Back In The Game - The Wrap Up #33

00:00 Whoa, it's Friday. Welcome to the Team Super Dad Wrap Up! We're here as always to celebrate the end of our week and talk some nonsense... maybe topical? Maybe some stuff from our life? Maybe stuff we've made up to fill the show with hilarity and goodwill. But whatever your week has been like, and mine has been some highs and lows as people get into but you're in the right place We're gonna have some laughs, we're gonna have some drinks And I'll tell you all about it after this Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever, more time, more money, more fun! You are not alone you're on team super dad

00:51 Hey, welcome to the Team Super Dad Wrap Up. If you've not joined us before then you are glad to be here first-timers popping your wrap up cherry tonight and if you're a regular listener watcher subscriber then it's great to have you back always it's nice to feel that people come back isn't it like but you done something good Yeah, yeah. We're like athlete's foot you know once you've got us you just can't get rid of us. Itchy little fuckers! Thankfully I'm alive! I did notice as i was doing that because when the wonderful funky music was going on and I was looking at different screen and as we went on screen I noticed that I went...I did that and I felt like Ron Burgundy or something.

01:40 What does he say? Go in, San Diego. Oh yeah good I love that film! You know they've turned off watch parties on Facebook so we can't get people... not that i ever really did that but um..I can't believe they haven't worked out some way that you can watch things together you know like on a big screen where you all kind of turn up at the same time maybe they could sell food and snacks as well Put seats in? Well I have done that. Not the cinema thing but i have done watch along dates before where you've not been in the same place at the same time, but you wanted to spend time together so we did it so we were both watching the same movie but trouble is she was watching it on Sky, I was watching on Netflix and they were different versions! So every now and then I'd have to pause it while she caught up

02:39 There'd be like different timings, there'll be extra scenes in one and not in another. And it was just... It was a nightmare! Basically what I'm saying is that's not worth dating because the logistics are too much. I think you should just give up now. Well, I've got updates for you on that front in a minute Glen. Do you know on airplanes they used to do that? Cut out like, get a movie on an airplane all the days of built-ins in back of the seat stuff kids things our kids won't ever know about but they would do film plane versions of movies And then... Oh, I thought they still did but whenever i've been on them obviously not last year but before. They'll say right you got the screen in front of you haven't you? But they'll say like yeah be aware this movie has adult scenes now if i'm sitting here and there's some random kid sitting next to me what am I supposed to do

03:30 Excuse me, am I supposed to kind of like put a blanket over the screen so he can't see? He might not be able to hear it but if there's boobs you're damn right he's gonna be watching it. Yeah uh like just what they call it like a discretionary...not a discretionary Oh, I can't think of the word. A decency flap! Yes exactly that's what we need some sort of decency flap. Well i told you when it was when I first discovered Brockmire As the show rolled in the back of my seat on a Virgin Atlantic plane, it said please be considerate to people around you. This program contains sex violence drugs and nudity. I was like... As does every good flight! Left foot right foot header brilliant so how's your week been Glen?

04:26 He's had his ups and downs. It's been, I mean overall it's been another busy one but you know i'm sick and tired of saying he's busy everyone's busy can you remember a time when you weren't busy? I thought we've done some good things at work but got a bit of knock today when someone wanted to get a job and I'd kind of put myself on the line a bit, to get them a bloody good offer. To come and work with me and made sure they got the offer and yeah they've turned us down which is a real shame so i'm glad about that! And also on a non-work front as well I've basically had to stand up to it. I've gone full Harry Potter and, oh no was it? Who's the one in Harry Potter number one where he stands up to his friends um the fat kid who ends up killing Voldemort? Oh I'm not very good at uh Harry Potter! I know that the Weasleys were their brother...were their friends yeah whoever whoever the kid was number one that stood out I took I've had to stand up to a friend this week they've

05:27 For the past year or maybe longer, they've just been getting more and more and more kind of self absorbed and fatalistic negative aggressive and spiteful to their friends around them. And I had to say enough is enough! I'm not going to enable this anymore And they've really gone off on one. But I think friends don't let friends continue in that way, friends don't enable their friends to be doing the bad things and so at some point you got draw a line in the sand and say no more! No, I'm not going to be part of that So it's been a tough week in some ways but... You think the friendship is gonna be over because of that or do you think

06:11 I don't, i've said to him that. I don't think you're terrible! I think how you've acted is terrible but I don't think you're terrible and I want...I want you to get better. I've been there for so long really tough times um and I know things are bad but I'm not just going to sit here and tell you all the things you wanna hear that you're making all the right decisions when you're making the wrong decisions. I'll be here for you when you're ready to come out of this then I'll be there for you but until then So we'll see how long that takes. No, I respect that! That's... and i don't mean that just like oh yeah well done mate that's brilliant uh it takes a lot to to well i tell you what doesn't take a lot to do it doesn't take much to step over that sort of stuff and most people generally do and the thing is it the taste is still left there the friendship is tainted by having thought it and not said

