Falling Out The Lucky Tree - The Wrap Up # 46

00:00 Welcome dads, friends family team super dad members all around the world. It's Monday night that can only mean one thing yes it's the wrap up two dads fixing the world so you don't have to roll things Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time more money more fun you are not alone! You're on team super dad well well here we are it's back the wrap up 46 episode 46 this week Glenn a dating dad infamously known across Twitter and

00:43 Good to see you too. Have I ever mentioned the fact that I am world famous? I've told you the story about Vietnam, I'm sure. Yes or Thailand was it? My brother is Glen. For those who haven't heard it before... If they haven't heard it before they should have done this and been following us for a long time but very briefly

01:24 A friend traveling in Thailand managed to bump into someone that I'd met traveling in South Africa and she mentioned she knew me. She said, oh I'm from London? Oh I know someone from London is it Glenn? Yeah! Which is kind of weird. That's bloody brilliant because they do that don't they when you're away or it happens when I see my family in Chicago all the time they're like yeah man I know an English guy too Jon Smith, Manchester. Oh cool! Quite far away actually by the way but no that's it nailed it like arrow straight through the flipping universe and into the six pixels of separation

02:10 Six degrees of Kevin Bacon, that's off. Yeah yeah but then I guess depending on the types of bars you frequent and the kind of people you hang out with... Oh i like all the people in all the bars! That circle shrank pretty quick you know? It's like a moment out of The Hangover 2 in particular. You Hangover 1 or Hangover 2 and I'm not really sure about 3 but Hangover 1 or Hangover 2 I don't remember them too well. Maybe that's quite ironic in fact, but i remember the Hangover One more and I feel like one or two evenings recently have been very much like that and I've had to work out what happened the next day and that is always a good thing! Yeah see people love Hangover One

03:01 Hangover 2 reminds me more of some of my weekends. In what way? You stole Mike Tyson's Tigers? Oh no! They're away, aren't they and then there's the little Vietnamese guy who like he takes them places and it's just... Now I've never done what they got up to but it did remind me of some of those weekends where you just were like oh Oh you're not gonna say, you're not gonna say you did it whilst on public radio? No. Well I've never had sex with a man so uh... That you remember! I mean that addendum is a stated and actual fact

03:41 Yeah, we've got answers on the postcard. Stamp to address envelope if you want to win a prize! We're revisiting some old themes here though let's back up a second You are listening to the wrap-up, you are watching the wrap-up if you're any on any of the socials I made a banner so let's share it for the love of... there we go Wrap Up 46 We're going to be doing a half century soon. I was gonna say if we hit a four then we get a half century are we uh gonna be able to raise our bats metaphorically speaking? Oh, we should talk about the hundred because i've been watching a bit of that um four weeks time will be quite close to or just before Maybank holiday no a maybank holiday! Jesus!

04:24 How drunk are we that we've woken up and it's back to April? Well, I'll tell you what. Uh...I'm jumping about wildly here right now. We'll come back in a second. Yeah, you are listening or watching The Wrap Up which is the Team Super Dad podcast. This is the funny silly irreverence show where Glenn and I sort out of the world discover random things facts coincidences and synchronicities from our past Which if you've been listening to us from the start of when Glenn joined me, which I think would have been about Wrap Up 20 something like that. 2020? Something like that yeah it was legend has it's the point where it started getting really good! Yeah it turns out we live about two miles apart from each other right?! If you think meeting your mate in a pub in Thailand who someone who knows Glenn is random but discovering that the person you just

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06:52 But prior to getting together with my wonderful lady, I had a little date or three with another woman also called Jo. She was great for being really lot of fun still mates really cracking women She's like a color consultant, brand personal brand. So she said to me but she wasn't direct about it in fact it's on one of the podcasts... She said to me well it's all about the colors you wear and obviously you don't always wear the right colors Jonnie. Do you mean that we're not wearing the right colours? Colours are colours isn't they! I say is this why it didn't go past the third date? But no so she just left that dangling

