired by, that you're excited about, that you're involving other people, that you wake up with energy around. Then it's not just about that particular goal or is not just about one thing You can't help but become a different person and more alive and more energized When you start to use words like that what is it like to be around someone like that?

05:53 What's it like to be around someone who is on a mission, someone who is energised and focused? Someone enjoying what they're doing. It's completely different than revenge you know I don't know why but I suddenly had a picture of Hitler standing there pointing his finger and riling up the crowd So yeah clearly we don't want to be Hitler I wonder how many people are actually called Hitler in the world today. It reminds me of the Friends episode where Phoebe changes her name and she puts Budgie Smuggler in her name, so is there any parents out there who've gone through the name book and innocently and inadvertently going oh yeah Hitler that sounds like a nice name?

06:49 I think Joey, me and the kids are watching Friends right? There's an episode where Chanda tricks Joey into coming up with Stalin as a stage name. Okay so it it's got that energy about it though okay you know you're gonna walk around with the toxic energy or are you going to walk around with this positive goal driven energy now here's the real kicker to it okay is that if you do have a sense of wanting To right a wrong or to get someone back, right? Clearly I'm not advocating that but the impact of massive success on people... maybe they've got a beef with you. Maybe there was a reason why that incident happened. Maybe they haven't done the work to let go of it Your massive success will likely piss them off so you're going to get the result you want anyway

07:44 To be honest, far better that you've created an improved scenario where the past is in the past and actually that person is happy for your success as well. On that point, how can you have that person feel positive about you if you're out for revenge? If your thoughts are completely independent and separate from them. If your thoughts aren't about ego but they're about the impact you make in the money, the holiday, the finance, the success, the future with your children, the happy memories, the parties, the concerts, the holidays... What can you do with massive success right and it's not just about money The

08:41 Feelings of revenge in you, then I want to encourage you to address them. To look at what the impact of that is. To look how it's holding you back. To look what kind of an impression that's giving to your children. How your physiology and demeanour changes when you think about that person right? It's not going to be nice so let go of it move on There was quite a lot of comments about on those posts so if you look me up, you can join Jonnie Jensen on LinkedIn and Facebook. We're on Team Super Dad channel on YouTube but feel free to comment, to look at that post and join in the conversation there

09:29 What does massive success look like for you? Okay, because that's...revenge and forgiveness sit inside ownership of the power code. Massive success and what you can do with it falls into purpose, what's your vision and where are you headed while you're doing it? And then, of course, the work, doing the work. What are your...what's your routine? What's your structure? What are you making happen on a week-to-week, month to month basis to get the results you want in your life? That's the structure that we create to deliver the success that you need, to create that work-life balance. To create the results and reconnect with your family inside of Team Super Dad and The Hero Academy

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