Falling Out The Lucky Tree - The Wrap Up # 46

00:00 Welcome dads, friends, family, Team Super Dad members all around the world. It's Monday night. That can only mean one thing. Yes, it's the wrap-up. Two dads, fixing the world so you don't have to. Roll thing. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Well, well, well, here we are. It's back to the wrap-up 46, episode 46 this week. Glenn, a dating dad, infamously known across Twitter and

00:44 Southeast England. Further afield if you're playing. And yeah, great to see you, Glenn. How's it going? Good to see you too. I mean, have I ever mentioned the fact that I am world famous? I've told you the story about Vietnam, I'm sure. Yes. Or Thailand, was it? Yeah. Was it my sister, my brother, my friend? My brother, my brother is Glenn. He's someone... Come on. For those who haven't heard it before, very good. If they haven't heard it before, they should have done this. They should have been following us for a long, long time. But for very, very briefly, a friend traveling in Thailand managed to bump into someone that I'd met traveling in South Africa.

01:29 And she mentioned she knew me. Either said, I'm from London. Oh, I know someone from London. Is it Glenn? Yeah. Which is kind of weird. That's bloody brilliant. Because they do that, don't they? When you're away. It happens when I see my family in Chicago all the time. They're like, oh yeah, man, I know an English guy too. John Smith. He's from Manchester. And I was like, oh, cool. Cool. Quite far away, actually, by the way. But no, that's it. Nailed it. Like, arrow straight through the flipping universe and into the six pixels of separation.

02:10 Six degrees of Kevin Bacon, that's off. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But then I guess depending on the types of bars you frequent and the kind of people you hang out with, that's- Oh, I like all the people in all the bars. That circle shrank pretty quick. You know, like it's like a moment out of the hangover, hangover two in particular. You hang over one or hangover two, and I'm not really sure about three, but hangover one or hangover two. The movie. I don't remember them too well. I remember, maybe that's quite ironic, in fact. I remember the hangover one more. And I feel like one or two evenings recently have been very much like that.

02:50 And I've had to work out what happened the next day. And that is always a good thing. Yeah. See, people love Hangover One, but Hangover Two reminds me more of some of my weekends. In what way? You stole Mike Tyson's Tigers? Oh, no. They're away, aren't they? And then there's the little Vietnamese guy who like he takes some places and it's just now I've never done what they got up to, but it did remind me of some of those weekends where you just like, oh, oh, well, you're not going to say, not going to say you did it whilst on public radio.

03:32 No, no, well, I've never had sex with a man. So that you remember. I mean, that addendum is a stated and actual fact. Yeah, so they got answers on a postcard. Stamped addressed envelope if you want to win a prize. We're revisiting some old themes here. Let's back up a second. You are listening to the wrap-up. You are watching the wrap-up if you're any on any of the socials. I made a banner, so let's just share it for the love of there you go. Wrap-up 46. We're going to be doing a half century soon. It's going to be. I was going to say, if we hit a four, then we hit we get a half century. Are we going to be able to raise our bats, metaphorically speaking? We should talk about the 100 because I've been watching a bit of that.

04:15 Four weeks' time will be quite close to, we'll be just before Maybank holiday. No, a Maybank holiday. Jesus. How drunk are we that we've woken up and it's back to April? Well, I'll tell you what, I'm jumping about wildly here. Right, we'll come back to that in a second. Yeah, you are listening or watching the wrap-up, which is the Team Super Dad podcast. This is the funny, silly, irreverent show where Glenn and I sort out the world, discover random things, facts, coincidences and synchronicities from our past, which if you've been listening to us from the start of when Glenn joined me, which I think would have been about wrap-up 20, something like that, 2020.

04:55 Something like that. Yeah, you know, it was, legend has it, it's the point. point where it started getting really good. Yeah, it turns out we live about two miles apart from each other. If you think meeting a mate in a pub in Thailand, who someone who knows Glenn is random, discovering that the person you've just set up a podcast with lives mile away from you is even more random. But better than that, we are part of the Team Super Dad community, an awesome tribe of modern dads creating our best lives ever. You know, we are equipping modern men to live with more power, freedom, and joy so that we can literally be the dad that we want to be and still have a shitload of fun, which to me is too much of what is missing in the world today.

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06:29 You can comment on Glenn's likeness of uh Gareth Southgate, you can talk about my balding head or my the colour of my shirt, both things uh, which seem to come up in topic. Colour of shirt is magnificent, there's nothing wrong with it, it's a lovely, lovely blue, sort of a grey navy. I know, well, prior to getting together with my wonderful lady, I had a little day tour through with another woman, uh, also called Jo. She was a uh she was great, flipping really a lot of fun. Uh, still mates, really cracking woman.