07:06 It's just you kept it in, like swallowing the poison and waiting for someone else to die. You stood up for what you believed values if you don't I've been writing an e-book this week part of the Hero Academy and that program which is about the paid part of Team Super Dad and purpose is number one called The Power Code so Purpose, Ownership Work Execute Reward And inside a purpose It's values. And if we're experiencing life as, this isn't as much fun as I want it to be, I don't feel quite as good about this is as I hope too then the place where we can go to look is our values and purpose because if we're not living those in everything we do and say who we hang out with then somewhere along the line which just is just that zest for life starts to fade away so

07:58 You know, you probably weren't thinking about all that when you did it. I know what your life is because started to get to know quite well now you are a man of values and you don't like when people cross that out. I respect that massively. Cheers man yeah its tough but its...I would want some...it's a harsh truth and the hardest thing So In a, an angry place and kind of a victim place as well of it's all everybody else is for. And yes some other people have done bad things but the way they've first of the way they've instigated in secondly, the way to dealt with it I think are wrong. While there in a space where its everybodys fault then their in a space were everybody else are the people who got fix it whereas I think that take some ownership off their own actions, their own attitudes

08:57 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up, Glen, Steve Lovell, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad, Team Super Dad And to make it right, they've upset a lot of people and don't acknowledge any of the blame. In my mind if you stab someone you can't fix it by putting a sticking plaster over the top You got to go a bit deeper to heal that wound and so if they really want to make it right with a fair few people They've gotta really think about how they can make it right and heal that deep wound without just thinking... If they just say oh yeah well you know times have been tough at minute you should just be there for me as a friend No! That's not good enough

09:39 Yeah, well that's about blame isn't it? All the time you're blaming other people. You are not being responsible for your own actions and what my experience of blame is that when you're blaming other people for things it allows you to be really angry and right about everything except done or could be responsible for. And I think it's only when people let, you know, only when people pull that blame back that they can start to see what their actions have been like and what they can be responsible for now. So yeah it's been a tough week though sounds like you've had an even rougher one? Yeah well... It's a perfect time just sort of segue into a tribute to Steve Lovell

10:27 Steve Lovell died this week. I don't know exactly how he had an illness going back a couple of years ago, which i think was some kind of cancer type liver type you know? He was in and out of hospital touch-and-go for a while and then he then he was back! And if you're a keen listener to the Team Super Dad podcast Steve Lovells conversation with me was the second ever Team Super Dad podcast. So not quite as nice as Mike is this one, but a bloody good conversation and Steve I met him through Landmark Education and so we were on personal development courses you know? In in an environment like that people are encouraged...not encouraged..people discover the strength to be

11:19 straight with you. You know, there's exactly like you did with your mate this week. There is no value in not saying what there is to be said but also doing it in a way that makes a difference rather than just dumping someone and Steve he was a scouser originally He just had an massive heart And then you meet him right? And he's a painter and decorator And then he starts talking about, oh yeah well I used to be a punk. Yeah I used to play guitar. Yeah i was in a few bands yeah Yeah, I produced Blur's first album. It was quite fun when they were head to head with Oasis and Parklife and all... And you're kind of just like, whoa! Back up! Back up! I thought you were Steve? I thought you were just like Steve?! I didn't realise you'd done all this cool stuff. On his podcast interview conversation with me he talks about

12:16 How he got into punk and how he was on top of the pops. Do you remember... Ah, come on! Not Frankie Goes to Hollywood Who sang that song? Blue Jeans & Chinos, Got Pepsi And Oreos Americano, oh-oh-oh Genuinely don't know but I'm gonna find out Steve Lovell, Holly Jensen

13:05 Peacefully with his family this week and oh my gosh, you want to talk about legacy? And Dad's listening to this right. Like what are we on this planet for? What is our purpose? What are our values? We just mentioned it a minute ago like people can get a little bit confronted by that like well that sounds quite heavy I've got go and do something amazing. No Steve was just there for people and he was there for me when i told him I'd proposed to my wife I do like her. In fact, I like her a lot but i don't think you should marry her! He didn't step over it and he did like my wife. Him and his wife did so much for us when we first got together His son David and my stepson Archie were good mates for a while whilst we lived in the same area And he had Rachel, his wife she's got three kids

14:05 So he was stepdad to three children, two boys and a girl. And his son David and just Liverpool fans I know a lot of people on the Liverpool football front are missing him on the punk front, on the music front, on the community front Just a just top, top bloke. So Steve wasn't a big drinker but kind of an honour to you as well because I went with Gin and Tonic last week so this week i've got a little...I don't even know it might have been something someone won at a fair but I got given it as a gift for speaking uh... I don't know how much is best to put in but I've just had half a beer!

