Life Moves Pretty Fast - It's Vital To Plan For Fun

00:01 In this video, life moves pretty fast. It's why you've got to plan to have fun. It's a vital part of your happiness and success! Welcome to the Team Superdad Podcast. Let's roll! Welcome to Team Superdad Real dads creating their best lives ever More time More money More fun You are not alone You're on Team Superdad Hello dads, welcome back to the hot seat here at Team Superdad HQ. You know where we are at! I might be looking a bit shabby today i'm trying to generate after two nights out in London having fun which is what we're going to talk about today if you have been part of any of the last three years lives and podcasts you will know that I've talked about the importance of having fun on more than one occasion

01:03 And that's what we're going to do again today. It is Sunday so I was not here yesterday, so apologies for those but if you're on the live then drop in and comment on any of the socials where you are watching this and I will endeavour to see that as were going along and if your watching on the replay hashtag replay So we give the algorithm a little tickle, but also so I can see who's in and who's watching. And it can invite you into the Team Superdad world! We are a community of modern motivated dads creating the life we desire rather than the life that we feel stuck in and that is about the core five areas of focus fitness finance family and fun

01:47 If you're feeling like you don't have the kind of success you want at home, like maybe you're smashing it in business but your family life is just on the rocks. It's because you don't have balance in these vital areas. It's because you're not putting enough for the right energy and attention across the board and when you focus on one area to the detriment of the other...it's no bloody surprise! Sorry about that I just punched the microphone. It's no bloody surprise something is eventually going to go wrong You can dive into a Team Superdad call with me, a free 15 minute call. Just go to teamsuperdad.com forward slash 15 call that's one five call and we'll have a chat We'l get to know who you are an what your up too and get you back on track

02:32 Back on track. If you've been following the last 10, I think we're only 11 weeks into 2023 now and we've been going through the power code but this weekend I was up in London having a weekend away We've seen friends went to a gig. I'll tell you all about it in a minute But so I'm taking a jump out of the correct order of how the power code works The power code is my Methodology, my process for bringing dads back to their best selves. And we have done purpose and we're in the middle of ownership but I'm jumping into engage and reward just just to keep it topical because this is what we've been up too

03:18 Planning for fun is literally as simple as making sure you are connected to your friends, that you're doing the things that you enjoy doing. That you're being to some degree spontaneous, that you're creating the opportunity for fun stuff to happen Which might sound a bit trivial and a bit like, well we are going to have fun all the time. I play golf every week or i'm always at the pub and you know what that's kind of okay but if you're doing the same thing all the bloody time is that really pushing the limit on your own creativity? On your own energy levels? On the opportunity for you to do and experience either brand new things or things that you just love doing

04:02 Which is conveniently a good combination of everything I'm about to share with you about this weekend. As i said feel free to comment on the live if you're watching and uh and of course hello to our podcast listeners, You can subscribe to the podcast at any of the usuals if you um do just search for Team Superdad in on any of your podcast channels and and you can get subscribed there so yeah So this weekend London...I booked the tickets for Frank Moody About six months ago, going to gigs has always been one of my favourite nights out. I just love the energy, the noise... Also the fact that you generally go to the pub beforehand and then you've got a gig or concert and then there's some level of going out afterwards

04:50 And so it just ends up being a real mixture of experiences across the night. And going back to our sort of 20s and 30s living in London, that generally was absolute carnage. If it didn't start with carnage which invariably did but even if it didn't, it definitely ended in carnage And so yeah, so Frank Moody. Of course we're all pushing 50 now how easy is it to just get out? To get to London, to book the tickets, to coordinate... I probably invited, I don't know, I told about 20 people we were going and to get tickets and so there ended up six of us something like that which is okay! It was the favourite

05:37 Old suspects Emma and Anna and Athos, Mark and of course Ben Emma's fella. And Joe my wonderful girlfriend so Frank Moody epic concert out for some dinner beforehand booked somewhere to stay as an Airbnb So there is a lot of coordination that goes into this but you gotta notice how often when you get an invite it was we're parents as we're busy in our business The everydayness of life. People talk so often these days, oh what are you doing? We're going to come up and see you next week or next month! Oh yeah diary's full for months and then you actually start to ask them what in your diary is it's not that much fun stuff and so the everyday-ness of life just gets in the way but like really

06:26 What does that stuff have to be done or even if it does have to be done, why is it to the detriment of stepping outside your comfort zone? To having some fun. To getting back doing some things you love doing. To seeing some people who you love spending time with And the important, the real heart of this and why it's so important is that when you stop doing the things that you love doing. You become less of yourself when you stop Stretching your day-to-day life and putting in things that maybe don't fit, then you don't stretch yourself. You know the comfort zone as you've heard me say before is a shit place to be! It's not actually... it's not comfortable like it's safe and secure and it's gonna serve you for all time because it won't. It just...it's so comfy and cozy

07:20 But it's because you're not doing anything and so you're gonna shrink as a person. The world around you is going to shrink this weekend, probably drinking a bit more than I normally do that's a definite by the way but it's not about getting pissed every weekend if you're doing that every weekend then that's a distraction That's an avoidance, sniffing up your nose playing golf every weekend Doing the pub every like... If you're doing the same thing every weekend there's a good chance that's a distraction The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Ferris Bueller

08:08 We got to the Hammersmith Apollo, good venue love it there. It's been again obviously it's been a while since I was there but Frank Moody if you haven't heard them on Spotify...it's a bit like Jamiroquai and Groove Armada had a baby basically but their lives are good they're a good festival band as well so with a lot of energy to it and clearly everyone that was there knew who they were because as soon as they came on stage it just went off basically As is my way, I'm chatting to all number of randoms around me. And so there's these four or five lads and they just clocked me...