07:09 Uh, she's a she's like a colour consultant, brand, personal brand. So, she said to me, but she wasn't direct about it. In fact, it's on one of the podcasts. She said to me, Well, it's all about the colours you wear, you know, and obviously, you don't always wear the right colours, Johnny. Do you mean you don't wear the right colours of colours, in they? I said, Is this why we is this why it didn't go past the third date? She declined to answer that, but um, no, so she just left that dangling. So, I've had to well, I had to go on GQ or Google first, and then on a bunch of different blogs and stuff, read about how do you know what colour suits you. And how do you know what colour suits you? It's about you have a skin palette, so

07:51 you have either a very uh sort of white, pale, kind of quite reflective skin, or as you can see from my face, I'm quite an olive-y kind of brown, not all real. I have a slight tint in my moisturizer, but uh, it is sorry, sorry, you lost me. Moisturizer, I've moisturized every day since I was about 16, since I started shaving, and that's why you look like a baby's ass. I know, I'm 47. That's pretty good, actually. I'm hanging in there, yeah. If only the hair had hung in there, so many of my friends, so many men seem to be uh bald these days.

08:35 I'm wondering if it's something to do with sort of 90s club culture and alcohol-fueled, but then, or are people, or are men just it's just a lack of comb over? Women don't wear hats anymore, so you can't hide it as well. We don't comb our hair over in a certain way, it's like men just own it, you know. We want to be bald, be bold, own that shit. Well, oh, there's so many layers to this conversation. I love that sketch of um of oh, flipping who's the Cockney geezer, comedian, stand-up Terry Enfield. Oh, he does uh, our Mickey Flanagan, Mickey Flanagan, my homeboy, literally from Tinkford.

09:19 He does that sketch about syrups, and we're all in on it. And you, we're, I'm not going to say anything, and you're going to pretend that I can't see, but we're all in on it. Like, I love that sketch, but uh, no, so my ex, she had this kind of thing about me not shaving my hair. So, for a while, I had this sort of flappy peninsula, it's still quite short, but I sort of spiked it back a bit, and it was a desperate cling on to what really was a single, basically it is amazing that men get given so. so much shit for trying to tell women what to wear. And rightly so, because we say, Oh, yeah, you should dress, women should dress sexy and feminine and all this sort of crap.

10:02 Women should dress how the fuck they want to do. Women do the same to men. My ex used to not let me have a beard. She used to make me get really like having a beard because it covers up more of my face. And for whatever reason, I want a beard for me, not because of other people, but because I want a beard. And I used to get rid of it all the time. Women, stop telling men how to dress and how to look. I'm not okay, good. But surely, if she's kissing you and she doesn't like beards and you didn't have a beard when you got together, but that would be on me. You're introducing a new dynamic to the relationship. It's like, would you mind if I do like a sex thing with nappies on?

10:44 And she's like, no. No, I think having a beard and sex things with nappies, I mean, call me weird, but they're in kind of different fields here. I mean, I don't know what your beard looks like, but it's about you. If she didn't like it, she could tell me, but it would be on me to whether I decided to do something about it. And then we'd come to an agreement. She shouldn't be saying, you've got to get rid of your beard. Fuck off. If you love me, you would shave it off. How about that? That sort of shit. That sort of shit. No, that's bullshit. That's that's emotional manipulation and blackmail. So if you love me, you wouldn't mind about my beard. And if you love me, then you, yeah.

11:25 See, it's about compromise and it's about her saying, look, my preference is this. However, it's your choice. And then I get to choose what I want to do. That's the difference. But kissing you feels like I'm kissing a fanny. What can we do about this? Yeah, and that's what can we do about this? But it's my choice. It's my decision, my body. You know, let me own it. Every chubby inch of it. Have you ever kissed someone with a beard? Weirdly, no. So, what if it's awful? That's something that I will never experience. But you don't know then that she might. Yeah, but I also never given a blowjob. There are things that I probably at least will never remember having done.

12:10 Now, that doesn't mean whether it's good or bad. I just, it's nothing that's ever going to cross my experience threshold. I know. I've got a friend, though. Her husband has a ridiculous beard, well, not ridiculously long, but it is a long beard. You could say that yours is well kept, looked after, generally reasonably sort of styled, you know, like come on. Just for full disclosure, I'm not a fan of beards myself. You can never tell. I think people grow them because they can't involve the shave. I think.

12:48 Firstly, yes, absolutely, 100%. I can't imagine the mentality of someone who every day wakes up knowing that before they can do anything, they've got to go through and shave off things that are naturally growing on their face. It just blows my mind. I just despise double. I despise, but I actually enjoy the shave. I enjoy the shave. No, I'm actually my earlier in the week. I was, we can talk about this in a bit. I was at my sister's wedding, and my brothers, my brother kept going on at me. A couple of people actually did. Think I should grow this out into a nice big Viking beard. Really big, chunky, well-trimmed, well-kept, but a big, chunky, nice, nice Viking beard.