14:46 Wow, okay this is going to be an interesting end to the podcast. I don't know what is a shot? Yeah no that you've just probably put in about three doubles there Yeah, you're not meant to drink it by the pint. I'm gonna open... this was whisky that was made for me or certainly made for me then kind of mixed in my name is based on a 1998 Speyside malt scotch so 98 that's what 20 23 years? I think i was just finishing uni, it was party time in London uh so mine's a nine year old a cram to share. I'll sharing with you Glen

15:22 So nine years you've like top trumped me by 98 plus 9 that's 2007 plus 14. But it's not a competition No, I know but maybe i'm a little bit competitive about everything. Well if you want to get competitive in that regard what I have here is a whiskey that was Queen Elizabeth's dad's name George or Edward probably. Our current Queen, her dad was George. This is whiskey that was bottled for his coronation

16:14 A friend of mine who is 72, when his mum died he found it in her house and he doesn't like whiskey so he gave it to me. So I'm saving this for ultra...I've had a couple of sips, I had a little bit on my 40th birthday and I'm saving that for ultra special occasions but you know what? This hopefully will be good enough as Steve's memory so cheers! It really is, cheers Steve Lovell If we could have, here's the shocker of COVID right? Bollocks to COVID I'm fed up with it. If his funeral was a normal funeral it would literally be shut the town down type you know there'll be people coming from all over the world and so I mentioned legacy a minute ago never really finished off but blimey! You know dad's listening to this just think about what if it was your funeral what do you want people to say about you

17:14 If there was something that you could make a difference in, it doesn't mean invent something to cure cancer or find out how to go to Mars. It just means make a difference in your community. Stand up for your mates when when you think they've proposed the wrong person and be a great dad to three kids that aren't yours like just...just be Steve basically so yeah Much missed. And I'll tell you what else it did make me think, it made me think is a little bit of regret but just like how many times have I seen him over the last 10 years and stuff going on? I was busy with the divorce, we had babies, we had miscarriages, I was depressed, we had to break down...and then amongst that I didn't see an awesome bloke as much as I could

17:57 And that's what we must all remember is Reverend T.D. Jakes, one of our favorite line I heard of in a video on YouTube and it was about breakups and stuff but it says don't drown in the cup of water while she's off like while she swimming in the sea or like you know one of these other ones there...and uh I think that goes true for reaching out to friends no matter what's going on your life Don't not speak to people that are otherwise awesome That being said, you're sitting here saying I didn't see him enough. You knew him! I never got to meet him and so even if you didn't see him for a long time, didn't seem as much as you could have, didn't see it as much as you wanted...you got the chance to meet an awesome person and that's incredible and i'll never have that opportunity. I'll never meet this man who has made such an impact in so many people's lives. So yes, you could have seen him more we could all have seen many people more but

18:54 Did you see him enough? Did you know him and if you did then I'd say remember that rather than the other side of things. Totally, people have their own attitudes and sort of ways of dealing with death and stuff I think a freer perspective on it. But one thing I say to people just in that exact same way, Glen is people can be upset and yeah fine be upset for awhile but when it comes the point where its like do you know what? They wouldn't want you still be upset they'd want you having a laugh so let's celebrate the memories of the people we've loved and missed definitely

19:33 Hussah! So, Monday night we did the conversation with men and women about what women want men to know. It was an interesting discussion it really really was how did you find it? I don't profess to be the most learned person. You know, sometimes a little bit guilty of Finding out just enough information to be able to participate in a conversation, but not enough to really make a difference or influence it. Like enough to wing! Let's be honest I know enough to wing stuff yeah and i normally get by with just winging it but you said something right at the end of it... It might even have been after actually no was after it was on a post in the Team Super Dad group You mentioned like the meaning of feminism

20:30 I've been activated by the word feminism over the years. And yes, when you said that, The principle of women's rights being equal to those of men, or rights of women being equal to the other sex. So it's that simple! It's like if you had two kids it's the right to break a bar chocolate in half and give each the same piece size piece of chocolate

21:07 battle or toxic this, or win that. Or retribution for the past it you know some of the feelings that even I'm open about this so i want to be honest and frank because I think it gives other men the opportunity to see and question how they think as well But yeah, sometimes I'm like well you know come on chill out. You know like we're getting there or as far as i'm concerned I want everything to be equal or whatever but then I get quite activated when they're really banging the drum and it's like wow men are this and men are that... When you say they who are we saying? Oh some obviously some of the louder people on Twitter which is a micro

21:48 flipping cosm of the whole female population. Yeah, so you're on Twitter more than me so I dare say... Yeah i am an awful lot and uh i am an absolute feminist 100 percent my kids are feminists when my youngest he was like four or five years old i was teaching him about equal pay And for weeks afterwards he would just randomly walk up to me and say, Daddy do you know that women do the same jobs as men but they don't get paid as much money? That's crazy! I was like yeah it is mad.

22:28 How is this other thing? And it's exactly that, it's purely about equality. It's saying no better and no worse and that's all it is. I mean a good person should want both genders to be up and so on and the quality of life for everyone to be up but it's not saying that women should be having things better than men You know, everyone wants things better but it shouldn't be based on your gender. That's all it is! It's really really simple. It's just about pure equality and its whole...it works both ways so if men are held accountable for certain actions women should be held equally accountable not more not less. It's pure equality that's all it is but

23:12 It's been hijacked by kind of the phrases like feminazis and the extremes where there are people out there who do want women to have so much more than men because making up for millennia of oppression all that which happened. But they are kind of quoted and referred to, and all feminists are referred to in the same way. And that's just... it's just not true! If you can- if anyone can look me in the eye and convince me that two people should be treated differently based on their gender I'll be open to the discussion but it's rubbish. No, no, I agree it's rubbish but I think my attitude has been too much like well that's obvious

