Appreciating The Journey Instead Of Talking Down To Yourself

00:00 So don't talk shit to yourself about what you aren't or where you failed, why you're a douchebag because it's not the case. If you're not doing anything to make things better then and you got to get real with yourself but if you are then the message has to be... You're incredible! Welcome to The Jonnie Jensen Show, where modern dads discover how to create the true riches relationships and results they deserve. Get your High Value Man blueprint and join our community at highvaluemanproject.com Let's go! One of the most powerful things about the work that I do is being able to make a difference in people's lives so just spoke to a guy

00:47 And, um. You know his usual stories is his relationship broke down and he's fighting to see his daughter. Um, uh, his work situation is tricky it's you know, it does, it could be one of those or it could be all of those but I got to spend a half an hour with him and you get to share, you get to ask them what's going on for them? You get to see what the story is all about And they can't see how much good they're doing because what they want is still out of reach. The life they want, the relationship they want, time with their kid they want... The body, the money everything it looks out of reach and then we panic

01:39 Because it's like grains of sand in an hourglass. It looks like there are only a few left and they're quickly falling through, but the reality is when you take a longer view that he has got a new job, that he is learning new skills, that he is volunteering at his daughter's school, that he is in communication with his family who by the way aren't that great

02:15 But he's making the effort. When you can, it is so easy to focus on everything that is missing all the things that are wrong but you miss out on all the good You miss out on all the wins All of the progress So far from feeling like everything is getting worse or rock bottom You can take a wider perspective like the helicopter view and see that your actually making tiny steps Tiny steps towards the life that you want to create And so when you speak to yourself as this is all wrong, I've screwed up. It's never going to be what I want it to be. No like let alone all the things you're getting bombarded with. When you start to tell yourself who I am is an awesome guy and incredible dad a brother son lover friend. I'm creating opportunities for myself on a daily basis

03:24 I forgive and love and support those around me. You get to choose what the affirmation is, you get to choose how you see the man in a mirror so don't talk shit to yourself about what you are or where you failed or why your douchebag because it's not the case if you're not doing anything to make things better then then you got to get real with yourself but if you are then the message has to be...you're incredible we are on our way back Because whether you believe in God, the universe whoever where you are right now is exactly Where you need to be To become the man You're meant to be. It's a process it's an evolution it's a journey! You can't get to the morning unless you go through the night

04:17 When you start to reframe it all like that, you get to find incredible power. You get to be hungry for the next step. What am I creating? Where am i headed? What does that look like who'll be there with me whether it's in your relationship and your home and your work and your fitness in whatever area of life is make it vivid make it really clear you're in the middle of it creating you're not alone either When a man or woman, basically when a human being gets really focused on what they are here for of the difference they're making like that energy that starts to burn bright. That's for me is the biblical side of it. The faith based side of it whoever your God or your persuasion is when you start to be clear about why is your up to opportunities flow

05:20 People are interested. Oh, there's something about him what are you up to? Oh nothing my life is shit! No well actually I've had a bit of a tough time but can i tell you what I'm up to like what I'm creating oh yeah sure that's interesting tell me where it looks like this...oh wow yeah I know a guy that's into that or I know a woman who'd be perfect for you or I did a running race last week where we learned to do this and it like the opportunities come when you create them The exact opposite happens when you stop creating, or worse when you start running this negative show reel about what you can't do about where you've lost about. What's going wrong? It's a self-fulfilling prophecy so whether whether you like that idea or not you might as well gamble on it being true

06:06 Because simply thinking and feeling and showing up as positivity is so much more enjoyable. It's such a more acceptable, easy pleasurable way of being it gives you joy in the moment it gives you something to wake up for what am I up to today? I'm up to this! I don't know where it's coming from or how its happening but I'm gonna make two steps forward today towards it It's a creative process. The neural pathways in our brain start firing in energetic and excited ways, it's like looking for solutions I like that what could I do? What could I create where can that come from have you ever thought about our reticular activating system as we walk along as we listen as we read as we watch will start to notice things that you were previously closed off too

07:03 It's an opportunity machine that you're in control of. It's the complete opposite to what people think or fear, or go I can't do it! It's the complete opposite. You get what you think about most of the time so think about more good stuff more often I can't tell you any other way. That's the high value man way of being, that is where you create the upward spiral, the unstoppable progression of small consistent steps in a direction that inspires you so guys

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