07:37 We like to go on GQ or Google first, then a bunch of different blogs and stuff read about how do you know what colour suits you. And how do you know what colour suits you? It's about your skin palette so yeah okay you have either a very uh sort of white pale kind of quite reflective skin or as you can see from my I'm quite an olivey kind of brown. Not all real! I have a slight tint in my moisturizer, but it is... Sorry sorry you lost me at moisturizer? I've moisturized every day since i was about 16 since I started shaving

08:21 And that's why you look like a baby's arse. I know, i'm 47! That's pretty good actually. Yeah if only the hair had hung in there... So many men seem to be bald these days. So, I'm going to start with the first one.

09:06 Oh, who's the Cockney geezer? Comedian stand up. Harry Enfield! No he does Ow Ow. Oh Mickey Flanagan my homeboy literally from from Chingford He does that sketch about syrups and we're all in on it and I'm not gonna say anything and you're gonna pretend that i can't see but we're all in on it like...I love that sketch But no, so my ex she had this kind of thing about me not shaving my hair. So for a while I had this sort of flappy peninsula it's still quite short but i sort of spiked it back a bit and it was a desperate cling on to

09:47 What really was a scene change, basically. It is amazing that men get given so much shit for trying to tell women what to wear and rightly so because you know we say oh yeah women should dress sexy and feminine all this sort of crap women should dress how the fuck they want to do it Women do the same to men my ex used to not let me have a beard she used to make me get I really like having a beard because it covers up more of my face and for whatever reason, i want a beard for me. Not because of other people but because i want a beard and i used to get rid of it all the time! Women stop telling men how to dress and how to look. Oh okay good but...

10:29 Surely if she's kissing you and she doesn't like beards, and you didn't have a beard when you got together... But that would be on me. You're introducing new dynamic to the relationship it's like would you mind if I do any like a sex thing with nappies on? And she's like no well No I think having a beard and sexting with nappies, call me weird but they're in kind of different fields here right? I mean I don't know what your beard looks like It's about you, if she didn't like it she could tell me but it would be on me to whether I decided to do something about it and then we'd come to an agreement. She shouldn't be saying you've got to get rid of your beard. Fuck off! If you loved me you would shave it off how about that? That sort of shit no that's bullshit that's emotional manipulation and blackmail

11:18 So if you love me, you wouldn't mind about my beard. And if you love me then yeah it's about compromise and it's about her saying look my preference is this however it's your choice then I get to choose what I want to do that's the difference. But kissing you feels like I'm kissing a fanny what can we do about this? Yeah and that's right what can we do about this but it's my choice it's my decision my body let me own every every chubby inch of it Have you ever kissed someone with a beard? Weirdly, no. So what if it's awful? That that's something I will never experience. But you don't know then she might... Yeah but i've also never given a blowjob! There are things that I probably at least will never remember having done now that doesn't mean whether it's good or bad I just it's nothing that's ever going to cross my experience threshold

12:17 I know, i've got a friend though her husband has a ridiculous well not ridiculously long but it is a long beard. It's like you could say that yours is well kept looked after generally reasonably sort of styled you know like come on just for full disclosure i'm not a fan of beards myself he can never tell I think people grow them because they can't be bothered to shave. Firstly, yes absolutely 100%. I can't imagine the mentality of someone who every day wakes up knowing that before they can do anything they've got to go through and shave off things that are naturally growing on their face it just blows my mind! I despise stubble but i actually enjoy the shave

13:11 No, I'm actually my... earlier in the week i was uh we can talk about this in a bit. I was at my sister's wedding and my brother kept going on, a couple of people actually did think i should grow this out into a nice big viking beard really big chunky well trimmed well kept but a big chunky nice nice viking beard So then if you go to a classic car rally or maybe a darts event, a motorbike gathering. You've already got the tattoos. Mate! No for it for a motorbike thing you're quite thin and might get the wrong kind of propositions but