24:03 Yeah, that's obvious. You know? Okay so let's just get on with it rather than sometimes it feels a bit angry other things that blow my mind you know TV programs now where the dad or the brother is just a complete mom. The Peppa Pig sort of mindset? Well, I don't know what...I heard someone say that about Peppa Pig recently and have been being a dad of two kids 11 and 9 you know so they were babies in the early 2000s You know i've watched

24:40 I've watched every episode 50 times, hours and hours of Peppa. And I love Daddy Pig! I don't think of Daddy Pig too much as a doofus but I think of him just as the loving dad who goes to work and get on with it Disney is worse for it. Nickelodeon not much, but Disney's bad for it at the moment and it seems like a Disney there's this big push to put women front and centre It's like we feel bad about what we've done for the last 100 years so we're gonna flip it And we're going to put women in all of the front roles and make men look stupid

25:16 Which just feels a bit weird to me. It feels, it feels a bit... I don't mind but no one's come out and said it! No one has come out and explained it or maybe they haven't? The issue isn't that women are getting in the front rows, it is because men are made to look stupid in it Now look at any other thing the women aren't made to look stupid That's that the men might be the leading characters but women are made to look helpless and fairy-like And the man has to save them now how do you make a man Be that I need saving in some way, whether it's emotional or physical or whatever. Without him looking like an idiot is hard to do but yeah

25:55 as imbalanced as we think. Because I mean look at panel shows for example, now almost every panel show if i see a panel show where there's more say that nor like have I got news to you not ever gotten into you and what's the mocked a week we got six panelists and the host hosts is male now if there's more than two women on there it becomes noticeable because we're not used to seeing more than two stand-up comedians who are female How many times have you looked at something outside of QI? QI is the only one which is properly equal in terms of gender. But outside of QI, every single panel show is male-dominated to an absolute huge degree! If you saw a fully male lineup, you wouldn't even blink your eye and so when you see A woman on there, you think okay well there's a token woman maybe two women three women my god are they trying to take over

26:48 And that's just three out of seven on that week. And that's just an example of what happens in every single series, so I think we're so indoctrinated to it being mostly men with a little bit women but whenever it's even close to being equal or the other way then we notice and it massively stands out. Sport! In the last 18 months I don't listen to Five Live much, but I listened to TalkSport and whatever happened at TalkSport someone said shit we've got to sort this out. And they just rolled in a load of women! And it was weird to start with and iIdon't mean weird like bad... It was just exactly as you said it was noticeably off, it was noticeably weird like suddenly you've got a woman's voice commentating you're like hang on a minute

27:38 Where's the bloody... But that was in football, in the old days. In the Women's World Cup you'd have someone like and it wasn't him but Gary Lineker then you'd have an Alan Shearer and Ian Wright and then maybe every now and then you'd have Alex Scott might come on but mostly it was men because many of the experts in this and yeah yes women's football we could have male commentators male referees and all that sort of stuff Can you ever imagine a world where you've got Kelly Coates being the anchor and then you've got Alex Scarr and Alex Morgan as the experts commentating on Man United vs Liverpool men's game?

28:17 The gammon mind would explode. But actually these are football experts talking about football just because they happen to have ovaries doesn't mean they're any worse, they're probably better qualified than some of the pundits I mean i would rather listen to Alex Scott talk even though she's a gooner then um Danny Mills Or Danny Murphy. He won a couple of England caps and played football for a long time. Alex Scott is a bona fide England and domestic football legend who knows the game inside and out, but she happens to be a woman! So what? Who gives a damn if she's saying the right things?! Get her on!! But we notice it...

29:04 It takes a while to get used, like a new pair of shoes isn't it? If you look down you don't recognise the shoes. They feel a bit weird to walk in and then after... And then slowly but surely they suddenly become just normal, like just normal. Just comfortable and its okay. Compare a line up these days where you've got Alex Scott, you've got Micah Richards and so on because there was also the whole race side of things as well that's happened over the last year or two. Yeah, compare that to three or four years ago when basically it was Matt Letizia, Paul Merson. I don't know just name generic white old man and that was in Charlie Nicholas and they would just sit there just faffing about not actually doing anything good but you know their legends so its okay now. The wild side of the players in the Premier League are probably

29:56 Black or of some, you know black community kind of background. Yeah, racial background yeah now it's all good and but we strayed totally off from the conversation Monday nights podcast with Liz and Joe But yeah this is the same subject though really It's what we accept as normal when it isn't actually okay that that's normal And grabbing women's arses, wolf whistling them, rubbing past them in the pub. as a kind of way to let them know that you're attracted to them, but is actually really pervy and intimidating. Let alone scary. And these were some of the points that came up during the conversation with Joe and Liz. So what I'm saying it's not about whether you do it? It's about if you don't do it brilliant! But I'll tell you what... If you don't do it, You know somebody who does. And if you see him doing it call him out on it

31:00 Yeah, it doesn't have to be actually rubbing themselves up against someone. It can be a comment or look something where you're they're doing something which is going to intimidate someone just make say mate don't do that and if we keep calling it out then it'll change yeah because there's one thing to go up and offer a chat somewhere I offered to buy them a drink and that sort of stuff but we've all seen it where it's...and I'm not very good at it um I don't have the I don't know if this is a good or bad thing, but I'm not very...I don't have quite enough confidence around the whole chatting up thing. But then the flip side of that is where people have too much confidence and their idea of chatting up is let's go and leer over these two birds and basically make inappropriate comments to them laugh to each other whilst they're sitting there feeling quite uncomfortable

