How Not To Go Speed Dating - The Wrap Up 49

00:00 Welcome, yes it is that time of the week and you are here with Team Superdad. It's great to have you on board for The Wrap Up. Roll theme! Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time more money more fun you are not alone your on team super dad hello Glen good evening welcome to yourself and everybody joining us here on the wrap up. How the devil are you young man?

00:36 I'm really good, i'm really good. Good to hear! Just sitting back getting ready for a quick chat Yes mate yes mate uh the wrap up it's our weekly jaunt through all things The Last Seven Days Glen aka dating dad on twitter and myself Jonnie Jensen creator and founder of TeamSuperDad and the Hero Academy program We are dads, modern dads sorting out the world so you don't have to. We've given ourselves that lofty position Glen really anything you want to decide about yourself you can put it in the description of a podcast or YouTube video and that is who you are basically. I'm glad its me making the description and not other people The mean words people say about me on the internet would not be safe for work for most instances

01:30 I went to a conference thing in LA, in JT Fox. I've heard of Michael J Fox? Yeah this guy's called J T Fox he's like pretty much self-proclaimed dude and it was a good event it was fun I got a photo with Sylvester Stallone and another photo with Al Pacino But, and in fact I'll tell you all about this event because it's quite funny. But they had a guy on there and he was like... It was a cross between influencer marketing social media making money online and stuff so they had this guy on there and he was the US' number one tipster and his name is Wayne something right but uh he said do you know how i became known as America's number one tipster?

02:25 Tell me Wayne. He goes, I just started calling myself it. I started banging out press releases and you know requests to be on TV shows and Wayne whatever his name is number one tipster and then so people just start calling him it like okay I think it's mad. But people, you believe the reality which you're told. It's kind of a Truman Show thing and... We'll get back to that later! People believe what they say about them. That's why my kids believe i'm a competent parent. It's the only way to do it. You just say you know what you're doing and by God people believe it

03:03 So if they come down one day and find you sat in your own piss, flipping shaved half your beard off and three bottles of empty whiskey around you that will break the space-time continuum for them all. For the kids? No they'll just say dad come on it's a school day come on get ready Well listen, for anyone joining us for the first time I can see people coming online. We've got some comments coming in already. Nadine says... Supermum here! Good to have you Nadine. Look at that. Hey Nadine! She said... Nadine says Monday do super mums do Mondays? Supermums do every day twice

03:50 I think so. For the record, uh i do have the URL TeamSuperMum and um and the...I have a big vision of of TeamSuperMum happening but not because it has to but because I want it too! I never wanted this to be an only men thing right? It's not like dads are brilliant mums aren't definitely on the opposite end of that spectrum There's a lot of single parent groups. For anyone not been on the show before, Glen and I are both separated so if you like the phrase single dad, single parent we are that! i'm not a big fan of that that single dad single it's got a lot of connotations with it and people polarize around it gets a bit toxic it's a bit shit really

04:39 Yeah people like, oh bless! Oh it's sad isn't it? But basically every time I mention that I'm a single dad the first thing I can see behind their eyes is what did you do how did you fuck this up and yeah look oh it's fine. You've only got them for the weekends then you can get back to your... No! Single Dad! Dad! That's what I am. Dad. I just happen to also be single. Yes exactly big distinction there The Dean says she's got a mate she can introduce us to. That's good, well we are open to all offers... Only me! Jonnie is very much taken Oh yeah sorry categories of offers We have categories in the offers wheel The romance category is closed for me at present and quite possibly for awhile actually for the foreseeable future

05:31 But yeah, TV appearances, large cash payments for minimal effort. What else would I do? Oh probably my best offer ever was a free holiday to be on TV and get matched with the partner of your dreams I mean that seems like a wonderful combination of words, i've got to say. Yeah that's how i ended up on the villa yeah uh before we forget right what are we doing here right this is this is the TeamSuperDad podcast The Wrap Up. We do... we intend to do two podcasts a week and one of them is like a value lots of interesting stuff useful things things to make money manage your mindset get fit

06:25 Be a better parent, have more fun. Really to just help us on our way I learned a lot of stuff the hard way right and as i was piecing myself back together after the flipping separation and all that I was like what if I'd known all this beforehand? What if all the things I've read and learnt, the people, the experiences, the coaches, the courses... What if I had known all this up front what would it have been like? It's like we'd have been fucking brilliant! You wouldn't be able to listen to yourself Would you have actually listened to yourself though? The future version of you goes back to teach you. You're like, no what are you talking about! You're an old man... you don't know what it is like okay?! Like Biff in Backstreet 2. Give me the almanac without a sporting event you would have just some sort of level of proof to say that you actually know what's going to happen yeah

07:20 Nadine, have you been drinking? First of all bloody good to have your comments. I do enjoy the comments not always some night every week we get comments so if you are watching LinkedIn Facebook Twitch on Twitter anymore thanks for them turning off but Facebook of course then will welcome your comment and if I see them that's always a challenge It's for getting them there. I will read them out if you are a dad, if you know a dad who wants to create the life he desires not allow him feel stuck in fitness focus finance family and fun then come on over to the TeamSuperDad community we would love to have you there that is teamsuperdad.com forward slash group

