Episode 5: The day I found out I'm boring

00:00 Before we get going, I have an invitation for you. If you're ready to find out how much easier it becomes to get things done when you have Make It Happen Club in your life? The doors are open to new members right now and i would love for you to join us! So Make It Happen club is a calm quiet sanctuary where you get the clarity focus and motivation you need Hello and welcome to Unfrazzle with me Louise Miller. If you're a solo business owner and you have a big exciting vision and loads of ideas that you want to get out in the world but without drowning in a sea of overwhelm, then this is the podcast for you. Each week I'll be sharing bite-sized insights to help you stop faffing and stay focused so you can make your brilliant ideas happen and make a bigger impact in the world It's time to step away from the hustle and find a kinder more sustainable approach to productivity So grab yourself a cuppa and let's get started

01:31 Spring 2016 and I'm on an adventure. The stress and anxiety i've been feeling at work have taken their hold on me physically, And I can't even walk to the shops and back without needing to stop for a rest But still I'm on an adventure. I've realised it's time to leave employment and figure out what I'm going to do next. This journey of discovery isn't a solo expedition Other courageous travelers are on the path with me too. Together we're exploring our strengths and our weaknesses, figuring out what brings us alive What are our natural gifts? What are we going to do next as we move into this kind of adventure or self-employment And I don't yet have all the answers but through the fog and exhaustion i feel a tiny glimmer of hope One day As part of our mission To understand ourselves better

02:23 We're invited to take the wealth dynamics test. So I get really comfy on the sofa, I answer the questions hit submit and head over to my inbox to read the results so for those of you who don't know about wealth dynamics It's a profiling system created by Roger Hamilton which is about helping entrepreneurs to find their flow. I'll pop a link in the show notes in case you're interested but just to let you know for context, my results are that I'm an accumulator so basically that means I'm a great team player and really reliable when it comes to getting things done. I'm orderly with a good eye for detail. I'm really strong when it comes to completing

03:05 But I'm not so great at extroverted peopling and jazz hands and look-at-meing. Back to my results, I got my results i found that out and I was absolutely livid! I can't even describe how angry i was. Here's a little quote from my report it said, I mean, how boring does that sound? So my initial thought back in 2016 as i was reading this was how the heck am I going to create a business that I love based around that. So I stomped into The Kitchen and I read the report to Tom and he started nodding along in agreement not in agreement with my rage you understand but in agreement with the dull-as-dishwater report that I was sharing with him

04:10 And he's nodding because he doesn't think that it's dull, he thinks it's accurate. But I'm back to how the heck am I going to create a business I love based on this? It's so boring and all of the other profiles look so much more fun! Anyway time passes my indignation slowly morphs into resignation You know, all right then I suppose i do look for a time and a place for everything. And yes! I am careful and reliable so a few weeks later um...I mustered up enough energy to catch a train to London for a meet-up with the other people who were on the course with me So I headed into London and I was sitting nervously cradling my G&T but then something really unexpected happened

05:03 So the new friends that I'd met on this course began to gush enthusiastically about my strengths and my eyes widened in surprise. I couldn't quite understand what i was hearing, that they wished they could be organised and get stuff done like I could but the more I listened to them the more the penny slowly began to drop and I started to sit up a little taller in my seat So seven years on,

05:55 And just the other day, one of my private In It Together clients told me what a relief it is to know that she no longer has to worry about the fact that she has zero steel energy in her Wealth Dynamics profile. I've got 44% steel, which means i have a really good eye for detail and am great at completing. So having me at her side fills the gap in her profile leaving her free to blaze a trail! I think the majority of her energy is that blaze energy that only 8% of so we complement each other beautifully And I now realize that, that thing that once felt boring to me. I now realize that is my superpower and when i use it to support people who are doing amazing work in the world It feels really fantastic So why am I telling you this? Well...I'm telling you this because I want you to know That your natural tendencies Your preferences, your gifts Are perfect just as they are You have everything you need To do the things only YOU can do

07:03 You can't be a genius at everything and you don't have to be. We're all wired differently which is such brilliant news because it means all you need to do is find the support that you need to fill the gap and bingo! Right, you're knocking it out of the park so if you know that there is a gap in your own skill set and your own tendencies and that that gap is holding you back or causing you a problem in some way just have a little think about how you might plug that gap Who do you know that might be able to help? And then make sure you ask for that help. We don't have to do this on our own! As always, I hope this helps and i can't wait to see you again soon

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