31:49 Make a crude proposition to them. If they say yes or no, we don't really care anyway because you get to laugh at them then and bolt back to your mates and go oh yeah check out yeah do you see what I did those two? And those women won't remember 1000 of you but they will remember one of them Yeah But it doesn't actually sound like you need to be going out on the pull at the moment sounds like you might... You might be fully falling into the G spot So we called today's episode Back in the Game because I do seem to, I do seem to have found myself kind of back in the game. Um, I'm going to definitely be very appropriate in this conversation but I do want to share it because it's been five and a half years since I split up but that also means five and a half years since since I've had sex

32:44 The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up, Glen, Steve Lovell, Team Super Dad, The curious thing is I've got a vision board in front of me, yeah? And I wrote on this vision board what the...what I wanted from an ideal partner. Right and i'm not saying this woman is the perfect part, I'm not saying I'm falling in love or anything like that, I'm trying to manage my whole emotions about it but At 46, I think it's okay. And I did get some flack about this when I shared my vision board on Facebook. I think it's OK to be really clear about what we do and don't want out of our relationship. And so who says on there? I read out It goes

33:32 Healthy, music. Not healthy music but these are like bullet points right? Healthy, into music, dance, funk house gigs festivals fitness runner competitive funny confident generous 5'6 to 5'10 slim positive attitude spiritual Christian faith skier and then in capitals no drama So when I shared this on Facebook a couple of years ago, one woman went absolutely mental at me. I think we talked about this last week didn't we? On the podcast thing that we did... No don't know if we covered this bit! Ah she goes

34:12 I'm 5'5", an atheist, and I hate the snow. So that counts me out." And I was like... Well yeah it does! No biggie. You know, I knew you since school like you're an alright woman, fun girl but that wasn't really the point. I've had-I'm 46 years old, I've had relationships that didn't work and I probably wasn't clear enough about what I did and didn't want And that's how I found myself in relationships that were painfully wrong, basically. So yeah this woman is of course you're going to say she's awesome otherwise why would you be having a sixth date with someone if they weren't flipping awesome? But it's also really weird like just touch even hugs

35:05 We laughed and joked the other week about when I was cooking her dinner, and I felt like Del Boy kind of like... Alright darling! Come in. I've got meat and two veg on the go you know? But yeah we did, well I tried to bring up the conversation about what I want what i don't want you know The other day on a walk it was awfully clumsy and didn't really land so I put it in a long text Which, you know which she really appreciated. She was like oh that's amazing that you've said that whereas it did feel a bit weird I'm gonna say things here that could put an end to this but it's probably better they puts an end to before it starts or someone says Oh wow! That's exactly first of all amazing that you said that second of all actually I'm really on board that sounds brilliant

35:59 Oh that sounds ideal. I've had those conversations in the past where a woman said, what are you looking for? What's your ideal woman and I've said with all the caveats...I'm pretty fucking good at caveating here and saying this is not the only woman that I would ever date however this is the sort of women that I would absolutely love to date and we go into a whole world of things But all they hear is, I'm not this therefore this isn't going to work. So no okay if you're not that's fine it that's that's not a deal breaker. I've only got...I have got deal breakers but none of the things i'm mentioning here are anything to do with deal breakers and yeah people can get quite hung up on what they do and don't want and miss out on a whole world opportunity that would be fantastic Yeah I wonder if those kind of people haven't been through a heartbreak

36:49 They're still in the mindset of anyone could love me. I'm going to, in fact, I've probably been guilty of this! I'm gonna turn this into the perfect relationship. She's so blessed to be with me we're gonna fix this. I'm gonna make it perfect and that's ridiculous that's never gonna happen Marrying a vegetarian, oh well she'll change. Yeah I mean that is one of those things where I would really struggle with a vegan because i'm definitely not that and I know why it would feel awkward about it. I would struggle with someone who didn't drink or was highly religious or who was a massive fan of Brexit you know there are things about my mindset and values

37:42 I was on telly, debating Brexit with some Tory, can't remember his name. On Good Morning Britain and the amount of hate mail and abuse that I got and they wrote articles in the Daily Mail about me but I know my value... You were in the conversation? Sorry? You were in the conversation or you just happened to tweet about it? No no! I was on telly. Oh yeah brilliant! So this was my first time on... what's the one with Piers Morgan? Is that Good Morning Britain? Yeah, he's gone now. Whatever that one was! But yeah, Daily Mail ran pieces of me and the only bit of abuse that really hurt me someone called me scruffy

38:22 I'm saying fuck off, you know. I'll be called a lot and you can disagree...I was not scruffy! But i know my values, I know these are things that are deal breakers because I know I couldn't shut up about them. I wouldn't be able to let that lie and I know it would cause arguments and I don't want arguments but most things if-if.. You know what? Even as a Spurs fan, If my missus was a gooner I wouldn't particularly like it, but that would add a certain frisson to the relationship. It would be great! It would be really funny. Yeah she loves football... A funny story very close friends of ours David and Jane when David DMACC got together Jane was actually a Gooner and