07:59 And that's free. We welcome you in, we chat help support laugh joke whatever it takes and not just people who want help as well sometimes people who can give help you know yes a team and every sometimes need leaders I mean followers you need your all positions available in the team so if you've got some if you know what dad whose you think actually no more either is a really good dad send him over let him share the knowledge! Well that is Gold, Stuart, Stuart, Stuart, no bollocks. The guy I had on the podcast the other day he's him and I become like we chat basically it'd be helpful if i remembered his name. Stuart Roberts! Oh I always struggle if someone's got a first name and second name that are two first names that always throws me

08:52 One of our best mates called Matt Lawrence. Stuart Roberts, as in two first names? Stuart Roberts he was on the podcast with me. Never trust him. I just want to be anonymous! Listen we've got to just check back in with Nadine because Nadine has put herself forward It's going to be on the next live chat with us. Nadine, you'd actually be very welcome we are totally open for that so next Monday... oh no! Next Monday is the 50th show Nadine We're just working out what we're gonna do for that but the Wrap Up 51 Nadine you are more than welcome let's chat I'll circle back round and pick you up Hey honey

09:32 What you doing here? We'd love to have you Nadine, that would be bloody brilliant. Yeah mums are welcome good mums! Good mums, mums are welcome. Here's the classic thing right people this idea that there's no good people about This is what really annoys me. I went speed dating a couple of days ago at the weekend because i was meant to be going out day drinking and people I was going day drinking with let me down they couldn't do it for whatever reason, so I thought you know what? I want to go out! I've not been out for ages so I'm going out so I went speed dating

10:10 I popped it online on Twitter and the amount of people who were just like giving me, not giving me abuse but giving speed dating abuse. And just not being up for it and not wanting to do it and those sort of things... It's like how are you going to have lunch? Now where did we start what did I interrupt you on saying because there was a point No, much like Dory. Here's the thing the reason I've forgotten is because you talked about speed dating and my brain has taken me back to the experiences i've had of speed dating which in itself it's a story Of course, because most subjects I've got a bizarre experience to share on that subject as regular listeners to the podcast will know. So yeah! I will tell you my bizarre speed dating story... What i can say about speed dating is it's as shit as it is brilliant! That in itself makes it worth the experience? Oh that was what it was everyone's going on oh there are no good people at speed dating and there are no good people turn up and I'm sitting there thinking

11:14 Well, you turned up and you think you're a good person so therefore there's a good chance other people who think they're good people will also be turning up. It's like the fact that you exist proves that you're not impossible as a person and there are loads of people out there just like you who might turn up as well it might be shit might be amazing probably somewhere in between but the fact that you exists and your awesome means other people can be awesome too Yeah, people that say there's no good people in the world or there are no decent blokes out there. There is every chance that there is at least as many good blokes as bad blokes surely? Or there are at least as many... The idea that everyone is shit maybe you're just good at finding shit people how about that!

12:01 I think there's a law or something. I'm going to try and type about it as we go, you know one of these like Murphy's Law or that sort of thing? There is a law which basically says most people think they're above average and that's not how averages work It's a basic concept, most people are in there and the average is the average. And then you can't have most of you above average because then the average would just go up a little bit! So yeah most people overestimate their abilities in almost every way shape and form I know I'm one of those... I think I'm competent

12:40 I think i'm competent. I think, I hope i'm competent! I'm on like a wing and a prayer. I'm pretty sure i'm competent and on that basis i'm going for it Well in the army you're in charge until someone more in charge comes along basically and until someone tells me i'm not competent... ...i'm gonna take the best part of my Dunning-Kruger curve and just try to live in that first bit Are you familiar with Dunning Kruger? No, it sounds like I'm familiar with Cruder and Dorfmeister the two kind of chill house DJ producers. Nadine says she's going to come and sort us two out and have a cuddle well my good lady Jo actually has been sorting me out and does give an exceptional cuddle but depending on what other categories you can sort us out in Nadine you're very welcome

13:36 Yeah, but that's the point I'm saying is we're going to go. What do you want to find out about this? This cruder dude is there are lots of good people in the world and more you believe there's good people in the world, the more likely you're going to attract those people. You're more likely gonna find yourself it going into a networking event or party and be convinced everyone in there is gonna shit You're going to come across as a bit sketchy as you go in, a bit of a naysayer. A bit of a party pooper and no one wants to be around that so then guess what? You prove yourself right but no one's friendly well that's because you've got like flipping kiss of death written on your forehead! You miserable shit

14:16 It is scary, you're right. It is about being the person you want to be and it's amazing how that kind of attracts more people like you and you'll find misery loves company but so does joy! You know, people who are sad attract more sad people to them. People who are happy attract happy people and it's not universal when there's obviously caveats and circumstance but generally speaking if you're a positive person you end up surrounding yourself with other positive people because you just vibe so if your surrounding yourself with the people that bring you down It might be something that you can think about yourself what am I doing that might attract those people into my life? And thinking oh what can I do change that

14:53 Yeah, my mind is going back to a night in Brighton. We had been out partying okay so we were pretty cut in multiple ways right there was about 10-15 of us and we bowled into this pub I don't even remember the name it's on the corner uh in the north lanes heading up towards the station and we bowled in there thinking something was gonna be on and it wasn't on but we were already there we bought a drink And so we were way louder than anyone else in the pub and then my