08:52 It just occurred to me, I clocked it how much fun they were having. So one of them's taking a picture of the other four and they look like extras from a Wham! video so i jokingly said to the guy in front of me that's the gayest photo I've ever seen so then he turns to me and he goes we are gay And in that second, it was blatantly obvious. They're kissing and having a laugh basically so we ended up having a lot of banter with them throughout the gig basically And then after the gig, on to a different part of London getting the tube ending up in a pub. I was on my phone looking for other places to go but it did get pointed out to me that it was after midnight. Oh so late! But we were pretty pissed and the idea that it was going to carry on somewhere...I think I was probably living our old experiences but woke up on Saturday

09:52 And as everybody else went off, Joe and I stayed up in London for another night. And this is this part of the story is what I want you to realize is that when you create the space to go and have fun, to put yourself in a different place whether it be London... It's not about spending loads of money okay? We've, Joe Camping in the summer. We've done Airbnbs for weekends, you know in random places went to Guildford for a weekend last year so but on Saturday as we wandered into town we ended up grabbing a coffee and passed by a theatre where Joe had seen a show a couple of weeks ago

10:35 There were some people queuing and signs were up, last day! You know there was X number of tickets available. We didn't say how many it said like there are some tickets available And so we said, oh on sale 12 o'clock. So we queued up about an hour to stand and queue turns out it was literally the last day of this show! All the super fans were there as we waited the cast were turning up Joe got a photo with that with the lead woman in the lead guy is called Ann Juliet brilliant musical And there we are, got tickets 14 pound 50 tickets. So there is when you put yourself in in the space of, We're going to go and have fun I'm not exactly sure what's gonna happen but we're gonna have a great time stuff happens opportunities come your way and

11:28 This isn't the podcast, this isn't the episode to talk about relationships and to talk about what's going on for you as a couple that whether you can actually go and do those things did not end up being a stressy argument about whatever has happened in the previous three months. But in a healthy relationship You know you might be going and doing that without your partner because it's catching up with old friends or you might be going and doing it with your partner, because that's what you want to do. You want to have these experiences and create as I say... It's about having plans to look forward to and memories to look back on We did have a couple of things organised that we went on to do later on, on the Saturday night. But in between that it was your classic searching up Google looking for what bars were doing the kind of music and stuff that we wanted to do and just going with the flow and enjoying it when you wake up on a Monday morning having had a weekend like

12:25 Maybe you might be a bit tired than you perhaps otherwise would have been, but the amount of fun. The new experiences, the broadening of either your horizons because you're doing new things or just tapping back into doing stuff that you love will increase all those feel-good chemicals that we talk about. That dopamine is the endorphins, that the experiences that come from walking... We must've walked flipping 10 miles this weekend with it! That laughter The energy of the show and the concert, it's taking that into your family life or back to your family on a Sunday afternoon. Or into your work on a Monday morning. It's that energy and creative

13:12 It is, it is seeing new things. It will spark your creative juices we'll have you think about problems in a different way even the conversations that you're able to have with the people around you will spark off different outcomes just a change to the normal routine even for the people around you as well and that's where as we always talk about these ripple effects You don't know exactly what's going to come of doing these things, but you can be certain that the ripple effect is going to go further and wider than if you hadn't done them at all. I referenced Ferris Bueller in the show notes today and it is a classic 80s movie. You've got to love Ferris Bueller but as well as just watching that film, right? When he says life moves pretty fast sometimes you gotta stop and take a look around or you're gonna miss it...I may have paraphrased slightly there but that's the whole point! And so the whole essence of that film is how other people like his sister mainly

14:19 It does her nutting how he can just have, he can just get away with stuff. How we can have fun when they go out on their day trip and he says to his friend... Ah what's his name? Gone! There you are That's what old age would do to you. But, uh... You can comment in the notes if you can remember who Ferris Bueller's mate was in the movie but as they go out on their day just the mindset and the idea that stuff is going to happen we don't know exactly how the day is gonna go but it's gonna go well We're gonna see what occurs

14:58 Bump into old friends. We're gonna see the show that happens to be on the last day and even though we're going to queue for an hour there might be some tickets like, do you know what? Even as they got to the end of the line they had... sort of the two couples behind us were the ones that got the last tickets to this show so it was worth it! How many other people would have gone past that theatre and said I'm not queuing for an hour what's the point doing that we might not even get them?! It's about As Ferris Bueller pointed out in the movie, it's about putting yourself in a position to have the day unfold. To expect great things to happen. To have a laugh. To meet random people. To get pissed. To hike up a mountain you know? It's about the experience and it's about being willing to have it happen

15:47 Because I want you, as a wrap up this for today. I want you to notice how many times You're not saying yes To having fun or how many times you... Or how long it's been since you called that old friend? Or how long it's been since you booked gig tickets? Or caught a festival this summer? Or when it was the easy jet sale did you jump in and buy The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Ferris Bueller.

16:32 You want to have plans to look forward to and memories to look back on. And when you're thinking about your experience of being around other people, believe me how they experience you will be the experience you get back from them so if your dull as dishwater don't expect too many people around you to be lit up sounds kind of obvious but when you're looking at where the fun has gone in your life you're looking at why things feel a bit crap it has to start with you! So planning for fun is absolutely vital And you've got to be the difference. You've got to be your own hero, so jump on the TeamSuperDad.com forward slash 15 call get yourself lined up with a Super Dad Discovery Call we'll get you back on track with clarity and confidence putting the power back in your life so you can be the man and dad you want to be creating success at both home and work

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