13:34 So, so then, if you go to a classic car rally or a maybe a darts event, a motorbike, you've already got the tattoos. You're quite no, for a motorbike thing, you're quite thin. You might get uh, you might get the wrong kind of proposition. But, but this could be the trick, though. Maybe, maybe you've been looking at the in the wrong places for your next date. And um, well, I've actually, I've actually, I've actually started looking a bit more. I downloaded all the apps again this week and I've been swiping like a motherfuck. Um, yeah, I've been doing got bumble and hinge and Tinder and swipe it away.

14:15 And actually, actually, had uh, one person sent me four or five messages on Hinge once, and one person's messaged me once on Bumble Today. So, out of a week of swiping, that's actually the best result I've had in about two years. Are you paying? Fuck no. Someone said the other day, you're like, You're like, if you want the results, you've got to pay. No, if you want to give your money to another corporation, you've got to pay. Don't the algorithm they play with the algorithms, they only show you the fit ones if you haven't been on. If you haven't been on for four weeks, they'll show you a like a like a like a rush of fit.

14:53 And not only that, for every woman, there are, I think it's somewhere depending on the platform between six and nine men for every single woman. And that's not even every conventionally attractive woman as well. So, every conventionally attractive woman, there's probably about 20, 30, 40 men. So, every single one of them is going to be swiping right on every single woman, many of them, every single attractive woman, and most women in general. So, I'm going to be lost amongst the clouds. You know, the odds are low. You do have a beard and you do have tattoos. So, for those women that say into bit into beards, into tattoos, you know what? I'm custom-made for you. I wonder, is that like a euphemism for Netflix and Chill?

15:36 I don't know, but if it is, I'm playing the odds. You know, I'm upping my chances. What's it called when they shit on you? Scatting. Is that it? Oh, God. So, when it says beards and tattoos, it actually means I like to. What did you shit on me? We are very, we are, we are surfing on very different websites here, my mate. I just try to set you up there. You know, my mate said you'd like this. But yeah, I was, I was at my. This is the thing. I've had to go on the apps because even like all the events you'd normally meet someone, they're not working.

16:14 I was my sister's wedding on Friday. It was an amazing, lovely day. Instead of a wedding cake, she had a cheese, like piles of cheese going up. Um, it was a country mansion near me, like literally 15 minutes' walk from me, opposite my kid's school. I had no idea it was there. The Beatrix Potter story, it was amazing in the country. Yeah, um, I've been there, I know that venue house or something like that. I think it is. It's it's it's like you've been whisked away into uh into a you know a quintessentially English sort of summertime story. Yeah, it really is perfect weather, and she looked beautiful. I love my new brother-in-law.

16:54 Uh, you know, he's been there, they've been together for a decade, they've got a couple of kids, bought houses, and all that sort of thing. So they're together together. This was just this thing to do, um, and it was a lovely, lovely day. But of course, you go to these things. Firstly, I had my kids, so I wasn't really out on the prowl, but you keep your eyes open. Um, I genuinely don't think there was a single single woman there. No, like in at a wedding, this isn't the first time. I think I mentioned I went to a wedding last year, and there was one single woman there who was the mother of the bride. Um, that wouldn't really have been the done thing either. So, you meant to meet people at these sort of events, and and you just didn't.

17:35 And so, it was like, well, I'm just gonna kick back and relax and enjoy myself because I do love a good wedding. There's something about just the atmosphere of everything. And we did drink an awful lot. I think I must have, I don't know how many hundreds I spent on shots and booze and bits and pieces. And I'm just very quite, I'm quite thankful that my children are incredibly responsible and they all looked after themselves. And we all kind of walked home together. And then I just got into bed and fell asleep, crashed out, and passed out on the sofa face down. And my youngest boy, he did. I didn't realize this. Obviously, I was very, very drunk, but I didn't notice.

18:14 He just went to bed, lay down in his full suit, and just lay there and just went asleep. And woke up next morning, staggered down his head, hair all askew, and just as if he was drunk nearly as much as I had. That's the photo I saw. I thought he was. I thought that explains that photo now. Yeah, totally, totally. Kids can do that though, can't they? Kids, kids, it must have been 23, 24 degrees last Friday. It was free toaster, yeah. Left in a full suit, kids. Man, I got mine back this week. Everybody got COVID pinged. No way. Yeah, last week of term.

18:56 Last week of primary school. So all those Facebook photos of here's my kid in 2005. Here they are in 2011. I've got a video on YouTube of his first day. And, you know, at school, full stop. No, it's, it's, it's, I made this video of his first day. So we start off at home and he goes, hi, my name's Jaygo. And it's my first day at school. You might not have heard it. It's Jubilee Primary School. And then it drops in, and then we do this whole like turning up thing. So we were going to recreate it. And then we flipping, got COVID gooned.

19:39 And so he had, so she had to go and. go and get them the coals, the coals of the Lever's barbecue were on. So they were about to have their Lever's barbecue. So instead of the broken. And he was so he got pinged during the day. It wasn't like he knew about it in the morning or something like that. No, no, because obviously the mum got pinged. Right. They're at a barbecue over the weekend and someone, even though they've done a lateral flow, they turned up having done negative tests. And then one of the people at the party woke up on Monday morning and had a positive test.

