The Wrap Up #19

00:00 Hey, it's the wrap up. The Wrap Up 19. Jonnie here. Good afternoon. Good morning wherever you are in the world this is the Team Superdad Wrap-Up. It's our weekly wrapup You know, we all get to the end of the week and we're going like is it really Friday? Is it really Friday?! Oh my gosh! It is Friday. And as always, we have a little rundown of what's been going on this week I've got to make myself... can't see my notes let's get rid of that cancel that open that And yeah, literally about to hit December which it means if you're any of our American crew you have just had Thanksgiving. So happy holidays to you! My family over in Chicago we are on Instagram live by the way as well my family over in Chicago

00:53 Bless them. Everybody's suddenly getting older, right? So they're all in different places and some were at work others were in lockdown in quarantine back in Chicago and the rest I say the rest...I've got so many cousins in Chicago but the the in terms of Rob Mary's gang the rest were down in Chicago in Florida in the sunshine So that was definitely the best straw to draw there. That was definitely the best straw to draw there, so love love to all our family in America like the whole principle of Thanksgiving I love! I know it kind of goes back to the forefathers and and i don't even know what it goes back to but i'm pretty sure it goes back to the creation of of America in some way modern America in some way but

01:42 The idea of being thankful for getting your family together. There's no presents really, it's just people getting together and I've been lucky enough to spend a couple of Thanksgivings over there and it really is like Christmas dinner except without the presents! And it does kick off the whole holiday season. So if you're in anywhere, well doesn't have to be sunshiny, the Christmas trees go up the snow is presented, the shops start to go mental and that's where Black Friday and Cyber Monday all comes from so crazy that we can't necessarily be with the people that we love as much as we would like to be at this time. So sending out my love to all my family on different places around the world

02:25 This has been, as always a crazy week. Where is my little list here and stuff? So yeah and people keep dying right I mean i know if your family or your community's been hit by any deaths from corona then that's pretty sad but people are dying all the time right it's number of deaths of corona compared to some other illnesses aren't really that much to get too worried about but that's another story altogether Put your mask on, keep your hands clean and we should all be alright vaccine or otherwise. But if you're in any way a fan of soccer or football... We lost Ray Clemence famous England goalkeeper Liverpool and Tottenham goalkeeper and we lost Diego Maradona now you don't have to be too much of a football fan soccer fan to know who Diego Maradona was it's a bit like saying Michael Jordan people should

03:19 have an idea of that name, even though they didn't know quite what an amazing player he was. So you know when someone like Diego Maradona dies and you get all the stories coming out of where he came from and what kind of a person he was... There's the everyday human in us all who comes from our background, who comes from a poor background. He's Argentinian of course but he came to this city I've got a cousin of South Argentina, right? The poorer that comes from the ghetto of Buenos Aires. Is that the city anyway they talk about where he came from it from Argentina and so you always had an eye out for for the underdog for the poor guy which apparently how part of how he ended up in Napoli or how we became such a an icon cultural

04:19 Icon in Napoli because the southern part of Italy is actually the poorer part of Italy. Napoli's not one of the big names in Italian football historically, and so when he goes there and he wins two league titles and makes the team a force to be reckoned with All around the time when Channel 4, which was a small TV station in the UK at the time. They used to play Italian football on Sunday so... Go Lazio! Was the famous part of the theme tune and one of my earliest memories of watching football was the 1986 World Cup

04:58 with Gary Lineker scoring the goals and he started this tournament with his hand in a cast. And of course, the Terry Butcher blood head injury and the blood thing around his head. Then of course, the Diego Maradona Hand Of God which Which was an illegal goal, clearly. But then he followed that up with one of the greatest goals in history if certainly not in World Cup history so you've got someone like that dying and one of my heroes of my sort of soccer fandom is Ozzy Ardiles who played for Tottenham when we first started getting taken there And he was on the radio yesterday talking about Diego Maradona and he literally was crying

05:44 And that's when you realize that these famous people have an impact on so many levels sharing their talents with the world. But also being a friend, brother or dad just in normal everyday ways they brush their teeth they take it down they spill their coffee and I like this normal people right we're just no more people And we have to remember that we can all create a legacy. We can all in our lives, whether we have God-given talents to be the best footballer on the planet or whether we can just be the best dad to our kids in our own little family... That is our opportunity! That is our legacy and so I took that really to heart this week

06:32 You know, my boy he had his exams. He's an 11 plus exam it said is a entrance exam in UK schools and he took his back in October and we got the results this week only missed out by eight points and he worked so hard at a degree of pressure from myself Of course but you know he decided from the outset that he wanted to do it We took him around the schools they are the best schools In this area And If you're on a street and there's a five star hotel, four star hotel or three star hotel whatever other stars hotels you gonna look the five star hotel be like I think i really would rather stay there thank you very much and that is the opportunity provided by these entrance exams. And his english was the tricky thing it was probably going to be what let him down and and it played out that way but rather than not being a big slight on him

07:28 That was a real opportunity because he saw what it took to get so close. To miss it by eight marks is, is a narrow margin but his English mark was, you know, a little bit of way off the past mark so... But he also got to experience what it takes to do a test, to study for a test, to go beyond his natural skill set or what he was capable at the time and It's also like a free hit in this test. If you don't pass it, you just go to different schools and other exams that are coming down the line when he's older if you don't pass it, you have to redo the whole school year so is a free hit amazing experience and what I learned from it? He will take into his next school into his future school life