39:14 He converted her. Oh good man, what a story that is! One more of us and one less of them. What a happy ending that is eh? Oh man yeah so flippin brilliant but I just want to say to Dad's right it's weird you know Getting naked, I'm like hello. Whoa! Well i'm naked she's naked um but it is because it's more than touch and this out and maybe way off piste here so tell me if this is bollocks um but holding someone touching someone kissing someone is one thing

40:00 But when, for example this bit of naked skin is touching their bit of naked skin that's different. That feels different because as much as I love you Jonnie my... that bit of naked skin on me is probably never going to touch that bit of naked skin on you and it's only with someone you're intimate with and your comfortable and you...that you touch and hold in a way That is different, just connects you in a different way and it does feel exciting. And I'm really excited for you man this is absolutely awesome! But also quite pissed off that that you've been naked with women more recently than I have...I mean how the fuck has that happened?

40:42 Because it's on my vision board. I wrote that nearly three years ago, nearly three years ago and i've been writing it in my goals in my journal consistently for when... well not going to say I'm not going to fall in love right now but um you know with a beautiful fun fit attractive Confident, generous, tactile loving. We laugh play and plan our goals together that's what goes in my thing so the reason I'm sharing this right just to be clear for people is not i'm not trying to like flip in Kiss and tell. I'm trying to share this with other dads because, you know if you've been single just rushing around trying to find someone find someone find someone find someone...I read a stat because i did actually look it up second marriages have a worse success rate than flipping first marriages First marriages are 50-50 Obviously this is one flippin' stat I should now already be looking for my third marriage

41:45 You haven't had two, have you? No I haven't. I've only had one but if you're saying the second man's going to fail already then let's plan ahead! Second marriage failure rates... Failure rate... no no i think i think oh here we go yeah bad news divorce couples who marry for the second time have only a 31% chance of their marriage ending in divorce well that's better then what it's all right No, but it doesn't. Okay now straight away second article is Second marriages are more likely to end in divorce here's why yeah so there we go depending on who you ask

42:27 It's either going to be better or worse. That cleared it up nicely then hasn't it? That's a Murray Walker quote, whichever that was but now we can tell! It's either gonna be good...or bad! I'm looking forward to the F1 tomorrow and there is going to loads of Murray Walker references in the F1 tomorrow. I cannot wait I saw on, i don't know whose steering wheel it was in the... Williams. In the Williams, oh cool yeah so in the practice runs today and at times they had some Murray Walker-isms on their steering wheels Oh and on the halo as well! Yeah I'm gonna have to stop talking because there's a lump in my throat um and that just ah

43:14 It's gonna be a bittersweet. And it is weird because at the end of the day, we were talking about death earlier... He wasn't a young man! Everyone dies. Everybody dies twice. Once when they physically die and once when someone mentions their name for the last time. Now Murray Walker has died his first time he is going to be living On and on and on for a long, long time to come. You know why that's true? More... He retired 20 years ago! Mm-hmm. He left the show and was inundated 20 years ago Yet he is still the voice of F1 I would have said five years six years Yeah so i'd have said no he i'd say no he retired awhile ago it's gotta be at least five or six years No Crofty has been doing it for a long time Twenty years before he retired

44:04 But he's incredible and he loved it. He was a fan who happened to be there, and he was someone who really got into it And he would have loved how this season is going to go This season is gonna be epic! It's gonna be so good The McLaren said they were right up there Mercedes have backed down a little bit The Red Bulls are gonna be on fire as well I tell you... Because the longer a set of regulations are stable, the closer things get Also, they've introduced a draft system. So the further down the field you get the more development credits you're allowed to bring you closer to the front! There's so many little changes to the rules and regulations even before next year. Next year is a game changer but this year is a bonus year where all the cars are not just where they were before but

45:00 Keep going and getting closer and closer. You know that drinking game where you have to run, put your head on the broom, do like 10 times around the broom? If you get too far in the lead... Do some donuts! Put your head on a broom, do 10 laps around the broom and then get back in the car and drive out. That is genius! Well that's the thing this year is there no one's going to walk away with it. It's gonna be brilliant this is heaven for me because as a Spurs fan, as an England fan with the rugby and cricket and football and all that these days F1 is the only sport... Because it's not a traditional team I can't lose.

45:45 And if it is closer and Hamilton still wins, The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up, Glen, Steve Lovell, Team Super Dad, Team

46:21 Maybe Alonso and on an exceptionally good day if his confidence is up, Vettel can hold the torch to him. There's other drivers who will be up to that level Lando Norris will be out there George Williams will be out there. There are drivers who are on their way out. Ricardo is absolutely superb as well even on his day ride, I don't know if you can be bothered but there are two or three drivers who are superb world-class drivers and their cars are getting closer And it's exciting and Hamilton will probably win, but that's fine because he is the greatest driver of all time who would beat just about every other driver over the course of a season. That's wonderful to do! They could do one of those Rocky VI simulations where they put all the old drivers in... We were going to do this Glen actually right? We were struggling for Hot In The 90s... we weren't struggling, we're just coming up with some random ideas. Hot in The 90s.