20:17 And so they had to flip and shut the shut shutting this party down. And yeah, so my daughter cried literally for three hours straight because she missed Sports Day. I love how competitive she is. I absolutely love how. And she's good at sport. She's not as good as she could be, right? Because she's done more dancing than sport, which is great. She's an amazing dancer, and I love that. But all people, and I'm not going to say all women, all men, all people should play sport. I think it teaches you so much about yourself and about other people as well. Yeah. And you can turn up anywhere. If you can catch a ball, hit a ball and kick a ball, even at the most entry level, wherever you go,

21:00 you're included in a beach party, flipping, barbecue at a friend. Whereas who can play tennis? Yeah, I've never got tennis main, would you? Like, so when I throw her the ball, it just hits her in the face. I'm not okay. She's getting better. We've been practicing, we've been playing catch outside this week. But yeah, so COVID, she missed Sports Day, but she did a running race. She was in for that. She would have been good at it. And but he was gutted about just the whole Lever's award ceremony, the party in the park, the barbecue, everything. And have you ever experienced how shit schools are at IT?

21:43 Like, like, yeah, I mean, they're not renowned for their technical knowledge, are they? So, so the ex says to me, I think you better go. Like, we're going to watch on Zoom. We're going to watch on Zoom. We're here. They said they're going to do the Lever's assembly, the whole award ceremony, and they're going to do it on Zoom. And there's a few families who are in the same situation. So she goes, But I think you better go as a backup. And in my kind of innocence, I was like, oh, I was like sitting down to work. I was going to make the most of the afternoon. And then, and it's like, oh, yeah, okay, good idea. So I get there. Oh, bloody funny.

22:25 So, you know, a couple of weeks ago, I told you about the guy that I went and had a beer with, and we cleared up the thing that I've hated him for for years. Did we talk about that? No, I don't think, I don't think we did. Right, this is like a Ronnie Corbett story, right? So we got a hang on, hang on to the Zoom call thing, right? Okay, okay, it's in the background. Right. There is a dad who I have not spoken to for about four years because something was in the court papers that could only come from him and was completely false, was completely inaccurate, right? So court papers, family court, family court. When I was

23:06 so, so I was like, sort of treated him like, you know, like a double agent, you know, like he was, he was, he was from the Gestapo, right? So I've given him a serious wide berth and kind of like, because I really was like, if I get much closer to him, I'm going to throttle the bloke. And so anyway, not only are our boys going to the same school, but they seem to more and more frequently play each other against football. And then my boy says he wants to play cricket. And I know this lad goes there and the dad's going to be there. By the way, the bloke's sound, top bloke, right? And so we went out for a beer the other week.

23:50 We went out for a beer. And this is the magic thing about men, right? And I believe women can do this to some degree. And women seem to manage long-term friendships very well as well, as my current good lady will testify. But bearing in mind, I wanted to rip his head off for the last four years. Within 20 minutes, we were laughing like drains. I got the piece of paper out, showed him, we sorted that out, had two pints, shook hands, and it's all good. So we get to the Lever's Awards ceremony assembly thing. Of course, guess who's the first? I'm like the second person there. Guess who's the first person there?

24:36 And that is the magic of life. Like when you get things completely. complete, when you clear up, like, if you've got a beef with someone, it is much better to flip in, just get it sorted, basically. Life is just too short. And so often, you think these things can often just be misunderstandings. There's so many situations where you build it up in your head as this major issue, this big, big problem. And then after a couple of minutes of talking, actually, it's all right. We're okay. Let's just move on. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I had a mate once that we lived with the bank sent me a new cash card. He opened it and maxed it out. No. All right. That's a dick move.

25:20 I mean, it's funny, depending on what he spent it on, but that's still a dick move. So when I found out, I was like, okay, but this is like way too good a mate to lose over money. And I just said, let's get this sorted and then just carry on, like, like we've like we've always been. And credit to him, totally, that's what we've done. And can count him as one of my best mates still. I think that you need the friendship first. So I had someone where just before my eldest was born, actually. For my oldest, my second. I had a kid a week or two from being born.

26:05 And he came to me. I'd known him for about six months, a year or so. I'd met him for a friend, and he was a mate, but he came to me and basically told me this sob story about work missing work tools and needing to replace him. Otherwise, he's going to get fired. And needed to borrow at the time. It was a lot of money to me. It was three, 400 quid, something like that. And I didn't have much money to spare, but I said, okay, mate, I'll sort you out. Gave it to him. Didn't see hide nor hear of him for nearly a year. And then, literally, two days before I moved out of that house somewhere else, I got this letter posted through the door. Basically, he'd just been a drug head and apologised and gave me a check and

26:48 kind of paid me back. But that sort of person, you know what? I don't need you in my life. You know, if you're going to do that and be that sort of person, I'll take the check, I'll cash it, and then I'm happy that I never saw him again. Yeah. Yeah. Well, like you say, I guess it depends how long you've been friends and the value that you put on that friendship up to that point and what you see of it in the future. And yeah, someone very important to me. So, and that's the saying, it's a good to forget. I heard this beautiful thing this week, right? It said forgiveness is not forgetting, but it's remembering without being angry.

