It Is Time To Show Up In Your Life

00:00 We keep telling ourselves we'll do it later or we sigh that there isn't enough time. The reality though, time doesn't give refunds so what would it take to do it all on purpose this week? If you've been drifting hiding behind busy or waiting for motivation to turn up before you do this one's for you. Roll thing! Welcome to The Jonnie Jensen Show, where modern dads discover how to create the true riches relationships and results they deserve. Get your High Value Man blueprint and join our community at highvaluemanproject.com Let's go!

00:43 Hello men, welcome to The Jonnie Jensen Show. My name is Jonnie Jensen and it's great to have you here back for another episode today we're talking about showing up the idea the reality that we as men have so many instances so many places so many things times opportunities but to show up each Each week, some of them are mandatory. Some of them are our choice. Some of there are... some of them are nice things we would love to do but can't. Some of them are the shit things that we really can't get out of! So what does it take for you to show up for yourself so that you can create the life that you desire? So that you can be the man and dad you want to be for all those people in your life? There is no replacement for YOU!

01:32 You've got to decide where you show up and what, importantly, what you have to do. What you have to put in place for you to be able to show up because it might be right? It might be that you don't have the ability to leave your work. You don't have the capacity to drop something so then the question comes rather than being stuck in that thought The question comes What would it take to be able to do that What are you creating so that instead of being frustrated and about not showing up, so that you feel excited about the possibility of it coming down the line. That's what we're talking about today. It's great to have you here if you've been listening for awhile then thank you so much! Have you left a review? We give a prize for reviewer of the week and the moment I start getting more reviews, the moment we can start giving out prizes

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03:19 How It's Men Up From The Inside Out. The difference is when we master who we are, how we show up and we chase the dreams then that starts to create the high value man life desire. That means we show up as the man and dad we want to be. And that for me through all my experience myself personally of observing the men I grew up around, my dad

04:00 And through all the hundreds of men I've worked with, it's not that we don't know what to do. It's not that we're scratching our heads wishing a miracle would come along. The pain is that we know what we want but it's not happening. We've lost our voice. We've lost our energy and that's what The High Value Man Project is about If you go to highvaluemanproject.com forward slash group, that'll get you in our Basecamp level with a load of free resources and if you go to highvaluemanproject.com forward slash power call then you can book a Power Call with me that's an introduction as an opportunity to discuss the challenges and goals in your life and build a blueprint based on the High Value Man principles around

04:44 I've been networking this week. Uh, I don't really like networking. I don't know if you go networking is it? Is it essential? I dunno. I think if you're trying to raise a profile in your local community for me that would be Kent and London or Southeast of England then it's kind of essential, you know, to be the person that when someone says Oh, I really feel like I'm struggling a bit here. I need to work out how and if I don't do something the wheels are going to come off at home you should speak to Jonnie Jensen and talk about the High Value Man Project . If you're not top of mind for people then how they gonna do that? But showing up isn't

05:28 You know, it's not one dimensional. There's ways there's opportunities there needs for us to show up across our lives in our work for our family, for ourselves, for our friends I was on a podcast no not podcasts I was on a webinar this week with Daniel Priestley awesome guy runs Dent the organization founder of The Keepers Of Influence Programme He was talking about his videos. He's absolutely blowing up on YouTube at the moment, and he was talking about authenticity and bear with me because this links into showing up right? So he was taking questions from people who were like how do I show up on videos every day authentically or it's not authentic to show up on every day. And he said that's bollocks you think I want to do this every day You think that

06:19 You know, uh, that there isn't a day when I would much rather just play with my kids. And he does right? That was part of the webinar was talking about how he's got balance in his life but the showing up part Building his profile across YouTube and LinkedIn is down to him showing up. And he said, like from an authenticity point of view, he doesn't really want to do it every day but he does because that's how we get the results. So there we are networking, showing up raising our profile getting known there we are on social media raising our profile and getting known What it takes to push through those moments is so much reasoning, excuses technical problems lack of knowledge. You know we quite often get put under an easy umbrella of lack of time but if you scratch beneath the surface you may find that it's not really a lack of time that you've got going on It's some other concern some other insecurity or doubt So what is it? And then what's it gonna take to push through that

07:21 There's no magic wand, you can't click your fingers. Right? It comes through a consistent level of behavior over a consistent amount of time. If you do that it... You can't fail to have exponential growth. You can't be bad at something and do it work at it a number of times and get worse as that that's almost impossible I can't think of any scenario where you could like Try something, try it again. Keep trying and somehow you got worse." That's just not how the human machine is built. And if you can think of one please drop me a... don't drop me a tweet I never read my... Does anyone go on Twitter these days? I can't get my head around it but um but you could message me on LinkedIn or flipping call me numbers all over the socials drop me a line tell me what when you do it regularly do you get worse at?