08:16 I don't have any regrets about him doing it and we said this from the beginning what you learn from doing this will be beneficial whatever the outcome. And as listeners know, we're a separated family were broken family and so he was always up against it he was always gonna be If you got two people, if there's two parents seemingly pulling in the opposite directions then that is always going to be a challenge for your child let alone being separated in the first place. And I know families that disagree on this subject even in a marriage situation so it's tough and I just acknowledged him this week hugged him loved him and put it down as a positive life experience

09:07 I've had to take something from it as well. I've had to learn something from it, everything that I'm saying right now is about... It could be reflected back on me for work or Team Stupidab for the contribution I make to others, all my own skills and abilities and striving forward taking on new skills, taking on new challenges and not getting knocked over or sidetracked derailed by results when they don't quite go my way so whatever you're up to Enjoy the whole experience, enjoy the whole process and don't let the outcome be the thing that either stops you from getting started or that disheartens you at the end because it wasn't the outcome that you desired. Quite often they talk about this... You hear this quite a lot about how many home runs Babe Ruth didn't hit or how many three-point shots Michael Jordan didn't make across his career and it's got to be the same for footballers in free kicks they take

10:05 I don't know in other walks of life. Gigs, gigs that famous rock stars played to 10 people to 20 people to a room of 50 people to the night you turned up at the wrong venue like all these things that went wrong on the way to playing Wembley or Madison Square Gardens like what is the journey? Like overnight successes generally didn't happen overnight so For me, I got up next on my running order is about planning my work and working in my plan. I'm a shocker, absolute shocker at organizing and structuring a plan. And on the self-expression and leadership program is of course I did it Landmark long time ago. They talk about plan your work, work your plan, plan your work, work your plan start with the outcome, work your way back get organized. I've got it in a spreadsheet now in Excel

11:01 Color-coded, things I did and things that i didn't do. And just planning out five weeks in advance is like pulling teeth it's an absolute living hell right? And I share this with you because as always we're on a journey together right anyone so involved with Team Superdad has got to be realizing that there are people in the community who are smashing things like super fit Super wealthy, super in love. Whatever thing is right? We are team Superdad but we can't all be good at those things and we just got to learn from each other from the experts with the mentors and take on board right well how did you do that what is it when I get stuck like this

11:43 Everything falls apart. What do you do? Ah, well I've got a morning routine for that or I've got a mentor for that. Or I've got an Excel sheet for that. There's tips and tricks and habits and routines we can all adopt from each other so I would love to say i've got this nailed but it's literally like pulling my teeth out in order to work this plan and plan this work. But, its happening! Can I share on screen? I probably can. But I'll get distracted whilst im doing that. If you want to put in the messages or comments

12:19 If you want a copy of my planner, then just put whatever hashtag planner in the comments and I'll send you a copy of it. All these documents are in the Team Superdad group so you can come and look for them in the files anyway. Next up! The night I met Ray Clemence... Yeah, I forgot to say actually right? I met Ray Clemence. So he was the goalkeeper for Tottenham when when my dad first started taking us to Tottenham And you don't realise how big sports stars are until you actually meet them. So I'm at an event, Black Tie do up in London and working and I got invited to go this dinner auction and just this whole football thing and walking through

13:12 the backstage area and Ray Clemence comes by, and I'm like oh my gosh hello Ray. He shakes my hand because he's a goalkeeper his hand was huge absolutely huge and it's...I'm six foot so he's towering above me and you know we had like a two minute conversation I got a picture of myself with him somewhere but it's an old picture so it's a real picture some haven't got a digital copy as it stands and is just A memory that sticks in my mind. I can't really say anything more than that about it, but sadly he died of cancer this week along a long fight with cancer and we've all know someone who's died of cancer as the older we get, we're probably going to lose a few more bits hang in there and I tell you what? I will say about death is many people when you see on Facebook Oh My dad die today eight years ago and and I'm not gonna take that away from them right if they still mourning his death and they still missing then I totally understand

14:11 I spent a long time in my life upset about my mum dying. My life is the way it is because my mum died, I miss her, I don't know what I would do if only those kind of things and what I've come to realise is our parents, the spirit of our parents doesn't want us to miss them like that they don't want us to be upset they want to see us enjoying our life and That's that's what we've got we got this time is this space on earth to make the most of it to have some fun to love a few people and to laugh with as many others as possible. And so,

14:47 If you do lose someone, of course you're going to miss them. Of course you're gonna be upset but as quick as possible move into just the realms of celebrating their life and enjoying the idea that they are watching down on us and just make them proud as often as possible work hard to make those that have gone before us proud And thats what we are up too! Thats what were upto! Just finally before I go, Im wearing red I'm wearing red. As a Tottenham fan, that's tricky but if you listen to the podcast this week with Jo Baldwin-Trott she is a personal brand and connectivity specialist, coach, consultant an awesome woman and we were talking all about personal brand so she was going up...she was talking about guys that wear grey or white or pale blue and just how bad that is

15:39 Apart from being a Toplam fan, I kind of know that. I think I look alright in red and working out which colours I do look better in so you normally just see me wearing black shirts for my live streams and that's my kind of like...I haven't really worked out a personal brand yet am I going to grow a beard or wear a baseball cap? I don't think so! I do need to shave my head as it goes but yeah I'm wearing red today won't be wearing red on any Toplam day ever that is a fact Thanks for tuning in. If you're listening, then leave us a review over on Apple Podcasts. If you're watching give us a like, give us a share and remember to subscribe to notifications on YouTube just click the bell!

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