47:17 90s F1 drivers and our podcast listeners, I know you hate this bit but we'll include you in. Imagine your blind! We're going to describe this next section for you. Can we make jokes about being blind? Is that okay? What have i done there? Yeah absolutely. 90's f1 drivers yeah we are inclusive uh we take the piss out of everyone. This is in the name of f1 coming back and it's in the name of Murray Walker and all that sort of stuff so this is relevant Hot in the 90s, right? F1 drivers. And to be clear if you are racing a 180 miles an hour around a track if you are sponsored up for the nines If you have got a million quid in the bank then you've got a lot of credits

48:08 A big nose won't seem quite so big when you've got a million quid and a villa in, what's it called? Monte Carlo. Because it is so much about attraction and sexiness is confidence The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen, Wrap Up, Glen, Steve Lovell, Team Super Dad, Team And so even if, yeah Ayrton Senna. Look at him in general and he's not super good looking but even that photo you put up there where he looks like a weird Jimmy White doesn't he? He is not a sexy fella but put him in a racing suit and get him on race day and there's this look in his eyes it's like fuck you I am amazing! You are

49:07 I don't know if you deserve my time and attention, but that is sexy as fuck. What about Shirley? Was Mario Kart... Nigel Mansell. Was Mario Brothers around when Nigel Mansell had that moustache? It was indeed, he was just on that overlap and I think it brought into...Mansell, I've got to say about Sexy, Mansell is not in any way shape or form hot! He's the sort of person you'd expect to bump into him in your dad's garage when they're repairing an old rover

49:49 He hasn't got that certain as the French say, I don't know what. Je ne sais quoi! Yeah his fame and money and racing driver lifestyle nudged him from a three to four on the hot list. Whereas the man next to him on your screen there Mika Häkkinen... oh man that is a cool Oh man, typical fucking Viking. I gotta say thick neck blonde hair kind of quiffed over in a 90s thing got kind of a boyish charm about him and the sort of confidence without arrogance Schumacher had arrogance he was purely arrogant but that was fine because he was one of the greatest drivers all time but Hackenen? Was better than him for a couple years and that's incredible

50:41 Because of car or because of driving skills? Both. He was in an equal car but he had a very different driving style and just for a couple years, he just topped out and beat him on pure talent. Here's to Schumacher! It is hard to make jokes about Schumacher because he is not even disabled... No we don't know his family won't release any information We can kind of posset that he is a vegetable. No, no but his son is driving this year you do know that don't you? Yeah. But look at it and say...no sorry look at Shoemaker he's very tall is like a real bloke? Uh no I don't think he was actually um let me find out but yeah again he's not a looker um he's just someone who

51:31 He's got that arrogance, for him it was arrogance. It was never just confidence Here is what we should do right? F1 drivers wives, that's surely the measure. That's objectification. He was 172 centimeters I don't know what that is in feet and inches but it's not tall. I know about 180 and i'm six foot so he wasn't tall at all. Five foot eight, five foot eight! That's all he was.

52:09 For me, I think Ant and Senna was the... well it could be the Icelandic... what's he called? We glossed over Alan Prost who has got that Gaelic charm but I think... That enormous nose! It is. It was an aerodynamic nose if nothing else. No. Or Jacques Villeneuve, he was in his 90s David Coulthard, massive chin Okay, so plenty of... we can have a bit of male totty in here because it's because we've got the sport angle. I gotta say any in my opinion any man who can't appreciate the beauty of a good-looking man is not secure in his own sexuality you should be able to look and say you know what that is a good looking man! We did discuss this when we mentioned Ryland the other week

53:06 So there we go, chaps. There's our hot in the 90s. You may have your own favourite F1 driver from the 90s but... Oh! F1 women drivers? We're going to get one do you reckon? I saw you absolutely caned it at Cheltenham on the subject of women doing amazing I'm not into horses. Steve Lovell, Team Super Dad

54:00 All you've got to know is at what point do you whip the horse? If the horse is good enough it runs faster, whereas F1 there's so much more to it. And yes we definitely will have a female F1 driver. The reason we haven't had her so far isn't because of... Yes there are some genetics and kind of physicality involved in it. F1 is despite what people say one of the most physically demanding sports on the planet. It's huge And so there are men who aren't physically built differently. That's not up for debate, that is true. How much G? Like g-force is round a corner. Yeah! Their necks are wider than my thighs but women could... That measure could be a great F1 drive.

54:45 But women, the reason they've not got into the sport isn't because of that. It's because they haven't had the support and opportunity to get into the racing. There is no route to the top At the moment. Yeah, they haven't been supported and encouraged at karting level upwards and so we don't know that there is the W Series now and that's providing more light on the subject and it's gonna trouble us is going to take too long but it's on the way It's just not quick enough but yeah for the time being I can't see There's no F1 sorry there's no W Series or lower grade racing drivers who are female That I'm aware of that are looking like you know what? They're gonna be F1

55:30 In the 80s there was a French woman who was a rally driver and she competed at the very top in the World Rally Championships. Yeah, and there have been women on testing weekends. I mean hell, Total Wolf's wife Susie she was pretty sharp! Let me be clear she would beat me in a race i'm not even going closer she is lightning sharp probably And there was another, I forget her name. I think she was Spanish driver who was killed on the racetrack as well in testing one a few years ago So now women are kind of getting to the testing stages They're just not getting the opportunity Not just getting opportunities These women weren't quick enough That doesn't mean they couldn't have been But they came into it too late and it wasn't going to work for them I'll tell you what we were big up Michel Mouton

56:28 French rally driver competed in the World Rally Championship for the Audi factory team. She took four world rally race victories and finished runner-up in the Drivers' World Championship in 1982. That is a badass French woman! When you talk about top of the game, French women. We knew a woman who was our ski instructor in Les Arts and her name was Poul Begoye. And she had the world record for speed skiing for the Flying K. She did over 100km on a mono-ski. This woman was tough to... She had bad thighs!