27:33 Oh, that's nice. Yeah, yeah, I like that. Yeah, forgiveness, remembering without the anger. Yeah, love that. I put that on a motivational poster and stick it on the wall. Yeah. In fact, what I could do is I could scribble, I could scribble it over something. Not quite. So I don't claim to be an artist at all, but above my, I think I'll shared it on Twitter. So I did a painting for myself to fit above my bed, to give my room a little bit of colour. And it was blue stripes and verticals and blacks and different colours. And I quite like it. And a friend of mine, she saw the video that I'd put online.

28:19 And when she popped around to visit one day, she had a look at the picture and she really liked it. She's bought a house and said, Can I do her a painting? And so what I've done is full nude, selfie. This bad boy. You can't, and for the people on the podcast, this is podcast gold. It's massive. It's four foot by or three foot by four foot and it's kind of blues and blacks and there's a stripe of like white and gold and and so on like that. The gold horizon in the middle. That's exactly what it was meant to be. So the only

28:59 theme that she gave me was the colour blue and that was it. And so what I've done is kind of a an abstract seaside type thing. So you could look at it and think it's a sea, but also you could just look at it and think it's just a nice load of blues and shit. So basically that makes me technically a commissioned artist. It does. I feel like I need to get the picture that I made with my daughter when we did make and do yesterday because it is absolute, I think the absolute. antithesis of what you've just shown. I think I love doing it though, because what I do is I just crank up my music loud.

29:43 So, um, the first one I did was uh radio heads anthologies. This one was muse. Uh, crack up music now. Drink a load of off. Muse are amazing. Muse are rock gods. Um, drink a load of wine and then have to start it by uttering the words, fuck it, and just go because otherwise, you get you get paralyzed by this beautiful, like pristine canvas, and you're thinking every bit I put on that is if it's not the way I want it to, then it's gonna it up. Then you realize that if you don't put it on there, it's it's it's not even gonna get the chance. So fucking do it. That's deep, that's beautifully deep. And it's bloody photo, bloody good picture, painting, whatever. Thank you, man.

30:25 Thank you very much. So if anyone does want any more, then I'm happy to take orders. Yeah, this bed, very expensive. My daughter's making signs at me, right? What are you saying? These gang signs, I think they're the gang signs, aren't they? Could I be quiet because you're going to sleep? But what about his millions of fans? Doing Sherard's, just tell me what's happening now. Whilst Johnny is talking, I shall fill the air because it's all about quality content. And for those watching on video, you can see Johnny miming. And for those who are listening to the podcast, you can hear Johnny miming.

31:08 He's back. And his listening to him miming is every bit as entertaining as watching it. He's back. He's back. That's my daughter asking me what time she's going to bed. Twitcher had to remind me about the conversation we had at nine o'clock when I planned on putting her to bed and she refused. Oh, refusals. Yeah, that shit don't sit with me. She kind of wrapped it up with a cuddle and watched some more TV together. No, no, no. And unless it's kind of a sporting event or a late-night movie we're all watching or something like that, bedtime is sacrosanct for me.

31:49 Glenn, when I was at your house the other day and you flipping when the curtain came down and they all marched off like just regimented, it was beautiful. There's no arguments. I say, right, bedtime. They all know the drill. They know that there's just no point arguing or even commenting on it. And all screens get placed downstairs or put in my hand. Everyone goes into bed, into their bedrooms, and that's it. There is no coming down after that. It's, you know, what you're dead to me. It was when you locked the doors and shouted, lights out. I got an inkling for a past career that you may have either enjoyed or missed out on having.

32:33 Did your dad know prison officers in your family? Let's just finish the story though about the Zoom thing because Ronnie Corbyn would never leave his story. Back at the school and the levers thing, they'd not got it nailed at all. So as this ceremony, the awards ceremony, the assembly, the final moment of my boy's primary school history life, and he was missing out on, I can see him on my phone. He sat in his mother's lounge in his school uniform, literally looking as you know when someone's trying to put a smile on, but they're absolutely devastated. It was the teacher's going to me, we can't do it.

33:16 We don't know. We haven't got a Wi-Fi. You can't do it. Just set it up, you dickheads. The school's hall, we borrowed one of the other schools hall and they wouldn't give them the Wi-Fi password because that would be a breach of their IT. And so then... But it wouldn't. So then they said, oh, we're trying to find you a guest password. But they couldn't find a guest password. So thankfully, I was there. I had a tripod, my mobile phone on a rig with a mic because we've got the equipment, right? So everyone's looking at me like, what the hell are you doing? And then, and then I get the nod and like, oh, we're really sorry.