15:30 former girlfriend Emma, she found a roll of you know that electrical tape? Oh yeah. Stretchy very sticky but and it was... Sex tape! It could be sex tape I've never had that experience but now i know what to use for sex tape but I could possibly have that experience so uh pretty sure Jack ended up sweet talking the DJ into turning it out much louder Emma's now going around the pub giving everyone like Headbands and ninja bracelets and this sort of stuff. In about 45 minutes the whole place was going off simply because we'd wandered in there accidentally midway through a crazy weekend, and anybody can bring that but if you're one of those people who goes into a parenting group and starts moaning about how shit your life is well all you're gonna get is a load of people going oh yeah isn't it

16:25 What a load of bollocks. Tell me about this bell curve Kruger and Dorfmeister Dunning-Kruger, so I am going to share my screen so that you can actually see this um i don't think i've ever shared any of my screens on this. This is Glen's screen sharing cherry I've pressed all the buttons so hopefully you can see this. Look how serious that is! We need to put a block of bulbs in the corner or something. Honestly, this is one of those things when I learned it once they changed my life but certainly it was lightbulbs right? Dunning-Kruger effect

17:07 Now this is something whereby you got two scales. On the x-axis is where you know nothing about something right away through to actually your guru, You know everything about it and then on the y axis Is how confident you are so at the bottom is no confidence whatsoever on top is high confidence And what you'll see if you can see the screen If not then you just have to visualize the graph At the start of something when you know basically nothing about it You go up what's called the peak of Mount Stupidity. You've got high confidence because you don't know all the stuff, as far as you know this is easy skiing! I can go down a hill and it's straightforward and your confidence is high then usually break a bone um... And you realize actually as the more you learn about something the less you know about it because you're learning about all the other areas that you know nothing about

17:56 And you start going down into this valley of despair thinking, I'm rubbish. I don't know anything about it. It's got really low confidence and it's only if most people when they're starting a new hobby or Starting a new lifestyle trying out with something or making a change They go up the peak peak amount stupidity when they've got all their enthusiasm and stuff Then it goes a bit wrong and they realise, they go into the valley of despair and they stop doing it. And they think I'm rubbish! It's only those people who just persevere and just work on it, work on it spend more time get better who actually go up this slope of enlightenment...I did not make up these names to the plateau of sustainability um and you have to stick through with something you have to to go through the learning curve it doesn't all just go straight up like a hockey stick it goes up then it goes down

18:44 and then along you have to go through the Valley of Despair unless you're going to get somewhere proper. And that is the Dunning-Kruger effect, and you'll see it every time you introduce someone to a new skill or topic they'll be really enthusiastic at the start then they'll get less enthusiastic when I realize how little they know and as they get better they will start realizing this is okay, I can do this! I want to see a picture of Dunning and Kruger, right? Are they professors with like monocles and top hats or do they look like Cheech & Chong? That's a good question. It is a good question! I genuinely don't know what they look like These are 1896 Donner and Kruger or 1967

19:30 on a hippie commune. I think that's more likely to be fair, absolutely but yeah i love all these little bits of knowledge. Clever stupid is where you're just really excited about something you don't know any better you just go for it and uh and then you have instant success because you just... It bloody annoys me right there's a bloke I got chatting to about a year ago He created a group called Punk Rock Dads. He hit some sort of sweet spot around the start of lockdown and stuff, and so he instantly had 4 000 members in this group called Punk Rock Dads! So now he's messaging me saying how do I manage this? What do i do? And it was like...I thought he was taking the piss?! I said no, forget what I thought he was doing but then he goes No honestly, I just started this thing last week for a bit of fun and I've now got four thousand members

20:31 There must have been no group for punk rock dads on Facebook and then he made one and it was literally Field of Dreams. Create it, and they shall come. Did you see? I got a little bit... The New York Yankees played a game last week in a cornfield. Oh! Field of Dreams style. Celebrate the 30th anniversary of the movie And Kevin Costner pitched the place, here we go. Kevin Costner leads Yankees and White Sox from a cornfield so they pretty much went back to the area cut the field but they made the bloody movie right? They had six million people watch the game highest ever like

21:25 In modern day terms, the highest viewing of a game. It's pretty damn impressive! Yeah and I seem to remember someone talking about it saying actually it was like a really good game and I don't know what these words mean but something like it was settled on the bottom of the ninth whatever like... Bottom of the ninth that is like Hollywood. It's literally there's the game is tied you're going into the 9th and the cool thing for me is they've got the Chicago White Sox are playing the Yankees My family in Chicago, they've got like a bit of a split. There's a couple few cluster who are White Sox fans. White Sox are Southside and the rest of them are the Cubs and for a time The White Sox have been better than the Cubs then the Cubs won the World Series a couple years ago It's a bit like... Oh! Have you noticed we've got different? I did notice that yeah. I pressed the wrong button because we had the thingy bob shared We had the screen share