08:17 It's like a riddle. Oh, now I've lost my train of thought. I've taken myself on it on the right tangent. Yeah so you got to have a scratch beneath the surface and look at what's really going on. Look at what's holding you back or the procrastination in that area and when we talk about high value man showing up is a fundamental part of the process because you gotta show up for yourself first and foremost You've got to show up in a way that has you be strong mentally, physically, emotionally. Because that's how you become the better version of yourself. That's how you're able to find the resilience, to find time to manage the team, to work out how to use AI to be more efficient. That's how you break through to showing up

09:03 I think the amount of knowledge you have in particular areas. Watching, I've been watching videos on AI it blows my mind there was a networking event different networking event too this week there we go definitely showing up uh there's a question at one of the tables which was how do you see AI improving your business? The number of people that answered i don't really think it will... You're screwed! You're doomed. Again, there are going to be examples but even if you talk to chat GPT and you pay and you got it on the level five and you know when you're actually using it so its most powerful level and you say I've got a traditional business

09:39 I'm pretty sure from my perspective, I can't think of ways in which AI is going to help me improve my business. Guess what? You then ask AI, can you think of any ways that my business could improve with the use of the latest technology, the latest AI systems and protocols? Ah! Because the level of knowledge you have about something isn't enough. What got you here today, isn't enough to get you where you want to go tomorrow and now we've got this flipping rocket machine that can propel us further forward than you ever could have imagined. You can't learn as much knowledge as AI has and it's at your fingertips now so that's another way of showing up in this area of working on yourself fitness

10:24 It kind of speaks for itself in terms of what that means. But the reasons why people don't get fit, that's about showing up. I don't really like it. Oh, it's a bit boring. Oh! The excuses about not being fit are just so boring, so overused and under-tested. Being overweight and out of shape cannot feel as good as being physically fit. Being able to get out of bed and have more energy, being able to get naked and have good sex like there can't be a scenario where you're like actually being really fat overweight exhausted is brilliant! Again you might have any or example but I don't think there is

11:12 And certainly if you're looking to create a high value life, an existence where you have it all. Where your winning then you gonna have to look at how the machine that you live inside is functioning. You know I was got be careful not to mention talk about things that haven't spoken about before but i'm pretty sure I haven't done a podcast episode since last Saturday when Joe and I went to an awesome party A House is a Feeling summer session, two and half thousand people. Loads of pretty much 90s house music but some of them were 90's house music DJs playing up to date music that makes me sound old right? But playing new tunes right it was bloody brilliant we danced for

12:02 I'm Point being though, you can't do that if your body isn't equipped to dance for that long. There were people there who definitely didn't have it in them to dance that long and I'm sure they had a good time but Joe and I absolutely rinsed it for all it was worth! Now when you are showing up for yourself like that guess what? The people around you love it the people around you are interested in you...you are magnetic You're the guy in the room that looks good That isn't

12:54 Arrghh, I'm gonna have a stupid head. I can't think. It's not like having tickets on yourself, it's not arrogant. Not like oh yeah, I'm the coolest in the room. No it's about feeling in your own skin that you're there and you're looking great. Joe and I were taking pictures at the event and we look good! We are both 51 years old, we are both fit and in those photos we looked great. I want that for you. And you might say it doesn't matter but that is fine but at some point when you get that stark reminder maybe it did matter? And whether it's a health scare or not, do you have the sex life that you want? Yes I do. Okay brilliant! Well... You can't tell me that your wife wouldn't prefer you to look a bit fitter, little bit stronger and little bit slimmer. Okay so enough on focus but to add to that showing up in what you're reading showing up in

13:47 In what you're eating, sleeping literally the machine that you operate. Now showing up in work one of the things for me and I guess I've touched on this already in the AI subject but one of the areas are going to show it up at work It's about knowing and understanding exactly what the latest opportunities and ideas are so that you're at the forefront of the conversation. It takes something to watch videos on YouTube about a new thing, it takes something to go into a chat GPT or similar and actually challenge the way your business runs and

