Episode 42: Don’t do what I do (it might not work)

00:00 Before we get going, I have an invitation for you. If you're ready to find out how much easier it becomes to get things done when you have Make It Happen Club in your life? The doors are open to new members right now and i would love for you to join us! So Make It Happen club is a calm quiet sanctuary where you get the clarity focus and motivation you need Hello and welcome to Unfrazzle with me Louise Miller. If you're a solo business owner and you have a big exciting vision and loads of ideas that you want to get out in the world but without drowning in a sea of overwhelm, then this is the podcast for you. Each week I'll be sharing bite-sized insights to help you stop faffing and stay focused so you can make your brilliant ideas happen and make a bigger impact in the world It's time to step away from the hustle and find a kinder more sustainable approach to productivity So grab yourself a cuppa and let's get started

01:30 A while ago I was talking to a lovely group of business owners about energy levels and one of the things that i shared during that session was that, I am often tired in the afternoons and so I've created an appointment called Avoid Calls. And I put it on my calendar every single day from 3-4pm just as a way of preventing people from booking themselves into my diary at that time. Also as a little reminder for myself too that its ok for me to take a break if I need to So imagine my surprise when literally the very next day I heard someone on a podcast say, if you dip in energy in the afternoons book in some calls to give yourself a boost. So she said the exact opposite of what I'd said the day before and for a tiny fraction of a second I panicked thinking I've messed up and got it wrong but then I remembered what I've known for a very long time and that is that there is no wrong

02:23 I remembered that during my conversation with that group of business owners, i wasn't telling them what to do. I was telling them what I do as an example of what it might look like to shape their days according to their own natural rhythms so I was encouraging them to get curious and to play And the woman on the podcast who advised people to book in calls, to give themselves a boost is most probably an extrovert who gains her energy from being around other people. I on the other hand am an introvert and i get my energy from being on my own so of course it makes sense for her to booking calls when she knows she's going to have a dip in energy and of course it makes sense for me to do the opposite

03:00 And that is why I will never say to people, this is what I do you should do it too because I know that we're all different. When I'm tired I need alone time when you're tired you might need to be social so...I just want to remind you In amongst all of the noise of what everyone around you might be saying is working for them and what they do, and the best way of doing this that and the other. That you know yourself best! And I would much rather inspire you to pay attention to what works for YOU than share solutions that I know won't work for everyone and that might make you feel like there's something wrong with you

03:37 So why not practice that today, right? Thinking about your energy. What is a good way for you to navigate your own dips in energy? Are your dips predictable like mine so I know there's a certain point in the afternoon when I'm gonna just need to take a bit of time out Is that the case for you what does it look like for you and if you are able to predict when those dips happen would you like to plan around them in some way and if so what might that look like for you Do you want to book in some calls during that time to give yourself a boost? Or like me, would you rather just give yourself some quiet space or maybe it's something else. My intention through this podcast is to empower you to have the confidence to find a way of getting things done that feels really good for you so that you can say no to all those quick fixes and hacks people might be pushing on you

04:24 So I encourage you just to have your radar up for any time someone makes a big bold sweeping statement about how things should be done. You know yourself best, so always ask yourself whether their advice feels right for you and then get curious experiment and play! And as always i hope this helps and i look forward to seeing you again soon Thank you for listening to Unfrazzle. Sharing is caring, so if you loved this episode please share it on your socials or head over to Spotify iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts and leave me a review not only will I be hugely grateful Your ratings and reviews will help others to find this podcast So that even more people can make their ideas happen Thanks so much and see you next time