57:14 You don't get speed skating unless you've got muscle. Well that's like jockeys! You gotta crouch down and go around! It's not hard work being a jockey, come on... One of my ambitions actually is to go and follow the F1 to every continent we race on. So, going into the Middle East, going into Asia, to Australia, Rio, North America... Trouble is I don't think I'm gonna do it this year or get abroad and get out on my summer holidays any time soon! Well that's kind of the last on our running order Glen. Are summer holidays on or off this year? We got Boris, June... You can't go anywhere if you leave the country gonna get a £5,000 fine. Someone joked on the tinternet this week that was still cheaper than going on the Centre Parcs holiday! Yes, they're the new stuff!

58:12 How do they get away with it, Centre Park? Oh, since 2019 I went to Dublin for the weekend. That was the last time I went abroad and i'm not saying i'm hugely troubled but somehow I've managed to get away a few times every year and last year the furthest I got was Ely I went to Manchester for a weekend, but that was pre-lockdown. And then in between lockdowns, a friend of mine he was doing some genealogy stuff and he booked a little cottage in the middle of Cambridgeshire and said look

58:58 Do you want to come and just stay in one of the spare rooms? You can work during the day. He'll go off and do his family history, and then we'll just eat and drink all night." And it was just in a middle of a field in Cambridge here! It was lovely but not exactly luxurious or exotic. No no I don't know what's going happen...I'm pretty much thinking about booking a caravan again like we did last year basically because we did get away and it was fun It was fun. Yeah, I got to Wales last year with the kids. Ever since a divorce i've wanted the kids to have something they didn't have before and so first year we did a road trip around the UK just literally just go...I'd say where do you want to go next? And they would say Stonehenge! So we drive to Stonehenge. Where do you wanna go next? Chalkidwokidoodahs. So we drive to Brighton. Where do you wanna go next? I don't know Upper Mountain. So we drive to Wales and that was the first year then in second year went to Croatia um and also popped over to Venice and took them

59:57 What's the one north of that? Serbia or something, I don't know. Can't remember which one... Slovakia! And then the third year i went to Greece and popped over to Albania as well and I was thinking every year let's try and go away last year all I could manage was a caravan in Wales but it was a holiday my kids haven't really had holidays before divorce so um that was all I could manage just that's what we'll do this year Anything, anything at all. I would even go to Butlin's Bogner Regis! I'm going to...I'm going to Bogner Regis for my birthday weekend. Are you really? It was the Bun...Bun Holiday Park When is your birthday Jonnie? May 12 coming up. May the 12 that's not far that's not far Yeah and well we will be able to have a drink in Westmorland

1:00:53 I cannot wait for that. You're only a couple of miles away, how's the crow flies? Yeah! I can ride my bike and do like a comedy journey home. Hey, hell one day maybe not even trying to count chicken until it's deep fried in a bucket in front of me... One day maybe I can third wheel on one of your dates?! No! I'm not going to say double dating. Dad has only got to pop a tweet out and surely there is a line of women at the front door You'd be surprised. And even if they're... those who would respond I'm sure are not women that maybe I would want to be double dating with. Okay, well A... That being said if you are a sexy woman then call me! Call me! A, you can third wheel B

1:01:42 Surely there's definitely prospective women out there who are going to be just flipping busting to get out and go to The Swan in Westminster. Hopefully some of those second and third and fourth marriages would have failed over lockdown. This is gonna be the start of the next roaring 20s! You're very attractive but can I just check, if it's first or second, like if its fourth marriage then definitely you're in. It's completely devoid of all emotion she's like here's my checklist read it

1:02:23 We're here every week and this is When I was in a hole, right? I listened to podcasts a lot. And and I know a lot of either the men driving home salespeople people who commute

1:03:01 People who get up early and work, you've got single dads who are at home on their own sometimes and feeling a bit like fed up that they're on their own. The wrap-up, Glen and I's intention is to just basically... well we enjoy it because we're just hanging out so that's kind of what we're up to and will be one of those overnight success one night Glen will say something awfully inappropriate and it will go viral and then that's how we're going to become famous! Did you hear what that Jonnie Jensen said? I'll tell you what, that will be the thing that's said at my funeral. If he hadn't said those words he'd still be alive today! It was going so well...

1:03:45 But anyway, please share this. Give us a like review of course subscribe you might be watching this on YouTube or Facebook or LinkedIn but also definitely subscribe to the podcast and we look forward to seeing you next week Glen take care buddy. Team Super Dad out bye This has been Team Super Dad. Find us at teamsuperdad.com Join the program and create the best life ever for you and your children! You are not alone, you're on Team Super Dad