13:53 This could be the trick though, maybe you've been looking in the wrong places for your next date and... Well I've actually started looking a bit more. I downloaded all the apps again this week and i've been swiping like a mother foe! Yeah I've got Bumble and Hinge and Tinder and swipe it away And actually, I had one person send me four or five messages on Hinge once and one person's messaged me once on Bumble today. So out of a week of swiping that's actually the best result i've had in about two years! Are you paying? F**k no! Someone said the other day if you want results then you gotta pay No, If you wanna give your money to another corporation then you gotta pay

14:43 But doesn't the algorithm, they play with the algorithms. They only show you the fit ones if you haven't been on for four weeks they'll show a rush of fit ones. And not only that for every woman there are I think it's somewhere depending on the platform between six and nine men but every single woman and that's not even every conventionally attractive woman as well so every conventionally attractive women there's probably about 20 30 40 men So every single one of them is going to be swiping right on every single woman. Many of them, every single attractive woman and most women in general so I'm gonna be lost amongst the clouds you know? The odds are low! You do have a beard and you do have tattoos... Exactly! ...so for those women that say into beards into tattoos.... You know what? I'm custom made for ya! Is that like a euphorism for Netflix and chill?!

15:35 I don't know but if it is, i'm playing the odds you know. I'm upping my chances! What's it called when they shit on you? Scatting... Is that it?! Oh god! So when this says beards and tattoos actually means like to want you to shit on me We are surfing on very different websites here my mate. I was just trying to set you up there, you know? My mate said you'd like this! But yeah, I was at my... this is the thing. I've had to go on the apps because even like all the events you'd normally meet someone they're not working it was my sister's wedding on Friday it was an amazing lovely day instead of a wedding cake she had cheese like piles of cheese going up um it was her country mansion near me like literally 15 minutes walk from me opposite my kid's school I didn't know what idea it was there! The Beatrix Potter story? It was amazing

16:32 Thanks for watching. I'm But you keep your eyes open. I genuinely don't think there was a single, single woman there

17:18 No, but in a wedding this isn't the first time I think i mentioned. I went to a wedding last year and there was one single woman there who was the mother of the bride um that wouldn't really have been the done thing either so you're meant to meet people at these sort of events and and you just didn't and so it's like oh I'm just gonna kick back and relax and enjoy myself because I do love a good wedding uh there's something about just the atmosphere of everything and uh he did drink An awful lot. I think, I must have spent...I don't know how many hundreds I've spent on shots and booze and bits and pieces? And i'm just very quite thankful that my children are incredibly responsible when they all looked after themselves and we all kind of walked home together and then I just got into bed and fell asleep crashed out and passed out on the sofa! Face down!

18:08 And my youngest boy, he did. I didn't realise this obviously i was very very drunk but I didn't notice he just went to bed lay down in his full suit and just lay there and just went asleep and woke up next morning staggered down his head hair all askew and just as if he was drunk nearly as much as I had That's the photo I saw. I thought he was, that explains that photo now yeah totally totally kids can do that though can't they? Kids must have been 23-24 degrees last Friday. It was pretty toasty yeah. Kept in a full suit! Kids man...I got mine back this week everybody got COVID pinged. No way! Yeah last week at

18:56 Last week of primary school, so all those Facebook photos of here's my kid in 2005. Here they are in 2011 I've got a video on YouTube of his first day and you know... At school full stop? No it's I made this video of his first day. So we start off at home and he goes, Hi my name's Jago and it is my first day at school you might not have heard it, its Jubilee Primary School! And then it drops in and then we do this whole like turning up thing so we were going to recreate it and then we flipping got COVID goonered and uh... so yeah so she had to go and get them

19:46 The coals of the Leavers BBQ were on. So they were about to have their Leavers BBQ. And he got pinged during the day? It wasn't like you knew about it in the morning or something like that? No, no because obviously the mum got pinged at a barbecue over the weekend and someone even though they'd done a lateral flow um... They turned up having done negative tests And then one of the people at the party woke up on Monday morning and had a positive test. And so they had to flip in, shut this party down! So my daughter cried literally for three hours straight because she missed sports day I love how competitive she is. She's good sports, but not as good as she could be right? Because she has done more dancing than sports which is great. She's an amazing dancer and I love that