33:56 We can't. Is that why you've got all that stuff with you? I was like, yes, that's why I have all this stuff with me. So yeah, so I was Zoom, zooming to like three families, the levers, the levers assembly. Yeah. Steven Spielberg eat your heart out. I probably could be, yeah. Yeah. No one wanna. Yeah, well, no, no. I could be in. I'm sure. I'm sure some of those kids looked as ugly as E.T. Oh, well, they're at that age, aren't they? They're 11. You know, kids. bless them, when they're between what I'm going to find out for sure, but you know better than me, it's some sort of between 11 and 14.

34:37 They just look like a bag of arms and head and boobs and shoulders. It's like, it's like, you know, in those cartoons where you get some sort of transformation from one thing to another. Like in, I don't know, The Emperor's New Groove, where Cusco is turning from a man into a this into a that into a llama and you've got limbs kind of poking out in random places and at different lengths and so on. That's what it is with kids. Like one day you'll wake up and their elbows will be so far out, yet their forearms will be short like a fucking T-Rex. And then it'll be kind of legs will suddenly grow. And it's, come on, you look, you look like a cartoon kids.

35:16 Just you're human. Be human. Oh no. But they'll say, Daddy, it's like it's like the ugly duckling, isn't it? Daddy, do I look weird? No, darling, you look wonderful. Oh, no, no, no. Yeah, you absolutely look weird. Don't worry. You'll probably possibly grow out of it. Well, yes. No, you often see that, don't you? Like the especially, I think, in, well, no, I think obviously girls and boys, but you know, the girls like braces and the hairs all weird and glasses, and then boom, they hit 16, 17. Yeah, but this is the thing, everyone thinks this happens, and then they take the glasses off and they undo their hair, and all of a sudden they're these pristine goddesses.

35:58 It's like, no, that doesn't happen for most people. Most people are not in that top 10% of attractiveness. And that's okay because everyone can't be attractive. Some people are going to be ugly. And most people are somewhere in the middle. And you have to find where you are, be fucking comfortable with it. And then, if you want to improve that, do things like shaving your head and growing a beard. That's what you've got to do. That's all there is to it. Just own what you've got and maximize the shit out of it, is what I'm saying. Yeah. Well, that is, that's how you get ugly, short blokes with hot women.

36:40 They bring, they bring as Gok Wang said, it's all about the confidence. And any man who walks into a room and you can tell when someone's got it. You can tell when someone is actually confident. And that is one of the sexiest things in the fucking world is a man who doesn't matter what he looks like, who knows who he is and knows what he's about and knows what he wants. Yeah. Yeah. Well, this has been a bit of a theme this week in Team Super Dad is just about that inner happiness and how long would you put up with not being happy before you decide, hang on a minute, I'm not happy and I'm going to do something about it.

37:23 And the difference between deciding you're going to do something about it as opposed to trying to fix everybody else or blaming other people or it's my job. It's not fair. She's a nightmare. I mean, I did a lot of that myself, you know, and sadly, that can mean that as you work through some of that, your stuff yourself, like, this is not what I signed up for. Or just do one on your kids because that's not okay. But if you're in a relationship that just isn't working, if you're in a job that just isn't making, you know, isn't fulfilling you or is wearing you down, then your happiness is your responsibility, just like your confidence is your responsibility.

38:05 We've got to stand up and what's that, you know, stand up and be counted. Like it's time to say, right, okay, well, this is what I'm up to. This is what I'm not willing to take. I just chatting to a guy today and I had to say to him, because I said to him, like, you know, all new members of Team Super Dad, oh, 203 members in the Team Super Dad community. Yeah, you mentioned that earlier. It's getting there. We're cranking those numbers up. So I said, he just came in a few weeks ago and I said, look, everybody, everyone that joins, I invite to have a chat at me. And so he's telling me all this stuff. And he didn't book the call. And then, and, and I said, and I was like, look, I don't, I, I'm not qualified to help you with some of the stuff you've just mentioned.

38:51 And we might not be right to work together. But dad to dad, man to man, take me up on the opportunity to have a call because I've probably been through some of your stuff and you could take something from that that will help you end this shitstorm that you think you're stuck in. Well, and it's about people owning that because I may have mentioned this already on the on the on the pod. So sorry if I'm repeating myself, but you know, we can pick up new listens all the time. I work in sales and effective, we call it loads of different things. things, but a big part of my job is sales.

39:28 And there are only two winners in any sales process. There's the people who actually win the contract, and then there's the people who spot it's not right and they're not going to win and they stop it really, really quickly so they don't waste their time. Everyone else, to a greater or lesser extent, is a loser. Now, if you know, everyone goes into relationships thinking they're going to win. Otherwise, why the fuck are you going into it? Now, if at some stage you realize I'm not going to win on this, then the best thing you can do is say, you know what? Let's cut. Let's cut this. Let's done. Let's call it a day and let's move on. So I'm not wasting your time.

