A Vision Board Gets You What You Want - No Vision Gets You What You Don't Want

00:01 Welcome to the weekender. This week, in the second part of Purpose, we're going to be talking about having a clear direction. That's my latest vision board for 2023. Good to have you here this morning. Let's roll. Welcome to Team Super Dad. Real dads creating their best lives ever. More time, more money, more fun. You are not alone. You're on Team Super Dad. Morning. Welcome. Well, it doesn't have to be morning, does it? You could be anywhere at any time of the day.

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01:29 Never good to stop something for a year, is it? It is what it is. The important thing when you're working on something, then you have a, I don't know, let's call it a hiatus, a setback, a pause is to just pick it back up. You know, people who, I don't know, if you start to write a book, what's the point of getting halfway through? If you were doing a diet and you put some of the weight back on, does that mean you're never going to exercise again? It is all about getting back on the pony, on the horse and carrying on, which does fit kind of neatly into this week's topic. The weekender five, if you've watched the number one,

02:10 you'll know the intention is to do this every weekend. So it's a nice way to wrap up the week. It's a nice way to catch you all on your weekend, if that's when you're tuning in. And each week, I'm going to pick out either an element from the work we do in Team Super Dad around the power code or any of the other tools we use, any other activities we do, you know, things like doing your cash flow, cutting soul ties, the daily sweat, journaling. This week, Inside of Purpose, we're going to talk a little bit about, well, not a little bit, it's going to be all about.

02:51 It's about this. This is my updated vision board. And last week we spoke about meditation, the power of meditation. The reason I kicked that off was because part of the longer meditation I do is very much about clarity around the vision and the direction in which you're headed. If you haven't got that direction, then it's like getting in the car and putting the destination into your sat-nav of nowhere. We're headed nowhere. Let's just see what happens. So, you know, when you're,

03:30 you know, like I said, when someone says to you, oh, where are you headed? What is it that you want? If you're not clear about that, then how the hell can you even answer that question? Imagine you're asking yourself that and you can't answer that question. So it actually erodes your confidence. That lack of clarity is eroding your confidence. And the reason for that is if you're not clear about where you're headed, then all you really end up focusing on is where you're at and what you're not enjoying. Like if things aren't going well, it's like, I don't like this, I don't like that. I want more. I don't want her this way. I don't want her to be that way. I don't want the kids to do this. I don't want to have to drive here. I don't want, don't like this about my work.

04:10 So it's only by creating where you're headed that you can be focused on that as an intentional, positive thing. So creating a vision board is, again, some people are like, what the fuck is that going to do? What a load of bollocks that is. Like, as if I've got time for that. That's the classic one. As if I've got time for that. But it's when you can see it as a catalyst, you know, as the start of a journey, as a start of getting into where you want to be, then you can actually see that

04:48 the value of it. And the degree to which you can create a vision board easily versus it was really difficult. I didn't know what to put on there will highlight to you. whether you've got any clue of what you actually want or not. So, in the Team Superdad process, we've got F5, so your focus, your fitness, your finance, your family, and your fun. Now, there's subsections inside of that. You know, for example, holidays, you know, that kind of sits around friends and family and fun, you know, it sort of overlaps everything. Inside of finances, you can break out as I've done here. You can break out

05:32 money, money, business, and then the different businesses that you're involved with or whatever. If that's a career, then obviously you're going to put stuff about your work. But if you try to do this and it's difficult, then that will tell you that you really haven't got any kind of strong handle on what it is you want, let alone how you're actually going to create it. And I guarantee if you don't have that, then you will be more focused on what's not working, what you don't have, like lack, what you're not enjoying.

06:12 And if you're constantly in that mental place, then you're just going to find more examples of things that you don't like, things that you don't want, things that you're fed up with. It's a very negative place to be. And that's the exact opposite of what we're looking to create here. Too many men are lost because they haven't got a clear direction in which they're headed, or they had a direction. This was clearly around businesses that have failed or around divorce. They had a clear direction. And now, because it's not working out, then things are going to crap. And once stuff goes to crap in one area of your life, then quite often it's going to go to crap in other areas of your life.

06:56 Health and fitness, classic one, or what you eat. You know, when things aren't going well, you start to eat crap. So it shouldn't actually take that long. On my one today, I've done focus, fitness, home, holiday, money, friends, business, relationship, and family. Before I was in a relationship, I had, it looked different. I had a girlfriend. It was much more descriptive of how I wanted that person to be, what I wanted that, you know, like what I wanted her interests and what kind of person I wanted her to be.

07:36 Which, if you scroll back through my Facebook timeline, you'll see when I posted a previous version of my vision board. And some people, a couple of people, got pretty irate about some of the things I put on my vision board about the perfect kind of person. If you're watching, by the way, on the lives, you can comment and get in on the conversation. So if you've got any questions about a vision board or about having clarity and confidence about the direction you're headed, then put it in the comments. I'll answer. So I put on my vision board previously, and this is this vision board, this actual version of it. It sat in front of me in front of my work for years.

08:20 After my marriage ended, I didn't have a relationship for nearly six years. I didn't want one. There was times when it would have been quite nice, but overall, I just wasn't in a place where I wanted one. But I did know what I wanted. And it's okay. It's very important. Why have I got no power? Consider, oh, here we go. I kicked, I kicked the power cable out. It's very important when you are, you know, whether you're planning for a new business, whether you're planning for whatever you're planning for, a new home, new business, particularly a new relationship, having clarity about the exact details of what you want is vital.