20:41 All people, and I'm not going to say all women or men. All people should play sport. It teaches you so much about yourself and about other people as well. Yeah! And you can turn up anywhere if you like... If you can catch a ball hit a ball and kick a ball even at the most elementary level wherever you go that you're included in a beach party flipping barbecue with a friend whereas who can play tennis? So when I throw her the ball, it just hits her in the face. I'm not okay with... She's getting better we've been practicing, we've been playing catch outside this week but yeah so Covid she missed TS Sports Day but she did a running race and was in for that and should have been good at it But he was all gutted about just the whole Leavers award ceremony The party in the park, the barbecue everything And

21:40 Have you ever experienced how shit schools are at IT? I mean, they're not renowned for their technical knowledge are they. So the ex says to me i think you better go like we're gonna watch on zoom we're gonna watch on zoom here they said they're going to do the levers assembly the whole award ceremony and if they're gonna do it on zoom and there's a few families like were in same situation so she goes But I think you better go as a backup. And in my kind of innocence, I was like sitting down to work and making the most of the afternoon and then oh yeah okay good idea so i get there... Oh bloody funny!

22:25 So, you know a couple of weeks ago I told you about the guy that I went and had a beer with and we cleared up the thing that i've hated him for years. Did we talk about it? No! I don't think...I don't think we did. Right this is like a Ronnie Corbett story right so hang on to the zoom call thing right okay okay it's in the background right there is a dad who I have not spoken to for about four years because So, I was like sort of treated him like you know a double agent.

23:13 He was from the Gestapo, right? So I've given him a serious wide berth and kind of like because i really was like if I get much closer to him I'm going to throw them through all the bloke. And so anyway not only are our boys going to the same school but they seem to more and more frequently play each other against football And then my boy says he wants to play cricket and I know this lad goes there and the dad's going to be there. By the way, the bloke sound top bloke right? So we went out for a beer of the week. We went out for a beer. This is the magic thing about men right? And i believe women can do this to some degree and women seem to manage long-term friendships very well as well as my current good lady will testify but

24:07 Bearing in mind I've wanted to rip his head off for the last four years, within 20 minutes we were laughing like trains. Well i got the piece of paper out showed him we sorted that out um had two pints shook hands and it's all good so we get to the Leavers Awards ceremony assembly thing course guess who's first? I'm like second person there guess who's the first person there And that is the magic of life. Like when you get things complete, when you clear out... like if you've got a beef with someone it's much better to flip in and just get it sorted basically. Life is just too short and so often these things can often be just misunderstandings there are so many situations where you build it up in your head as this major issue this big problem and then after a couple of minutes of talking actually it's all right

25:04 We're okay, let's just move on. Yeah yeah I had a mate once that we lived with the bank sent me a new cash card he opened it and maxed it out! Nooo! Alright that's a dick move...I mean it's funny depending on what you spent it on but that's still a dick move So when I found out I was like okay but this is like way too good of mate to lose over money and I just said Let's get this sorted and then just carry on like we've always been. And credit to him, totally that's what we've done and can count him as one of my best mates still. I think you need the friendship first so i had someone where... Just before my oldest was born actually. For me it was my second. I had a kid like a week or two from being born

26:04 I've Missing work tools and needing to replace them, otherwise he's going to get fired. I needed to borrow at the time was a lot of money to me it was three four hundred quid something like that and And I didn't have much money to spare but I said okay mate I'll sort you out gave it to him Didn't see hide nor hair of him for nearly a year And then literally two days before I moved out of that house somewhere else I got this letter posted through the door basically just been a drug-ed