40:07 You're not wasting my time. And we don't get any, nothing gets any worse. The quicker you do that, the better it's going to be. And the more likely you are to win out of that situation for yourself. You're not a loser unless you stick around in something you absolutely know is not right for you. Yeah. It's not the 1950s. We're not stuck married. It's not a flipping curse or sin to get divorced anymore. It doesn't mean you're a freak or a loser. Do you know what? That whole till death do us part thing. Well, it means all ghosts are single. So you know what? In the afterlife, I'm going to be fucking laughing.

40:45 No, I hung on to my vows big time. I think all those, all the bits of the vows are good and solid, like listening in-house, rich and poor, definitely. Until death to us part, having been through that experience now, I'm kind of like, do you know what? It's not till death to us part. It's like, so long as we stick to the thing that we said we were going to stick to. And this is not to say marriage and relationships in general are disposable. Far fucking from it. You work the shit out of it. But that's because you want to make it work and you still see value in it. And while you're still into that, then work your ass off. Make it work. Relationships are not always easy.

41:24 And I hate this throwaway culture that we've got that people just think, oh, well, let's just chase something else. No, actually, sometimes relationships need you to work through some shit. But it's when you know, and you know, everyone fucking knows. When you know it's not right and it's not good and it's going to be hard to break up, be brave. Be a man. Own that shit. Own your future because you're not going to get any more of it. This is a finite life we've got. So make sure that you cut your losses as quickly as you can and get ready for the next chapter. Yeah. And actually, that attitude as well may well cause

42:03 the trans bring about the repair that's required as well. Because too often men have been pussyfooting around like, oh, I can't break up. I can't lose this. I got all my family. It's very easy for me to say that after five years and having been through the flipping eye of the storm and hell, flipping mental health and all that stuff. It's easy to say at this point in time, five years old, you'll be all right. But being divorced is no picnic at all. But staying in a relationship that hasn't worked for however many years is a flipping waste of life. But it can also be the thing that might spark that relationship back into life because

42:44 there is a thing about if you feel like someone needs you, like absolutely needs you, they can't survive, mate, that's a lot of pressure. That's not nice. But if they're with you, because they want to be with you, they're choosing to be with you actively, not just because it's easy, not just because it's what they know, but because they actively want to, that becomes different. Now, that means if you're with someone and they think, oh, well, he's always going to be with me. It doesn't matter what I do. I can fuck around. I could do what I want. And we'll always be there. Then that lessens your value in that relationship. Whereas if you're in a position, you're saying, you know what? I want to be in this relationship and I'll work hard at it, but I don't need to. I can walk away at any stage.

43:28 I will be fine. And that raises your status. It raises your value in that relationship and makes the other person think, you know what? Maybe I need to invest a little bit in this. Maybe I need to earn their love a little bit more as well. And it can really change and level out that power divide. Yeah. Well, codependency. I didn't even know what that was or what it meant until someone bought it up with me. And I was like, oh my gosh. Yeah. Totally did that. So like, you can't be happy unless you're with that person. You can't be happy unless that person supports you. You can't like, and part of being in a community like Team Super Dad, being in a group of men, like-minded men, people that are lifting you up, holding you to account, sharing knowledge, that is so important.

44:19 so important for men because you're not then asking that of your partner. Like your relationship does not need that shit. You don't need to be each other's been everything because it's just too much, you know. Sure, be an encourager, be a supporter, be a lover, be a partner, like be a be a friend, but it can't be everything. And that's why you need to say to people, like, can you just get yourself off somewhere else and get the support and love you, you know, then come back when you're ready for having some fun? Because too many relationships get put through the ringer with too much expectation and too much pressure and too much flipping.

45:03 Can you save me? Because no one else can. It's just not on. Yeah, I mean, I'm very much an advocate for each person having a joint life, absolutely, but each also having their own individual elements of that. Because if you aren't going out and seeing your friends and seeing people that the other person doesn't know, or might know, obviously, but isn't like in the same friendship group with the fuck you going to talk about? You're going to talk about the things they already know because you're at home or work. That's it. That shit gets real old real quick. So you both need things to bring to the table, your own interests, your own passions, your own hobbies. Have joint ones, absolutely lootly. But you don't need to do everything together.

45:47 In my opinion, it keeps life interesting, keeps you talking, gives you something to chat about, gives you something to bond over and to share, even though you're not sharing it in person. Absolutely. And I've got something to share with you, Glenn. Is it an STD? No, no, that's better now. Singing and the burning has gone down. I bought some pale ale craft beers in Liddle the other day. Oh, you had me at Liddle. They basically ripped off Brewdog. I love Liddle. I love them. Those guys are just geniuses.