22:26 We did have the screen share going. We've never done that before? We haven't, we haven't and just while I'm on a screen share tick this is David Dunning it's not quite a 19th century monocle as Dunning and this is Justin Kruger lovely gentlemen they're just really quite sensible you know American like psychologists or doctorates, archetypal professors. Okay well if we could see someone either knows that they've got a wild side and wants to send us some pictures in that'd be great or failing that and they're a good photoshop person take those pictures that we just shared jazz them up into some kind of wild funky acid 60s hippie uh stoned moment where they came up with this

23:19 And even if you're not a good Photoshop artist, try it anyway because at first you'll be really confident and then you might get a little bit shit and then you'll dip down into the valley of despair. But just persevere and keep layering stuff on until it looks good! Yeah this is the perfect segue back into speed dating I had a rule about speed dating, right? So when I... so i mentioned Emma before right. Awesome woman! One of the funnest, FUNNEST women I've ever known right um so I had a good time dated for a few years broke up

24:00 But after that I was trying to piece myself back together. Hadn't dated for sort of four years and was never that good at it in the first place, now i found myself around the early 30's thinking holy cow how do I do this? So the obvious thing was let's go speed dating! I was quite daunted by the whole idea of it didn't really have a wingman to go with so I decided that I would have to go three times because if I went once and it was good That might have been a one-off freak occurrence. If I went once and it was shit, well how do i know? I did just not pick a bad speed dating event why should I write off all speed dating events simply because one was bad! I need to go to three best of three whoever multiple data points yeah if it's good twice it was okay if it was bad twice so

24:51 It was weird and crazy. And the first one was pretty boring and didn't really get any, any matches. The second one again bit weird Well the weird thing about speed dating is as you get round to the sort of later tables, obviously people have had a few drinks and then they start saying things like Have you met the weird bloke with the top hat on yet? Or like have you sat with Sue? Sue's old way up. Like really up! And she's got bad blood. It's kind of like the room takes on A life of its own, you start to hear things before you get to them. It's like a roller coaster but the second time I went I did get matched with someone and it went a bit weird turned out she was also from Maidstone and this is where i should have realized red flags are an important thing to take note of right? Red flags are an important thing to take note of

25:52 Not that people who work in Pizza Hut or it's anything wrong with them, whatever. But she told me how she worked in Pizza Hut. She also told me where she came from which wasn't the best part of town but she would like kind of move to Brighton and start a whole new life and stuff. Then we went out and got very drunk on a Tuesday night and ended up basically in the walkabout I mean that's a classy evening if ever. So obviously Tuesday night wasn't very busy and we were there like bleh! It is time to say goodbye so i put her in her taxi and i said uh yeah take it easy had a snog, like that was fun off you go

26:33 So the taxi pulls away, then the taxi stops. Then she leans out of the taxi and says why don't you come back? I'm like okay so i got in the taxi and made it clear to her yes this is cool but don't think I'm coming back expecting anything because I kind of wanted to be a gentleman set expectations I was also a bit scared to be honest. Oh man if a woman's inviting you to go but just enjoy your evening! No, i know but that's where i fell short in all my dating escapades right wasn't the uh Who's the man that... Barney from How I Met Your Mother. There is a whole separate conversation, he is one of the most complex and well written characters in all of sitcom history but that's a whole different discussion for another day. Barney Rubble? No not Barney Rubble! Barney from How I Met Your Mother

27:25 Very, very different combinations of characteristics there. So no I don't have a lot of confidence in that...I'm not the like the Charano de Bergerac or whatever, i'm not like the confident lover you know so we say we go back to house and already put this kind of set some sort of safe space then we get there and it's late, we're already blind drunk so she opens a bottle of wine! I'm

28:07 My brain is a little bit like, you know in the cartoons when they get the devil and the angel or like Ally McBeal where she kind of imagines things. Or Alan Partridge where he has those kind of flashbacks and he's dancing there in his leather pants and stuff that right? So my brain does the same sort thing so it's one part me going this is a bit mad um the other parts going shut up this is great go with the flow right! Next thing...so it feels like it's moving and progressing right So I go and I unclip her bra in the kind of magic one-handed move, right? And she freaks out. Bearing in mind she's got her hands down my pants and stuff right? She freaks out and starts screaming at me like...

28:55 And then says, get out. Like literally, so literally throws me off I don't know where i am! She goes like don't give a fuck, get out! I was like whoa and I lost my jacket out of it. I lost like a 90 quid uh jacket out of it. Literally was one of those touch-me-don't touch-me... I think that's the plan all along she just wanted your jacket It was pale blue. I actually, when i think back to that jacket it was absolutely rancid but I thought it was pretty cool at the time so maybe you could be right she wanted a pale blue jacket. So yeah speed dating, made stone rough area pizza hut Brighton walkabout drunk

29:36 I'm not going to go into the details of this podcast, but it's a great podcast. Looking around the room, I know i wasn't the worst of the options available. We'll just say that and you don't expect anything, you don't deserve anything but I was just surprised out of the entire room not a single match so yeah maybe I've just got to up my chat game? Maybe I just don't have enough words to say in the right order No! I think you're wrong Glen. I don't think their problem lies with you. I think the problem lies with

30:23 Gone speed dating with all the wrong intentions and agenda. The idea is to meet someone, not meet a husband or go for a sex party orgy or whatever but out of the 20 people surely you wanna... like a quiz show! Surely you want to make it through to the next round. Yeah, absolutely. Pick one at least! Humour the organiser I think it's not put me off and I will definitely do again. I've done it loads and I'll end up doing it again but there will come a stage where I'm literally only going to go to this because iIm having a night out. I know that nothing's gonna happen. How many people... Did you get... were you boozy?