26:43 And apologised and gave me a cheque, and kind of paid me back. But that sort of person... you know what? I don't need you in my life! You know if you're gonna do that and be that sort of person, i'll take the cheque, i'll cash it, then i'm happy that i never saw him again. Yeah well like you say, it depends how long have been friends. The value that you put on that friendship up to that point, and what you see of it in the future And yeah, someone very important to me. So that's the saying it is good to forget I heard this beautiful thing this week right? He said forgiveness is not forgetting but remembering without being angry. That was nice! Yeah, yeah like that. Forgiveness, remembering without the anger. Love that. I'm going put on a motivational poster and stick it on the wall

27:44 Yeah, in fact what I could do is I could scribble it over something. I don't claim to be an artist at all, but above my...I think i shared it on Twitter and so I did a painting for myself to fit above my bed. To give my room a little bit of colour and it was blue stripes and verticals and blacks and different colours and I quite like it! And a friend of mine, she saw the video that I'd put online. And when she popped around to visit one day, she had a look at the picture and she really liked it. She's bought her house and said can i do her a painting? And so what I've done is... Full nude selfie bus! This bad boy you can't read for the people on the podcast. It's massive. It's four foot by or three foot by four foot

28:46 And it's kind of blues and blacks, and there is a stripe of white and gold. And so on like that. The gold horizon in the middle! That's exactly what it was meant to be. So the only theme she gave me was the colour blue. And that was it. What I've done is kind of an abstract So basically that makes me technically a commissioned artist. It does, I feel like i need to get the picture that I made with my daughter when we did Make & Do yesterday because it is absolute

29:33 I think the absolute antithesis of what you've just shown, i think. I love doing it though because what do is I just crank up my music loud so um the first one I did was uh Radiohead's anthologies this one was Muse. Crank up the music loud drink a load of... fuck off muses are amazing! Muse are rock gods! Drink a load of wine and then have to start by uttering the words Fuck it. And just go, because otherwise you get paralysed by this beautiful pristine canvas and you're thinking every bit I put on that is if it's not the way I want it to then it's gonna fuck up then you realise that if you don't put it on there It's not even going to get a chance so fucking do it! That's deep, that's beautifully deep and it's bloody good photo, bloody good picture painting whatever Thank You man thank very much So if anyone does want any more than I'm happy to take orders Yeah they are very expensive

30:31 Thanks for watching. Now whilst Jonnie is talking, I shall fill the air because it's all about quality content. And for those watching on video you can see Jonnie miming and for those who are listening to the podcast you can hear Jonnie miming. He's back! And his listening-to-him miming is every bit as entertaining as watching it

31:13 He's back, he's back. That's my daughter asking me what time she is going to bed! Twitch had to remind her about the conversation we had at 9 o'clock when I planned on putting her to bed and she refused Oh, refusals! Yeah yeah that shit don't sit with me. She kind of wrapped it up with like a cuddle and watched some more TV together... No no no unless it's kind of a sporting event or a late night movie we're all watching or something like that bedtime is sacrosanct for me. Glen when I was at your house the other day and you've been when the curtain came down

31:56 Thanks for watching. It was when you locked the doors and shouted, lights out! I got an inkling for a past career that you may have either enjoyed or missed out on having. Did your dad... No prison officers in your family? Let's just finish the story though about the Zoom thing because Ronnie Corbett would never leave his stories back at school when the leavers thing

32:47 They'd not got it nailed at all. So as this ceremony, the awards ceremony, the assembly, the final moment of my boy's primary school history life and he was missing out on... I can see him on my phone. He sat in his mother's lounge in his school uniform literally looking as you know when someone is trying to put a smile on but they're absolutely devastated And And so then... But it wouldn't! So then they said, oh we're trying to find you a guest password. But they couldn't find the guest password. So thankfully I was there. I had a tripod my mobile phone on a rig with a mic because we got there quick right?