46:27 They've ripped off Brewdog. It's in the same size cans. It's silver, but it's slightly sort of green, metallic-y green. And it's just their craft IPA pale ale. Naturally, it's half the price of Brewdog. So instead of being like seven quid for four cans, it's three, four quid for four cans. Does it taste like shit though? No, tastes like Brewdog. Oh, this is so good. I know. So good. My mate's always got like 20 cans of Brewdog in his fridge. And I know that because he kindly offers me to help him drink them. So I was delighted to tell him that Liddle do this flipping Brew Dog rip-off, which is spot on.

47:12 See, there's one of it's either an Audi or a Liddle opening over the road to me. And I just can't wait until it does. And I kind of drove past it when I came to it. It's huge. Yeah, it's going to be a really nice, chunky unit. And it's walking distance. You know, it's on the way home from my kids' school. So if that is the case, then my beer, not my indoor beer fridge, my garden, my garage beer fridge, it's running low. It needs stocking. And so I will happily, happily take the Liddle route rather than going down the normal standard Tesco whatever's. Yeah. And far be it from me to say that there is actually a difference between Liddle and Audi, but I do prefer Liddle to Audi.

47:56 So yes. I know there is a difference. Can I say what that difference is? Absolutely fucking not. Which one's got the middle aisle? Which one's got the glorious random chainsaw aisle? They both do that. They both do the middle aisle. But Audi can't, it doesn't sound quite as cool because Liddle can say it's in the middle of Liddle, the middle, little, the middle of the win. Audi can't say that. They can't say, I can say the middle of Audi, but it's not quite as cool. The middle of Liddle. Only in the middle of Liddle can you buy an angle grinder and a riding crop in the same job. Now that is a Saturday night.

48:39 Saturday night. Well, well, well. Well, Glenn, you know, this has been a lovely little session, basically. We did get a little bit heavy on the don't get stuck in relationships there, but I think that's an important message. We will be back next week, Mondays, Mondays on the wrap-up. I've got a couple of interviews, conversations. I don't like to call them interviews. Got a couple of conversations in the can ready to publish. Yarik. Yarik? What's his buddy's second name?

49:19 I hope you're not asking me. No, I've do you know what I've done there? I've mixed his first name and second name up to make Yarik. It's not, it's Yarrow Starik, online entrepreneur. His podcast is ready to go, as is Dan Reed's. So keep an eye out for both those. We've got some other great conversations lined up. If there's any topic that you, the listener or the viewer, would like us to cover on those serious sessions, also the training sessions on Tuesdays in the Team Super Dad group, then let me know. Last week, we did a little QA. Tomorrow's session, I'm going to be rerunning the Happy Dad five-day challenge in a couple of weeks.

50:01 So tomorrow in the Tuesday coaching session, we'll be talking about basically the Happy Dad five-day challenge and basically the kind of the pillars of happiness for men in our modern day lives. So 1:30 if you want to watch the live. If not, you can watch the replay. Where can they watch the replay? Where can they watch a replay? Well, thank you for that. The best thing to do is come to teamsuperdad.com forward slash group and you will get both the invite to the live event and you'll get shared the replay as well. So be sure not to miss it. How long till we can get up to what happened when you get to 200?

50:44 Do you have to go 250 or can you just go straight to 500? What becomes the next target? Think back to the Blue Peter thermometer thing. Yeah, I would say in poker, I'd go 100, 200, 500,000. So I'd go 500, we'll go next. Right. So the next membership milestone is 500. If we get to 500, can we do a Team Super Dad poker night? Oh, I've got to see what we can do. On the 21st of August at Teesson Park in Maidstone, we are going to be having the second annual Team Super Dad family picnic, which I'll be putting up the event and some flyers, digital flyers for this week.

51:27 But yeah, two summers ago, we had the first ever Team Super Dad family picnic at Teesson Park. And yeah, it's August, Saturday, the August 21st, 1 p.m. at Teason Park. The Ox Ox Oscos are invited. If that's your weekend, it's not my weekend. And I'm looking at my diary right now. I've got it all booked out and I've just got day drinking put in the diary. So I'm pretty sure I've got something in for that. But if that falls through, then I will day drink with you, my friend. Day drinking, like one of my favorite episodes of them, brain. This dementia is driving me mental. You know, if you had a beard, you wouldn't be so demented.

52:13 That's all I'm saying. I mean, one of us has got a beard and one of us hasn't. That's correlation. That is. That's like Karanton deck. You can say, oh, no, I like the one with the beard. Oh, no, no, no. I like that one without a beard. That's it. That's good. Okay. Well, Glenn's very much available. I am taken. I'm off the market. Glenn? Yes, I'm happily on the market, ladies. And you know what? It's been a lockdown. It's been a long lockdown. So probably some gentleman as well. Just hit me up, people. Hit me up. Yeah, available on all good dating apps at the moment. Glenn, as always, lovely stuff. I'll see you next week. Have a good one until then.

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