14:24 And look for new opportunities and look for new technologies, new systems to be better than your competitors. It takes showing up if you don't show up if you just rest on your laurels and go through the process and do what you normally do or check the sales reports, do your meetings like is everybody working okay? Yeah we are okay ups and downs I will deal with it that's not showing up that's going through the motions showing up is in your leadership structure and making time This is where the lines start to blur and one area supports another. If you are in your business, the The

15:23 A control over your business. You've got a control over your time that enables you to show up in other ways, so it sounds like hard work but it isn't! It's hard work if we're going to be so bold to call it that...it's work right? Doesn't need to be necessarily hard work. Its' work to put it in place its' work to create that routine. Its' work to build the muscle. Its' work to hire the team and nurture them but then the result comes. That is the result of showing up I've got teenage kids and getting this through to them is really difficult. It's easier to keep up than it is to catch up, I tell them and that's because at their level, I don't need them to be performing at the highest possible level. I don't want to put that pressure on them. I want them to show up so that everything's handled so that when he gets to GCSE next year for my boy, everything's taken care of. He's not trying to cram it all into one

16:15 You know, one month he's not busy doing homework when it'd rather be scoring goals for the academy team that he has worked so hard to get into. He showed up to get into that team but now what you've got to do is show up so he can be the player he wants to be in that team. So he can be the top scorer in the team let alone the league which there is a potential to do If you're I've shown up there in a way as a leader who's got it all nailed. George McGarrin, a cool dude from America if you look back at way back three years maybe into the podcast he was on the show and he shared this with me. He's like one of his big things is I work like four hours a week! And it sounds like American nonsense right? But George isn't about nonsense that's what he's created

17:17 He's built these successful businesses. He's put the team in place, he's worked out how the machine needs to operate so that he can have the money, have the success and maintain the family lifestyle that he wants. He showed up! He made it work and if you don't show up in work and handle that then you won't be able to show up for your family and the relationships that matter to you most. Showing up for people in your life is absolutely vital having them know You're available, that they're important. And when you getting into the realms of relationships and showing up it's an always evolving thing. And it probably is in all these areas right? But when you're thinking about other people who are really close to you and what they need from you, it's different than just

18:01 It's different. As Jo said to me last week, I just need when I'm with you when we've gone and booked tickets and we're doing something together, I just want to feel like I've got all of you she was talking about my kids ringing me and asking me for money in the middle of a party I'm like, they're my kids. She's like yeah but why now? Why not this morning or why not tomorrow morning it wasn't an emergency and they knew and they're not little kids anymore so that's teaching them about showing up are they showing up for me Now sticking with kids i made it really important for me when they were little when they were primary school in America think they call it junior school

18:42 To be there, to be there for those shows for the morning assemblies. For the sports days it took something and I was fortunate enough to be my own boss, to be managing my own time, to be able to show up. I remember, I think we all remember back to that time of standing on the touchline or not standing on the pitch looking to the touch line is my dad there? And when he was, The feeling was flipping awesome and It's not just that I wanted that for my kids, like oh, that's nice. My dad's there but I wanted to instill in them the idea, the knowledge that I've got your back, that I'm here and

19:20 For me, when you're able to do that and I realize not all guys can. Right? So I'm not criticizing you if you've got a job, if you working hard, if you're not in a position to do that, I'm not criticizing you in any way but it might mean that you have to double your efforts in other ways so they know you've got your back or what's it going to take for you to go to your boss and say look I need to make sure that I'm at a certain number of my kids' school events for the next few years, just whilst they're little. By the time you get to secondary school, secondary schools don't even really let you go to these things anyway or they're in the evening so you can have to show up not just at the event but you show up for yourself if you work with someone else at their desk if it's your team, you show up by organizing your day so that you can turn turn up half ten leave at halftwo

20:12 What's it going to take that is showing up? Those awkward conversations, the awkward conversations that you need to have there with people and the responsibility they need to take on or the commitments that you need to make. To be able to say I'm going to be late and you're not gonna see me tomorrow but i will be doing this afterwards And that crosses over into our relationships with our significant others, with our wives and partners. How are you showing up for those people? What does it look like for them when you're constantly on your phone or when you're constantly distracted by something else, or when you get home and you go off and do random shit! Get your laptop out... Go play Xbox. It blows my mind that there are men out there who get home and go and play Xbox. Surely surely