33:50 So everyone's looking at me like what the hell are you doing? And then I get the nod and like oh we're really sorry, is that why you've got all that stuff with you. Yes! That's why i have all this stuff with me so yeah...so I was zooming to three families in the Leavers assembly area So even Spielberg ate your heart out? I probably could be, yeah. No one would know...no. Yeah well no. I could be in it! Well i'm sure some of those kids looked as ugly as he did too. Ah well they're at that age aren't they they're 11 you know kids bless them when they're between what i'm gonna find out for sure but you know better than me some sort between 11 and 14 they just look like a bag of arms and head and boobs and shoulders

34:43 It's like, you know in those cartoons where they get some sort of transformation from one thing to another? Like in The Emperor's New Groove where Cusco is turning from a man into this into that into a llama and your limbs kind of poking out in random places and at different lengths. And so on that's what it is with kids! One day you'll wake up and their elbows will be so far out yet their forearms will be short like fucking t-rex then we kinda Legs will suddenly grow and it's... come on, you look like a cartoon kids. Just be human! Oh no but they'll say Daddy. It's like the ugly duckling isn't it? Daddy do I look weird? No darling you look wonderful. Oh no yeah absolutely look weird don't worry you'll probably possibly grow out of it

35:36 Well, yes. No you often see that don't you? Like the especially I think in well not I think obviously girls and boys but you know the girls like And if you're not subscribed to the Jonnie Jensen Show, then subscribe now. Because everyone can't be attractive. Some people are gonna be ugly and most people are somewhere in the middle, when you have to find where you are, be fucking comfortable with it and then if you want to improve that do things like shaving your head and growing a beard. That's what you've gotta do! That's all there is too it just own what you've got and maximize the shit out of it is what I'm saying. Yeah well that is...that's how you get

36:34 Thanks for watching. As Gok Wang said, it's all about the confidence and any man who walks into a room... you can tell when someone has got it. You can tell when someone is actually confident and that is one of the sexiest things in the fucking world as a man who doesn't matter what he looks like but knows who he is and knows what he wants Well, this has been a bit of a theme this week in Team Super Dad. It's just about that inner happiness and how long would you put up with not being happy before you decide hang on a minute...

37:19 I'm not happy and i'm going to do something about it. And the difference between deciding you're going to do something about it as opposed to trying to fix everybody else or blaming other people, or it's my job, it's not fair she's a nightmare...I mean I did a lot of that myself but And sadly, that can mean that as you work through some of your stuff yourself like this is not what I signed up for or just do one on your kids because that's not okay. But if you're in a relationship that just isn't working if you're in a job that just isn't making you know isn't fulfilling yours is wearing you down then your happiness is your responsibility just like your confidence is your responsibility we've got to stand up and

38:07 What's that? Stand up and be counted. It's time to say, right okay well this is what I'm up to this is what I'm not willing to take... I just got into a guy today and I had to say Because I said to him, all new members of Team Super Dad. Oh! 203 members in the Team Super Dad community? Yeah you mentioned it earlier yes he's getting there we're cranking those numbers up So as I said is he just came in a few weeks ago and I said look everybody everyone that joins I invite them to have a chat with me and so he's telling me all this stuff they didn't book the call and then and then and I was like look

38:46 I don't, i'm not qualified to help you with some of the stuff you've just mentioned and we might not be right to work together but dad2dad man 2 man take me up on the opportunity to have a call because i've probably been through some of your stuff and you could take something from that that will help you end this shit storm that you think you're stuck in. Well it's about people owning that I may have mentioned this already on the pod, so sorry if i'm repeating myself but you know we pick up new listens all the time. I work in sales...

39:21 And we call it loads of different things, but a big part of my job is sales. There are only two winners in any sales process there's the people who actually win the contract and then there's the people who spot it's not right and they're not going to win and they stop it really quickly so that don't waste their time everyone else to a greater or lesser extent is a loser Now if you know, everyone goes into relationships thinking they're going to win. Otherwise why the fuck are you going into it? If at some stage you realise I'm not gonna win on this then the best thing you can do is say... You know what?