31:08 No, no. I mean the guy next to me he was...I don't know how much he'd had before we started but after about five conversations i could see him slurring and he was getting slower and slower to move on to the next person because he did not got the words out properly How many minutes did you get? Because that's one of those variables Four minutes There were about 20 people so On the scale of sort of hot Were there any hotties there? Yeah, absolutely. There was some because obviously you've got two things, physical attraction and interesting as an individual

31:49 And so you can have loads of people who are really physically attractive but actually boring, loads of people who are not that attractive but really interesting and every combination of those two things. So what you're obviously after the interesting attractive people and whatever you find attractive course. There were definitely enough there that I was thinking you know well if she said yes on me i'd definitely be interested in going out and getting another drink afterwards Yeah, the next round. It's like Takeshi's Castle you've got to get through to the next round! That for me a first date is never an actual date A first date is your representative meeting my representative We're both on best behavior we're both testing the waters checking to make sure they're not just after my jacket that sort of thing that standard practice

32:38 Otherwise you end up losing some very interesting clothing. And so it's only after that you start getting to know people and getting relaxed and get into it, and that's where the fun begins! People just... I don't know whether they just want perfection right out of the box? And if they don't get it then they're not interested. In four minutes!! In four minutes, exactly. I can do a lot in four minutes! Have you got a go-to question? Have you got a primer or real good starter question? No no it varies massively depending on the person and it has to be within seconds, within fractions of second sitting down whether you're going to get on enough to have an interesting conversation so if you haven't then you go back onto the dry questions what do you do for a living where do you live all that sort shit

33:22 Are you the lady that has snakes? Everyone's talking about you! If you get that instant bit of connection then it just flows, a conversation just goes and there is nothing in there. With some people I've ended up making stuff up with them and daring them to be pretending they're professional badminton players or something like And you just end up getting into a bit of rapport because all you're trying to do is be memorable, not what I'm trying to do. Is the memorable enough for those that are interested in so that afterwards if i go up to them at the bar they'll spend a couple of minutes talking to me at least and we can actually gauge whether there is any sort of connection. Ah and was this in London or Maidstone? This was Mayfair in London oh really really nice place it was a converted church

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35:03 No, you're saying cheap. A good price? Yeah ridiculously cheap for beer in London! Amazing so you can just hang out there and just drink and eat all day long Not as cheap as Wetherspoons... No but that means you're in a Weatherspoon's So I'd quite happily pay the extra whatever I needed to pay we had breakfast in spoons yesterday uh kids were desperate to go out for breakfast and they're not..I mean to be fair Wetherspoons is so cheap for breakfast Eggs, bacon beans toast coffee hard to mess it up you know. It's standard fare you know it has its place and if it wasn't for the batshit mental views of the owner and founder I'd have a greater love for it but he's just a scumbag. Who is a man who owns Whirlspins?

36:05 Yes, yeah I'm assuming you can hear me now but yeah. I don't even have to say an alleged scumbag in my opinion he's a scumbag for the way he treated his staff during Covid-19 that's not even taking into account his views on Brexit and all that sort of stuff i fundamentally disagree with most of what he does and says but they do cheap breakfast I have to agree, he has got some challenging views for sure. But what's I going to say as I was telling you this earlier? Oh we went to Morrisons today! Morrisons is a UK supermarket that if you go to big enough Morrisons they've got a CAF restaurant somewhere where you can have a hot meal attached to it so they've decided jazz up not even jazzed up the menu it's the same stuff

37:01 But they've jazzed up how it's presented and served, which is absolutely farcical because it's still a supermarket calf. And so my kids didn't eat what they...and we had basically a meltdown. It was thoroughly disappointing because what you really want is chips, beans, sausage not fancy chips in a tin cup and a soussant of beans You just want it on a plate, bosh-bosh-bosh The lasagna, my boy has had Morrison Lasagna for years. We go there after school especially after the breakup we like it easy kids, wine night done and so yeah the lasagna comes out today it's got cherry tomatoes and a bit of rocket salad on the side and he's like what's this?

37:54 It's lasagna, but it's all done like you're in a swanky pub. It's not what you're there for is it? It really isn't! You've got to know what you're getting into which is why... God I feel like I'm going screen share crazy here but I'm gonna do it for a third time because I don't know if I've ever mentioned this site before but it is one of the best sites to go on when you fancy your breakfast. Oh, FriApps are rated around... is it global or just the UK? Just to you. Okay, probably just the UK. It isn't. So you and I live pretty much in or near Maidstone so let's go Maidstone, UK we're going to do a search hit the search button put in Maidstone and this will tell you where all the local got zoomed in there where all the decent FriApps are not just where they are but then it'll also give you the chance to go in and rate them

38:52 The Coxheath Cafe in Coxheath, a good fry up for Maystone. Because that's what you need. And sometimes you find yourself in just a strange place and your fancy a fry up, but you've got no idea where to go! And then when you do that are they going to be proper good? Are they gonna have tea in a pot or a mug? Oh look these ones do it as a mug. Tomatoes when they serve them are fresh or tinned? You can have both all right over here. They have black pudding unfortunately they do chips on it as well so... But it gives you an idea of what's what and also for some of the obviously the ones

39:36 The Oakdean Cafe, a great old fashioned biker and truck stop cafe well located at Brands Hatch or Kent's Country Roads. I recommend having a look at iFancya Fry Up.co.uk, give it a butcher's next time you need some bacon in your mush! Nadine, our lady of the night, wants to know why we're going into these cheap places?