20:58 Your, your relationship matters to you more than that. And if it doesn't the relationship isn't good enough like what's going on? If she says it's fine okay fair dues again, if it works for you I'm not here to criticize but I want to hang out with my kids. I wanna hang out with my girlfriend uh... You know they're the relationships that matter to me and I want to hang out with friends Showing up for my social life. Having people know that I'm, that they're on my mind and that I've called them and I'm interested but I want to see them but I'm sharing links to parties we're going too no one ever bloody comes maybe don't like me! Don't message me if that's the case

21:35 I'll live in blissful ignorance on that one. Thanks very much, but you know just because we're going out and we're going to these parties and these events it doesn't mean that i'm not gonna let my friends know and invite them! And if they don't come? I'll make new friendships... That's the point. I'm out. I'm meeting people. I'm having a laugh. I'm lit up. I'm energized. I've got money. We like showing up so that we create the life that we desire. Then there is You know, the amount of fun and adventure you're having in your life. And you're showing up for yourself in a way that you are maximizing this opportunity on earth on this rock that we've got these 60 if you're unlucky, 80 years to really squeeze the juice out of life read a great book. In fact I've read loads of books in the last couple of weeks summer holidays and long drives and things like that

22:30 The Expectation Effect, talking about what happens to people who are old and expect the end of their life to be this kind of downward spiral. No, spiral is a bit strong! This downward slide into old age boredom illness death Like many people in old age have that thought about this is what it's going to mean. And then you've got this other group of people who are looking forward to retirement, they're healthy, they're energized, they've got plans, they're excited about the time ahead. They're not fearful about getting ill. If we do, we do if we don't, we'll deal with it.

23:09 The expectation of we're going to be okay. The expectation of it's going to be fun. If you live like that, if you have that expectation then you are far more likely to encounter it whether it's God the universe law or attraction which is basically a quantum mechanics like Who you are is energy and if your energy is positive and fun, and filled with positive expectation then what you're going to do is attract more of that to you. That is showing up! Booking tickets, planning weekends away having people over for dinner... When I see men in groups Facebook groups and whatnot talking about how bored they are how anxious they are how depressed they are How they can't cope And then people

23:55 Go and rub their backs and tell them it's going to be okay, and they say yeah but. The reality is that they weren't interested in the solution. They weren't interested in showing up, they were interested in how they felt about what they thought they were stuck in just sitting there looking at running their hands through the shit that they were in. That isn't showing up. That's just sitting in it. Showing up is asking questions. Oh this is interesting! How do we get out of this? This is interesting. What have other people done here? This is interesting where would I go to have more fun Fun and get myself out of this. That is showing up now you've got to be honest with yourself about what's going on in your world that's having you not show up if it's a relationship, that's not working if it's a job or that you don't enjoy our business that you're fed up with running like what's it gonna take? And that is the magic of this subject Dan Priestley, you know showing up in his videos

24:48 He's blowing up across the internet right now. He's been on Stephen Bartlett's Diary of a CEO thing like three times, nuts! And that you know having known him for the last 10 years it's not an overnight success it's ten years of talking about the same thing leading to becoming an overnight success showing up in your relationship if you're fed up with the way things are going and you haven't had difficult conversations or each time you do you flange out and don't say what you really wanted to say you're not showing up And guess what? Then you're not getting the experience you want. You're not getting the life you desire or deserve, in fact, you are getting a life you deserve. You're getting a shit life because you're not showing up! So that's the topic for today I'll do it later i don't have time It's too hard No they're just cop-outs What's it gonna take to create the time What's it gonna take to create the space That's how you show up Now

25:40 I suppose they'd give you some actions to take here that would be of use, wouldn't it? What are we going to do Jonnie? You've just rabbited on for half an hour. So if you're still listening at this point... Literally make a list of the areas in life where you're experiencing some level of frustration or if you scored each area of life as we do in the fire code, where are you at between one and ten? And if you're anything less than seven in an area what do you need to be able to show up more. What are the actions that you could take and then sort start to circle them this is one that would shift the dial this is one I could do easily I'm

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