40:01 Let's cut this, let's call it a day and let's move on. I'm not wasting your time you're not wasting my time and nothing gets any worse the quicker you do that the better its going to be and more likely you are to win out of that situation for yourself You're not a loser unless you stick around in something you absolutely know is not right for you Yeah, it's not the 1950s. We're not stuck married! It's not a flipping curse or sin to get divorced anymore... ...it doesn't mean you're a freak or a loser. Do you know what? That whole till death do us part thing- Well it means all ghosts are single so in the afterlife I'm gonna be fucking laughing! No, I hung on to my vows big time

40:48 I think all those, all the bits of the vowels are good and solid like inhales rich and poor definitely until death to his part having been through that experience now it's not till death to us part. It's like so long as we stick to the thing that we said we were going to stick too And this is not to say marriage and relationships in general are disposable. Far fucking from it, you work the shit out of it but that's because you want to make it work and you still see value in it. It's...and while you're still into that then work your ass off! Make it work! Relationships are not always easy and I hate this throwaway culture we've got that people just think oh well let's just chase something else. No actually sometimes relationships need you to work through some shit

41:33 But it's when you know, and you know everyone fucking knows. When you know it's not right and it's not good and it's going to be hard to break up... Be brave! Be a man! Own that shit! Own your future because you're not gonna get any more of it this is a finite life we've got so make sure that you cut your losses as quickly as you can and get ready for the next chapter yeah And actually that attitude as well may well cause The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up, Team Super Dad, teamsuperdad.com

42:25 It's easy to say at this point in time, five years old you'll be alright. But being divorced is no picnic at all but staying in a relationship that hasn't worked for however many years is a flippin waste of life so... But it can also be the thing that might spark their relationship back into life because there's a thing about if you feel like someone needs you absolutely needs you they can't survive mate that's a lot of pressure that's not nice But if they're with you, because they want to be with you. They're choosing to be with you actively not just because it's easy not just because it's what they know but because they actively want too that becomes different now That means if you're with someone and you know that they think oh well he's always going to be with me It doesn't matter what I do You know I can fuck around I could do a one and yeah we'd always be there

43:15 Then that lessens your value in that relationship. Whereas if you're in a position, you're saying, You know what? I want to be in this relationship and I'll work hard at it but I don't need to! Yeah...I can walk away any stage, I will be fine And that raises your status, it raises your value in that relationship and makes the other person think you know what maybe I need to invest a little bit in this. Maybe I need to earn their love a little bit more as well and it can really change and level out that power divide yeah well co-dependency! I didn't even know what that was or what it meant until someone brought it up with me and I was like oh my gosh yeah totally did that so like

43:57 You can't be happy unless you're with that person. You can't be happy unless that person supports you, and part of being in a community like Team Super Dad, being in a group of men, like-minded men people are lifting you up holding you to account sharing knowledge that is so important for men because then we're asking that of your partner Like, your relationship does not need that shit. You don't need to be each other's It can be everything because it's just too much. Sure, being an encourager, be a supporter, be a lover, be a partner like be a friend but it can't be everything and that's why you need to say to people like can you get yourself off somewhere else and get the support and love then come back when you're ready for some fun? Because there are too many relationships

44:57 Get put through the ringer with too much expectation and too much pressure and too much flipping, can you save me because no one else can. Yeah I mean...I'm very much in advocate for each person having a joint life absolutely but each also having their own individual elements of that because if you aren't going out and seeing your friends and seeing people that the other person doesn't know or might know obviously but isn't like in the same friendship group with What the fuck are you going to talk about? You're gonna talk about the things they already know because you're at home or work. That's it. That shit gets real old, real quick! So you both need things to bring to the table your own interests your own passions your own hobbies have joint ones abs are fucking loathely but you don't need to do everything together um in my opinion it keeps life interesting keeps you talking keeps you gives you something to chat about and gives you something to bond over and to share even though you're not sharing it in person

45:57 Absolutely. And I've got something to share with you, Glenn. Is it an STD? No no that's burnout. The singing and the burning has gone down! I bought some pale ale craft beers in Lidl the other day Oh yeah had me at Lidl They basically ripped off Brewdog. Love Lidl! Those guys are just geniuses They ripped off BrewDog. It's in the same size cans, it's silver but it's slightly sort of green metallic-y green and it's just their craft IPA pale ale naturally it's half the price of BrewDog so instead of being like seven quid for four cans its three...four quid for four cans. Does it taste like shit though? No! Tastes like BrewDog