40:16 I think that's just what blokes do, isn't it? We just like caffs. Sit down get the paper get the bet, back in the day we'd go and get the betting slips and sit and have a caff and that really was back in the day. Well it's weird if you find a really good caff quantity and quality rarely go hand-in-hand And so you'll find that you might have really nice sausages where they could name the bloody pig that it was and, um... They can tell you which way the field that the potatoes grew in was pointed. I don't give a shit about any of that but then they'll give you like one tiny little tomato A little chipolata One streaky bacon bit and a little quail's egg and cost you 20 quid

40:58 I love fine dining and you've, i think i've shared with you some of my fry ups. It's an art form but sometimes you just need a lot of it to soak up whatever was in there from the night before yeah it's gotta be a plate of food! A whole plate of food Whole plate of food. The worst people for that, shittiest place to go and eat I have no idea how this chain still exists and i think they're pretty much all closing after lockdown Frankie & Benny's. Oh yeah they're not great. Atrocious food. It's a charade, a mockery, an absolute crime against chefs around the world

41:44 I tell you what, if you know...I'd like to actually do... You know bottomless brunches where you turn up somewhere and they say right? You've got two hours and here's the menu. You can have as much of it there's a place called I think it's like Wings or something like that where you basically have as many chicken wings as you want and free champagne or whatever it is for the time you're there and you stay there. They call it bottomless brunch If someone was to say fry-up bottomless brunch and X amount of booze as well, I'll be there tomorrow That's Dubai, isn't that a big thing in Dubai? It is in London. There are some great places in London I think we need to go out on a bit of a recce and find the best bottomless brunch in London! I can tell you pretty much the best brunch I've had both in food and location this is a good tip for anyone visiting Chicago if they still do it

42:37 It's a bit faster than Eggs Benedict isn't it? is the top floor is like the, whatever, the 150th floor or something. It's like the ninth tallest building in the world which when you're in the realms of tallest buildings that's good enough right? Plus it's on the lakefront so it's pretty epic and yeah... So then the flipping restaurant is one floor down. They cost about 25 bucks to go to the top floor well go one floor down and get the 40 buck breakfast brunch thing absolutely epic

43:19 Absolutely brilliant, that's definitely one of the best brunches I've had. Sounds awesome! I would happily give that a go but like i say you pick up the travel and I'll pick up the brunch Okay so we need to do business deal... okay well I do have a plan for TeamSuperDad is what one of the visions for TeamSuperDad was always because I got my family in Chicago was to create a reason to be in Chicago slash Florida on a more regular basis on business So TeamSuperDad and The Hero Academy and the Firewalking events are perfect platform to have weekend events, have retreats, community meetups and mastermind meetings in Chicago. So obviously as one of the presenters senior executive members of TeamSuperDad team Glen that you're in on that so in fact let's book out

44:13 By the way, the restaurant rotates on a circle thing. Let's book out and have our do the brunch there! Okay you heard it here first we are going to the John Hancock for dinner. Dean wants to know why we do this on a Monday night? I've got an idea Dean...I'm absolutely with you um and you never know what the next week is gonna bring but uh we do it on Monday just so he can wrap up the weekend just gone and uh to hang out and guys We don't get the chance to just hang out with other people in the pub anymore, you know. This is this is the modern day and age and sometimes it's nice just to chat connect and shoot a breeze make sure everyone feels slightly less alone but absolutely. Actually Glen, just to hit the nail on the head there when in some of my darkest days pre-breakup after breakup... And this isn't about single dads pick dad breakups,

45:07 This is about men creating the relationships that work. It's about being the kind of guy that our partner is in love with and being the kinda guy who's having as much fun and enjoying life as possible, but in those dark times... I'm talking to you Nadine! In those dark times I got into listening to podcasts massively and some of the funnier ones really were what kept me I've been saying that the conversations, the chit chat especially after uh broke up and first moved into our home this place i'm recording from now um those nights when it was just me were flipping empty and so there was a variety of podcasts I discovered where it was literally like having a bunch of mates there with me kept me sane.