09:08 Why would you not be clear? You know, the old example of, you know, flying to the moon, if you're off by just the tiniest amount of calculations, you would miss the target by, I don't know if it's thousands of miles or millions of miles, but clearly the distance between the moon and the earth, the slightest inaccuracy in that plan will have the whole mission go to complete garbage. And so it's not arrogant to say that you want her to be the level of attractiveness that you want, or you want her to be the height that you want, or you want her to be.

09:54 know, have the kind of work that sort of fits with your kind of work. It feels uncomfortable at times because we're thinking, like, oh, it's not very politically correct, or we shouldn't be that specific about the, you know, what we expect, what we want. But then the opposite of that is, of course, there's the magic of life where wondrous things happen. But over time, the practicality, the reality of that will start to manifest. You know, speaking from experience, you know, falling in love and it being absolutely insane and crazy. And oh, we'll get through anything. Yeah. You don't even don't even know each other well enough.

10:37 So that some kind of six years later, that small error in the planning will have you be so far off that, you know, that marriage is going to crumble and end and take you down. It's like being in a business. Why would you start a business selling something you didn't approve of, agree in, believe in, or start a business with someone you didn't really trust? You know, it's you've got to have clarity from the start about what you're doing and where you're going. And so a vision board is literally a tool to make that happen.

11:17 It isn't woo-woo, it isn't a waste of time, it isn't garbage. There's some things I put on here today that are much more future, much more in the future, you know, like the kind of financial goals in the business. You know, if we're talking about a £500,000 revenue, then, you know, is that 250 Team Super Dad, Hero Academy, clients, dad coach clients, and Hero Academy members?

11:53 If they're paying £2,000 a year across a program or a treat, some one-on-one coaching, then that would be half a million pounds in turnover. That's the kind of business that I'm creating. If it's a home where we're at right now, isn't the ideal home, but a four-bed house with an office, a garden, a drive near water. I want an ice bath and a hot tub and a gym, you know, some space to have a gym would be also ideal. And I know from the kind of person I am that living near water, having some kind of view where I can relax is also part of what

12:35 gives me my joy in life. So of course I would put those things on there and want those things. If you haven't got that kind of clarity, it isn't going to happen. When I look at this and I think, and I look at the area about friends, you know, friends in your social life, if you're not clear about like intentions for the week, so you know, part of one of the actions, the weekly accountability actions inside of the Hero Academy and the Power Co. is to call a friend each week. Now, to some people, that would seem obvious. Like, I speak to loads of people each week, but to some people, they're so busy, they're so caught up in family life and work life that they won't speak to a friend for a couple of weeks.

13:20 And then they're like, well, I'm bored. I haven't really got much of a social life. Well, you haven't put the energy and focus into making it happen. And so where does that lead on from there? How often do you see people? How many weekends away are you planning? What kind of holidays are you actually intending to have? So this is basically your blueprint for living, first of all, an effective life, but second of all, a life that is going to take you to the goals that you have. And as I've said many times, fulfillment is having clarity over what you want and then consistently doing work that's going to take you in that direction. That's fulfillment. So

14:05 there's a training actually on writing a vision board. It's not exactly that difficult, but to someone who's not done it before, you can comment power if you're watching on the live or on a replay or on the podcast. You can just come on over to find me on Facebook, Johnny Jensen, or go to teamsuperdad.com and send me a message and I'll send you the vision board blueprint. It's just a short PDF to guide you in creating one. By the by, tonight, the good lady and I are going up to London. We're going to Ronnie Scott's for a night out. Awesome.

14:47 Christmas present, but again, it's on. the vision board of, so in relationship, it says music, gigs, festivals. Inside of Friends, it says at least one night out per month. It's also got weekend breaks on there. So this isn't really a weekend break, but it is a night out. Oh, and do new things. I've got inside a relationship, do new things. So I've never been to Ronnie Scott's before. It is a famous venue in London. Jazz, traditionally, a jazz bar, jazz club. So now, how many cocktails we're going to drink tonight? I don't know. I was out having a beer last night and the bloody beer was £5.20

15:33 in just a local boozer, £5.20 for a pint of Guinness in a local boozer. The world's gone mad. It is quite literally frightening how much random everyday things are costing. So even more of a reason to get tuned into how much money you're making, what your financial targets are, what it is that you want to have in your life and how much that's going to cost. Without that, you're not going to be clear on making it happen. So whatever you're doing this weekend, have a good one. The Junior Js are here. So we're going to have a nice bit of bacon and some pancakes in a minute. Tomorrow, Tottenham are playing Man City. Come on, you, Spurs. Sorry if you're a non-Spurs fan.

16:15 And let me know about your, I just had Rose Jensen. I've just had a hamster put on my lap, which was not what I was expecting to look down on my lap and see. No Freddy star jokes, please. Here's pom-pom. Oh, oh, he's nibbling my thumb. By the way, if you're ever going to buy a hamster, don't get a girl one. The boy ones are so much more chilled out. And that's not a sexist thing. That is actually the reality. Have a great week. Thanks for tuning in. Share this with someone who you think would get value out of it.

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