46:53 Oh, this is so good. I know my mates always got like 20 cans of BrewDog in his fridge and i know that because he offers kindly to help him drink them so uh so i was delighted to tell him that Lidl do this flipping brew dog ripoff which is spot on I see there's one of, it's either an Aldi or a Lidl opening over the road to me and i just can't wait until it does. And I kind of drove past it when I came... It's huge! Yeah it's gonna be, it's gonna be a really nice chunky unit um and it's walking distance you know? It's on the way home from my kid's school so if that is the case then might my beer not my indoor beer fridge but my garden like my garage beer fridge Thanks for watching.

47:50 Far be it for me to say that there is actually a difference between Lidl and Audi, but I do prefer Lidl to Audi. So yes... Oh absolutely! I know there is a difference am I can I say what that difference is? Abso-fucking-lutely not which one's got the middle aisle which one's got the glorious random chainsaw aisle they both do that they both do the middle aisle Thanks for watching. Saturday night. Well, well, well. Well, Glenn, you know this has been a lovely little session basically we did get a little bit heavy on the don't get stuck in relationships there but I think that's an important message We will be back next week Mondays Monday's on the wrap up. I've got a couple of

49:05 Interviews, conversations. I don't like to call them interviews! Got a couple of conversations in the can ready to publish. Yarrick... Yarrick? What's his bloody second name?! I hope you're not asking me! No do you know what i've done there? I've mixed his first name and second name up to make Yarrick it's not it's Yarrow Staric If there's any topic that you, the listener or the viewer would like us to cover on those serious sessions. Also the training sessions on Tuesdays in The Team Super Dad group then let me know last week we did a little Q&A tomorrow's session I'm

49:56 I'm going to be rerunning the Happy Dad 5 Day Challenge in a couple of weeks. So tomorrow, in the Tuesday coaching session we'll be talking about basically the Happy Dad 5 day challenge and it's basically kind of the pillars for happiness for men in our modern day lives so 1.30 if you want to watch the live, if not then you can watch the replay Where can they watch the replay? Where can they watch a replay? Ah, well thank you for that. The best thing to do is go to teamsuperdad.com forward slash group

50:32 And you will get both the invite to the live event and you'll get shared, the replay as well. So be sure not to miss it! How long till we can get up to... when do you get to 200? Do you have to go 250 or can just go straight to 500? What's that? What becomes the next target think back to the Blue Peter thermometer thing whatever Yeah I would say if in poker i'd go 100, 200, 500 thousand So I'd go 500 will go next. Right, so the next membership milestone is uh is 500 which... If we get to 500 can we do a Team Super Dad poker night? Oh oh what we can do on the 21st of August at Teeson Park in Maidstone we are going to be having the second annual team super dad family picnic

51:22 Which I'll be putting up the event and some flyers, digital fliers for this week. But yeah two summers ago we had the first ever Team Super Dad family picnic at Thyssen Park and yeah August Saturday the August 21st 1pm at Thyssen Park The Ox-Oscos are invited if that's your weekend. Oh, it's not my weekend and I'm looking at my diary right now! I've got it all booked out and I've just got day drinking put in the diary so I'm pretty sure I've got something in for that but... If that falls through then I will day drink with you my friend Day drinking like one of my favourite episodes of... oh for fuck sake brain

52:07 This dementia is driving me mental. You know if you had a beard you wouldn't be so demented, that's all I'm saying! One of us has got a beard and one of us hasn't... That's correlation there. That's like car ranting deck, you can say oh no i like the one with the beard, or no no i like without it being there. That's good okay well Len's very much available, I am taken off the market Glenn, yes I'm happily on the market ladies and you know what it's been a lockdown. It's been a long lockdown so probably some gentlemen as well just hit me up people! Hit me up yeah available all good dating apps at the moment. Glenn as always lovely stuff i'll see you next week have a good one till then

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