45:56 That's part of what this is, that's part of what this is. And mostly though we do it so that people like Nadine will get in touch and share their views with the world So you've basically made our week, certainly made mine anyway We haven't talked about our weekends by the way did you have a good weekend Glen? Yeah, it was none too shabby. The dating was this weekend the speed dating. It was yeah so I went out and ran to a friend's house for dinner on Friday no she came round mine to mine for dinner on Friday and then Yeah, went out speed dating on Saturday and then just chilling out on Sunday. It was pretty much a first draft of Craig David's work! Then did my blood giving today I don't know what number i'm up to now but if you don't give blood do it there's no reason for you not to and if it's just because you're scared of needles then I will come around and find you and slap you because everyone needs to give blood

46:55 I'm embarrassed to say, and it's not like iIm horribly embarrassed. I've done it once! Why would you go once? Go now! Once you've done it... You can book it online these days if you like that sort of thing there's even an app It's so easy you book it you turn up and because of Covid-19 the last few times I've done it because of Covid It's none like the old days where there was delay after delay after delay. Bosh, you're in there! Bosh they see you and yes they ask you questions about why have you had sex with anyone? I have to say no because i'm fucking single um and uh and then they needle in needle out no chit chat bang gone done it's easy and quick and you help save someone's life

47:39 Well that's the reason I first gave blood. The only time I've given blood, so I declare on the podcast tonight that i will book in and go and give blood this month or you know in the next 30 days I will go and give blood. I wanted to do it for the bone marrow thing there are people dying because they can't find a bone marrow match And if we were all logged into the system, most of these people would not die because it would be obvious who their match was and we'd be able to go an give some bone marrow. What does one need bone marrow transplant for? Leukemia? Yes. And kids have leukemia right? We can save flipping kids as well! Exactly every single person watching this listening to this that are around you today it's such a simple thing to do

48:29 Can you, and you don't get to say where your blood goes but realistically could you honestly sit there with a loved one dying in pain? There's a car accident. There's cancer. There's childbirth complications all these things that could happen and you've got no control over it knowing that you have done nothing to contribute make their lives better to help save someone's lives when you could do it in...in..in a lunch break It's just it blows my mind so yeah I'm a donor. I'm glad in the UK now it's donate you know organ donor by default, that was always a bit weird to me like why would you need your eyes? Like why would you...

49:10 Oh no, that'd be weird. What do you mean? Even if you're religious and I dare say there's some religions that like kind of written down somewhere that you need your eyes or whatever but the rest of us even like the spiritual essence of this our soul because i'm pretty much along that line that we're just spirit being happening to live in this body for a while But clearly I don't need my eyes or my heart. I'd put them in bowels, balls and toes. If they want to give it up for someone else then go for it! What a gift you can give! Can you imagine how much of a difference that's going to change someone's life? It is literally gonna save it or improve it as there are no two ways about it. That was on the radio last few weeks ago

49:59 I was listening to a book actually, one of my audio books. They were saying they must have been the heart transplant and the woman who got the heart, the person whose heart it was had been murdered and she started having these dreams about about it. That's what they were saying, that's what they were saying and they went to the police and they did this thing and they caught the person and... Mm-hmm. That sounds like bollocks doesn't it? Absolute 100% utter complete bollocks! Otherwise people who get my blood are going to have some fucking weird memories that's all I'm gonna say

50:40 Maybe that's why I have weird dreams. I need to talk to my dad, although i haven't got a big scratch on my chest actually that's good evidence. So Nadim we've already said you're coming on next time can I be the guest bird? Next time yeah you're coming on! On the subject of guest birds right... You know what we normally or have done in the past our Hot In The 90s feature? We've done it from time to time. So they've been showing American Pie I searched for, I put into the Google MILF right thinking mum i'd like to fuck. That was a pretty safe term! All it did was bring up porn sites

51:29 Yeah, yeah absolutely. They coined that term and now it's absolutely... Any woman who is over the age of about 25 is classed as a milf if you can look like you're younger than they go for some disgusting teen thing apparently. The internet's all messed up! Back in the day you could put boobs into Google and get loads of pictures of boobs. Like simple stuff. Simple good honest See this porn, right? Just boobs. Just put in boobs here so you can't do that anymore but Google won't show your boobs right um But but you put in milf and it's like a whole long list of porn sites porn sites are rotten The things you can see on the pornsite are absolutely wrong back in the day You've been trying to get through all to make sure that you can you've done your research

52:20 Yeah, I can't talk about something unless i've done a good level of detailed research. I'm a serious broadcaster right but yeah back in the day you know a nervous stretched out arm top shelf club razzle you know centre spread readers letters happy days that's about as wrong as it got right basically but not now I don't think a parent would be that bothered about catching their lad with a copy of Razzle stuffed under his mattress. Right, that's kind of... Never gonna happen! So it'll all hidden away on Kindles or something like that i'm sure um but the thing- The thing about American Pie that gets me? The thing that freaks me out and makes me feel ancient? THE original MILF Stifler's mum Jennifer Coolidge?! Yeah How old was she in that movie??

53:16 She had to be 50 I reckon. 37 she's now 57 years old or 57 no she was 39, sorry 39 years old. To be fair i don't think i have questioned it yet i just presumed She... she... It's mental because again I was, so this film came out in 99. So i was 18 going on 19 then and of course I was the same age as the kids or the actors anyway but roughly the same age as the kids in it so I identified as one of those and so all I saw Stippler's mum as really old yes

53:58 She's not really old! But she was 39 years old. That's younger than me, that's a year younger than me. It blew my tiny little mind when I discovered that fact and i kind of wish i could take it out of my head now and forget about it. It is such a good movie. It's absolute gold still holds its own if you watch it back as a classic movie Although now I think we identify more with Eugene Levy than anyone else Eugene, the dad. Yeah! That's who you identify now? I haven't seen it in a long time but you know what yeah i think i'm closer to him than i am to anyone else Well no listen before we start to wrap up the Wrap Up and i think i want to talk about this over the next couple of weeks because my boy is going to school...I think i want to sit down and have a chat with him not necessarily birds and bees but i want to run him through

54:57 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, TeamSuperDadHQ, TeamSuperDadHQ, TeamSuperDadHQ, TeamSuperDadHQ, That's part of the thing about growing up is he's gonna learn these phrases. He's going to discover them and there'll be a whole bunch of them that you won't understand because it will be modern things but the whole point is they discover it as an age group, and they all come up with these terms and they all do at the same pace otherwise... I'm gonna ruin things! Oh no but then

55:44 Like what's a cunt? You know like... But that's part of growing up for him. Then he has to go to Google So I'm not helping him with the rite of passage, i'm putting the drawbridge back or something. I mean i'm not saying i'm right as it's just my personal opinion as a dad is there are some things where you do want to make sure so before they go to secondary school they know there's no such thing as Father Christmas Sorry, spoiler alert. But you want... there's things about childhood that you want them to kind of make sure they're prepared so they're not going to get the piss ripped out them but there are other things they have to discover as part of their friendship group and they have to have those conversations themselves. Or blowjob! What about blowjob? I don't think any... For years wondering what that was then i thought it was something good that blowed.

56:40 We're going to an all boys school and then another all boys school, right? So you know about Mojobs. My dad's attitude to those talks was he goes my dad never told me nothing I'm not believing that! And there is a balancing act there it is and I think it will be more open with you when he might say Dad what does this mean? He might add that because you've got like a much stronger tighter relationship than it sounds like you had with your dad But it's that pace of things and that collegiate spirit. Otherwise, you take that away because I'm pretty sure his friends won't be having those conversations with their parents and so it speeds things up for one person but the rest of them are left behind and yeah it creates a disparity. So my personal opinion... I could inadvertently become Eugene

57:29 Pretty much. For me, it's all about answering the questions and making sure they feel they can ask anything but not forcing that knowledge upon them. Okay okay now that's good that's wisdom there Glen because you have got a couple of kids older than me that's good okay so we are making sure that they know...a bit like The Wizard Of Oz They know we're up there with ready come and ask a question when you want But until that point, you've just got to walk the path yourself. Yeah yeah that's... That way they'll walk it at their own pace and carry their own knowledge. Nadine! I love you Nadine. Nadine says she's actually married she's dropped in here she's got a husband but she does have some friends She says here keep away from the PE teacher! That is true in so many respects

58:22 The PE teacher, well yeah depending also indicating the length of their shorts will give you a gauge of what kind of PE teacher they are as well. Did we have another PE teacher who wasn't sadistic? We had some golden PE teachers I quite liked them yeah the ones that were nasty like if you didn't play well they'd make you do laps till your cried so i think that's character building It's the same approach with my sex life Well, obviously for our regular listeners you know that I went five and a half years dry after my separation but now making up for lost time for sure. Good man! On that note it sounds like we better wrap-up so you can blow some sweet nothings in your other halves direction Yes all the way over in Ashford

59:27 We'll be back next week, the wrap up. It's our 50th episode coming up if you've got any suggestions thoughts ideas... Nadine has given me the awn over here! Naked showers after swimming? Oh the PE teacher yeah okay sorry Nadine I was off on a different tangent there as we'll leave that sleeping dog line over there The next episode of the Wrap Up will be the 50th show, the 50th Wrap Up. It is due on bank holiday although Glen's got his mum down for the weekend In my mind I was thinking about that episode of Only Fools and Horses where they go on a day trip to Margate on the Beano. And I'm kind of imagining Glen and I absolutely sunburned and... I'm not saying it's not going to happen!

1:00:21 Doing the outside broadcast because we got the equipment, we can do an outside broadcast. If you bring both your microphones and the stands... And we'd have to have either someone's Wi-Fi that they were letting us hook on to or tether my phone with enough juice but um We'll work on that so you might see us for Bank Holiday Special 50th episode Bank Holiday Special Or you won't. But whatever happens, the 50th episode of The Wrap Up is coming next so let us know your highlights if you've had a magic moment from any of the last 50 episodes If you're real nutter You can go back and listen to all 50 episodes and tell us which was your favorite I think we'll offer a prize for that Glen! If someone could summarize the last 50 episodes i'l give them a £50 Amazon voucher how about that?

1:01:12 A pound an episode, that's impressive. That's good value! Yeah that's good value as commitment on both sides both from me and on their part I didn't tell you about my day trip to Brighton yesterday the sun on the beach What else have I been up to this week? Yeah, it's been hard. It has been summer holidays. I've been juggling summer clubs and things like that but suffice to say the sun did bloody come out we did have a laugh on the beach and i'll tell you more about that next week looking forward to already nice one glenn great to have you on board Likewise, lovely to be here Jonnie. Love to see you too! Yeah and uh... To all the listeners, to all the viewers if you're watching give us a like, share spin this around the world with other dads and women Nadine that you know And we look forward to having you back on the live and if you are listening to the podcast then be sure to subscribe leave us a review over at Apple and if you've heard anyone on a podcast

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